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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] What does G&T stand for? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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Give-or-Take [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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What does that mean? I'm clueless to all this school talk. Thx. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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gifted and talented. a gifted track in nyc schools [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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Oh got it. Thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Pack n' Play with bassinet or mini co-sleeper for db #2? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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i loved my co-sleeper [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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mini or regular? [ Reply | More
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mini cosleeper [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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hijack: someone gave me a bassinet, should I go ahead and use it or buy a co-sleeper? Is it that much better? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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NO. use what you have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:27 AM Flag
[ - ] How can I be more assertive? I feel like I am one of those people who just lets life happen but I want to take charge of more things like career, relationships, etc... any advice? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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hmmm. i'd need to know so much more, but i think stepping back and thinking about what you want, vs. what others want from you is a good start. and trying to be true to that. but htat's simplistic, i'm sure you do that and execution is'nt always easy. maybe start saying NO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:24 PM Flag
[ - ] My DD is nearing the end of EI. Do you typically get a small gift for the therapists to give at the last session? If so, any suggestions appreciated. TIA. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.16.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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I usually give a Visa or Amex gift card ($25 is a good amount) and write a really good note. The $ is less important than the note. A picture of your dc is also a nice thing to give. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:02 PM Flag
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We love ds' therapist so I would - maybe a box of luxury chocolates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 03:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Any mom's with interracial DCs? What's your experience been? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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can't beleive you received no responses...post is over a month old. OP, if you do check this, I am mom to interracial DCs and I beleive that it is all about class, not race. Americans are more comfortable with discussing the latter, but with emerging UMS/UC diversity, this will change in our child's generation...and if Obama gets elected president. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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While I agree that class is a huge factor & often bigger than race - racism is still alive. When my dd was little - people would ask "where I got her from"? Strangers have said racists things to her father when she is present. I do, however, think that people are more comfortable with people no matter the race if they are from a similar class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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that is very true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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I have also been asked where I got dd (I have Zahara Jolie to thank for that), you just have to laugh that off; question was from an ignorant, but not hurtful. You also just chalk up racist remarks to class (as in NO class) when they are made. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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NP: ITA. I had some obnoxious kid (old enough to know better!) confuse me for the nanny, and then act hugely shocked that I was dc's mother (I'm Asian, dc looks Caucasian). Best to keep a sens of humor about these things, and realize that most of it comes from ignorance and rudeness, rather than true racism or desire to hurt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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It is still racism, though not the most virulent kind [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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How would Obama becoming president change a black person's soci/econ status? Are black kids suddenly going to complete HS? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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fool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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Obama becoming president really drives his message, "only in America could my story even be possible" home for many AA/interracial/Afro-immigrants that are growing up in the US. Many get the message that there is a glass ceiling for them, no matter what they do. This would turn that into a misconception thats been misproven. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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DC is interracial. I have nothing to report. There has been nothing about my experiences related to this that is even remotely interesting. Never a comment, or funny look. Either that, or I am totally oblivious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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May depend on which races. Dc are Asian/Caucasian mix, and have not had any negative experiences. Also probably not a big deal in NYC, but might stick out like a sore thumb in a place, like say, Idaho? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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My Asian/white child has. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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What happened? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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Some one mocked her with fake Chinese, A man spewed racial hatred toward her father when he was walking her to school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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People are idiots, unfortunately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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I'm sorry to hear that. My DC (interracial) have not yet experienced anything like that. Can you give more details? Was the mocker an adult? What neighborhood is her school (assuming you are in NYC?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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I am curious to see what people think of AA/C couples on UES/UWS, my DH and I are thinking of moving there. I'm prone to think it will be more of a class issue than anything else. Any other experiences/thoughts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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people sometimes are like "wow he's dark" or something stupid like that I just say yea he take after his father. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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no real experience regarding his race, except when we go down South [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:57 PM Flag
[ - ] any reccomendations for a hotel in boston that can accomodate 2 adults and 2 kids (2 double beds, a suite) in the downtown area? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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Liberty Hotel on Charles Street. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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westin copley [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Yellow brides maid dress (i hate it) so looking for good accessories ideas? thinking just earrings and bigish braclet, emprie waist style. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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aren't you supposed to all match [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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accessories? no not here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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if you hate the dress, i think you're just going to have to suck it up and deal. shoes can temper things. but it can't change a bad dress. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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Yellow is the color of the season. It's amazing how many people don't look good in this color. I hope it's a pale creamy shade. I would stick with neutrals or metallics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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yep, I agree, metallics, esp. bronze [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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would gold jewlery work?? or too shiny? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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Should be fine. Keep it simple though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone currently online cheat on their husbands? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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not me... dh are very close after all these years. I can't imagine cheating on him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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not much imagination then? (and fwiw, i am not cheating on dh. if i ever fuck anothe rman, it'll be with his ok and knowledge) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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OP: What does that mean? You would ask permission or put him on notice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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interesting.... I can't imagine dh ever being ok with me sleeping with another... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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no. i'd be surprised it if ever happens that way. i thi nk that's pipe dream. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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sigh, sometimes I wish dh would agree to let me sleep with another woman. I never did before getting married, because the timing never worked out, and now I regret not trying it at least. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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Don't know what to do. He seems to be uninterested in sex & I'm tired of begging him. I've never had to beg for sex ever! I'm going crazy & I'm not a fan of a vibrator. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:31 PM Flag
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that's a tough one. dh and I have sex about 3-4 times a week. most of the time, he's the initiator. I'm really sorry you're going through this, because as much as I love dh, that would be really hard for me to deal with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:33 PM Flag
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It's extremely hard. He is the first person I have ever been loyal to and (as awful as this sounds) this is what I get?! I upkeep myself for him, and for what? I miss having a guy touch me. What the hell can I do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:37 PM Flag
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Would he be open to therapy? Also, and I hate to ask, are you sure he's not cheating? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:39 PM Flag
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That was my first thought. But I don't think so. I'm 20 years younger than him. Maybe he's lost his mojo? I wouldn't know how to bring up therapy w/o hurting his ego? SOOO jealous of your 3-4 times a week :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:43 PM Flag
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I think that bringing up therapy is less of an ego blow than if you end up cheating. It probably is the way to go, if only for your own peace of mind. It's definitely possible that he's just lost that spark, but it's also possible to get that back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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You are right about therapy vs cheating. Thanks for your advice. I'm not good at talking about these things & neither is he. This will be like pulling teeth! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:56 PM Flag
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Good luck! I know that this is really hard! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:07 PM Flag
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Thank you. Maybe I should just leave this screen open and let him read this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:10 PM Flag
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One last bit of advice before I head off to bed. If it is this hard for you to talk about, maybe you should write it in a letter. If nothing else, it will help you frame your thoughts better for the conversation, and if you find the conversation really is too hard, than you can give him the letter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:13 PM Flag
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I'm going to put this conversation on "watch" for a couple days, let me know if you need more help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:15 PM Flag
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I was actually thinking the same thing --to write a letter. I'm SO bad with confrontation. Thank you so much for the help. Nite. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:19 PM Flag
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Don't know if you're still there... but I finally said something last night! & I got a nice surprise this morning + an apology for being neglected. At one point I said "I need attention from someone & if you don't want me to cheat" which I wish I didn't say, but he replied with "don't threaten me, I'm under a lot of stress... I won't neglect you, it'll be better..." I believe him. I feel better for letting him know how I feel. Let's see how things go! Thx for listening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:42 AM Flag
[ - ] An old friend who cut ties with me e-mailed a couple weeks ago to try to reinitiate contact. I think I've decided I'm not going to e-mail her back. If I want to later in life, I will. If that's not good for her, so be it. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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you go girl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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is that sarcasm? (so hard to know) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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yeah, that's fine. i agree with that approach [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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Do you know why she cut ties with you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:21 AM Flag
[ - ] i cant' stand wendy williams. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Need to renovate my bathroom. Any websites I can look at for inspiration? Tile, vanities...etc. TIA. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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just look at mags. But PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't do it in that taupey beigy tavertine/limestone type tile. Everytime I go into a bathroon like that I feel like I am at a Sheraton Hotel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:02 PM Flag
[ - ] New Anderson Moms: STOP POSTING HERE. It has been less than 48 hours and you are already making the rest of us look bad. PLEASE stop shoveling now. You are burying all of our reputations with your crazy banter. It's hard enough without your adding fuel to this fire with yoru neurosis. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.16.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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All these A moms ar posting but they are also freaking otu because A is the only program out of all the G&Ts and Citywides that is not having registratino or a new parent picnic. The creeping feeling is getting worse as the hours tick on with no recognition from A as to the validity of this process. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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yep. maybe some of you older anderson moms could direct culot's attention to UB, or maybe donna smiley should log on. we are freaking out! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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Well quite frankly you should be. This is not the Anderson admissions process that the parents who founded the school intended. this is bull crap and the school is not going to stand behind it. it's a tenuous year to be at Anderson, should you actually get the chance to register at all! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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oh please. no one gives a flying f&ck about the founding parents. the doe creates schools and anderson has become too full of itself. think they can do whatever they want. every other school, including NEST is abiding by the rules. see what happened to nest when it did not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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No matter, that is the general feeling among current parents and staff (and older students). And the entering class, I fear, will feel this on their backs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:32 AM Flag
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and all of the sudden I don't feel bad about not getting into Anderson anymore. Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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We are not all freaking out. Only you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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this is the first year that being in Anderson is not a clear statement that you are the best and the brightest. For the first tme this year, many of the best and brightest did not get in to Anderson and everyone knows that Anderson watned those students and the DOE kept them apart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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Whenever I meet an older kid and i ask them where they go to school and they say "Anderson", I think "Wow that's a smart kid.' But now it is changing and you really don't knwo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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my, those grapes are sour. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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Silly, I am one of the parents who is starting int he fall! I'm explaining why we are so-called "crazy" today. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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np: So you fear your child will be "tainted" by the less-genius kids? Or is that you are afraid others may suspect your child is not a genius? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:42 AM Flag
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reading comprehension not your strong suit, eh? I'm explaining the air around here, why we are stressed out and how this process created a bad situatino at Anderson for this year's class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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What on earth are you talking about? (NP by the way) Please speak for yourself. Our dc is on her way to Anderson, and we are not stressed, nor do I think my dd is walking into some bad situation. Stop being so dramatic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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I would agree with this for Hunter. Not for A. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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np: This is ridiculous. Every kid at Anderson is smart. Every kid at Hunter is smart. There are thousands of kids at neither that are smart. Giftedness takes many forms, people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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OK. But we are talking about my thought process. I'm sure every kid at Dalton is smart, too. But that is not my first thought when I meet a kid who goes there. Anderson does not have the name recognition that Hunter does. Maybe in the future, but not today. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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not sure what you are talking about. if you are an anderson parent, please tell the school that they need to open up registration and stop playing games with the DOE. we are not neurotic, but would be in a lot of trouble if they tried to take away our spot or some other nonsense. I love everything that anderson has to offer, and my dc will really thrive there. But I think the school needs to be responsive to new families. they need to be inclusive and welcoming, and they need to allow us all to register so that we can relax and get back to our lives. It has been a long year, and now it seems anderson is saying (at least as reported here on UB) that they hadn't really figured out if they could let people register. I am seriously hoping they are not messing with us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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i'm sure that ultimately they will have to register all of you, but I don't think that there will be good feelings between Anderson and it's '08-'09 Kindergarten class. When they got to pick who they wanted there were warm feelings. We felt welcomed. Now I feel like they don't want you because they didn't get to choose you and they know that there are students out there who they didn't get a chance to nab. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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well, if that is true, they will alienate the very people they depend on to keep the school going. I doubt they would want to see less contributions of time and money from future classes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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you are truly nuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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Perhaps the plan is to have a K orientation and handle registration all in one day. That would save families from having to make 2 trips to the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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Trust me, they are not doing this for your convenience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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agree. they are dickin' you around ladies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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Cute. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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I could see offering that, but not only offering that. some of us would like to register now, and would find it more convenient to do so now with this issue that they may be stalling because of a sib problem, I don't think I want to wait at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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It may be easier for you, but they are still running a school with all the end-of- year events, graduation, tests, field day and celebrations and they only have 6 people who work in the office to coordinate it all. There are 500 kids currently in the school and the building is shared and very tight on space. They're just trying to organize things on a day that can accomodate everyone. Please take a deep breath and relax. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:34 AM Flag
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Are you worried that they'll take a seat away from you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:49 AM Flag
[ - ] it is now clear that we will hae to apply for private K in the fall. We will take the crappy G&T offered our DD and then apply private and repeat the K year (Fall birthday). So now I need to figure out where to apply. looking for TT or close, girls or co ed, in Manhattan, K-12, no church schools or even trinity or anythign at all christian. SB 99, OLSAT 99, ERB 99,98,98. 55 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.16.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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which g&t are you taking? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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what does that have to do with the question? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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are you the op? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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yes, why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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gosh, you are so arrogant! "crappy g&T", 99 scores, nothing at all christian... no wonder no good school accepted your kid despite all the star scores. please don't take a crappy g&t, we don't want you there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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OK so you don't really understand and maybe are new to this so OK I'll explain it: The public school application process is blind, so it really doesn't matter what I'm like or what you think I'm like or if you don't like my being Jewish or if they don't like Jews either. It's only about the scores. That is all they know, the scores. My family's preference not to attend a Christian school as non-Christians is a deeply personal and important choice and it should not inspire your grievance, nor does it require your approval. My child scored very high, the system is flawed, we were given poor placement, I am seeking advice regarding our private school options, I am not a Christian. That is all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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np: I agree in theory with what you say, however I agree with or. You do sound arrogant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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I really don't care. Do you have any schools to suggest? Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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No, but I hope you don't end up at my kids school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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i probably did. Are you at a crappy G&T? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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depends what is "crappy". I would certainly consider it so if you were there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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you sound jealous or threatened. I'm sorry to have included my child's scores int he original post. I thought it would be helpful in reccomending schools for us to apply to for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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so we stay away from you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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are you arab? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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are you fat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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Why would you have dc repeat kindergarten at a private? (I am sure there is a reason and I'm not criticizing, I am curious.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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Because of her Fall birthday, it is the only way to switch out of the public Kindergarten into private the following year. In other words, one year she is old enough for public Kindergarten, the next year she is old enough for private kindergarten. The privates will not push her up to 1st grade just because she did kindergarten at a public school the year before. They will note her birthday and say "She is a Kinergartener". Besides, there are few private spots open for 1st grade, so if we switched into private we might only find K spots available. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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it is spelled kindergartner [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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OP: Yes that is correct. What is your point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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the whole tone of your post, and your replies are so hostile and arrogant. nobody is anti-jewish, but you sound very anti-christian. And arrogant, and or course, entitled. again, you won't make privates, you won't pass, you kid might have, but not you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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No you are definitely wrong about that. We will get in to at least one TT if not more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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LOL. Right. My kid did (with 99s), but I wasn't arrogant enough to think it was a given. The schools keep their eye out for people like you to ding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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Actually...two different dictionaries show either as correct. I'd never SAY "kindergartner", as my child wouldn't attend "kindergartn" or "kindergart". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:51 AM Flag
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because she'd never find a 1st grade opening - so she's putting dd behind a year to get her into a private [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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OP: Not PUTTING her behind a year. Her birthday puts her there on its own. it's where she falls according to the cut-offs. She's a fall kid. She is currently 4 and a half. She could go to public K this fall or private K the following fall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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TAG? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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OP: TAG is a public school. We were accepted to a G&T for public school, and if we want to get out we will need to find a private for the following year. My child did not get in to TAG, my child got in to a district, non citywide G&T. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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D2, or D3? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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PS11? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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god forbid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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please don't come to PS11, we wouldn't want your type there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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OP: That wasn't me who typed "God Forbid" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:20 AM Flag
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166? Are you the one who was "so disappointed?" or concerned that siblings were going to dumb the whole class down? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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This is clearly "depressed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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Why bother? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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What about Spence, Nightingale-Bamford, Chapin, Brearley? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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OP: All girls' schools, right? Will look into those. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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For previous posts search "crappy G&T", fall [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:41 PM Flag
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she is nuts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 08:50 PM Flag
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OP: Never posted before. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:21 AM Flag
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NP: You really do sound hostile in all your posts. Wouldn't sending your very smart DD to K and then having her repeat K the following year negatively affect her? I would hope you can put your own ego aside and look at this from her point of view. I assume she's in a preschool now -- that would mean 3 schools (and friends, commutes, routines, etc.) in 3 years and that seems like a lot. Also, your clear disdain for the K she got into will be obvious to her -- is that what you want for her first school experience? I urge you to calm down and breathe deeply and think about what's best for your DD. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:12 AM Flag
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OP: She's not in preschool now so not sending her to K would mean she would be home the whole year and she's ready for school. I'm planning on going to work in the mornings. I just never thought with her score that we woulnd't get a better offer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:33 AM Flag
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why did you apply for a program you don't want? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:41 AM Flag
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it was our 3rd choice. It's not like you are given a ton of options you know! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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Go away "depressed" about 166 mom. You're taking another kid's spot. Your sense of entitlement is galling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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Don't know if you are still reading, but I'd also call the Parents League and ask about nursery schools with pre-k or 5's classes and then call them (b/c you never know, there may be openings -- it's a funny age group and the class size is different and they may have a spot, even though it's late). That way, you'd have support during the K application process. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:24 AM Flag
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You really think so? I'll definitely call. Thank you. I assumed it was too late. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:32 AM Flag
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Agree. I am not sure how attractive an application for a child who has never been to preschool would look to the TT schools in this very competitive environment. It would probably raise some question marks about the family. I would try to get into a private preschool rather than a public K to get some support from a PSD. Also: don't walk in with the attitude of my child is a triple 99 super star. That will be a turn-off to most schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:12 AM Flag
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Kid didn't GET triple 99. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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you can apply anywhere with those scores. get the goldman book. I would apply to Dalton, all of the girl schools and the hill schools. The best advice I could give you is to apply to a broad range, don't get hung up on the tiers. Competition is too stiff even with good scores and playdate. Also, get a consultant since you will not have a PSD pushing for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:54 AM Flag
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np: This is excellent advice. Also, you need to tone down the attitude during the private application process. The admissions people can smell entitlement (i.e., my dc has great scores so of course she'll get a "tt" school) a mile a way and it will hurt your chances. There are lots of kids with really high scores. They usually do get a good placement, but it is not as if they have a pick of schools. Consider yourself lucky if you get anything--it is not as if the private process is any better than the public. I've been through both processes with a 99 kid, so I know. And I know at least one 99 who was shut out of privates this year, and part of the reason is the parents just assumed they wouldn't have a problem with those scores. I agree with all the recommendations of schools above. I would also add ECFS to the list. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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^^I agree with the recommendation of schools above. I would also add Ethical and Columbia Grammar to the list. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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There is at least 1 dd in our tt K this year who came from elsewhere and was repeating K. People to this and get in to tt schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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Horrific [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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Ansley [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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op: for a boy, btw [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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That's just as bad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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nice. like it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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