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[ - ] what do i need to bring with me to the hospital when i deliver besides the obvious stuff? was there anything you felt was invaluable or useless? clueless first timer here. thanks. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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Nursing bra. A must. Also Lansinoh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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mouthwash & facial wipes. you can't (if you get an epidural) walk to the bathroom and these made me feel human again during and after a long labor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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my own pillow (put on a colorful pillow case) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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Great lip balm and hard candies. Will get you thru if you can't eat or drink. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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phone numbers, insurance card, lansinoh, phone charger [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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snacks for after the db is born- there is no food coming to you until the kitchen sends uo the next meal and even then it is crap- granola bars, I made 2 pb&j sandwiches before I left for the hosp for me and dh ( I was induced) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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Def pillows (esp if nyc hospital). If you think your baby might be big, bring your own Large stretchy hat for baby (none of the hosp hats would stay on her). Crest White Strips. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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don't get the last one?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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Crest White Strips are these strips you put on your finger and brush with. Don't need to rinse. In case you're in too much pain (I had Csec but sure vaginal recovery can be just as bad) to get up and go to the bathroom to brush. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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those aren't white strips (white strips are for teeth whitening) but whatever they are called, that's a good idea [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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if you are bf, can't use white strips [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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camera (if you want one), own pillow, slippers or socks, robe or nightgown, lip balm, toothbrush and paste [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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pillows and flip flops [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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eye sleep mask and ear plugs!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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i didn't use half the stuff i brought. all you need are flip flops, soap, moisturizer, lip balm, boppy, tooth brush and tooth paste, hairbrush and hair rubber bands. and snacks, but DH can get that for you later. I guess you might needs socks but the hospital gave me ones with rubber grips so i just wore those and no shoes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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I didn't open my suitcase until 12 hours after I delivered...I used lip balm, ipod w speakers, toothbrush, that's it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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food! I was extremely hungry after delivery and the food in the hospital was so bad and little portions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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This is just me but I brought a portable DVD player and some DVDs of my favorite TV show that I own. It was nice to just chill a little and watch them, especially in the middle of the night when I was nursing, becuase DS nursed for a really long time in the beginning. Also slippers or flip flops to walk around in. Moisturizer and lip balm. And a giant T-shirt (instead of wearing the hospital gown, when guests were there and I didn't want them to see my ass. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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oh yeah. Your own soft toilet paper. Best advice I got. The hospital kind was hard and scratchy and that's the last thing you want touchy your vagina at that point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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The only single thing you will need is money for a private room! Everything else you don't really need to schlepp with you. See what the hospital offers you and then send DH home to get you the missing pieces. I had a huge carry-on when I gave birth for #1 and most of the stuff I didn't use at all. With #3 I was wiser and hardly packed a thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:58 AM Flag
[ - ] ok, lay it on me. how do I wean the night feed? ds is 6.5 mo and wails & screams if he doesn't get the boob. ped says it's time, but I don't know how to do this! 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 05.29.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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cio [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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this is your best, and quickest option, op, if *you* think he isn't hungry. He [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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Go in and feed him at midnight, while he is sleeping (dream feeding); then move it earlier and earlier each night till you stop doing it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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either do it incrementally - fewer and fewer minutes on the breast, else go cold turkey and CIO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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and fwiw, there's no reason to drop it medically speaking, unless you want to (I kept one night feed w/ my #1 until she was 10 mo old) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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yeah, I do want to actually. i know this isn't attachment parenting! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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that's fine - I just wanted to mention that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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np: I did it incremently. got down to 5 minutes and then did cio. it was very obvious to me then that ds wasn't hungry...just a habit. you can also try sending dh in with a small bottle, then reduce the amount till you're down to an ounce or two [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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cio, cio, cio! Start now, we did at 6 months, now my 8 month dd sleeps from 8 to 6, nurses, and goes back to sleep until 8. It took a good week of cio, but she is so much more pleasant and well rested! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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oh, god, i am so jealous, really? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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You have to remember you are the grown up, and babies cry. STart with the longest you can go- say 9 to 3, then push the time you will go to the crib to 4, 4:30, etc. until you are at at least 8-9 hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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ITA. We did it at 6 mo. Had a terrible sleeper who started sleeping from 7:30-7 shortly thereafter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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6 1/2 months is still very young. He just needs the comfort at night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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i did the night feeding until dd was about 9 or 10 mos [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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You can try going to him when he cries, pick him up and pat him, soothe him, but don't feed him (good for dh to do this if you're bfing), put him down, let him cry for 5-10 mins, repeat as necessary. It only works if both partners are on board and it might take a few days. We do this every few months when there's a sleep shakeup; dd is now 13 mos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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^^^should add that this is to get to a solid 8 hours or so; might be too soon to get to 10-12 yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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This isn't for everyone, but do you supplement at all? I do (and lay off me! I bf'd three kids for a year a piece.) Around 6 months, I gave a bottle of formula around 8 p.m. and put them down. My personal supply at that hour was pretty much a trickle; the bottle would fill their tummies for a nice, night-long sleep. (8 p.m. to 7:30 a.m. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 11:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know anything about NYC Pre-K? I've now heard that even if it isn't offered at your local schools that you can still send your kid to another school. Is this true? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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you can apply if your school doesnt have one, but since there are not enough spots for zoned kids and mini baby boom in nyc- there wont be room for your un-zoned kid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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agree, you should look into UPK options. Get the list of the DOE website and start calling centers near you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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What is a UPK? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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universal pre-k. state program, not sure if there is a finacial qualification. Some daycares provide it, otherwise churches etc run a 2.5hr program [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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if the current apps are still available on line- they have a whole list of CBOs (community based org) that offer UPK [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:17 AM Flag
[ - ] I completely lost it on DD just now. I asked her if she wanted pizza for lunch and she said yes so I made one. I put it on her plate and she started screaming and throwing it on the floor. So I took it away and said I'd make her eggs instead if she wanted it. She said yes. Then I ate a piece of the pizza and she screamed "MINE!" so I tried giving it to her and she screamed again. I totally totally started yelling at her. I was so angry!! I also have had a really bad cold all week, so I've been not as patient, but I think I still would have been mad even if I didn't have the cold. How do you handle things like this? She finally ate the eggs and what was left of the pizza. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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I would never have offered to make eggs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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I yell at my kid that I'm not their slave and leave them to starve until she begs me for pizza. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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Is she by any chance 2-3 years old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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she is turning 2 next month, which is why i made her something else to eat. She didn't eat much breakfast so I dont' want her going down for a nap with an empty stomach. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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np- i am a tough love mom- i dont care if she sleeps on an empty stomach- i made the lunch she asked for and then she didnt eat, thats her issue not mine- Howeve, my DH would side with you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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I hope I will be you when my dd is at that phase. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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You are setting yourself up for a life of short-order cooking. Offer a few choices up front and stick to what she chooses. She'll get the idea in no time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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My 2.5 y/o went through this phase. If I specifically ask her if she wants soemthing, she says yes and then refuses to eat it I will nit make her something else. However, I found if I just keep her at the table with the food choice she will eat it. If she really throws a tantrum, I take her out of the seat and tell her she can return to the table when she is calm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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my dd will start hurling the food all over the place. i guess i can take her out of the seat next time. i get they are testing limits at this age but it gets soooo frustrating. i didn't even yell when she threw the pizza, i picked it up and tossed it. it wasn't until she kept freaking out that i just blew my top! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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after she refused the pizza, I would have told her 'nothing else to eat, get down from the table please'. She then has the choice to eat or not eat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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I tell them this is what is for lunch and if they don't want to eat it that is fine but the next meal is dinner time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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isn't that hard to fathom on a child who isn't 2 yet? i am afraid to do that, but have been tempted [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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No ,they learn quickly that you mean business. This DD is just about 2 so she is old enough to learn this lesson. They are testing their boundaries. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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np: this is good to hear. my dd is still younger, but i can see this in my future. . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 11:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Looking for a printer (not too pricey) to make up stationery, business cards, postcards, etc. for my business. Don't want to do it online - would prefer something in Manhattan. Thanks. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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Alpine Creative Group, Art Scroll, Slater Graf [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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I like Print Icon and Village Printer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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Thanks all! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:34 AM Flag
[ - ] hypothetical: you come home early, and find DH has left his email open, and there is a message from a woman about setting up a threesome for you. What would you do? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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check the address. I'm obviously in the wrong apt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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haha! and why is that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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>>np: same here. but if it did happen id probably get excited that dh is finally opening up to sexual experimentation of some sort [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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I don't read my husband's email. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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its up on the screen - it catches your attention [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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I would tell him I'm not into it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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had we discussed this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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lets say no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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then I'd be upset - felt it was forced on me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:11 AM Flag
[ - ] looking to buy a cut price ($300K or less) country house/shack of some sort, min. 2 BR, not a million hours from NYC, and near a beach. where should I be looking? tia. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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would you do a lake? you could look in the catskills [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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Ocean Grove NJ....about an hour, all walkable to beach, easy by train, nice little town [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Public service announcement!!! To those women who could always wear tank tops without a bra before you were pregnant, I'd like you to know that you need a bra now. Please go buy one ASAP!!! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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now that summer is here, everyone (and yes, I mean you, coworker with the gauze skirt and hot pink undies) has to re-evaluate their undergarment choices. Please check the mirror before you leave the house. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:04 AM Flag
[ - ] are ivf twins only fraternal twins or can they be identical? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.29.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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Generally, they will be fraternal since each embryo implanted has unique sperm and egg. However, there are cases where an embryo splits, and voila, identical twins! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 12:16 PM Flag
[ - ] miscarriage question:started mc on friday (around 7weeks) and still spotting today (ie 6 days later). when I will start feeling 'normal' again physically? Still feel big (some bloating and tender boobs) and pg. Really need to feel like me again soon, if you know what I mean. Any words of wisdom? Tia 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 05.29.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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I am so sorry for your loss. It will probably be another week or so before the physical syptoms go away completely...but the emotional stuff is the hardest. Miscarrage is much more common than people think and I am sure you will go on to have a healthy db. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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Sorry for your loss. I went through a mc at around the same time last year. It took about 2 weeks of spotting (a dnc would not have been much different) and a few more weeks after that until I really felt like myself again. I guess it takes a body some time to switch back to "not pregnant". GL should you ttc again in the future. (take your time though, it does do a job on your head to mc) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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op here: sorry for not checking back - and thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 08:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Got the impression Dalton very much presented itself as a "meritocracy" school for very smart kids at our spring tour. Is that true? Or are they really looking for smart plus connections plus $$ ?? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 05.29.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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I think the later but who knows give it a shot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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if ya can't spell it, ya probably can't think it. its latter dumbass. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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It's you not ya. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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Absolutely NOT connected, NO money whatsoever, and I know a lot of other parents in the same situation whose dc's got accepted. Probably all smart, though... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:15 PM Flag
[ - ] What are your 3 y/o's favorite dinner foods. ds used to eat a wide variety of things and now eats hardly anything I cook. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.29.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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pizza, chick quesedillas, chicken fingers, chick parm, turkey meatballs and spaghetti [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:56 AM Flag
[ - ] sil has a 2 year old. most weeks, they just stay in the house or go in the backyard. they rarely go anywhere. probably once a month, they go to the playground. i'm concerned that neither one of them gets any social interaction. also, they've never had a babysitter. i have a good relationship with sil. is there anything i can do to help with this isolation? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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talk to her? are your kids close in age, can you sign them up for a class together? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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is she bothered by it? If not, butt out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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Are you sure she isn't doing other things and just not sharing with you? Also keep in mind that plenty of people are totally happy this way. Her DD will start school in a year or 2 and get plenty of interaction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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The kid is still pretty young. If this continues at 3 then say something. Offer to take them out, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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wow. i can say that when we were kids, we didn't socially interact all the time. if they are happy and it works for them, that's fine. i never have used a baby sitter, but DD has been with family on a few occassions [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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op: i hear you all. she doesn't live too close. when we do visit, her son just follows my son around and almost "studies" him, like he's never seen anything like it. our kids are only 2 months apart. she has mentioned that she would like the occasional babysitter, but she doesn't trust that anyone can watch her son "well enough" or that a babysitter would "overstimulate" him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:17 AM Flag
[ - ] DB #2 arrives at end of July - can't remember from #1 what i desperately need to pull out of storage - help! im getting the boppe, bottles, miracle blanket, what else? TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 05.29.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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car seat, bouncy seat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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bjorn or sling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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get new bottles [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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swing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:20 AM Flag
[ - ] if you had the chance to move overseas for 4 years, very far away with few opportunities to come home for visits, but with the opportunity to save a significant amount of $s during that time, would you do it? factors holding me back are aging parents, kids are young and have already moved many times, have no social or other network in place we'd move to (and wouldn't be able to work, at least initially). it's dh's dream job though but huge disruption for our already disrupted family. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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What country? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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Yes, that would be important to know [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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singapore or brunei [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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np- singapore- yes, very big expat community [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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do you live there? I am also afraid the weather will be miserable for dcs (and for me). very hot and humid all the time, all year round. though truth be told the other concerns are much more important to me now I can see this being a real killer if we actually go there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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no, I have visited and friends live there. You get used to the humidity and it is a great lifestyle. It is obvious that you dont want to go and are making excuses. You need to talk to dh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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ok, fair enough! I would rather not go, all things being equal, but they aren't - DH would give up his dream job and our family would give up a great chance at financial security for the future (which we lack right now). Trying to figure out if there is a way I can get past this or if I'll just feel like it's 5 years of hell if we end up going. I know lots of people like it btw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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get him to commit to 1 year or 18months and agree that if you are hating it, then he must search for a job back in the USA. Before you go check out expat sites and try to make contacts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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i wouldn't do it. no way. family is very important to me and i wouldn't want to deny my parents their grandchildren. 4 years would put my parents in their late 70s. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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I would in a heartbeat. I have a friend who just spent a year in Singapore with Dh and 3 DCs. Sent them all to the American Singapore school and loved it. Love love loved it. She has zero regrets and now they're off to europe! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:53 AM Flag
[ - ] How do I start a public school? I hear all the time how this or that school was started by a group of parents (Anderson started like that, didn't it?). Is this nowadays still possible? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.29.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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I'm very interested in finding this out as well. Thanks for the question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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Remember that Anderson didn't start out as a school - it started as a program within PS 9. But I hear about new schools opened by individuals as charter schools. You can look into that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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$$$$$$ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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Talk to pps3 - it was started by parents, maybe there is someone around who knows the nuts and bolts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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LOL. That was over 35 years ago! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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I"m aware of when the school was formed. I have a child in school there. The parents and administrators are quite intelligent and proud of the roots of the school and there very well may be someone there who has access to or knows the history. Do you not know any history past 35 years ago? I don't get your lol. Trying to be helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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