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[ - ] my just turned 3yr does not know all her letters. she can recognize`about half only. she is simply noy that interested. i have not been pushing but should i start? btw, she is advanced in other areas esp speech so i am not worried bour delays so much. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 03:37 AM Flag
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I don't see the point of pushing. Does she like to "read" books? Does she go to preschool? She'll pick it up eventually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 03:49 AM Flag
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she loves books. we must read 20 a day. preschool in the fall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 03:55 AM Flag
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I wouldn't worry just keep reading and pointing out the letters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:43 AM Flag
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Ummm, I feel like I'm missing something here...she shouldn't know her letters yet--unless she's some sort of genius. Seriously, this is an age that they should be learning about stories, enjoying them, holding books properly, turning pages, anticipating events. Learning about print and letters comes later-at a more age-appropriate time. Pushing will not help. They learn when they are ready. Those letters do not "mean" anything to them at this point. They are basically meaningless symbols. This is a process-and letters on their own at age three are basically meaningless shapes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:56 AM Flag
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go to starfall.com - she'll learn her letters in a week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:02 AM Flag
[ - ] 11dp3dt & hpt +. beta today. should i be excited? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 06.16.08, 03:27 AM Flag
[ - ] Another night when I couldn't fall asleep until 1:30 and woke up at 5:30. Thank you DOE for skipping our letter this weekend and making me a wreck. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.16.08, 03:12 AM Flag
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GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:44 AM Flag
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I'm right there with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:59 AM Flag
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OMG - you are me! Slept terribly last night and now on pins and needles - going to be stalking my door man all day. Do we think they will be hand delivered or in regular mail? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:21 AM Flag
[ - ] I never paid close attention to the nitty gritty details of the education at Anderson because I was convinced of its solid reputation and I never in a minute thought we would get in. I did not want to be invested in it. Now we're in! I cannot believe our good fortune. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.16.08, 02:59 AM Flag
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Ditto here. Afraid to get my hopes up. Now studying every detail of their website. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 03:58 AM Flag
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OP: I am going to call the school today to ask about registration, and I'll also ask about the rumored picnic for new families. I am hoping they'll have some kind of opportunity for the kids to see the school before Sept. 2nd. See you there! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:00 AM Flag
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See you soon! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:03 AM Flag
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np Another Anderson accept here. Please post what you learn. We'll see you there too!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:27 AM Flag
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Anderon "aunt" here, meaning my nephew goes there: it's a great public school but dont think that doesn't mean you can relax. You still have to stay on top of things. The school is terrific but you still need to watch and demand changes all the way through. You need to work with the school and sometimes against it to be sure your kids get what they need. And you're up against the constant threat of cuts by the DOE, and you will constantly be pressured to donate time or cash. That said, it is an amazing situation and one of the best public situations you could pray for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:22 AM Flag
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Demanding changes is not the way to do things in any community. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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right? What the hell did the poster above smoke? Sounds unpleasant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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Anderson is overrated. Am I the only 99 mom who did not put Anderson as #1? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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What was your first choice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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Lower Lab [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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Hopefully Dr. K turns LL into another Anderson - otherwise, you'll probably be sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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huh? LL is a pretty good school. What's your beef with it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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Biggest beef is lack of a good math curriculum -- does not prepare kids for middle school esp. out of district -- warm and fuzzy, but not really accelerated or challenging. DC at LL and DC at Anderson - Anderson is a better package. But I do think Dr K will be a huge improvement over current princ. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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I am not too worried about the math curriculum. DH is able to supplement whatever is needed. I like warm and fuzzy and the test scores speak for themselves. It's a good school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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NEST is both a great middle school and has the best math curriculum around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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I agree with the math curriculum. LL is supplementing TERC with Singapore techniques and others, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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We listed Anderson 1st because of the middle school. Other than that we actually liked LL a little better. Got LL and am happy with that, sort of relieved not to have to bus such a small child across the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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Nope - we didn't either. Put NEST first, and got it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Any good book recs? The last one I read was The Other Bolyen Girl 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.16.08, 02:22 AM Flag
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mr pips, 19 minutes is ok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 03:22 AM Flag
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i am reading john berendt's story about venice, which is a good summer read. I also liked julie and julia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 03:28 AM Flag
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I loved Julie and Julia. It totally made me want to cook! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:16 AM Flag
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np: i loved it too, it made me want to blog! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:23 AM Flag
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Slammerkin or The Dress Lodger if you're into that kind of book [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:05 AM Flag
[ - ] What is your most recent favorite book? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 10:10 PM Flag
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the reluctant fundamentalist (fiction) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:24 AM Flag
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"Outtakes From A Marriage". Very funny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:32 AM Flag
[ - ] hey- newbie looking for guidance. my DD attends Kindergarten at a school with a GT program. My DD is doing so well in school she's reading 3 grades up... etc etc... she also is not a stellar test taker (she likes to leap ahead and guess.) so she got a 91 on the placement. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.15.08, 10:09 PM Flag
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sorry- screwed up- anyways they said today she couldn't get into the current school gt- only the one that is in a neighborhood far away... in a VERY not-good school in our district. If I decline, which i will- shes not emotionally strong enough to bus, to begin with- can i fight to get her into her local gt? is she still enrolled in her current school which i do like? is this my fault for filling out the form the way they said you should??? help im so disappointed!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 10:12 PM Flag
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OMG just stay in the school where you are. GT isn't REQUIRED. She will do fine in gen ed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 03:25 AM Flag
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I totally agree. dd is very smart, didn't take any of the entrance tests but had a neuropsych eval because of learning issues and she scored very high on that. She's done really well with gen ed. thrived, in fact. she's consistently on the honor roll, and this year, made honor roll with distinction. meaning she maintained a grade average of above 95 overall for the year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:07 AM Flag
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It is no ones "fault". Your child did not get in your first choice g&t. It happens. A 91 is not a great score. Just stay where you are and either be thankful your dc is doing so well, or try again next year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:53 AM Flag
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I don't know if you will have luck fighting this, but I do think this is one of the most absurd aspects of G&T. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:21 AM Flag
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What is absurd about the fact her child got a 91 (with 90 being the lowest qualifying score) and didn't get her first choice, most desirable g&t? The seats were obviously filled with higher scoring dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:54 AM Flag
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its not absurd that higher score dc get placed first- understand the principle- but instead of making efforts to place her in GT in the school she is already *in* which we live *next door to*, they aoffer to bus her to a GT across town- because no one likes the GT at that school and no one chose it...... Now she'll sit in a regular classroom next to a GT class filled with dc who maybe scored a point or two higher - and are getting bussed over to her school. Thats ANNOYING. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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NP: I think you are looking for things to be annoyed about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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I think a "keep kids in the school in which they're already enrolled" policy makes even more sense than a sibling policy (which I think makes sense as well). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:14 AM Flag
[ - ] I found an ex boyfriend on facebook the other day and we have sent a few emails back and forth, I can't shake the feelings I used to have for him that are re-surfacing- even though we broke up almost 15 years ago, today it is feeling like it happened last week and the pain of our break- and how much I miss him is so fresh that I feel like crying. I am happily married with two kids but clearly I have never gotten over him 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.15.08, 10:05 PM Flag
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seems like perhaps you might want to walk away from this. you may have gotten over him. you may not. but chances are a lot of what you're feeling now is based on fantasy. you have no idea who he is now. nor do you know if you'd really like him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 10:41 PM Flag
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I think I married my DH as a reaction to the relationship I had with my ex- it was extremely intense in both a healthy and very unhealthy way, DH offered peace, he was easy to be with, no drama. I guess I have always felt I sacrificed on the passion- not just sexually but emotionally- even though the innocent emails we have sent- I just feel this very strong connection to him that I have never felt with anyone else- family, friends - anymore. It makes me very sad. I can't shake it. Even if I never email him again. Thanks for listening [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 10:50 PM Flag
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poster below in some ways we're alike on this. I love my Dh things are easy with him but not as passionate with the ex-bf but also things with him were so much more crazy too...i like stable i do :) though memories of crazy sparks are hard to put aside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 03:24 AM Flag
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count yourself lucky to be married with dcs. ITA there is a reason he is an ex-bf. The passion is over-rated. If you can trust your dh then you are better off with him. A good friend always needed passion in her relationships. She is pushing 50, never married, and the love of her life ended up robbing a bank and going to jail. How's that for "drama"? Who needs it? Cut the emails and focus on dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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np this is so true- i find i'm doing the same with an ex-bf who happened to have moved to a new city where i'm at too. it bothers me i'm so obsessed about it..need t cut it out totally [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 03:23 AM Flag
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i'd walk away. he's an ex for a reason, even if it was good at times. enjoy the memories and cherish the life you're living now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:07 AM Flag
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just think of how difficult divorce is. your husband has one major advantage over this other guy, because he is the father of your children. would your children be happier with this other guy? sounds like no, not at all. my perspective: my own dh cheated on me in a really miserable way; i desperately wish i could repair my feelings for him so that we could be a family again for my dd but so far i haven't been able to. i'm just saying: cut this fellow off. you have a treasure that a lot of us would do anything to attain for our children... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:32 AM Flag
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I think that alot of the feelings you have related to this person are caught up in romantic notions of the past. Think about it- 15 years ago, you did not have kids, a marriage, a home and responsiblities. You could focus on yourself and this person exclusively. That is part of why it is so intense. But we all grow up and the intense feelings that you have for this person are not real. The unhealthy aspects of the relationship are a big red flag and it is not just you anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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I have a friend like this. She met her boyfriend through me when we were teens. They had an on-again, off-again relationship that was mostly just hooking up when he wanted her, then dumping her again. Even in our 30's, both married with kids- I can tell when I see her she is not over him. Which I find especially pathetic because he is so narcissistic and self-involved, I don't really think he loved her anyhow - I think even with a wife and kids, he is the type that only will ever love himself. Yet she still pines for him. Grow up. It is all a fantasy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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This totally reminds me of a book I just read - http://www.amazon.com/Love-One-Youre-Emily-Giffin/dp/0312348673 -- Don't know if that will help you much but I think a lot of people have questions/latent feelings like this and this book was a super fast, easy read . . . wraps everything up a little too neatly but definitely explores the passion vs stable husband question . . . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:54 PM Flag
[ - ] holy crap! Where is everyone??? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 10:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone NOT get their G&T letter yet? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.15.08, 10:02 PM Flag
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Us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:01 AM Flag
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Us - UWS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:18 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:34 AM Flag
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did not get letter in Morningside Heights [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:35 AM Flag
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Another in Morningside Heights. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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us. freaking. out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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US, but the school (PS 11) principal called at 9am sharp to my office number (how they got it i don't know) to set up a time to register. very thoguhtful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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Register for PS11 G&T or gen ed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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G&T [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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Wait - so you think that is where you got placed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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I posted yesterday about friend who got a call from District G&T program saying her dc had been accepted, before she even got her letter. No one believed me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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Yes. We're still waiting here in Queens. It is making me a nervous wreck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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We're waiting in Riverdale. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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Us 10014 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:20 AM Flag
[ - ] G&T deathwatch: Casualty list for '08-'09 should be known soon. Any guesses? WC? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.15.08, 10:00 PM Flag
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My ds might be one. No letter yet. 99 but only listed Anderson and NEST. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 10:03 PM Flag
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you can't complain if you are choosy, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 10:06 PM Flag
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ITA, but I still wish OR the best of luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 03:59 AM Flag
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OR: I am in Queens and we didn't get the opportunity to choose other G&T because local G&T starts in 1st grade. I didn't think TAG was worth the trip into Manhattan (and, quite frankly, not sure about NEST). I'd travel a million miles for Anderson, because I think it was a special, magical school. Worst comes to worst, ds will go to local G&T in 1st grade, which is an absolutely wonderful option as well. Just dying to know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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NEST is a fantastic place. I kind of hope you don't get it, with that attitude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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I thought NEST was a great school, but you have to remember how far it is from Queens. Just because it's not worth over an hour each way (to me) really doesn't mean it's anything other than a great school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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WC? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 10:05 PM Flag
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who cares [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 10:08 PM Flag
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OP: G&T schools, not dc. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 10:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Ok - just got back from a weekend away and no G&T letter. Did everyone receive their letters? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.15.08, 09:56 PM Flag
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We did not - know a few others who did't either. I am REALLY hoping for today! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:19 AM Flag
[ - ] my husband curses in front of our 4 year old. He lets her go barefoot in central park, and is forcing her to not wear pull-ups even though she is terrified of making a BM in the potty. I am constantly fighting with him... 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.15.08, 09:44 PM Flag
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Your 4 yr old is terrified of making a BM in the potty? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:47 AM Flag
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sounds like you have diff. ways of parenting. i'd fight him on some of those things but come to a compromise on others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:18 AM Flag
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1. Your 4 yo shouldn't be in pull-ups. 2. Cursing in front of her isn't the best idea and he'll realize then when she repeats herself. 3. I used to care about shoes in Centrap Park when I had one two yo, but now that I have more than one child, I've learned to relax. Baiscally, there is more than one right way to be a parent and you and he are about equal on these issues and my guess it that you need to chill. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:24 AM Flag
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np, ita with all, except the cursing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:30 AM Flag
[ - ] taking the subway to 34th and 7th (2-3). Is there an exit on 8th avenue? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.15.08, 09:32 PM Flag
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If I recall correctly, yes, but you have to walk through Penn Station, basically. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 09:34 PM Flag
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Yep, gotta walk through Penn Station. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 09:37 PM Flag
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ugh. well, thanks. i just hate walking through those crowds... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 09:40 PM Flag
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Why not go out on Seventh and walk on the sidewalk then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 09:56 PM Flag
[ - ] NP: Maybe $$$$. Mom of daycare-educated DS w/ 98. It would be interesting to see how many 97+ went to preschool over full day daycare. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 09:00 PM Flag
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you're suggesting that daycare is just as good, maybe better than preschool? how long has your ds been in daycare? and why that over preschool? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 09:30 PM Flag
[ - ] I am a freelancer and want to offer my services to DC's private school (we're FA). Is there such a thing as a tax write-off for me? Or can the school lower our tuition by that margin? Clueless here. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 08:54 PM Flag
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What kind of services? I've never heard of tuition reduction for voluntary services, nor any kind of tax write-off, though I can see that more, I guess. Volunteering at a non-profit organization. But you'll have to get the school to go along with that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 09:23 PM Flag
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IRS does not allow a tax write off for volunteer time (although transport costs to certain volunteer jobs/donations maybe deductible). You could ask the school if they hire anyone in yor specialty and see what comes of that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 09:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Now I have to make a decision that I'm sure many would want to have to make, but it's killing me. 99-DD didn't get A., but we got PS 9G&T. We are zoned for 199, and both schools are close (slightly closer to 199) So, the decision is, would you pick 199 or PS9GT? Any BTDT moms or stories much appreciated. TIA. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.15.08, 08:50 PM Flag
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I have heard such great things about PS9G&T [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 03:59 AM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:01 AM Flag
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How many classes per grade will there be at PS 9 G&T? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:05 AM Flag
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one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:25 AM Flag
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That's the only big issue, otherwise it would be a no-brainer. But OP has a girl so I'd probably still go with PS9. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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just pick ps9! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 04:26 AM Flag
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no brainer go with g and t. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:27 AM Flag
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OP here -- can you explain why you say this with such certainty? The thing that puts me on the fence is the weirdness of having the three programs under one roof. Do you think the kids "get" the differences and it has an impact on them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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Go with 9, switch to 199 if dc is not happy. The reverse is not an option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:33 AM Flag
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Actually this is not true, you can apply for G&T every year and kids are coming into PS9 from 87 and 9 in higher grades. But it's harder than moving into your zoned school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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np: good point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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I don't know anything about 199, but we're facing a similar decision with G&T vs zoned. Do you like the program at 199? Would you have been happy with DC at 199? I don't think the answer is at all automatically "pick G&T." There's a lot to be said for some gen-ed schools. And yes, I would be put off by the three programs in one school and I've heard the kids AND the parents are all very aware of the distinctions.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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199 is great, but suffers from a serious overcrowding issue, with more on the horizon (a reason why we applied out at all) They gave up separate art room, music room, etc., for 7 incoming kindergartens. Otherwise, student body and parent body seem wonderful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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there are lots of kids in ps9G&T who are zoned for schools like 199 and 87. go for it. it is a great program. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:27 AM Flag
[ - ] looking at restoration hardware couches - any btdt? down fill or standard, and do the slipcovers hold up well? tia 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 08:48 PM Flag
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my friend had them and loved them -- she had leather ones and they held up great. [ Reply | More
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