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[ - ] when do toddlers (mine is 1.5) stop running away from you (for the door, the exit, the street...) and just stand by your side? or am i wishfully thinking? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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my 3 yo still runs sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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so, do you think it depends on dc's personality? (some kids want to stick by mom and dad while others like to bolt?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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totally is a personality thing. never had to worry about my 5 yo running away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:21 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone know what it costs to finish a basement? we'd like a guest room w/ a bathroom and the rest as a play area... we'd have to start from scratch... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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huge variation. we're in midwest and did half bath, wine room, exercise room, wet bar, built in shelves, about 40K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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depends on the size, what you want to do with it, where you live, etc etc etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:22 AM Flag
[ - ] Need Father's Day gift ideas for dh who is new father. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 05.27.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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budget? what is he into? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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DH loves fishing and camping so i'm buying him new gear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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a red wagon to pull db when he gets older; this was a big hit with my dh...we have no car in the city so I called it his "SUV" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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cute but where do you store it till then?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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Until Fathers Day or until he uses it? The one we got had a seat option so db used it pretty young. We kept it half under a game table (used as a sofa side table. DCS liek to ride around ti in the hall way,as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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Got DH a digital picture frame, at Costco - he is very excited [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:42 AM Flag
[ - ] I don't get why people with only children think this is such a horrible thing. I'm an only and had a great childhood, was/am very loved and I am now a happy adult. I wonder what it would be like with siblings but I wouldn 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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People are idiots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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I'm an only and I hate it. sucked as a kid, as a teenager, as an adult. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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I wouldn't say it quite so strongly, but I do wish I had had siblings. Had lots of friends, but it's not quite the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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You probably would have hated your siblings too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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did you grow up in the suburbs or city? i imagine it would be more fun to be a single child in the city. all the onlies i know grew up here in nyc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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I look at my 4 dcs playing together & get such a warm feeling. I love the fact that they love each other more than the fact that they HAVE each other since my 3 sibs & I fought horribly all thru my childhood so it could go either way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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It can change at any second. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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yeah, i had 3 brothers. they didn't care for me at all, and they always beat me up when they had the chance. as adults, we have estranged relationships. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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I think this is atypical (sorry) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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everyone always exclaims, 'oh, you're so lucky.' i could go either way. we are so estranged, we don't hug when we see each other every couple of years or so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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np - Not really, everyone's family is diff. My father would pit the 4 of us against each other so we never really bonded & felt like we were a team. Don't have a good rel with any of them tho we try to get together for the kids' sake (so they can get to know their cousins) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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i liked being an only, but i definitely wanted to have more than one child myself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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op: I am also thinking of having 2, but if people think they really only want one, I don't think they should have more just so the 1st one "has someone". They should really want to have another child, one is hard enough! :o) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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ITTTA! I am an only and loved being an only. I do want more than one child, but that's because I love being a mom, not because my ds needs a sibling. I can't wait to see him with a sib. I think in the same way that people with siblings feel they need to give their child "someone" some onlies (like myself) almost feel guilty giving their children a sibling because it means they won't have parents to themselves. (Not saying one is better than the other, just that people tend to think their situation growing up should be their children's situation. ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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people don't understand parenting...they want there to be a special formula or detailed set of rules for the perfect family, but it doesn't work that way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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op: I didn't finish my thought, I posted again but I wanted this crowd to see my whole thought... I do wonder what it would have been like to have siblings but I wouldn't change anything, you never know. What I do worry about now is my aging parents. If you are a parent of an only, make sure you are responsible and can support yourself in your later years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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No matter how many children you have you should do this. But the best laid plans often fail. I have two siblings and fear if my mother dies before my father there will be trouble as he is just not very good with money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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Interesting point. I have an older brother who never married, lives with my parents and is pretty dependent on them. I love my parents and my brother but I think it would be sad for my parents if they didn't have the experience of my being married with children. You can't predict who your children will be in some ways nor whether siblings will have close relationships. It is all so uncertain. I suppose you choose what feels right and makes your family feel complete, whatever that is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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Do we have the same brother? My sister and I worry about what will happen to him when our parents are gone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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My brother is a homeless mentally-ill junkie, whom I of course love dearly. I would have been better off if I'd been an only child. My mother couldn't have predicted this, though, obviously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:28 PM Flag
[ - ] 5'3" moms ... how much do you weigh and what size? are you happy with where you are? i am setting some goals so thanks for your input. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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200. uhm, no, not too happy :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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152 and ditto. not happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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i'd love to be at 152. i think that's a great weight for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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I am 5'3" and weight 136. I think I look very good. I have been working out and dieting just to be a little leaner and more toned. However, I feel that I look like I am in shape and trim. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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^sorry if that sounded a little snotty. I am just used to people on UB telling me that I am fat at this weight which is rediculous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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130 lbs., but I'm also a 32DDD, so I carry a lot of weight up top. Most of the time I'm pretty happy about it, but I wouldn't mind being a 32B instead (no money or medical excuse for a reduction). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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118 and more muscular than ever, happy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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You go! You sound like you are smokin' :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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aw thanks...i rediscovered working out a few months ago and lost 10 pounds and totally changed my body. either i gain muscle easier now or i just know how to work out better [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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I am the 5'3" 136 mom. I have been working out since September with the hopes of losing about 10 pounds. I cannot do it!!! I have lost about 2! I look and feel better for sure, but I just can't lose weight. What did you do to lost 10 pound?. I have been doing about 30 minutes of cario 4 - 5 days a week and lifting weights about 2 days a week along with eating healthier and lighter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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^to lose 10 pounds (sorry I sounded like I couldn't speak English LOL!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:31 AM Flag
[ - ] How many left on this board? Me. Anyone else? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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you're all alone (lol) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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seems like billions have left [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Bad mom: Can't stop crying. Yelled at my 4 yo DC this AM in a pretty bad way. He is lovely and smart but is going through this whining thing and crying and drama....I can take a lot but the whining for all things just makes me lose it. SIgh. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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do you woh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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np: i'm a sah/wahm. what does this have to do with it? when i yell at my very defiant 1.5 y/o, i totally feel like crap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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Girl, you are me. I have a 4 year old dd and the whining is overwelming sometimes. It can be physically painful sometimes. Don't beat yourself up. These things happen. You are human. He won't even remember it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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op: Thanks for understanding but lately I feel like all I do is yell after he whines. Whine, yell, whine, yell, whine, yell arrrghhhh. I try to say that I won't answer to whining but his incessant pushing makes me want to scream [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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I know. I hear ya. I try to tell mine that I can't understand her when she talks like that. I say if she is going to whine then she is going to have to do it in her room. When she's done whining she can come out. It doesn't always work. But sometimes it does, and those times save my sanity! LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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I believe the whining is meant to get you crazy. This is a cycle that can be managed better. Read 123 Magic. (FWIW as hard as I try I still lose my cool when I PMS.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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np: sorry if this sounds sancti or pat. but there are things you can do to control yourself. especially since you know it's coming. plan your morning better. have a prepared response for whining. have specific options. let him know what you expect of him and what he in turn can expect from you. i used to have horrible mornings and they are getting much better now that i spend time preparing for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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This is true. I agree. It does help to be prepared. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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ITA. I try to be more organized too and sure enough the days that I am not, we all have our little battles and break downs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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op: Thanks for the tips. We have always followed this MO from day one. He was a very early talker (and manipulator) so we started early. Lately, as he approaches 4 YO he has become a monster in the whining/get my way dept. Serioulsy, I app. your help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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i even made a little game for myself. i set an amount of time where it was a challenge for me not to lose my temper. i'm much better on focused time periods. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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op: Now that I will try. I was getting dressed this AM as he fell apart on the floor next to me, talking to myself so I wouldn't react to him. Soooo effing hard. I manage an entire dept., staff, etc and nothing comes as close to hard.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:32 AM Flag
[ - ] how much is an ounce serving. Would it be similiar to the top inch of your index finger? I am trying to figure portion for dd. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 05.27.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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oy vey. just give her whatever she will eat until she's full. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Is this weird or am I just a prude? I was at Diana Ross Playground yesterday where there was a pool of water. Lots of kids playing in it. One mom had her 2 yo ds and a 4ish dd completely naked, playing in there. There were men (mostly dads) all around, so I thought it was so inappopriate to have a naked 4 yo girl running around. Not to mention the boy who was probably not potty trained yet and could have peed/pooped in the pool. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.27.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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^^^ inappropriate [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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I am with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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Plenty of naked/diaper-only kids in the CPW/68th street plaground too. I think most of us had no idea water would be on and did not bring swimsuits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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yes, but was there an actually pool of water which wasn't draining out and with no fresh water running into it? Also, dont you think the mom should have left the 4 yo girl in at least her underwear? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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I would have but it really would not bother me that she did not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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same at 93rd & CPW. Yesterday was the first day that the water was on, so I don't think anyone was prepared. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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I agree. It was inappropriate and not heigenic either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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I'm fine with it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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^^^I am fine with the nudity. If the little one is not potty trained I'd take issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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I'm OK with this too. I don't think the sight of a naked 4 yo is a problem for grown men, unless there's something the matter with them. The one who is not potty-trained, however, is another story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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OP has no clue whether that kid was potty trained or not. I know quite a few 2 year olds that are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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Me, too. No one expected it to be that hot. Lots of half-naked kids at the park I was at, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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I think the Parks Dept has been trying to enforce a rule about naked kids at the playground. My nanny told me that she heard she couldn't change ds's clothes at the playground. She heard it was related to concerns about pedophiles hanging out at the playground and taking pictures. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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That's absurd. So you are supposed to walk out of the playground to change your dc? What would be the purpose of that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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I have no idea -- that' just what my nanny hear. Who knows if it's true. She kept doing it anyway and no one complained. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:25 AM Flag
[ - ] If you were a teenage and visiting boyfriend's family, would you even feel comfortable staying in the room with your boyfriend? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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^^^teenager [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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Does 20 count as teenager? I traveled to Ireland w/my b/f & stayed in his room at his family's house w/o even thinking about it. Needless to say his mother was not pleased at the American slut her son had picked up! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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The things moms put up with so their sons can get a green card! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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hell no!!! So inappropriate! I have class and self respect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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I think we are in the minority, sadly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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the other responses are from slutty girls trying to rationalize themselves [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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This is probably true. very sad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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same - I was in this spot several times in college and even in grad school - never thought to disrespect the family of my BF by staying in his room [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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Well, were you invited by the family to share a room - then not exactly disrespecting them. I was living w/my b/f @ 16 so not a huge big deal by the time I turned 18! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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I don't think it's only about having respect for his family. I think it's also about having respect for yourself. What kind of an impression do you want to make? What do you stand for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anybody heard back from the Office of Accountability in regards to seeing your kid's G&T test? I put in the request in writing before the deadline but have not heard a peep from them. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.27.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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I totally forgot about that. After I sent in my letter DOE called me to see why I wanted to see test. Kept saying wouldn't retest...so not surprised they aren't calling.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:43 AM Flag
[ - ] i have a scar on my back from heart surguery when i was born 31 years ago. i recently lost 25 pounds and i feel it now and it is annoying. why??? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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Maybe the fat beneath it was keeping the scar tissue from touching muscle/bone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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i agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:09 AM Flag
[ - ] do you think the housing prices will continue to fall, specifically in bergen county, NJ? trying to decide whether we should just buy (a small starter house) and stop wasting $$ in rent or wait & save some more $$ for a bigger starter house but possibly get outpriced again. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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we are in teh same boat. we can afford a starter home but i really want something bigger. i happen to think that a lot of people are waiting to buy but also that a lot of people are waiting to sell. so i think there will be more houses in about 8 or 10 months. there will be more competition but people won't want to overpay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:10 AM Flag
[ - ] how much does flood insurance cost? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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depends on the value of your home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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792 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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wait, value not price. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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also depends on what flood zone you live in, just call ins co. its a federal program, so all co will have same rates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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np: is location not part too? I'd hate to think that it costs the same in Boulder CO as it does in Shreveport LA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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of course it is, a huge part [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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OK, thanks. It is a Fed program so anything is concievable... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:16 AM Flag
[ - ] I know a great 20yo.. very kind, very patient, very loving who needs a summer job (i.e., live-in child care position for summer). Do you think Craigs List is the way to go and... do you think it is too late for her to get one? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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i would try craig's list. i'd also contact local preschools and see if she can send home a flyer. go to the playgrounds, classes, post signs, give out cards. it's not too late to find a job for this summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:14 AM Flag
[ - ] Whatever happened to the mom whose son was coming home from college for the weekend and wanted to share his room with his girlfriend? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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I hope the mom just said no. Show some balls. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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If he is over 18 then she is just living in the dark ages - unless there are younger dc in the the home & she doesn't want them to see "Bad Example" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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OP - I think she knew he was having sex - she did have young kids in the house [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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If she doesn't want them sharing a room, she is allowed to enforce her rules. What is the problem? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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oh, ITA. The son was giving her 'tude about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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Of course he would. He is a teenager! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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That's fine then, so long as she is ok w/them sneaking into each other's room after everyone is sleeping. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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My house, my rules. Old fashioned isn't so bad. If you were the girl, you would feel comfortable doing that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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Dark ages? So in other words, you think that we live in the age of cheap, trashy behavior? Well, then my house is going to be a times warp back to the dark ages. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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