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[ - ] So will G&T finally notify this week or did i miss it already? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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NOthing in the mail today. (Brooklyn) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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you missed it -- we all got anderson. no more room for you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:00 AM Flag
[ - ] My bil died 3 years ago leaving behind a young widow (2 and 5 years old). Now, my sil is engaged to someone else and is moving to another state. Well, our inlaws have become totally obsessed with her and the kids. They call her all the time, want to know every move she is making, literally, and wants to know when they can see the kids, so on and so on. That's understandable however, in this obsession with her and those grandkids they have seem to have forgotten about their other grandkids and other dils and sils. Everytime we are around them all they talk about is her and the kids, etc. What do I do? It's very sad but it's also not nice to forget about everyone else that's around. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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show some empathy. i can't imagine how their feel having lost their child. how would you feel? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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sounds like they are freaking out. can your sil reassure them that they won't lose contact? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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trying to but not hitting home yet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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it's all about you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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it sounds like your in laws are focusing on what they don't have/don't have control over instead of what they do have. This totally sucks. Hopefully with time things will fade. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:59 AM Flag
[ - ] using 2yo's old infant carrier for new db - but it smells for some reason (from storage place) - do they sell new liners for these things? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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you can wash it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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op: I did [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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I'm sure if you went to the company site it would say where you can find replacement parts, including the covers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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op: thx. I was thinking more like a new decorative liner - like the ones they sell for strollers. do these exist for carriers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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There is one for Baby Bjorn - I can't think of the name of the company that makes it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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There's a great, non-expensive, organic product to get rid of odors like this - BAC -OUT that's made by Bio-Kleen and Fairway, WHole Foods sells it. You spray it on the item, wait 20 minutes, then wash as usual with soap. I use it for all stuff that's been in storage and even those things that got a bit mildewy from the beach. Works great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:17 AM Flag
[ - ] If your HHI is 110K, how much of a mortgage can you afford with no or low downpayment? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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375ish...maybe. if you want your payments to be less than $2500 a month. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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that is very high! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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the payment or amount of mortgage? depends on taxes. i live in very high taxes. did 10% down..paid PMI for a couple of months and got it waived. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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we pay 2,500 inc. taxes on the same income and it is v. tight [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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Is that depending on interest rates? Heard that someone had a 315K mortgage for around 2500 a month or so. I really want to get a GOOD mortgage and not get screwed. Not sure which brokers and lenders to use. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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what do you mean get screwed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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it will be hard to get a good rate these days without a 20% down payment. (np) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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go to bankrate.com and familiarize yourself w/ current rates. if you have good credit you'll get a good rate [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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ita - our hhi is about same and our mortg is $2495 and we can barely get by every month w/ other expenses like car/gas, maintence, taxes, utilities, tuition, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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I just went through this. We did the 1st time home buyer program, PMI, and inpounds account with 5% down, our payment is $2495. W/out home owners. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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How much is your total mortgage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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taxes per month? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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$2495/mth person - how much is your mortgage for? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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why would you try and get something with no downpayment? pretty sure you can't get those loans any longer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:10 AM Flag
[ - ] How do I figure out exactly if 10mo dd has ear infection? She pulls at her ear on occasion. Not sure what other symptoms to look for since the irritability symptom is hard for me to gauge. Her appetite is fine. Thanks. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.09.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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She will grab at her ears, if you go to lay her down she will scream/cry the pressure is worse when laying down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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I heard this, but I don't normally lay her down unless she's completely asleep. Hard to gauge. Ugh. - op [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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She would wake up from the pressure in her ears when you lay her down, unless she has exhausted herself completely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:58 AM Flag
[ - ] DB took one step and fell this weekend. She did this two times. Should I buy her anything particular shoes to help with walking? Not sure how to help with the walking. Thanks. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.09.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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nah, perhaps find a push toy for her, but it's best for them to learn to walk barefoot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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push toy is like a walker? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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I like the robeez slipper and then when dd started walking i got the robeez starter shoe. They are great shoes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:54 AM Flag
[ - ] I thought being a WAHM would give me the best of both, but I'm actually finding it more difficult. I have part time help, but just feel I need to work and do errands all within that time frame -- and never feel rested. Anyone btdt? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.09.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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yes - i work and have always had this fantasy of then having some time to myself at lunch to go get a manicure, etc. Well, because I need to be home at a certain time to relive the babysitter (I own my own business so it is easier for me to be home than dh) - I have to work straight through the day, never go to lunch and then am always behind on the weekends. I have tried taking fridays off which then usually means trying to run errands with one or both dcs in tow...I wouldn't trade it but I no longer harbor any illusions about it giving me a lot of spare time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:53 AM Flag
[ - ] 2yo dd is starting soccer (or, as it's known in my house, watch a flock of kids run around in a pack until they get tired), and I have no idea what kind of shoes she needs. I also don't want to spend a lot. Suggestions? right now, she just has sandals and a little pair of chuck taylors, which I don't think will do the trick. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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I would just get some regular sneakers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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just get a pair of new balance or pumas [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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I would get some cleats, it will help her to not fall so much, if that is not an option, some sort of tennis shoe with an alterain sole. Ut hleps when running in the grass. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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mine wears geox sneakers in class - not cleats.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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The geox has a all terain sole, which is the point I was trying to make. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:28 AM Flag
[ - ] I sometimes feel like my little sister (30) is my 2nd child and she is driving me insane. She went to rehab, is sober for almost a year, our parents bought her expensive, big david yurman ring which she lost and i found at my apartment. i told her i found it, and that in a joking (but i meant it tone) that she doesn't deserve this ring (3rd time she lost it). ends up, she didnt tell anyone she lost it, and lied and bought a new one so no one would know. I couldnt believe it. then today, i get this long, nasty email from her, "who are you go tell me i don't deserve this ring. i don't need to hear this from you. blah, blah" she is driving me insane, and sometimes i just get exhausted from her and her silly dramas. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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you sound like a bitch imo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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passive-aggressive, IMO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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Then end the drama. Become emotionally detached from her. Even if she is not as bad as you may think she's not good for you. If your parents want to continue to support her that's their business. Meanwhile be proud of yourself that you are responsible and be a good role model for your kids. Don't do anything beyond the ordinary for her and slowly detach yourself from her emotional control. Let it all roll off your back and don't let yourself get dragged in. Breathe, count to ten, laugh. Good luck BTDT - it was hard at first but now everyone knows I won't engage in their time wasting dramas. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:03 AM Flag
[ - ] HELP!!! my 18 mo. DD won't eat anything anymore but bread, fruit, yogurt, cheese. she used to be so good. i've tried meatballs, chicken fingers, macncheese. i want her to be healthy and i have to pack stuff for daycare each day. i can't keep giving her the gerber organic ravioli. she used to eat all this stuff no problem. ideas? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.09.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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keep sending what she used to eat plus one thing she still eats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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do they grow out of the picky food stage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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doesn't sound too bad to me! I would keep offering things she won't eat, she'll eventually try again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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Try hummus. My 15mo loves it, eats it straight out of container, not as a spread. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:00 AM Flag
[ - ] 2 yo's bday party tomorrow. Supposed to be mid-90s. Do I do it inside (small apt) in A/C or outside in back yard area (shady, but will still be verrrry hot)? My urge is to do it outside (pg and don't feel like cleaning up apt before--or after--party), but will all the other mothers hate me? 45 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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I sure would [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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Hate me or have the party outside? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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hate you for making me sit in the sweltering heat. If your hosting a party you can clean up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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I'm 39 weeks pregnant. And not sure what the kids will do inside tiny nyc apt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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sounds like you've already made up your mind, so why ask? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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i totally agree -- if you're not going to make the smallest effort to make things comfortabl for your guests, you have no business hosting a party [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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can you set up a wading pool outside or a sprinkler? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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No. It's NYC. It's the building's communal garden. Against the rules. I wish. I doubt the kids will care about the heat (my son doesn't). It's more the mothers I'm worried about. As evidenced by above. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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the kids WILL care [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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Then why are the kids in teh park having so much fun even though it's even hotter today than it's supposed to be tomorrow? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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sprinklers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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and an exit strategy. not two forced hours in a small apt. building communtiy space [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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It's actually not small. It's a gorgeous garden with a playground. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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so would i [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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Maybe I'll just tell people it's outside and if they dont' want to come, I understand. Then people like you guys can stay inside with your kids climbing the walls and people who are less picky can come and have fun at my party. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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np: I think this is a perfect solution. Your 2 yo is unlikely to care if a few people don't show up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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do it outside. get bubbles and squirt toys for the kids and make frozen margaritas for the moms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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That's a good idea. I hadn't thought of plying them with alcohol. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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I run a party business. Sunday we had an outdoor party planned (mother's idea, not mine) it was terrible. the bday girl had a melt down and the crafts had to be moved inside. ask someone to help you but it is unbearable to a group of young kids. good luck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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outside only of you have sprinklers. you're pg - why would you want it outside? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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Eh, it's an hour and a half and then the building cleans up instead of me. Also, I feel like more likely the kids will have breakdowns inside. There's a playground outside, fewer toys to cry over, more space, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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were i a guest, i would come inside or leave very quickly. Just too hot to stay outside. I would also help my 39 week preg friend with the cleanup [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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I don't live in the suburbs. YOu can't just come inside! You'd have to take my keys and take an elevator and then break into my apt. Lol. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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then i would make a fast appearance at your party and leave. you sound rude [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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Thanks. I don't know why I go on UB. Everyone is so bitchy here. Thank God the people I know in real life aren't like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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people are not bitchy just because you don't want to hear their sound advice. people are bitchy when they just want to do what they want to do with no regard for others feelings or comfort [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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Take it down a notch missy! You're getting too worked up over a party you're not invited to! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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np: You really do bring it out in people. So obnoxious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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it is rude to have the party and expect your guests to suffer just so you don't need to clean. what you'll end up with is a 20 minute miserable stay at what will in the end merely be a gift drop-off for your child. not cool/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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I actually also think it will be more fun for the kids outside. It's not just not to clean. Frankly, the cleaning isn't the big problem. It's the what the f--k do that many kids do inside? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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that's something you're supposed to consider when PLANNING the party. and btw, extremely hot weather in June is not a surprise -- also something you should have planned for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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you sound put out by the idea that you are actually supposed to be a good host. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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I don't think it's necessarily bad hosting to have an outside party! Not everyone is psychotic about hot weather! I"m not! I wouldn't consider it rude for someone to have a party outside. But I have noticed a lot of people belly-aching about the weather, so I asked. I'm put out more by the tenor of the responses here, like it was rude of me to even ask on UB as I make the decision. Jeesh. The party is tomorrow. No decisions have been made. Everyone can relax. And none of you are invited anyway so you can doubly relax. You will not be made to eat ice cream in my garden. Christ. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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Well, not everyone can be as prescient and superb a party planner and mother as you are. YOu're clearly the better woman. I applaud you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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they are 2 years old. it's called playing with toys and running around. a 2 year old doesn't know how to do squirt toys and they might not like it. you should do it inside. like i said below, i am having a party with 8 kids at my apt next week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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we went to an outside birthdya party on Saturday, it was too much. the kids were too hot, really cranky and unplesant. we left early. reschedule or cancel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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It's way too hot to force people to be outside. Please don't do that to your guests or yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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Inside, please [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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Trust me. It will not be more fun for the kids outside. I did a party in central park on such a day. The kids came dressed up and were miserable. The cake's frosting melted, the clown's makeup melted, the cheese & cold cuts platter melted. The kids were miserable until we let them strip down & run around in the parks sprinklers. Don't do it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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it will be so uncomfortable tomorrow outside that I would cancel and try to reschedule for later in the week when it's supposed to be only 82 and not 96. nobody wants to sit outside tomorrow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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np: It would be a good idea to reschedule for later in the week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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Not too be snarky but I'm not sure why you asked? You really do seem to have made up your mind and now you seem mad that what you want to do isn't confirmed by everyone. No biggy but I think it would be hot & not fun for either kids or adults but why make it sound like we're all a bunch of unspontaneous bores because we disagree with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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it is going to be REALLY hot tomorrow. you shoudl do it inside. i am having a party next week for my 2 yo and it is inside. these children will get seriously dehydrated and the moms will be pretty pissed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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np - Im having dds 2 yo bday party next wednesday - inside - Im just too nervous to have park parties for reasons like this and rain [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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