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05.27.08, 08:13 AM General Topics
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I don't get why people with only children think this is such a horrible thing. I'm an only and had a great childhood, was/am very loved and I am now a happy adult. I wonder what it would be like with siblings but I wouldn [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 08:13 AM Flag
 

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People are idiots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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I'm an only and I hate it. sucked as a kid, as a teenager, as an adult. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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I wouldn't say it quite so strongly, but I do wish I had had siblings. Had lots of friends, but it's not quite the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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You probably would have hated your siblings too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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did you grow up in the suburbs or city? i imagine it would be more fun to be a single child in the city. all the onlies i know grew up here in nyc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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I look at my 4 dcs playing together & get such a warm feeling. I love the fact that they love each other more than the fact that they HAVE each other since my 3 sibs & I fought horribly all thru my childhood so it could go either way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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It can change at any second. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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yeah, i had 3 brothers. they didn't care for me at all, and they always beat me up when they had the chance. as adults, we have estranged relationships. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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I think this is atypical (sorry) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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everyone always exclaims, 'oh, you're so lucky.' i could go either way. we are so estranged, we don't hug when we see each other every couple of years or so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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np - Not really, everyone's family is diff. My father would pit the 4 of us against each other so we never really bonded & felt like we were a team. Don't have a good rel with any of them tho we try to get together for the kids' sake (so they can get to know their cousins) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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i liked being an only, but i definitely wanted to have more than one child myself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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op: I am also thinking of having 2, but if people think they really only want one, I don't think they should have more just so the 1st one "has someone". They should really want to have another child, one is hard enough! :o) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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ITTTA! I am an only and loved being an only. I do want more than one child, but that's because I love being a mom, not because my ds needs a sibling. I can't wait to see him with a sib. I think in the same way that people with siblings feel they need to give their child "someone" some onlies (like myself) almost feel guilty giving their children a sibling because it means they won't have parents to themselves. (Not saying one is better than the other, just that people tend to think their situation growing up should be their children's situation. ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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people don't understand parenting...they want there to be a special formula or detailed set of rules for the perfect family, but it doesn't work that way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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op: I didn't finish my thought, I posted again but I wanted this crowd to see my whole thought... I do wonder what it would have been like to have siblings but I wouldn't change anything, you never know. What I do worry about now is my aging parents. If you are a parent of an only, make sure you are responsible and can support yourself in your later years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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No matter how many children you have you should do this. But the best laid plans often fail. I have two siblings and fear if my mother dies before my father there will be trouble as he is just not very good with money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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Interesting point. I have an older brother who never married, lives with my parents and is pretty dependent on them. I love my parents and my brother but I think it would be sad for my parents if they didn't have the experience of my being married with children. You can't predict who your children will be in some ways nor whether siblings will have close relationships. It is all so uncertain. I suppose you choose what feels right and makes your family feel complete, whatever that is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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Do we have the same brother? My sister and I worry about what will happen to him when our parents are gone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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My brother is a homeless mentally-ill junkie, whom I of course love dearly. I would have been better off if I'd been an only child. My mother couldn't have predicted this, though, obviously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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