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[ - ] need an idea what to wear/ where to get it. I am going to be shooting a segment for Good morning america. I need a good outfit. I am 4'10/ 80 lbs.. brown hair long. brown eyes. I am 32 so want something young looking also. TIA 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:46 AM Flag
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hello? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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totally depends on what image you want to project, what your personal style is like. given your hight-Id go one color head to toe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:53 AM Flag
[ - ] If you live on the UES, LL or Nest? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.09.08, 05:37 AM Flag
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Def. Lower Lab if you live on UES. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:42 AM Flag
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I wouldn't schlepp (sp?) from UES to NEST esp. if that means putting my dc who is 5yr on a school bus every day. If I drove and liked NEST better than that's different [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:44 AM Flag
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the bus is so much fun for the kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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The schools are so different that I'd go by philosophy, not distance. The busride from the UES will be pretty short and most kids (esp. outgoing ones) love busrides anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:34 AM Flag
[ - ] being a sah parent may be a wonderful life choice - but it is simply not a job 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.09.08, 05:30 AM Flag
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it isn't a job? well I don't get paid for it but I work longer and harder than I did when working out of the home. I sah with no help and 2 kids (pg with#3). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:36 AM Flag
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calling it a job doesn't give it MORE validity and in fact may give it less [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:38 AM Flag
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yes it isn't technically a JOB but it's what I do. What you call it is up to you but it isn't a day full of fluff. I work my ass off (as others do) and work harder than ever [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:39 AM Flag
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right, but it is not a job [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:40 AM Flag
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it's my job to raise my kids..this is what I chose. Not anyone elses. So like I said call it what you want but this is what I do, how I work..my job [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:42 AM Flag
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but it's a job if somebody else does it? this is just a semantics argument [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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If a woman who was married but no kids chose not to work for pay but spend all day genuinely working hard - making meals from scratch for herself and dh, washing, ironing, etc - would you call that a job as well? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:40 AM Flag
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work is work..work is a job. I don't think a job needs to be something that you get paid for or do outside of the home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:43 AM Flag
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no, a job is something you get paid to do. I pay bills, do laundry and wash dishes but don't call that a job - why is it important to you to define it as a job? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:45 AM Flag
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i don't really get your point? what is it? the definition of the word job? who cares? if somebody else takes care of your kids, it's a job. if you do it, it may not be a job depending on how you define the word, but who cares? what's your point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:38 AM Flag
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Well, it's an important choice. I didn't give birth to my child so that I could pay someone else to raise her. I would rather care for my child and know that she's being well taken care of than pay someone who'll sit on her duff all day to do it for me. If you feel comfortable bringing a life into the world and then having someone else do all the work? Go for it. I, however, feel it's a selfish choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:40 AM Flag
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^^I respect your choice to feed your child every last cheerio - but "doing all the work" can take many different forms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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No, actually "doing all the work" means just that ... Doing all the work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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trust me - if you are not bringing home income to pay for kid's necessities, college etc, you are letting someone else do that work for you - just don't be so judgemental about how that work gets cut up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:53 AM Flag
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np: letting do that work for you? You mean the other parent? That's the job of parents to provide for their kids. How they decide to divide the work is up to them but assume staying home with the kids isn't work. It sure it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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^^meant sure is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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"Doing all the work" was meant all the work for and with the child/ren. Take a breath. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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I'm not sure if the OP works, but let me tell you that you are completely off with your comment. Just because a sah parent doesn't bring home an income doesn't mean that it's not a job. If both parents worked you would be paying someone to watch your kid and manage your home unless then both parents took responsibility for that. IT'S A JOB!!!!!! Luckily it is a one of the rewarding jobs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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Actually, I think OP doesn't have enough drama in her life and wanted to start some here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:53 AM Flag
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The Oxford English DIctionary defines the word "job" as follows: "noun 1 a paid position of regular employment. 2 a task or piece of work. 3 informal a crime, especially a robbery. 4 informal a procedure to improve the appearance of something: a nose job." Although SAHM'ing doesn't fit the #1 definition above, it does #2. That said, I'm a SAHM who thinks your point is irrelevant. Even if it doesn't fit the criteria of a job - so what? Who cares? What's your point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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I was about to lookup the definition of "job" because OP didn't seem to care what her definition of "job" is. Good job. I agree, being a SAHP is a job. Period. It even comes with a career path and grow potential. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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I still don't understand why OP even thinks it matters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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you're right. with a job you get a salary, benefits, a lunch break and the ability to pee without an audience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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BUT IF YOU HIRE SOMEONE ELSE TO DO IT, IT IS A job TO THEM. Who cares? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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it may not be a job, BUT IT IS MUCH HARDER WORK THAN WOH'ING. signed, WOH mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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I thought being a WAHM would give me the best of both, but I'm actually finding it more difficult. I have part time help, but just feel I need to work and do errands all within that time frame -- and never feel rested. Anyone btdt? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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Sort of. I WAH and I work more hours from home than I ever did in an office because it's too easy to get lured into doing stuff for the job at any hour of the day or night. I'm sick of it. Planning to go back to a regular office job soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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I have been a WAHM mom for the last 4 years - and the kids and I both love it (but they were 9 and 7 when I started, so they are out of the house most of the day). Vast improvement over working in an office, has been the best of both for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:24 AM Flag
[ - ] Every time I try to reply to a post, I get bounced to the login screen (even though I have already logged in successfully). I can't reply to posts! Is this happening to anyone else? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.09.08, 05:28 AM Flag
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it happened to me 2 times then stopped [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:29 AM Flag
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OP: Okay, this time it is allowing me to reply. I'll just keep trying I guess. Thx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:30 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm curious about the expression "get over yourself," which seems patronizing and a put-down. Would you use it with a friend who's talking about a problem? If so, would you use it even when you're feeling kindly toward the friend, or only when annoyed? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:25 AM Flag
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that expression is patronizing and bitchy. I would never use it when I'm trying to comfort anyone. Just mean to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:27 AM Flag
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^^please tell me someone didn't say this to you when you were venting to a friend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:28 AM Flag
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OP: no, I've just seen it a lot here and wondered about the UBers who use it. It always seems destructive but I wasn't sure that I was reading it right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:30 AM Flag
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I wanted to reply under your last post but it's kicking me off so I'm posting as a NP but I'm not. You aren't reading it wrong..ppl on UB are mean, sarcastic and feel the need to be nasty in order to make their miserable lives seem better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:38 AM Flag
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Gotcha. (UB's weird right now -- keeps sending me to login as well. I think it needs to get over itself.;)) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:45 AM Flag
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Snort [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:58 AM Flag
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OP: This leads to my next question: do the posters who say this on UB also say it to their own friends? is it a group thing, so it doesn't feel particularly painful, just a way of kidding around with each other? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:38 AM Flag
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I have said it to my best friend (and dh) in a kidding way, when they are being overly dramatic or silly. the context is always clear. Like DH saying "I picked up my 3 day old underwear from the floor, arent you lucky to have a man like me?" That's a get over yourself moment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:04 AM Flag
[ - ] So, whats with this 2 year old "hunger strike"? Anyone btdt? My 22 mo will hardly eat a thing except Nutragrain bars! AGH! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:16 AM Flag
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2yr olds (most of them) don't eat a lot. Ped said it's normal and be glad if you get one good meal in a day. He said as long as they are gaining and seem fine, they will eat when they are hungry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:17 AM Flag
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^^^both of my dd did this at that age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:17 AM Flag
[ - ] So sad..a local bodega which has been in business for 30 yrs has closed down. The economy has another victim 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:08 AM Flag
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LOL! Maybe. Maybe they were out of date. Maybe they mismanaged their money. Maybe they retired and moved to florida [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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the owner of our local bodega embezzled a bunch of money and went back to the DR--you never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:01 AM Flag
[ - ] good place in nyc to buy shoes for 2yr old dd? ped recommended european brand shoes with a high arch?? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.09.08, 04:58 AM Flag
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honestly Stride Rite is fine. They have good arch support. You can also go to Lesters on 2nd ave and 79st but they are $$$. Ecco's are great shoes and also primigi. I have bought Stride Rite, Ecco, Primigi and Naturino in the past. All are european except for Stride Rite. There is a Naturino store on Madison and 87th [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:02 AM Flag
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thank you- we have been using stride rite up to now- i guess i just need to be aware of the arch support- thanks for the recomendations- would love to go today and look just not sure if i am up to the walk (i am on 5th & 57th) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:06 AM Flag
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you're welcome. yes today will be horrible for walking. I also buy from Zappos.com. They ship overnight [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:09 AM Flag
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daffy's has all the european brands at a big discount. we buy the naturino (sp) there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:20 AM Flag
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thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:21 AM Flag
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np: Ditto that...and if you're on 57th, you have one Daffy's to your east and another to your west! I used to get Naturino shoes for dd all the time there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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the one on LEX always seems to have a good shoe selection [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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Daffy's is such a mess. Finding the right size is almost impossible there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:15 AM Flag
[ - ] I KNEW this glowing article in the NYTIMES about cynthia lufkin was a marketing ploy! The west 108th st apt is on the market now for over 17 million bucks!http://www.sothebyshomes.com/nyc/sales/q0015882http://www.nytimes.com/2008/03/06/garden/06lufkin.html?pagewanted=all 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:55 AM Flag
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^sorry for the repost. I HATE this new format. You can post to a board without having it selected and then cant SEE your own post! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:56 AM Flag
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ALL articles in shelter mags or the house & home section of the Times are marketing. why else would a rich, private family or celebrity open their home to the masses? to have great pics taken and sell it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:58 AM Flag
[ - ] hi all- wohm here, 33, 3dcs, looking for summer clothes..i really dont have much and now we are going to the puerto rico for a destination wedding- where should i go to buy nice looking capri's, shirts etc..? price not an issue but dont want to look old and frumpy..or like a kid..please help! TIA! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.09.08, 04:54 AM Flag
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sorry I can't help (i'm pg) but ohhh enjoy PR..I love it there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:55 AM Flag
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op- stay cool and good luck! looking forward to the wedding but not running around in a bathing suit in front of all our friends! dcs are 4, and twons are 1- ugh! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:59 AM Flag
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thanks and have fun! I'm not a beer drinker but PR Medalla beer is YUMMY when it's ice cold [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:03 AM Flag
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Macy's for sure [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:47 AM Flag
[ - ] I have been pretty confident that my 99 dc would get one of our top three choices. Now I am panicking that there may be 500+ 99s in the city, and I don't love choices 4+. There seem to be so many 99s on UB and I know of 4 just in my dc's small, no-name preschool. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.09.08, 04:40 AM Flag
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the one mistake many ppl make is to think that the ERB score (like a 99) is the golden ticket. It's not. Like you said there are many dc that score very high but the schools look at other things besides the ERB. In many schools, those other things hold more value than the score. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:43 AM Flag
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^^^I have found (in my experience) that the dc interview and school report carry more weight. Also when you have your parent interview, be yourself. Don't try to impress them or tell them what you think they want to hear. They see right through that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:45 AM Flag
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Oh, sorry - talking about public and OLSAT [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:47 AM Flag
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oops my mistake. I thought you meant erb. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:51 AM Flag
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people may lie about their scores. i understand the panic, but don't stress when you don't know all hte info yet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:46 AM Flag
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Stop panicking. You'll definitely get into 1 of your top 3 choices. Guesstimates are there are 200-250 99s, which makes sense to me. You might not get into your top 2 choices, but you'll definitely get into #3. Which are your top 3 choices? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:25 AM Flag
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The usual suspects - A, N, LL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:27 AM Flag
[ - ] what other schools beside PS 87 have a great inclusion program or CTT classes? tia 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.09.08, 04:40 AM Flag
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PS 333 - Manhattan School for Children on 93rd/Amsterdam [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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that's only for children with mobility impaired in the iep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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PS 75 & PS 163 have CTT classes also [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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NP: This year and next 75 does not have a CTT K class. They may in the future but I wouldn't know. They have CTT in some of the older grades. I really liked 163's class when I toured. There was also a K class at 199 but I'm told they will not have it next year. I say the 2 best in D3 are 87 and 163. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 12:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm keeping my dds home from school today. Neither school has A/C and I'm 5mo pg. We went out this weekend and both kids were miserable. Anyone else not sending their kids to school? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:36 AM Flag
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Dc's preK has A/C or else I would do the same thing! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:38 AM Flag
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op: thanks..I feel bad but left it up to my older dd (8yr) if she wanted to go in but told her there is no A/C at all. She said no way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:40 AM Flag
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is there going to be a/c everywhere she goes in life? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:56 AM Flag
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op: no need for sarcasm. I don't think a dc need to be in an extremely hot classroom for 8hrs. NYC will feel like 105 degrees. That's just disgusting to deal with all day long. This is her last week of school and missing one day isn't going to hurt. Since I can keep her home, I will. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:00 AM Flag
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it was a valid question. what will you do tomorrow? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:02 AM Flag
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it was a sarcastic question. Tomorrow my 3yr old doesn't have school and my 8yr old will be on a trip (a/c bus and the museum will be cool too) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:04 AM Flag
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np. How would you like to spend 8 hours in an office with no a/c on a day like today? Given the option, I'm sure you'd rather not. In OP's shoes I'd do the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:37 AM Flag
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teacher here- you have no idea what a classroom feels like when the temp is over 90. It is terrible. The school building traps heat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:48 AM Flag
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I don't want to take her to work with me so off to school she goes. She'll survive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:51 AM Flag
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we spent all summer, every summer at my grandmother's farm in East Texas with no a/c. they'll survive [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:06 AM Flag
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np; sounds like it's a diff. heat being on a farm all summer than the heat you have in a big city like NYC. I've been to places where 98 degrees isn't the same feeling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:16 AM Flag
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it's not a dry heat, if that's what you mean [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:24 AM Flag
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^^^in fact, just to give you an idea. the humidity there right now is 80%. in New York right now it's 59%. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:28 AM Flag
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np: I'm guessing that at the farm you could be outside, hang out in the shade, maybe play in some water... a little different than sitting in an oppressive classroom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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keeping my dc home too. Why should I send dc in to be in that oppressive heat all day. I'm home and dc will stay cool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:11 AM Flag
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I'd keep them home if the option was there. I remember elementary school in virginia w/no a/c... there were days when kids would be passing out, the principal would be pushing a cart of frozen oj from room to room just to keep us conscious... it was miserable. And believe me, no one was learning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:27 AM Flag
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i think this is smart. i went to nyc public schools with no a/c and on days like today it was unbearable. plus nothing really got done anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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Took mine home (from public) before lunch. Teachers were about to faint! Most kids were staying, though. Still, I'd rather be safe, since it will probably go close to 100 in her classroom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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