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06.09.08, 05:30 AM NY Schools
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being a sah parent may be a wonderful life choice - but it is simply not a job [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
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it isn't a job? well I don't get paid for it but I work longer and harder than I did when working out of the home. I sah with no help and 2 kids (pg with#3). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:36 AM Flag
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calling it a job doesn't give it MORE validity and in fact may give it less [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:38 AM Flag
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yes it isn't technically a JOB but it's what I do. What you call it is up to you but it isn't a day full of fluff. I work my ass off (as others do) and work harder than ever [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:39 AM Flag
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right, but it is not a job [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:40 AM Flag
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it's my job to raise my kids..this is what I chose. Not anyone elses. So like I said call it what you want but this is what I do, how I work..my job [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:42 AM Flag
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but it's a job if somebody else does it? this is just a semantics argument [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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If a woman who was married but no kids chose not to work for pay but spend all day genuinely working hard - making meals from scratch for herself and dh, washing, ironing, etc - would you call that a job as well? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:40 AM Flag
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work is work..work is a job. I don't think a job needs to be something that you get paid for or do outside of the home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:43 AM Flag
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no, a job is something you get paid to do. I pay bills, do laundry and wash dishes but don't call that a job - why is it important to you to define it as a job? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:45 AM Flag
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i don't really get your point? what is it? the definition of the word job? who cares? if somebody else takes care of your kids, it's a job. if you do it, it may not be a job depending on how you define the word, but who cares? what's your point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:38 AM Flag
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Well, it's an important choice. I didn't give birth to my child so that I could pay someone else to raise her. I would rather care for my child and know that she's being well taken care of than pay someone who'll sit on her duff all day to do it for me. If you feel comfortable bringing a life into the world and then having someone else do all the work? Go for it. I, however, feel it's a selfish choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:40 AM Flag
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^^I respect your choice to feed your child every last cheerio - but "doing all the work" can take many different forms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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No, actually "doing all the work" means just that ... Doing all the work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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trust me - if you are not bringing home income to pay for kid's necessities, college etc, you are letting someone else do that work for you - just don't be so judgemental about how that work gets cut up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:53 AM Flag
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np: letting do that work for you? You mean the other parent? That's the job of parents to provide for their kids. How they decide to divide the work is up to them but assume staying home with the kids isn't work. It sure it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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^^meant sure is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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"Doing all the work" was meant all the work for and with the child/ren. Take a breath. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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I'm not sure if the OP works, but let me tell you that you are completely off with your comment. Just because a sah parent doesn't bring home an income doesn't mean that it's not a job. If both parents worked you would be paying someone to watch your kid and manage your home unless then both parents took responsibility for that. IT'S A JOB!!!!!! Luckily it is a one of the rewarding jobs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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Actually, I think OP doesn't have enough drama in her life and wanted to start some here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 05:53 AM Flag
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The Oxford English DIctionary defines the word "job" as follows: "noun 1 a paid position of regular employment. 2 a task or piece of work. 3 informal a crime, especially a robbery. 4 informal a procedure to improve the appearance of something: a nose job." Although SAHM'ing doesn't fit the #1 definition above, it does #2. That said, I'm a SAHM who thinks your point is irrelevant. Even if it doesn't fit the criteria of a job - so what? Who cares? What's your point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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I was about to lookup the definition of "job" because OP didn't seem to care what her definition of "job" is. Good job. I agree, being a SAHP is a job. Period. It even comes with a career path and grow potential. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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I still don't understand why OP even thinks it matters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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you're right. with a job you get a salary, benefits, a lunch break and the ability to pee without an audience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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BUT IF YOU HIRE SOMEONE ELSE TO DO IT, IT IS A job TO THEM. Who cares? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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it may not be a job, BUT IT IS MUCH HARDER WORK THAN WOH'ING. signed, WOH mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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I thought being a WAHM would give me the best of both, but I'm actually finding it more difficult. I have part time help, but just feel I need to work and do errands all within that time frame -- and never feel rested. Anyone btdt? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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Sort of. I WAH and I work more hours from home than I ever did in an office because it's too easy to get lured into doing stuff for the job at any hour of the day or night. I'm sick of it. Planning to go back to a regular office job soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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I have been a WAHM mom for the last 4 years - and the kids and I both love it (but they were 9 and 7 when I started, so they are out of the house most of the day). Vast improvement over working in an office, has been the best of both for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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