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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] Is it normal for your due date to change? Two weeks ago I measured at 7 weeks and now I'm at 10 weeks. Has this happened to anyone else? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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mine has varied by 3-4 days each pregnancy - my OB averages the date by lmp and date by ultrasound [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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Mine kept changing and my bump always measured small. I've had 2 healthy dcs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Could I get in trouble for using my company card for personal items? The card is in my name and I pay it on time and often early every month, and then the company reimburses me. I used it for gas today and I'm a bit nervous. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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you are fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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You could always give your work the receipt and get them to deduct it from your reimbursement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know how the subway is running this afternoon, specifically the 1/2/3 line? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.18.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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Why, did something happen earlier? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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I'm the poster below whose nanny claims she was late b/c of the trains [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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Well, the 1 is a disaster and the threat of rain can flood it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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the mere threat of rain can flood it? wow that is a disaster [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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hee hee [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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But we told you, it doesn't matter how the subway is running--you're letter her distract you with her excuses. The point is her job is to be on time, it's a very basic part of her job, and she can do it or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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doesn't look like it. www.mta.nyc.ny.us [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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OP, you really, really need to just fire this nanny and get someone else. Your nanny has clearly "checked out" b/c the job has gone from f/t to p/t. You need to hire someone who actually wants a p/t job. there are tons of college girls looking for p/t work. Look on sittercity.com. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:55 PM Flag
[ - ] We're taking our citywide spot but may give it up by the time school starts and just stick with zone school. 40 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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which citywide? A or N? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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A [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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You can't make that decision now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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so in other words you are going to hold onto two spots "just in case?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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you do know that general topics is a national board, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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Chill. UB was and continues to be a NY phenom. The General Board was added bc some many people lived in boring cities with few UB postings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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if there's a WHOLE subset for NYC schools, why don't you just send this to those who care! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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What is your zoned school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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I am seething right now. If I were to ever find out that my kid was #51 in the Anderson 99 lottery and then I met you, knowing that you applied for a seat you might not use....man I think I'd break my own personal rules of decorum and punch you in your entitled, inconsiderate face. Do you have any idea how badly some of us wanted this remarkable school for our kids? Yes, we are very lucky to have a G&T placement, but I prayed and hoped for Anderson and while I'm fine with the fact that we didn't get it, knowing that you are out there taking a seat and not even using it just makes me want to smack you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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OP: Whoa. You have some serious issues, lady. If we give up the seat August 31, another child will get the seat. I'm dealing with figuring out the commute issues (NOT going to put my 5 yo on a school bus for 45 min. x2 a day!!!) and what's best for our family. So I would punch you back in your entitled, bitter face. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 04:29 AM Flag
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Not true, there are no waitlists. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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i am with you..that chick is way out of line [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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Are you in another borough? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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No, you are wrong. There are no waitlists. You stole the spot from another kid. You should have figured out the commute before teh deadline for preferences was due. You had plenty of time to figure this out. Your situation is not special. We all have 5 year olds. Suck it up a-hole. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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who is the entitled one here? wow [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 04:37 AM Flag
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OP: no one is "entitled" to a spot at Anderson. No one. We got lucky. And since we have the spot we can do whatever we want with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 04:57 AM Flag
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i was commenting on the bitterness of seething poster-it may not have been her dc's spot ever, so I don't get the anger (except that she is nuts) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:01 AM Flag
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though I would ad that if you are going to give it up, do it sooner rater than later so if spot goes to another family, they aren't scrambling at the last minute to deal with after school, drop off/pick up/etc. good karma to do it sooner rather than later [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:02 AM Flag
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yes - and we're working on doing it as soon as possible. his spot at zoned school would be open for an out-of-zone family too so I feel the pressure on both sides! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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It would? What school? According to the DOE, apart from the single round of lotteries, there won't be any out-of-zone admissions to any schools except the charter/unzoned ones. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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OP is incorrect. If you do not take your slot at A, no-one else will get it. I spoke to Rosen at the DOE and she said that all programs overaccepted, expecting some attrition. So if you don't show up, no other child can take the place. I'm with seething Mom. Don't be so cavalier about slots that other parents would give an arm and a leg for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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np. If the DOE overaccepted then it's for the best if some people give up their spots. Otherwise the classes will be oversubscribed. And if there are openings after that, they'll be filled by dc who move here and test in over the summer, or by dc who test in for 1st grade. You need to calm down and not get so bent out of shape about other people's choices. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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I agree with you. The OP is obnoxious for being so cavalier when so many wonderful kids don't have the option she is ready to give up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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Actually, A families should be happy there are people like OP. Otherwise, there would be 28-30 kids in the class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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But the DOE is expecting that some families decline a seat. Otherwise we would end up with more children in a classroom than it was planned. So, nobosy is missing out but the OP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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Had the OP made this decision before May 14, some other family would have that seat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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yes, maybe THAT seat but another one would have gone away. You understand that this discussion doesn't make much sense, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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So? And if every other family who will decline a spot for whatever reason had also made their decision and withdrawn before May 14, you'd end up with an over-enrolled K class. Don't you get it? The DOE deliberately over-accepted. Some families MUST decline their spot for the numbers to work out. Get over it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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^^ That was in reponse to the "Had the OP made this decision..." post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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yes, because statistically seen some families will decline a seat. That's why the DOE over-accepted. This is a better approach than doing wait lists. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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np. ITTTA. OR and her type - I've seen a bunch here on UB - are the ones whose sense of entitlement is out of control. Sickening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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You are clueless. The seats that people are going to give up did not exist in the first place in order to compensate for people like OP. I hope your kid is smarter than you are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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Would I rather my child be the 26th in a designated class of 25 at Anderson than have to do an hour commute each way to NEST? Yes, I would. How does that make me clueless? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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That's not the point. You are claiming that OP's seat could have been yours. The thing is the DOE put into consideration that people will decline a spot. So the spot that OP got does not exist. Btw, this process is not about you as individual. You can argue as much as you want but when you look at the big picture it all worked out just fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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The big picture is that all NYC parents want to get the best education for their kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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Of course. But it has to come with compromises because there are more than 1 million children in NYC's school system. If you need your own individual wishes/wants/needs fulfilled without compromises NYC is not the place for you to be (or go private). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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Not really true at all. Most parents could not care less, sad to say. Which is why we are where we are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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ITA agree w/ you. I'll smack her too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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Unless your zoned school has a spot for you, you may have to stick with your initial choice. K is not mandated, so there could be a limit of 25 per class. Didn't someone post yesterday that there is a central database that keeps track of each student's school designation? That eliminates the possibility of sitting on 2 spots at once. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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true, but very few kindergartens are turning away students. the vast majority of schools will take a kid that shows up the first day of school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:25 AM Flag
[ - ] Help! Nearly 3 yo will not go to bed. For most of her life she's gone to bed at 6.30. She's been in a bed for 1.5 years already. She still needs her nap but maybe I should cut it to one hour. I can't take these 8.30 bedtimes! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.18.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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Does no one have any advice for me? How do I get a 3yo's bedtime back on track??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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Sorry, 8:30 sounds reasonable to me. How does your dh ever see her otherwise? (I assume you are not working or you wouldn't have instituted such an early bedtime.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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My husband works very long hours. He sees the childen in the morning and sometimes, in the evening. I don't keep kids up to see daddy. The kid needs sleep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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ha, mine goes for a nap at 6.30 (on a bad day though), and bed time is 10.30 on a good day. but we are late risers :-) (9am) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:55 PM Flag
[ - ] We’re returning to Europe. Would you like to employ our wonderful nanny? We’re leaving NYC and returning to Europe, and it is breaking our hearts to leave behind our brilliant nanny, Felicia. We’re looking for a nice family for her. -Has looked after our daughter for the last two years (since she was four months old) – Felicia is very caring, kind, patient, loving and extremely attentive to our child’s health, safety and development. -Very committed to our daughter’s development and education. On her own initiative, she found local story-time and music classes and brought them to our attention. Our daughter knew all of her letters by 22 months, and is ahead of her peers in language and general problem-solving; but most importantly she is an extremely happy, content child. -Non-smoker and non-drinker. Comes from a very stable and nice extended family (we’ve met them and been a family wedding!) Very good values. -Strong network of other nannies and children in our area (UWS). Our daughter has many friends, and has developed good social skills, thanks to Felicia. -Keeps our apartment in immaculate condition and is very flexible when emergencies arise. -Extremely reliable; she has never unexpectedly missed a day of work. -Preference is to work in the Upper West Side. -Excellent references (including ourselves) I can’t emphasize how great Felicia is. When they see her, our visitors and relatives rave about how great she is with our daughter. Other parents have even stopped us in our building’s lobby and also in the street to tell us what a wonderful nanny we have. If you’re interested, please hit reply (or email me at killyclug@gmail.com) and we can set up some time to talk. She is looking to start a new position in early August. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.18.08, 12:23 PM Flag
[ - ] poll: would you buy a house that you didn't really love and was smaller than you wanted and hope that you could trade up later on? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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i'd buy one that was too small, but not one that i didn't love. just wait and find one you love [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Just need to vent. I WOHM 4 days and do daycare pick up and drop off, sick days with DD unless my Mom can come in and then I go in late. DH is totally the breadwinner by a lot, but I have a big project and so he had to take off work for some people to come to the house to fix something. They didn't show and he's in the worst mood about it, and I was snarky with him. Overall he's helpful, does stuff, amazing with DS but hello - see it's really hard having to be in two places at once! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.18.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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so what's the problem? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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Just annoyed that he's making a big deal (doing a house-related errand when he needs to get work done) when 99% of the time he can work late or go in early. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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just make sure to say something neutral like "yes, workers often don't come on time" instead of apologizing or making it out like he did you a favor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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Ignore. It's good for him to know the feeling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:31 PM Flag
[ - ] We’re leaving NYC and returning to Europe, and it is breaking our hearts to leave behind our brilliant nanny, Felicia. We’re looking for a nice family for her. -Has looked after our daughter for the last two years (since she was four months old) – Felicia is very caring, kind, patient, loving and extremely attentive to our child’s health, safety and development. -Very committed to our daughter’s development and education. On her own initiative, she found local story-time and music classes and brought them to our attention. Our daughter knew all of her letters by 22 months, and is ahead of her peers in language and general problem-solving; but most importantly she is an extremely happy, content child. -Non-smoker and non-drinker. Comes from a very stable and nice extended family (we’ve met them and been a family wedding!) Very good values. -Strong network of other nannies and children in our area (UWS). Our daughter has many friends, and has developed good social skills, thanks to Felicia. -Keeps our apartment in immaculate condition and is very flexible when emergencies arise. -Extremely reliable; she has never unexpectedly missed a day of work. -Preference is to work in the Upper West Side. -Excellent references (including ourselves) I can’t emphasize how great Felicia is. When they see her, our visitors and relatives rave about how great she is with our daughter. Other parents have even stopped us in our building’s lobby and also in the street to tell us what a wonderful nanny we have. If you’re interested, please hit reply (or email me at killyclug@gmail.com) and we can set up some time to talk. She is looking to start a new position in early August. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:20 PM Flag
[ - ] We’re returning to Europe. Would you like to employ our wonderful nanny? We’re leaving NYC and returning to Europe, and it is breaking our hearts to leave behind our brilliant nanny, Felicia. We’re looking for a nice family for her. • Has looked after our daughter for the last two years (since she was four months old) – Felicia is very caring, kind, patient, loving and extremely attentive to our child’s health, safety and development. • Very committed to our daughter’s development and education. On her own initiative, she found local story-time and music classes and brought them to our attention. Our daughter knew all of her letters by 22 months, and is ahead of her peers in language and general problem-solving; but most importantly she is an extremely happy, content child. • Non-smoker and non-drinker. Comes from a very stable and nice extended family (we’ve met them and been a family wedding!) Very good values. • Strong network of other nannies and children in our area (UWS). Our daughter has many friends, and has developed good social skills, thanks to Felicia. • Keeps our apartment in immaculate condition and is very flexible when emergencies arise. • Extremely reliable; she has never unexpectedly missed a day of work. • Preference is to work in the Upper West Side. • Excellent references (including ourselves) I can’t emphasize how great Felicia is. When they see her, our visitors and relatives rave about how great she is with our daughter. Other parents have even stopped us in our building’s lobby and also in the street to tell us what a wonderful nanny we have. If you’re interested, please hit reply (or email me at killyclug@gmail.com) and we can set up some time to talk. She is looking to start a new position in early August. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.18.08, 12:19 PM Flag
[ - ] how much would it cost to lease a new minivan with no money down? excellent credit. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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depends what kind. i'm guessing in the area of 300/month. but that's a total guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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$500 just did it 3mnths ago [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:20 PM Flag
[ - ] My ds's nanny picked him up late twice last week and she just called to say she was just getting out of the subway (10 minutes after pick up time) and said the trains were "so messed up". She'll end up being 15 minutes late. She always blames the subway. What should I do/say to her tonight? I already talked to her last week about the importance of picking up ds on time. 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.18.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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well, first find out if there really was a mess on the subways today [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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tell her to leave earlier. trains messed up is not an excuse, honestly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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I've told her that before and she claims she already leave early and if only the trains were on time, she would be early. But somehow the trains are never on time and she's never early. I can't have a rational conversation with her about this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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yeah that's no good. she should aim to get there 1/2 hour early then. seriously, in nyc i dont' consider late trains an excuse. it's part of the calculation for being on time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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seriously... I think she gives herself just enought time to get somewhere so that she ends up being late if there's the slightest glitch in her commute. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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I would ask her to be there 15 minutes before pick up. This is just unacceptable [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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right, but then she would expect to get paid for it. And then she would end up being right on time (not early) and I'd pay her for the extra 15 minutes. Why should I pay her extra just to be on time??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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pay her. that's the issue. pay her for the 15 minutes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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i'd rather find someone new rather than pay her extra for something she should be doing anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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just tell her that you need her to be there on time. don't get involved with what time she has to leave her house. tell her politely and calmly that you spokke to the teacher (or wherever he's being picked up from) and he has to be picked up at x o'clock and if nanny can't be there on time you'll make arrangements with someone who can be on time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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NP--I completely agree. It isn't fair to ds to be picked up late, especially repeatedly. It's her job to be there on time, it's a basic part of her job, and if she can't do it, you need to find someone who can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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yes. and don't specify that she needs to be there 15 minutes early or she needs to leave 15 minutes earlier. your issue is that she has to be there on time and that's it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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where is she leaving from? is she watching another of your dcs as well? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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she's coming from Brooklyn. She used to watch my ds FT until this summer and was late for me in the morning as well, but it didn't matter as much as now when ds absolutely needs to be picked up on time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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will she be going back to FT again? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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no, she's done with FT with me. She's looking for another FT position, but it may take her a while since she's doing it thru word of mouth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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i posted above. i'd say simply that he has to be picked up on time and if she can't do it you'll make other arrangements. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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right, I'll do that. I don't care when she leaves home as long as she's on time. Not sure about telling her I would make other arrangements. I'd just as soon let her go without notice (I already gave her 3 wks pay as "severance" when she went from FT to PT). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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OK, that detail makes it even clearer that this nanny is playing you and you are kind of falling for it. The money is one thing, but the lateness is directly affecting ds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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not sure what you mean about me falling for it. I'm totally aware of what she's up to -- I just have been weighing pros and cons, and I need someone who's willing to work the hours I need (not so easy) and my ds knows her and she's familiar with his routine. That's why I've been reluctant to change, but her continuing lateness is getting me to start looking early for a replacement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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You need to warn her that if it happens again you will have to find someone new. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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Tell her that you willb ei touc with ds' school and she will be docked form now on.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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yeah, at some point, the camp will start putting him in the extended care class when she's late and I'll get charged for it. I'll dock her if that happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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People who are doing their job properly do not make excuses. We all live in NYC and know what the subways are like; that's part of the deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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I know, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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I remember you from last week. I'd be very annoyed that this is still happening and tell her she needs to leave an hour earlier or whatever, even if it means hanging out in the hood of the school and having a cup of coffee or something. In fact, I'd suggest it. But the fact that this is becoming a pattern is a serious issue and you have every right to be a little more foreceful when you talk to her. (Not mean, but you know what I mean.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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yeah, it's me again. I thought things were better but then this happens again. She just doesn't get the concept that she needs to give herself more time if she needs to be somewhere by a certain time. If I have an important morning meeting, I make a point of giving myself more than enough time to get there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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Actually, now that I've read the above posters, I think they are right. Either she is on time, or it's over. You've given her warnings. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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np: i am very much like your nanny. i don't bother getting anywhere on time and i'm not going to do it unless there are consequences that are worth it for me. so don't expect her to change unless you are very firm. and even then, i'd start looking for someone else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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yes and yes, I will both speak to her firmly and will start looking. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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She gets the concept, unless she's mentally disabled (given that this has happened 3 times in a week). She just doesn't want to leave enough time for it, and would rather be late to pick up ds and blame the subways. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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I'm getting this from her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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You need to dock her from now on if she is late. (Unless there is a major outage reported on the evening news, imho) BTW, I usually side with nannies on these things, but this is unacceptable. I remember you from last week. She needs to know that you mean business. Tell her tonight and follow-through. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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I have given her a lot of chances and I feel like she's taking advantage of it. I will definitely talk to her tonight. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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You are wimpy....don't dock when the school docks you, tell her *tonight* that she will now oe docked a half hour pay if she is late t0 pick up ds. No chances, if *I* get docked, etc. Just tell her the policy in a pleasant, matter-of-fact way. If she worked in Walmart (or any other entry leve jobs) and was consistently late, this would happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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Well, if she is "on the clock" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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^^^ starting at whatever time ds is supposed to be picked up, then it is her responsibility to get there on time, just like any job. If she gets there late, then her pay should start at the time she arrives (this will send her the message). If she doesn't like it because she has to allow too much time for travel, then she can get a job closer to her home. I really don't see what her problem is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:20 PM Flag
[ - ] My Palm Pilot died. I would like to buy a cheap and/or used one. Where is good to find? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.18.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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Craigslist [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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I didn't know people still used these [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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i thought i just stepped back to 1999 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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OP: I am not ready for Treo or Iphone so looking for stopgap. Also I have a problem with being online too much so don't really want to enable that tendency... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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seriously, it's 2008. ditch the palm pilot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Anybody know about sports at NEST? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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NY State Kindergarten Lacrosse Champs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:15 PM Flag
[ - ] sorry-new at this UB- the "first date mom" again... anyway, we talked non stop and laughed and had an incredible time (over dinner) and then he walked me back home and told me again what a lovely time he had and that it it was so nice to meet me (in person-we had talked on the phone before this) and that in the next few days we should perhaps meet again...then he gave me a light kiss on the cheek and a hug... I really like him, have had a few dates in the past year, but didn't like anyone. And now I was left with this weird feeling :"Now what? Does he like me? Will he call?" IF he has not called since the date (Monday)does it really mean he's not interested? I hope not, I had such a good feeling about this...but I guess you never know. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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Calm down it's only Wednesday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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sorry, but I am from another country... not very familiar with the dating here in the States, so not sure what to consider normal. Thanks though. I hope this means he will perhaps call... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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what country [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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France [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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i understand all the worry, but i think it's fine. he probably didn't wnat to scare you off by calling next day, he'll probably call today or tomorrow. you could also call him (i know someone on this board will say no to that, but i don't see why not honestly). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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Thanks. I thought of calling him... I can't tell you what an incredible man he seems to be. But I would not want to scare him off...oh I hate all these "rules" life is so short... I wish at a certain age people could just tell each other "yes, I really like you and I want to see you soon" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Poll: How old were you when you started trying for your first baby? How long did it take? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 06.18.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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29yrs Just the once! [ Reply | More
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ditto [ Reply | More
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35, 2 mos. [ Reply | More
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42. 3 months. now at 45 finding it very hard. [ Reply | More
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35, first try. [ Reply | More
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32, first try, 34 first try, 38 2 miscarrages and then 3 months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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38, 2 mos [ Reply | More
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31 y.o // 13 months it took [ Reply | More
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34, first month off bcp, 37, second month off bcp. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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36 2 years. 40 1 month. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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that's amazing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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39, 1st try I think (mc), then 4th try [ Reply | More
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36, 2 years [ Reply | More
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30, 10 mos. [ Reply | More
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35, right away but m/c, then 3 years [ Reply | More
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35, 8 months [ Reply | More
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almost 37, 1 month [ Reply | More
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31, 4 mos [ Reply | More
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29, 14 months [ Reply | More
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26 -- 10 years no medical intervention. Who knows... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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27, 3 months for an ectopic pregnancy, then 1 month to conceive after I was given the green light to try again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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34. never did work and we adopted x2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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were you given a specific reason for your IF? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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30, 1st try (much harder 2nd time around) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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36, about 2 mos same at 38 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:29 AM Flag
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30, two years (undiagnosed endocrine disorder) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:35 AM Flag
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29, 2 months; 32, 1 month; 35, 1 month. we are very fortunate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:43 AM Flag
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39, about 7 months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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30, 1st time [ Reply | More
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35, 3-4 mos [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:01 AM Flag
[ - ] I guess I'm not winning the mother of the year award. DS just turned 4 and he is wearing pull-ups and sleeps with his paci. I thought we had solved both problems but since our baby was born (5 month old dd) DS wants to be a baby again. He wants me to lay both of them down together to change their diapers and wants to move back into the crib. Uggggh! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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aww that's cute [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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there are more people in your boat than you know. don't sweat it. he'll pass out of it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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Thanks, that does make me feel better. :0) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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Treat him like a baby at all times including giving him baby food and he will soon get over it! GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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is that serious advice? that seems problematic to me. though, then again, maybe it'll do the trick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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That is how I deal with my ds but he is only 2.5yo so I don't know if it would still work with a 4yo but I bet it would. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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Well, my 3.5 yr old dd, does not have a sibling and she's doing the same...(still not fully toilet trained and wants a paci very often) so don't feel bad... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:11 PM Flag
[ - ] i don't believe in tipping. i think it's a way for business owners to pass off the expense of offering a fair wage. i am starting a group called Consumers Against Mandatory Tipping (CAMT). Anyone care to join? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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will there be t-shirts? If so, I'm in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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sure. t-shirts and flags. also bumper stickers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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nope, put myself thru college as a waitress. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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Are you against all tipping (like wait staff too?) or just the silly new tipping (like the asshat at Starbucks who can't put milk in my $5 coffee but has a tip cup out?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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i'm definitely against the latter. i'm against the former when it's a mandatory tip. i think wait staff should be paid a decent salary and tipping should be optional if you are feeling generous or if the service was really excellent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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You could argue tipping is mandatory if the cost is built into your check. It is only by having it how it is in the US today that it is consumer driven and most responsive to service. Go to a country in Europe without tipping and see what service there is like. I'll keep our style. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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i guess i shouldn't ask you to contribute start up funds for my group? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:39 PM Flag
[ - ] please help me with this decision. I've been on an extended maternity leave almost this whole school year (I'm a teacher.) Should I put in my resignation and stay home again next year, doing freelance work to make ends meet, or should I go back? Would love to stay home, but am worried about making it financially. We have been OK this year (barely) with what I have been able to make. wwyd? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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Could you go back part time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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no, not an option for my job or our daycare [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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1. how old is your dc. 2. are you hoping to have more dc. 3. will you be able to get your job back in a few years or will this burn bridges. 4. what subject do you teach. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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i'd do private tutoring rather than go back to work. especially if your dh has good benefits at his job. i happen to think teaching is one of the best jobs if only for the schedule. but you can make so much doing private tutoring that you can probably pick up the income you want. the only thing you'll have to keep in mind is that the hours that kids are available to be tutored are the hours when there's no school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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how secure is dh's job? If you want to stay home, and you're making it (even barely), I would do it, because you can always pick up work if you have to (even if you're not teaching, you could do tutoring or something, right?) But if it will cause tension in your marriage, or your dh's job is not secure and your income might be crucial, those are things to consider [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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his job is secure, but he doesn't make enough to pay our mortgage and bills, so my contribution is needed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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tutor part time. you will never get another chance to stay home. we are broke as anything but it is much better than not seeing dd grow up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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take another year. signed, wohm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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np: another wohm who agrees with this. I had the option of taking a job when ds was 18 months old, but I decided not to, and got another opportunity when he was 2 and 1/2. It was a good year, and it was easier for me to leave ds when he was older. But your dc will be fine either way; it's really about you (or for me, that was true, that I was happy with my daycare options, and I just wanted an extra year for myself, to slow down my life a little while dc were young) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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thanks, wohms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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yep, agreed. if you do decide to put dc in daycare, he'll be absolutely fine & happy. more about how you'll feel and you sound conflicted so give yourself the extra year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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