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[ - ] What do you think a 5BR house on 15 acres in the Hamptons is worth, not on ocean but right on a bay. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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have you done a search for comparables on corcoran.com? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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yeah, don't see anything comparable. Just wanted to get a gut-check from people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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worth an obscene amount... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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please, just take a guess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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np: 17 mill [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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i would guess more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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^^ the acreage, baby... the acreage is a lot ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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yeah, you're right [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:15 AM Flag
[ - ] wwyd? 47 yo dh simply refuses to get life insurance, or really, to deal with any of life's important and necessary issues. i've had my life insurance for 4 yrs, and have been bugging him (gently, i must admit) to get it all along. i'm really fed up at this point. i have tried talking about it, i've cried about it, i'we have 2 dc, age 4 and 2. if we both die today, my sister will get my life insurance 1.5mm to raise them for the next 20 years. not enough. don't tell me to sign him up b/c he will refuse to see the dr, and i think he has to sign the form anyway. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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i've let him know how worried i am. but he refuses to move it forward. it's really making me feel unprotected in a very serious way. i am thinking of upping my life insurance to 4mm just so the kids will have enough to live on for the next 20 years if we both die, but of course, i will still be sol if dh dies. we've had our difficulties in this marriage, and this is starting to feel like a decision point for me. advice, please! tia. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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I think that refusing to participate in the process of obtaining life insurance is a pretty serious comment on the lack of investment in both the partnership of marriage and the responsibilities of parenting. I'm sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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thanks, that's how i'm feeling too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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ita, what are his reasons? seems inexplicable [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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i think you should up your own then if you will be financially solvent if he dies. just do that and tell him. you can';t control him but you can take control of things you do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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Make an appointment with an estate lawyer and have them talk about why it's important and if and how much you can afford to dedicate to life insurance. Unless he has some deep-seeded issues about it, it should be simple. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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getting him to our family attny for our wills was another 4-year process. we just got that done. i can ask our attny to talk to him about it, but it just seems like it will piss him off even more. i guess i'm just going to really have to raise the stakes here and nag the cr@p out of him. just not what i want to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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How about giving him a simple, written document that just spells out what would happen to you and your children if he were to die? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:00 AM Flag
[ - ] we've got some serious issues this morning on ub. i'll keep all of you in my prayers! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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right? wow. i am feeling very grateful that i am just managing some medication induced depression. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Can someone pls explain in very simple terms how the whole delegates thing works. Cannot remember one bit of it and am SOOOO confused. TIA. Signed stupid mom 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.04.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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every state has a number of delegates based on population. they vote the way their state voted. simple. we are not a direct demo where every vote "counts". every vote counts in that they are translated into a delegate vote. or did you mean super delegates ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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op: thanks, pls elaborate on super delegates. Also, if dels vote the way the voters voted how can one win popular vote but not delegate vote? Again, TIA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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super delegates are like tie-breakers or the chaperone at the dance. they make decisions if everything looks so screwed up that "big brother" has to settle things... they rarely mean anything, but this time they have become visible [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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(NP: just to be clear. Hillary only won the popular vote if you count Florida and Michigan and don't count caucus states. This would be like saying Hillary would be the winner if she ran uncontested... Duh! Hell in Michigan she was the only real candidate on the ballot and only got 55% of the Democratic vote. Like 40% of the voters in Michigan went and voted for no one instead of voting for her.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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jeez louise, Obama has won, can you stop harping on Hillary now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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This was a direct reply to the post above. Do you not see that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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no, I dont. The term duh clued me in that you really just wanted to get in a dig. Let it all go now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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and they are divided proportionally, based on the popular votes, unlike in the general election where it is winner take all for the delegates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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This is not true for Republican primaries and only partially true for Democrats. (Democratic delegates are not just proportional to vote (or population within the state. As was said below, voting history means something, too.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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or: thanks for clarifying. it's all very convoluted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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np: 1. depending on the state the directly elected delegates are beholden to vote for their nominee for some number of votes. (Usually two.) After that they are free to exercise their own judgment. (This also has nothing to do with super delegates.) 2. direct delegates are not all apportioned in the Democratic party by population. A lot of them are based on the historic likelihood a district voted Democratic in prior elections. (This is why Obama was tied or really close in delegates in some of the states Hillary won.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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op: this somehow seems dangerously close to the people not electing their choice by one person one vote. It seems like a broken way of doing this. I support either dem candidate, BTW [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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we havenever had one person one vote... it is what we are told because it is an easy way to explain democracy to children... it is far more complex than that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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op: This I know, just seems antiquated and not useful anymore to have this whole delegate/super delegate/caucus thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:16 AM Flag
[ - ] There go the chances for the Dems to win the presidential elections this year. Another term of Republican BS is ahead of us. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.04.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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good to see you supporting the goals of your (?) party and rallying for a dem in the WH [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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Not sure there was going to be a chance if Hill ran either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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I really agree with this pov. Hill would never have won. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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ITTTA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:13 AM Flag
[ - ] help with spelling and middle name: kyra / kira or keira - and we need a short middle name - preferably one syllabel - any ideas? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.04.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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I like Kira [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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My cousin is Ceara. Very pretty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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omg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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What? It's the Irish spelling. Pronounced Keera or Cahra [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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I thought that was "Ciara" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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Kira. With Kyra, I'd pronounce it KIE-ruh, and I think you have in mind the more standard KEE-ruh, yes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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yes! what about middle name? any ideas? something short - but i cant come up with ANYTHING [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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Lee [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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Are you thinking of the Gaelic name? Because that is spelled Ciara [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:32 AM Flag
[ - ] Reposting on ELA scores, 3rd grade: can anyone comment on a 715 score -- does it translate to ERB? I need to apply to private next year, not sure how dc will do in admissions -- first test ever. Afraid youngish dc will get left back a grade. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.04.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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If they ask you to repeat it will have nothing to do with the scores. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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Do they always? My dd is a december babe, but has done extremely well at her great public and she is begging not to be left back. has many older friends, only good school reports. Will they make her repeat with an August cut off? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:47 AM Flag
[ - ] any potty training tips you want to share? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.04.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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wait until your kid is totally ready. Then they'll train in a weekend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:43 AM Flag
[ - ] What are the odds of a 98 getting Lower Lab? Does anyone know how many qualifing sibs there are? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.04.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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I hope good! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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I would say at best 50/50. I think there are a lot of sibs and 99s who could easily fill the slots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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So does a 97 have a shot at all? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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not unless they are a sib, no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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How depressing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:54 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it just me or are there not as many people on the new UB. No one answers my posts anymore! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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sorry, your posts just aren't that interesting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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i knew i'd get that answer! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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it was, however, an answer... we are still here ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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there seem to be about five people on here most of the time. 10-20 at a busy period. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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you base that on what ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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note the word "seem" - it's just my opinion. a way of agreeing with the op. sigh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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i feel that same way..i can never get an answer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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but i always got answers on the old site [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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me too...maybe less people are on or they seem to be really invloved in the [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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^^^hot topics (involved) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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It has definitely slowed down alot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:52 AM Flag
[ - ] My divorce with ex wasnt nasty at all. We didn't use lawyers. We just did it and figured it out. I have the kids about 85% of the time..he just sent me a message and said that if my boyfriend ever moves in he isn't paying me shit and he want the kids 5 days a week. Can he do that? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:39 AM Flag
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no. the most he could get is 50/50 custody. why would you have your boyfriend move in? sounds unstable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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op--I'm not sure how it sounds unstable from my post bc it's not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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sorry--I mean for your kids. I would not want a "girlfriend" to move in wih ex-dh. Would prefer them to be married. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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op--not unstable for them either. they love him. we will be together forever--we will not be getting married. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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okay, but I would think dh would have some legal right to have a say in having an unmarried man living with his kids. why not just marry? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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I don't think so. He can't tell her who can live in her house-especially if this guy is not a serial killer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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I guess I'm wrong then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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He can say that. At that point, I would say, lawyers will need to get involved. (So you guys have no signed agreement?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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op--yes..we have a signed agreement [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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then he is probably screwed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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Is there any reason ex would have a point on your boyfriend? I assume it must be a long term relationship if you are considering moving in with him. Are you planning on marrying him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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op--well he just doesnt like him. boyfriend is great. great to me. great to the the kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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he can say whatever he wants. A lawyer will be the one to make sure he doesn't get whatever he wants ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Pregnant with twins. . .. Thinking of naming them Ella and Charles. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:39 AM Flag
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both are nice - [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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Cute. I might go with Eleanor nn Ella [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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like them, but Ella is very common now. I personally like Latin names, how about Elena? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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np that doesn't go as well with Charles though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:56 AM Flag
[ - ] looking for a nanny for dc#1 and am clueless. what kinds of questions should I be asking of her current employer (mom's quitting work to be a sahm)? thanks! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.04.08, 06:38 AM Flag
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ask her about herself but mostly watch her with your baby. . .you'll know. Also important is how long she was with former employers and why she left. Trust your gut. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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How old is DC? I was clueless with #1 also. Ask current employer how she is with taking direction, is she reliable (my previous nanny called out a lot), does nanny have kids she needs to get home to, and base questions on how you'd like things done; ie., does nanny interact with child or just stroll around the city shopping with the other nannies, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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Make sure she has experience working with children the same age as your db. We hired our first nanny even though her experience was with preschool aged kids and not toddlers and it ended up not working out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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