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TTC 06.18.08, 12:42 PM Flag
[ - ] UB please only let people post to one board. It really works best that way. that's the way old UB was. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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i know - i cant find the box - where is it - i swear i looked all over the page and i am a techie - so just cant find it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:59 PM Flag
[ - ] When is my 2.5 year old going to start eating more? Not quantity, variety. It's maddening! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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when I first read this I thought it said "earning" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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op: that too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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Gradually over the next several years, IF you don't make it an issue or a battle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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I don't make a big deal out of it, I offer her what we're eating and then do small supplementing when she doesn't eat anything I've originally offered. Do you that's an okay strategy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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More or less. I think it would be even better to serve meals that include variety (like, say, what you're eating plus bread plus fruit) and if she doesn't want any of that, don't offer other things. She is less likely to try new things if you give her something else if she doesn't like what's being served. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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thanks. I just worry that then she'll only eat bread or fruit period. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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She might, for a while, but if she sees you and dh eating and enjoying the other things, she will want to also, because she has a natural drive to grow up and be like you too, and also she will be hungry! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know when the new iphone is coming out? What cell service doe sit run on? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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don't kow when, but they are exclusive with AT&T [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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JULY 11th [ Reply | More
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and i can't wait -- i think you can get verizon or cingular -- i forget which one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:59 PM Flag
[ - ] any Brooklynites on? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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question - if my husband were to get a job in Brooklyn Heights where is the best neighborhood to move into that's clean and kid-friendly and near by [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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You mean aside from Brooklyn Heights? Cobble Hill, Carroll Gardens. Depending on where in Brooklyn Heights, you could be close to the Clark Street stop and have an easy commute from the North Slope or Prospect Heights. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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is BK Heights a nice area as well? If you had to choose from all of the ones you've listed which one would you go with. Thx so very much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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we live in the North Slope and love it for the kid friendly nature of it all, but if not here then probably Brooklyn Heights. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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^^^and if you feel like being close to a park (not just a playground) is necessary, then definitely Park Slope. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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what job is in B Heights? no business there... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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ita. its a SAHD. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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np: brooklyn heights [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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any particular streets i should look at - we are from Connecticut... that's why i am asking [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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stay there. [ Reply | More
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booooo! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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all of Brooklyn heights is nice, but $$$. come look. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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Depending on budget I would opt for Cobble Hill, Carrol Gardens, Windsor Terrace (this is descending order.) I would throw Park Slope in there if budget is enough and park trumps scene for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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Brooklyn Heights, Cobble Hill, Carroll Gardens and Park Slope are all nice neighborhood. People living in each might think their neigbhorhood is better but truthfully they have a lot of similarities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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Just do not live in Windsor Terrace (if you can afford not to). People that have moved there might try to say that it is up and coming. The architecture is ugly, the schools are not great and the general amenities are just not there. It is not a bad place but rather a working class neighbor that has not been gentrified like the other mentioned above. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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yep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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please see above. [ Reply | More
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yup [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:02 PM Flag
[ - ] NEST or 261? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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^^^ should add with big brother this year and little sister next year [ Reply | More
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Please, please, please can I have your spot at 261: gingerbrownie@gmail.com Thx! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Baby nurse or no? We're 1st time parents, don't know anything and were thinking of hiring someone to help teach us for the first week. On the other hand, don't love the idea of having a stranger in the apt + a new baby and all. Recommendations? 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.18.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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We didn't use one but my mother was with us for the first week - she would spend the days with the baby and me but would sleep at my sister's apt because we were still in a studio - so it worked out well. If she had not come, I probably would have gotten a doula, but not a baby nurse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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My mom is pretty nearby, but i'm not sure how helpful she can be. She's only done this once, her parenting skills are 32 years old, and she didn't breastfeed. Plus she apparently had a super easy labor with little recuperation needed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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I hear ya, but she will still lend you the confidence you might need - it's just nice having someone else around if dh is not available. Those moms, they really know more than we give them credit for... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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If you have a friend or family member that has kids that you like they could tell you what you need to know. My MIL showed me the easiest way to dress the baby etc. Also read a book like the Babywhisperer to give you some idea what to expect. There really isn't much you need to know about newborns except that they eat and sleep a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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I liked the babywhisperers books and some of her sugestions but she was sort of a condescending bitch about first time parents who didn't know anything about babies, imo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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because the thing is, that there is absolutely nothing scary about a baby. You cannot do anything wrong! There is no wrong way to dress a baby, or a wrong way to change a diaper, etc., etc. You let your guts lead you and you learn from mistakes and experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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How many days would we potentially need. Maybe a week is too much? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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I was you! DH and I decided to try out the baby nurse thing and it worked well. We had her for about 10 days, adn DH went right back to work to "get things together." Then, he took off for two weeks (with a trip into the office here and there). Our moms both work and are nto in NYC, so it was nice to have someone organize clothes, the diaper bag, etc. We even had one night out while the nurse was here! I bf, btu it was nice while recovering to let the baby nurse burp and change dd so I could go right back to sleep. I used The Fox Agency. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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^^^DH took vacation after the baby nurse left. BTW, I had her show him how to do the bath (not me) so he became "in charge" of that part of dd's care every evening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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OP - DH has his own business, so he will take off for as long as he needs, but he's as clueless as I am! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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A baby in his first 2 months or so is not going to do more than eat, sleep, and make diapers. You can hardly do anything wrong here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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this is really right - as long as you don't shake baby or drop it; the baby will be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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ah, I forgot about that! That definitely requires a baby nurse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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One idea is to hire a "doula" who can come to the house for a few hours a day the first week and teach you all this, rather than stay with you round the clock. There are doula agencies you can call. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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That might be an idea. I spoke to someone at Frances Stewart for the baby nurses, and they seemed fine, but I haven't used a doula. Any good recs for agencies? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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I would never had said yes before but I told would hire now after having had my first -- I had a c-section and had trouble breastfeeding and I would have loved to have someone else around to help. In the end, we were totally fine without help, but I was so tired and clueless that I think a little assistance would have been great. We had friends who had them who only raved, but by the time we came to the realization that we wanted one, the time had passed that we really needed it,. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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I had one for two weeks. She was fantastic and I would do it again. At 12 midnight, I said goodnight and closed my bedroom door--she took my son to her room. At 6am I got a knock on the door for breastfeeding. She was non obtrusive and was fantastic--we learned how to take care of our baby correctly and got some sleep! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 09:42 PM Flag
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I didnt like the idea of having someone stay with us either...we have a 2 bdrm. however...it was the best thing we did to have a baby nurse for 1 week!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 09:58 PM Flag
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Can you email me with recommendations for baby nurse superkenator at gmail dot com. Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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Didn't w/ #1 & wouldn't have. He was a preemie and I was already home full-time so up w/ him. But my big sis (a NICU nurse) did come up 1 weekend a month to help out & my parents were very helpful too. Did get a baby nurse w/ #2--Dh had just gotten promoted, DS took the promotion to big brother hard, I was useless w/o sleep. Very, very helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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We found the nurse annoying, but I would also just say that you can call an agency and decide at the last minute. Those little guys are scary and if you have an annoying MIL (I don't) the nurse can run interference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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Right? I hated it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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eh. This would be a definite negative. You do not need to hire somebody to take care of a baby. Just bring the baby home and learn from her. What does a baby in the first few weeks do? Sleep, eat, and poop. Those are easiest days in your new life. If you are worried about not getting sleep anymore, well, yeah, that's not going to change for a long time so the few days in the beginning is not going to matter much. Oh, this all applies only if you have a useful DH (or partner) and will pull 150%. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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I totally disagree. For many people they need help learning how to take care of a baby, which is the most important help a bn provides. Also, for people recovering from a c/s or difficult labor, they may not be able to completely take care of the baby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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If you have a helpful DH at hand even a c-section will not prevent you from taking good care of your new baby w/o hired help. What is there to learn about how to take care of a baby? How to dress him? How to feed him? What exactly is so complicated or difficult about taking care of a few days old baby? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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there's helpful and then there is wanting to help but clueless, which i'm sure covers 80% of most first-time dads out there. There are MANY things to learn about taking care of a newborn - have you had a baby? - and lots of things that are nothing but can really make first-time parents freak out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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I had three and it never crossed my mind that I needed help. I didn't even had parent or inlaws over. It was just me and DH living in a tiny 400sqft 1BR apartment at that time. We dealt just fine. Don't let your fears and anxiousness overcome you. It takes a lot of effort to screw up a newborn so that shouldn't be any worries. I am very sure that many more than 20% of first time dads are as helpful as a baby nurse can be. Maybe yours wasn't up to it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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I'm not speaking from my own experience, which was very different. But many of the men i've talked to about parenting were clueless and terrified about their first newborns. Stop being so sanctimonious. Good for you for needing no help, but many people do, and there is nothing wrong with that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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The majority of families do not need help. It's just a few who can afford it and think they can buy an easy way out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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no, the majority of people get help from others- whether it is family (i.e. mothers) or people they pay - it isn't about buying your way out of anything, it is about learning how to care for a new baby which isn't something everyone is able to do immediately. Get over yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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you keep thinking that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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We didn't and I didn't regret that. Didn't really see what a baby nurse could add as I was breastfeeding and I think it helped us to quickly gain confidence taht we could do it alone. Mom and MIL eventually came, but were useless and added more stress. That said, newborns are exhausting. I would maybe go it alone for a few nights and then hire a nurse for two weeks just to make sure you get some sleep. (I'm expecting baby #2 next month and am thrilled that baby #1's nanny will be around full time during the day to help.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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I think that baby nurses often want you to do things HER way and that was not something I wanted. OTOH, if your DH is not super hands on or can't take time off and you don't have any friends or family around to help, it's good to have a little support/company/help in the first 1-2 weeks. Personally, I would look for a post-partum doula to come in for say 2-4 hours and help me than for a 24/7 baby nurse. If you are BF, then the nighttime help is less "helpful" than if you are FF - in which case you can pass off the baby to the nurse and get a good night's rest! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 11:03 AM Flag
[ - ] need help in navigating the new ub pls. After logging in I click on "Talk" above and I notice that all the posts are not in chrono order (like old UB). it seems to be "most active" but I don't know how to change this..... tia! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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select sort by recency in settings then click save as default and update filters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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ok. thanks. Also, when I do a search, the results that come up are all "collapsed" (ie, I have to click on the plus sign to fully read the post to even determine that it is relevant to my search term.) Any way to fix this too? thx. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Back to work now for a month after #2 and still feel like I'm trying to understand everything from 10 feet under water. I just took on new responsibilities at work and I can't concentrate on anything, can't stay awake, can't be creative. I certainly can't keep up with the housework and don't have a lot of energy for my older DC, who just started a new preschool and is clingy. Will it ever settle down? I feel like I'm going to go nuts, and DH is tired of me being grumpy all the time. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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wow, too bad for DH. Is it his idea for you to work or his? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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My job is the one with the health insurance and higher salary, so no choice at the moment with two in daycare. I'm fine with working in theory, it's just that in practice it's damn hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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oh i feel for you - i was like this almost 3 yrs ago. it gets better - really does. but the first 2 yrs after #2 it was tough. hang in there and dont be shy to ask people for help and hire help with cleaning - will make you feel more sane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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It's mostly 50-50, but he's busy too and works a lot of nights/weekends. I'd complain about him not doing enough, but it seems like there's too much for both of us to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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np: same boat only dh working 80+hrs/wk - not so helpful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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It will settle you have lots going on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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took me a long time to get used to being back at work. do you have a nanny or daycare? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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Both are just now in daycare, but we've had a month of scattered babysitting and I've been trying to work from home with my husband and I splitting it up. The baby is right now in the living room with my husband while I try to work (obviously, it's not going well). And we pick up the other one in an hour. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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my advice would be to fish or cut bait. doing things halfway only makes things much harder for yourself. next thing i'd do would be to simplify as much as possible. think of the five easiest meals you can make that everyone would eat. post a menu on the fridge. then i'd make sure to lay everyone's clothing out for the week. including underwear, socks, etc. simplify and organize as much as you can. i had a really hard adjustment and if i had to go back, these are the things i'd do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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how old is #2 now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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Just turned two [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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Sorry, Older one just turned two. Younger one is four months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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I remember that feeling after #1 - why I am scared to have #2! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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click on the little blue arrow next to the Google icon (if that is your default) and select a different one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:33 PM Flag
[ - ] what would an 8 yo girl want for bday. $30. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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if shes anything like my dd and her friends, any of the "Little Miss" stuff, t-shirts and the like [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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you mean the mismatched stuff? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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Don't know what you mean. I am talking about the Little Miss Sunshine clothing....the brand that makes them is Junk Food....my dd and her friends love all that stuff [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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