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[ - ] Why does everyone think it's weird that I am waiting until the 20 wk mark to tell 4yo DS that I am pregnant? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.03.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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I don't/ that's what I did. once he knewe everyone would so i waited for amnio results [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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sounds fine to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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I might even wait longer... Depends on your ds. He needs time to let it sink in and prepare, but 20 more wks of pg can be a long time for a 4 yo to wait, esp if he's excited. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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OP: It's getting pretty obvious that I'm showing and EVERYONE else knows and talks about it, so I think I need to tell him next week before he figures it out himself. He really WANTS a baby and he asked for one this morning. He gets the waiting thing too as his best friend's mom just had a baby and all spring he kept saying "yes, C's mom is having a baby, but it's not here yet". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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if everyone else knows, he should too. we told almost nobody until the amnio so he learned before most people [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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OR: I agree. If he gets the concept of waiting, share your news - sounds like he'll be excited! Congrats & GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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it's fine. my sister did that. i told DD early on (she is not yet 2) because i figured she really wouldn't get it anyway. now she says that she has a babby in her belly, daddy has a baby in his belly, her monkey has a baby in his belly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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Doesn't really matter what they think. You have to do what's right for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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I wish we had waited until after nuchal/amnio... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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^^Sorry left out first part -- "Wait as long as you are comfortable... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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I think that is perfectly reasonable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:53 AM Flag
[ - ] how many 99s have NEST as first choice? we do and i feel pretty good about getting in - am i delusional? 98 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.03.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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Not us - we did Anderson 1st. But I think all 99s will get NEST. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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agree. good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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thanks! i know a lot of people are not impressed with the school but we really like it for our dc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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We put it 2nd (after Anderson), but we also liked it very much. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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Ditto. We love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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and some 98s [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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really? i hope so, but this board stresses me out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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I have a theory that people who don't get a NEST placement the first go round may get a call over the summer based on people refusing their spots (probably the same for TAG if it comes to that) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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that would be awesome, but somehow i suspect the DOE will give it to people below 97 who didn't get any placement [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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They can't do that --qualification is 97 plus. They may hold the spots for people who move over the summer however. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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in which case a new 97 could get in before an old 98 or 99 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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Unless said 98 or 99 lobbied DOE for a spot... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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and how to do that is clearly the question... or will nest given those "open" spots to sibs who were 90-97 scoring... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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of course. and I think this is totally fair. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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We do too. And I know the feeling. We're being very presumptuous about getting in. Will be *extremely* disappointed to get news otherwise! GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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I assume all 99s who ranked Nest first will get it. I have no basis in fact for this assumption other than the fact that it has the most spots and many 99s are going to put Anderson 1st. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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And that many who list A first are NOT listing Nest 2nd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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but if you fc anderson and sc nest and don't get into anderson you are not at a disadvantage for nest, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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Not according to the DOE [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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I am not right or one is not disadvantaged? Sorry I asked an ambiguous question then for clarity asked another ambiguous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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You are not disadvantaged--if your lottery number is higher you will get your 2nd choice before an equal (or lower) score gets their first [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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thanks. That is what I thought. (Funny thing is I am a current parent. Just have some friends applying and they ask me questions like I have insider information.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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agree. nest just isn't a very good school. anyone who is smart with a good zoned option or a shot at anderson wouldn't even bother. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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I wouldn't say that. It just isn't for everyone. We ranked it 3rd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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the doe thinks it's not a very good school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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They don't think PS 87 is a very good school either and that is one of the most popular non G&T schools. I don't know why every time Nest is mentioned one or two people feel the need to trash it. If it not for you, move on and let the people who like it discuss their desire to get in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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np: I really do believe its actually only 1 person. Maybe her dc got kicked out? Not sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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you seem awfully defensive. this is a board for sharing opinions. sorry if mine isn't the same as yours. oh, and ps87 is called proficient by the doe. nest is described as undeveloped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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NEST IS 7 YEARS OLD! Do you get this?? And just had a massive administration overhaul over the last few years! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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seven years is hardly yesterday. and even if you argue they should have more time to get their sh&t together, why would you want to send dc to a school that doesn't? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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Because obviously I disagree that it doesn't have its shit together. I think it presents a pretty amazing opportunity, and am willing to work with the school through some growing pains. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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np: my ds is at NEST. The administration's communication flaws are a bit of a nuisance to me. They mean nothing to my ds or any of his classmates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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it's a trickle down thing. the incompetent administration can't attract or keep good, experienced teachers and that does affect the students. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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I love this controversy. Keeps NEST a little less competitive in UB-land. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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it's amazing to me that people with incredibly smart dcs (and who, one would assume, must be able to count to 10 without using their fingers) completely buy into nest when it obviously has problems. gullible little lemmings! a market researcher's dream! if only they'd been pitched coke zero instead of a mediocre school in the outer mongolia of manhattan! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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You cant say NEST is actually going out and pitching itself. Seriously, what happened between you and NEST? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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doe says it's a citywide, therefore it must be good. words like accelerated and peer group are thrown around by people who have no idea what they are talking about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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np: I'll bite. What makes you an expert? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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the doe says it doesn't have it's sh&t together. when i offered this bit of information, you countered that it is only 7 years old, an apparent excuse. now you're saying it does have it's sh&t together. which is it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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I said the 7 years old thing, and I'm not the one you're responding to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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As was said below by the seven years poster -- I am a new poster ("np:") -- I would argue that although the school is seven years old, to count the first five years -- the years under Celenia Chévere -- as part of the current administration's learning curve is silly. By every one's account, the school changed dramatically two years ago. The current principal -- I just looked this up -- started two years ago this June and became permanent a year and a half ago. There was a lot of bad blood between the old guard and the new guard. I wasn't there for the old stuff and I could not care less (except to say that if what THE OLD ADMINISTRATION is accused of is true... they should rot.) What I can say is the school today has active involved parents. It has bright kids working hard. It has a good mix of teachers. I have no public option that comes close. I'd still like to know your relation to NEST... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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"The DOE says it doesn't hav its shi&t together". Isn't that like the pot calling the kettle black? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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defensive me? Hardly, my kid goes to Hunter--but I don't know why you would call everyone "nuts" who might consider a particular school. Luckily many of us have different priorities or there would only be 1 or 2 schools to satisfy everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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i never called anyone "nuts." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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No I apologize--you called them stupid (or at least not "smart") [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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np: My guess is that the poster you are addressing is either Celenia (the old NEST principal who thinks the DOE did her wrong) or one of the PTA people who thought opening up NEST to non-UMC whites was a bad idea. She has too much vested for this to be intellectual curiosity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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*snort* yes, anyone who has something bad to say about nest must be celenia. it's all a vast conspiracy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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So you are just some dispassionate observer who combs the DOE rankings and posts about NEST? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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like every other person here, i post what i think. i don't have some nefarious agenda and i never worked for nest. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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You've never had a kid at NEST yet have this much vested in posts about it? Really? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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nope. never had a kid at nest and have nothing vested in the posts. just sharing my opinion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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From what facts have you formulated this opionion about Nest. Please state specific reasons why you have such a negative opionion about this school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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So your opinion is based solely on the DOE Report card? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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And the DOE knows all, right? The DOE doesn't like NEST because NEST doesn't blindly follow the curriculum that the DOE mandates. For instance the Math program. The money for that comes out of PTA dollars. There is also history there from the old principal. My dc is in Kindergarten and having dc there gives me such piece of mind. I had dc in a local PreK in Brooklyn last year that many people consider a really good option. To me the difference is night and day. Nest is an excellent school and any child that gets in there is very lucky. The parents are lucky too because not only are they getting a great school for their kid they will be getting the piece of mind of never having to go through this f*cked up admission process again that is handled by an incompetent DOE. A word to the wise, don't pay attention to those stupid report cards that the DOE put out last year on each of the schools. The horrible school in Brooklyn that my dc attended received an A. I was flabergasted. Partly that was because if improved from one year to the next and there was and still is plenty more room for improvement there. Part of what gets factored into the grade is the responses from the parents. Parents at that school (where I observed teachers chewing gum while teaching) rated that overcrowed school higher than Nest Parents rated Nest. Its all about expectations and experience. Nest parents never are complacent and are always looking at what can be improved, unlike the parents at the school who received an A, who were happy with the status quo. The people who say that Nest isn't a good school, do you have direct experience from sending your kid there or is this just speculation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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shhhhhh. would you please leave the public opinion about NEST at a "NEST sucks so badly!" The more people believe it is such a bad choice of school the more chances for us to get a spot. Dummy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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Sorry about that. I felt the same way last year when my dc was applying for kindergarten. Only we were lucky enough to have that NY York Magazine article come out that bashed the school at the same time people were gettting their acceptance notices. Last year they had a waitlist and my dc was on it and I think because so many people believed the bad hype, they opted out. I was, and still am today,so greatful for that article. :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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I hear you. Let's see how it plays out this year around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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the school report had nothing to do with singapore math [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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No one ever said it did. Your point being.......? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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"the doe doesn't like nest because it doesn't blindly follow the curriculum the doe mandates. for instance the math program." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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Still don't see your point. That statement has nothing to do with the school report cards. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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that's where the doe says nest is not a good school. are you actually following this thread or are you too busy trying to unwedge the thumb that's up your butt? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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Talking about thumb up a butt (and yours must be reaaaly big so you must have your fist up there.) Just by mentioning the DOE your opinion loses credibility. Just look at what a great job they have been doing lately with the outsourcing of their PreK placements amonsgst other things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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in other words, you lost track of the thread and now are sputtering about something completely different. if you think the doe sucks so bad, why aren't you sending dc to private school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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Why send your kid to private school when they can go to Nest or Anderson. Its a no brainer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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nothing but a ub rumor at this point. but, hey, that's way more reliable than the doe school reports. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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you are way to informed about Nest. Your kid was either rejected or thrown out of there because you obviously have a personal gripe. Or as one poster said, you are Celenia. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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this is a very, very odd accusation to make. anyone can and should read the school report for any school they are interested in on the doe website. i'm shocked this wouldn't be the first thing anyone would do as preliminary research on a school. i'm not saying the research isn't flawed. particularly the subjective data. but the polls conducted of teachers, for example, are very telling. i'm not celenia. just a parent who has done her homework. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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A very gullible parent at that. Go in and tour the school see for yourself. Some really horrible schools got an A on their report card. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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i did tour the school in the fall. it was a joke. and if it was any representation of how the school is run, they have serious problems. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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Well, I am a parent who did their homework too. I toured many schools, public and private and I choose Nest and my dc was lucky enough to get in. So I think my opinion means more than yours because my kid is ACTUALLY IN the school and I am ACTUALLY dealing with the school on a day to day basis. In short, I have direct experience and you are operating on "I think, therefore I am". I can tell you and anyone else who wants to know, its a great school. If it weren't I would be equally verbal about that as well. As I said earlier, the school my dc went to last year got an A on its report card and this school is so bad. There was a mass exodus last year of kids because parents realized how horrible the school was. Yet the DOE gave it an A. So stop quoting the DOE. They are seriously one of the most f*cked up government agencies around. They are on par with Motor Vehicles. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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mind saying which PreK? Also, have you spoken with parents of older kids there? I'm curious how the workload is by 3rd or 4th grade. TIA! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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Yes, I have spoken to other parents. There are kids in my neighborhood that go there that are in 3rd grade, 5th grade and 7th grade. I haven't talked much to the parents about their kids workload but I have noticed that their kids have a lot of time to do other things. The 7th grader also takes ballet 3 times a week and the 3rd grader takes piano and acting class afterschool. So the workload must be doable once the kid/family put a schedule together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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Thanks. Do you have a boy or girl? Have you had any experience with disciplline in the classroom? Do they have a consistent way of dealing with it? Keep hearing that they're rigid and strict and wonder how much of that is true under the new administration. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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I think that WAS true under the old administration. They don't seem that strict to me. It seems pretty much the same as the school my dc was in last year. It could also vary a bit from teacher to teacher. They are consistant about what kind of behavior they expect from kids and its nothing out of the norm like no hitting, no calling out, finishing your work etc. Kids have recess twice a day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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Great. Thanks!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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np: They do a green/yellow/red light kind of thing with punishment reward depending on where you are at. My kid is one of the easy ones so I haven't a lot to say other than... it seems a little more public than is fair at that age. Like they know who was on "red" again today. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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Lots of the schools have that red, yellow, green thing going. It seems to work. the school my dc went to last year had it as well. One of the kindergarten teachers even added a color (orange) to give the kids more leeway. That same teacher is more lenient in other ways as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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I'm a big fan of incremental approaches and everything. It is the public nature/ridicule(?) aspect I wonder about. But then again, shame is a good motivator so... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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PS41 does this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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The DOE isn't a very credible source to quote. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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Nest-hater? Is that you again? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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lol. i think there are many people who don't get the nest hype. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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Perhaps - but there is definitely *one* person here who chimes in everytime NEST is mentioned here, in exactly the same way. and I wouldn't exactly say there is "hype" around NEST. Just a lot of people who would be excited to get a spot there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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The only "hype" I have ever seen NEST get is bad. Despite that I still investigated the school for myself and talked to people who currently had their kids in there. Thats when I decided that would be the best place for my kid. DC is so happy there. Teachers are great too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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np: I have decided to just ignore the troll. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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And you say this based on what in your experience? Please give some concrete facts and reasons for this statement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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Here is what that poster said in another sub thread: "like every other person here, i post what i think. i don't have some nefarious agenda and i never worked for nest." "[I] never had a kid at nest and have nothing vested in the posts. just sharing my opinion." Unless poster was splitting hairs... (ie you don't "work for" the school, you work for the DOE.) I think poster is insane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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"... insane" or lying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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We are a 98 who put it as our 2nd choice because we felt we had to put A first "just in case" because we live so close to it--but we really want Nest (despite the commute) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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post on NY Schools I'm sick and tired of reading this CRAP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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This is NY Schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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this made me giggle... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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Don' read it then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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You don't have to read it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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We did. No idea what are chances are, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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I put N first and A second. Only 98 but we live in Brooklyn and A is too much of a hike. I hope we get in to N because if we don't 25k for K it will be [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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which private k? please say giving up a girls spot at packer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:47 PM Flag
[ - ] whats a good car seat? would you ever buy one used? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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would not buy one used - you don't know if it's been in an accident, so maybe not as sturdy any more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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never buy one used. not worth saving 100 or whatever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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op: so whats a good car seat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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what age db? Toddler, forward facing, Britax Marathon is great, about 210. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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18 months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:42 AM Flag
[ - ] What is the etiquite for party favors..If it's a one year bday party do I have to get a favor for the 6 year old coming or the 3 month olds? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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if you give a party favor to one, give for all - but you will have to get something different for the 6yo! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you teach your 2yo stuff? how often? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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do you count "don't touch that" or "don't put that in your mouth" as teaching? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:34 AM Flag
[ - ] any decorator moms on? need recommendation on where to buy antique or ethnic 5 drawer chest that functions well. (crate & barrel, room & board etc are too generic and when i find really cool pieces the drawers don't slide well or they don't hold a lot of clothing) tia! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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English Country Antiques (ecantiques.com) or Mecox Gardens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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thanks, will check em out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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Old Plank Road Antiques - they are in Illinois but do most of their business online . Great prices and they will clean the pieces up so that they function well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:42 AM Flag
[ - ] in-laws gave us 30 thousand for a down payment (it was very nice and we are very grateful) but the mother-in-law is telling everyone they bought out apt for us 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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and? they kind of did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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so? they gave you the means to buy it. w/o them- no purchase, right? get over yourself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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yes, we could have, didnt use their money in the end [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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so you gave it back to her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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no, they said to put it, in ds college account [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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what a horrible woman. tries to help w/ dp, instead winds up paying for college. poor you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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np you dont sound very smart, bc none of that sounds true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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if someone gave me 30K for ds college, I'd let them say they built our house with their bare hands. who the fuck cares what IL's friends think? You accepted a huge gift. Give it back if you dont like what she is saying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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wait--- so they DID NOT give you $30k? you just contradicted your OP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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reading between the lines: you pocketed the $30K earmarked gift, didn't tell her that you did it, now you're annoyed with her? I think you have some kind of guilt projection thing going on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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you dont read well between the lines, read above [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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That would make me kind of crazy too. As if you didn't lift a finger! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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you should have stopped at the grateful and nice part. that's all that's appropriate to feel here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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ditto!!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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DH and I worked very hard to buy the apt, and i will take some credit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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that would annoy me. giving someone part of a down payment vs paying for an entire apt is a totally different thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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op thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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who is she telling? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:53 AM Flag
[ - ] Dh has had a change in personality lately, I'll ask him if he's attended after work events and he complains he doesn't want to go yet goes. He's been invited to different workplace events, again the same 'I'm not participating' yet he goes. Is this passive aggressive behavior? WWYD? If I try to discuss this with him he makes a face and turns away. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.03.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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not sure what your question is. Maybe he doesn't WANT to go but feels obliged and goes begrudgingly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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That could be it, thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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ask him what's behind the change in attitude. doesn't sound very significant. sounds like he's just bored and tired. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:33 AM Flag
[ - ] Ladies, my Parents are buying a home in CT. How much will it cost us to put in a small pool? TIA! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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call a couple of pool contractors in the neighborhood of the home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:30 AM Flag
[ - ] Need some father's day gift ideas for dh.... 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.03.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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What did he get you for Mother's Day? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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gc to Angel Feet (foot massage) and a new video camera (our old one broke down in the middle of dd's dance performance) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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"Coupon" for an afternoon to do whatever he wants w/ no bitching from you that he's not helping w/ dcs. If he's into golf, a lesson or gc to his fave store. A new watch. A new wallet or money clip - whatever he uses. IDK - what's he into? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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thanks - he still has a gc for golf at chelsea piers from last year or the year before, he just celebrated his 40th birthday in april and received a new watch and new wallet from friends and family so i'm fresh out of ideas! i like the 'coupon' idea - i still would like to get him something but just don't know what!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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I just bought "Somebody's Daddy...Lullabies For Dads" - it's amazing! you can get it from the website or at CD Baby or at ITunes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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I got my dh one of those Ballpark pens from Yankee Stadium. Kind of pricey but he loves the Yankess and pens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 11:25 AM Flag
[ - ] I swear I think my friend got pregnant because all of her friends did. All she does is complain about being pregnant and then complain about how the baby is going to be so much work, etc. I get annoyed when I speak to her. It's like I hear no excitement about the baby at all. I think it gets to me becuase I know so many people who want children but can't or had miscarriages. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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Maybe she just likes to complain? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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i think she is like that too. whenever i see her she barely acknowledged DS. it's really weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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how good a friend is this? I'd be comfortable saying "then why are you doing this?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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i've almost said this to her. she complained and complained about gaining all this weight and said i was lucky because i was throwing up and not eating and i said to her "shut up. you are pregnat what did you expect when you planned this" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:34 AM Flag
[ - ] My best friend's DH makes my blood boil. He is verbally abusive and she puts up with it. He constantly berates her, even in front of me and other people. I can't stand him and can't figure out why such a smart woman would put up with his sh*t. This past weekend I came so close to telling him off, though I know it would ruin my friendship with BF. I would mind my own business, but when he speaks to her like that in front of me it becomes my business. Ugh. He makes my skin crawl. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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what does he say to her? give us an example [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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I have a friend like that. I have NO IDEA why she puts up with it. It has cost her a lot. I'm reduced to giving her DH dirty looks and withering glances. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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op: the sad thing is that she gets angry at first, but then starts rationalizing his behavior and excusing it. she deserves so much better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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she won't do anything about it until SHE realizes that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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Have you talked to her about it or is it the elephant in the room? i once said something to my sister about her husband (and i love him but sometimes feel he is not as appreciative as he should be) and it went over like a ton of bricks. so tread carefully. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:30 AM Flag
[ - ] Please tell me my 94th% ds has a shot at ps11! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.03.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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I hope so. GL. We have NO idea how all of this is going to play out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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np: all of "what" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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The G&T placements, how many forms were returned, the lottery within percentiles, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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Thanks! GL to you, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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GL to you. It was our district favorite, too (and I preferred it over NEST, too, but ranked it higher b/c of the middle school) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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It is pretty popular. I would not be surprised that your kid will not get a spot there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Wait so Brigitte Bardot was fined for being a racist in France? I don't think what she said was very cool, but you get fined for being a racist? That sort of seems wrong to me. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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what did she say? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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something about muslims and how they are destroying french society. she was fined 23K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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its french law. wouldn't fly here, but that's how they roll [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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just one more reason it's better to be american. That lovely little free speech thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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or danish. all the european neo-nazi groups publish there b/c they have absolute freedom of speech. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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not sure which ones have it and which ones don't. Didn't the Dutch put some sort of restrictions on offending muslims after that cartoon that caused so much trouble? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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the dutch may have, but denmark is pretty committed. germany has pretty strong laws against nazi speech (you can see why) and possibly all hate speech. Britan is more like the US. its a patchwork. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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thanks. Interesting. My problem with some of those rules is who gets to define "hate speech". Some people think Rush Limbaugh is hate speech. Others think he has a political point of view. Very easy to muddy this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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oh, ITA. but those countries have very differnt political traditions and histories. i like our way better but theirs works also. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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oh really? rachael ray's scarf issue was totally absurd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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no idea what you are referring to [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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maybe read a paper [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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that is so helpful thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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I read the paper everyday and have no idea what you are talking about. But I generally skip over articles about actors and actresses. -np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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OR: for an ad, rachael wore a scarf that some people thought looked like one that hamas guys wear and the rest you can imagine. dunkin doughnuts had to apologize and take the ad off the air. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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np: its not even a hamas scarf. its a traditional arab/palestinian item -- a keffiyah. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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or - ok but that is a public outcry and a private company's decision - not a gov't crackdown on anything. Sounds similar to the whole Dixie Chicks thing a few years ago. They suffered no reprisals or fines etc from the gov't. That is what our freedom of speech protects. You can say whatever you want (or wear it) but people might get upset. Thanks for the info BTW. I had not heard anything about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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she's nutty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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who cares if she is nuts, but it's like they tell you how to think there? weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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she can thinkit, jsut not say it. i agree its dumb but its not that dumb [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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perhaps, but wouldn't you rather live somewhere that you are free to express all your nutty ideas without fear of gov't reprisals? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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