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[ - ] How much does it costs to get out of a Verizon cell phone contract with 1 year left. We want the IPHONE 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:58 PM Flag
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you are me. not sure --- i think it might be about $200. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:16 AM Flag
[ - ] If you want to ttc, do you have sex every single night or every other night for best results?? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:56 PM Flag
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Not every night. Don't stress out about it. It'll never happen if you do that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:58 PM Flag
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sometimes every night... depends on if you're in the mood [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:07 PM Flag
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We did it every other night for a while, then we went to every night. Don't know what specifically is the answer, but we were preggers after just 2 cycles off BC after 7 years on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:46 AM Flag
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not if your dh has lowered sperm counts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 03:03 AM Flag
[ - ] How do I avoid having MIL and DH's sibs sleep over at our house? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:54 PM Flag
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don't buy a large home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 03:43 AM Flag
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Don't have a guest room. Otherwise, you are stuck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:53 AM Flag
[ - ] Can this friendship be saved? I have become good friends with dd's best friend's mom over the school year (same preschool). In the fall, she would vent about/talk about private school application process, which we didn't do. That kind of morphed into G&T talk 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:52 PM Flag
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And? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:54 PM Flag
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^^^hit reply too soon. sorry. anyway, hard to explain, but I never mentioned that my dd was taking the G&T test as well -- I just assumed we'd be going to our zoned school, which I love. And she was very entertaining the way she talked about the process, so I let her go. She told me about a lot of the school tours -- which I never had time to go on. So fast forward to today. Yes, her dd got shut out (df only wanted citywide) with a 98 and my 99 got into her #1 choice. She's called me three times crying, and the guilt is killing me. I didn't tell her at first because I still thought we'd decline the spot -- but DH is so excited and has talked me into it. Tonight she called and apologized to me for being so selfish about the school mess and realizes our zoned school is great and she is so glad our dd's will be going to the same school. AAACCK!!! What do I DO??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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It's over [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:56 PM Flag
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really? this makes me so sad because this is the first woman I've really "clicked" with since dd was born! I've had other "mom friends" but that was more surface, like wave at the playground. maybe dd should go to zoned school like I'd always planned... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:00 PM Flag
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These friendships are tough to maintain after school separation in the best of circumstances. But with the secrecy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:08 PM Flag
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don't decide dd's education based on a friend. Do what is best for dd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:09 PM Flag
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I understand letting things get "too far" to turn back, but if you really clicked with her, why were you so mumon what could have been a bonding-type experience ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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I think so too... that's just too big of something to keep quiet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:06 PM Flag
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I think you guys can still be friends. The difficult part though is being friends even while your dcs aren't friends anymore. So I don't get it - is your friend's dd going to private school? Or to your zoned gen ed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:12 PM Flag
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i forgot to mention == they didn't get into any "acceptable" privates (I think they got into one school but said no -- can't remember all the details). anyway, her dd is going to our zoned school. I think our dd's will stay friends -- they "love" each other! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:16 PM Flag
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It's harder - but not impossible - if they go to different schools. But if you and the other mom are really simpatico, then she'll be happy for your dd. After all, they're the ones who turned down various schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:25 PM Flag
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good luck! If you were my friend and let me go on and on about G&T only to find out that you applied too, I would be mortified. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:25 PM Flag
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Don't worry, your secret is safe with us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:25 PM Flag
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OP: I could barely sleep last night over this whole mess. Any suggestions on how I can tell her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:03 AM Flag
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Tell her you applied on a lark and that because you were feeling superstitious you didn't tell anyone you applied - and are shocked you got it. Tell her you think it's just a matter of luck and you weren't even sure you would send dc there over zoned school. Let her talk you into taking it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:33 AM Flag
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Np: I think the superstitous part is a good idea. I wouldn't say lark, only because I wouldn't want to make some sort of joke over the process she obviously cared so much about. Fwiw - I didn't tell anyone I was taking the LSAT or applying to law school until I got it because I didn't want to jinx it. Some people are just weird like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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I like this idea, and I was one of the ones last night that thought you were screwed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:26 AM Flag
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just be honest! nothing special. she'll live [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:07 AM Flag
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I think the hardest part will be explaining why you didn't discuss the fact that you were going through the whole process too. I think that's a bit odd. Did you not discuss it at all or just not as much? Did you not discuss that she took the test and that you went through the application process? If the test was administered at school, then she must know that dd took the test, so IF IT RINGS TRUE, tell you applied just to see if you'd get in. Just try to be as honest as possible. Then tell her how much you value your friendship. one of dd's best friends not only does not live in the neighborhood (we're in the West Village, they're in Tribeca), but they haven't been in the same school since 2nd grade (they're finishing 9th). I also consider her mom a good friend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:18 AM Flag
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You're selfish and I wouldn't want to be your friend. The truth is, you didn't tell her because you were afraid DD would not score well. Because you couldn't put yourself out there, you do not truly trust this person or want the friendship. Give it up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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LADIES AND GENTLEMEN... we have a winner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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if i were her, id probably think you were strange and basically unfriendly to never share anything -- it would have nothing to do with the fact that your dd got into a school. if the reality is you didnt feel comfortable discussing your life with her, then you aren't really friends anyway, so you probably wont be in the future [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:25 AM Flag
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OP: actually, we've talked about a LOT of things. I've been going through personal stuff over the last several months that we've talked about; her conversation has always been about schools. I will try some of the above suggestions... thanks! I am really scared to tell her! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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let us know what happened... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 02:30 PM Flag
[ - ] MIL said she was going to stay in hotel, at last minute now she says it all depends on what BIL wants to do?? So they are now all staying at our house?? We are getting home from a vacation and she will be here. We're moving soon and I have an impacted wisdom tooth. By the time she gets here, I will be ovulating and I had wanted a bit of privacay 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:48 PM Flag
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dh needs to have a chat with her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:51 PM Flag
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He agrees that we are getting roped into this whole having houseguests and is sick of it too but doesn't know what to do. His sis is MR and has a fit in a hotel room, she does better at our house. MIL refuses to travel down with out his sis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:52 PM Flag
[ - ] looking for a good place to meet an old friend for lunch tomorrow, somewhere in the area between 14th street/21st street, Union Square and 3rd Avenue. any ideas? (zen palate would have been my idea, but i think they are now closed) 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.16.08, 08:47 PM Flag
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Blue Water Grill [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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does that get very crowded/noisy at lunch? hoping for quiet (and not too expensive) place where we can talk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:51 PM Flag
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mesa grill..right on 16th st and 5th..not far from where you would like to meet up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 03:46 AM Flag
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now closed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.21.14, 02:41 AM Flag
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OTTO on 8th street btwn off of 5th ave [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 03:51 AM Flag
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Posto (same as Vezzo) is over on 2nd: http://www.yelp.com/biz/posto-new-york. My favorite pizza! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.21.14, 02:45 AM Flag
[ - ] MIL visiting us 3 weeks before we are moving. She wants to cook big dinners in my kitchen. Our rental might have to get shown so I told sorry she needs to eat out. Irks me that she doesnt' have enough $ for food or a hotel on a big trip and does it anyway. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:44 PM Flag
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You don't feel bad for her that she hasn't got enough money? If you find it irritating that she doesn't have money, why don't you give her some? Pay for the hotel & food. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:45 PM Flag
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She has gone on one big trip already, going on another in August, she doesn't need to do this one too without barely enough $ for gas here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:49 PM Flag
[ - ] dd is going into eighth grade - we are trying to decide where to send her for hs and we want to be on top of things - i went to private school and was leaning towards that, but dh wants to find something that won't cost us a fortune, certainly we do not expect a free school like this to just exist, but wondering if anyone had suggestions - we aren't fond of the high school in our district - we live in bergen county 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.16.08, 08:44 PM Flag
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What would you like suggestions for? Do you want to move? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:53 PM Flag
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anything really - we are looking for private schools, the best public schools, we are open to anything [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:00 PM Flag
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But in NJ? In Bergen County? Would you move to NYC so dd could go to a NYC public HS? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:11 PM Flag
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We have considered that option; however, moving to NY at this time is just out of the question. We are preparing to do so for our younger children though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:14 PM Flag
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So? Move within NJ? How far? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:14 PM Flag
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well, we like bergen county because the commute is easy for dh and i to our places of work and we have family here - trying to find options in the area for high school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:20 PM Flag
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I know nothing about suburban schools except that the better public ones are in the wealthier communities. So - Franklin Lakes, Allendale, Demarest, Montvale, Glen Rock, Oradell? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:29 PM Flag
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northern highlands [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:09 PM Flag
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one of the best schools or ramsey high (saddle river has the choice to go there or highlands)... THE BEST school in bergen county is the specialized school, The Bergen Academies -- you have to test in... Glen Rock also has excellent schools, as does Tenafly.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:19 AM Flag
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what do you know about the bergen academies? we've been hearing such buzz about it - i am not op, but i have twins going into eighth grade [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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It's not public, but I know that some kids come in from NJ and go to the hill schools (Horace Mann, Riverdale, Fieldston) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:48 PM Flag
[ - ] All these A moms are posting but they are also freaking out because A is the only program out of all the G&Ts and Citywides that is not having registration or a new parent picnic. The creeping feeling is getting worse as the hours tick on with no recognition from A as to the validity of this process. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:31 PM Flag
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This is ridiculous. You think Anderson isn't going to hold registration? You do realize that they have a bare bones office staff AND a school with 500 kids in attendance EVERY day and end of year tests, concerts, graduation, field day, etc. They WANT to register you and welcome your children on a day next week that can accomodate 50 children and their parents. Plus in order to have your dc's visit classrooms for a while they need to organize where the current K will go for that time and staff it. CHILL. There is no conspiracy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:31 AM Flag
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I am a new A mom and I am neither freaking out, having any creeping feelings, nor worried about any recognition from A as to the validity of this process. I think there is only one neurotic mom here but she's quite neurotic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:14 AM Flag
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New A parent too (fun to say!) and I completely agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:24 AM Flag
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Make that 3 of us! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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Great! I'm hoping to have a pretty sane group of parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:32 AM Flag
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Great! Can't wait to see you guys there. Let's where something on our lapels to identify ourselves as non-neurotic A parents . . . or is that too neurotic? ; ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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you sound like a cheerleader on steroids. not the usual anderson neurotic, but I am sure you'll do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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it was a joke [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Ok, I think we are going to have to get those ear tubey things. Going on double ear infections number 10. Any reason why we should not just get the tubes? DD is 19 months. For some reason I just don't feel good about it but I don't know why. I've missed a lot of work. I need my job. TIA 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.16.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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yeah, get them. they're supposedly no big deal and they come out quickly. my dd almost had to get them, she had like 6 ear in fections, and then the next year, none. so, you could wait a little and see how this next cold season goes. but realy, if you trust your ped and he recomends, just do it. much better than more antibiotics [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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and i was in same boat, missing so much work. it was stressful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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did you get the tubes? did they make it all better? thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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no, we narrowly avoided but if she had one more infection they were going to do it. but lik ei said, spring came and the next year, no infections. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:31 PM Flag
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they apparently really do make it all better [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:31 PM Flag
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everyone i've talked to with them say they're great, they work, no reason not too other than it sounds scary and i think they put the kid under to put them in .but otherwise, nothing wrong about them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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thanks...i'm trying to stall to see if they will end but we are already into June and no sign of them ending any time soon [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:31 PM Flag
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is dc in daycare? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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yup...I even tried to get her out of there to see if that would help (i.e. keeping her home for two weeks) no deal, she still got them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:32 PM Flag
[ - ] dd will be 3 in late August, daycare has concerns re: speech .. live in Bergen Co... should I go thru EI or CPSE? What do I do for CPSE? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.16.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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I don't live in Bergen, but in general they age out of EI at age 3. You could go through the process with an agency that provides both so that he can make the transition from one to the other. The whole process takes time anyway, so better to get started and see where they place you. For both you have to have psychological testing (IQ), speech, and perhaps a referral to an ENT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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Thanks! Great idea about the agency [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:32 PM Flag
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