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[ - ] I so sad, I went out with my sister last night and I could tell something was bugging her and so I asked. She lost it she had to send something form her dh's computer and so she asked him for his log in and he gave it to her. when she was logged in an email came up from this woman her dh met on a plane a while back. It was a thread of emails with some pretty heavy flirting and talk about meeting up while he was out in Arizona. Which is where he is now. My sister does not deserve this she is an amazing wife and mother. She dotes to his every need and is his biggest fan. She is freaked out. Needless to say she went home last night and called him. I haven't had a chance to talk to her and see what happened, but I am so sad and angry. Thanks for listening. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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that really sucks. i feel for her. good that she has you for support. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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Is is bad that i want to go and smack my bro in law up side the head. he has a 11yr dd and 7 yr old db. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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no. in fact, i will help you. i'm skinny but wiry and i have a hella temper. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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haha thanks, i will call you up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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he is going to feel like a pig when she confronts him. he better have behaved! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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No kidding. She has asked him about her before. Like WTF why do you meet woman on airplanes and stay in contact with them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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what? big sign, i would say. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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No he is a coach and is always looking for donors to the program, she works for a big comany and donates money and product to the company. He would always say you have nothing to worry about. I never quite believed that because of how much he travels and he still has the big league attitude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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men suck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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You know i am starting to wonder if it is built in their Y chromosone. My dad cheated on my mom when i was 11 I can remember every detail of that summer. My dh cheated on me when we were dating. WTF. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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No. People suck. When you say "men suck" you excuse the assholes who do that shit. I mean if all men suck then they are not at fault for doing shitty things. I mean the apple isn't at fault for falling out of the tree, ice doesn't suck because it melts. People suck. Some of them are men. And... some of them are women. -a dh (who doesn't suck) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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so you never cheated? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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Never have and never will! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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quiet honestly i never thought mu bil would either. I know it is people who make the bad decisions but it seems lately the men in my life have been shooting up the ranks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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I've known people who cheated and it shocked me at first. But after really thinking about it, I was not that surprised. I think people are either fundamentally honest or fundamentally dishonest. The old, "liars lie, cheaters cheat." If you really look at them (your BIL) honestly, can you say they were honest people? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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omg. that is horrible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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Oy - what an idiot. He must have known she would find it when she logged onto his computer too... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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you would think right. she texted him after she found it and said "we are going to have to talk tonight" he kept calling her all night. she wante dto calm down and also wanted him to sweat it out a bit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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Good for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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I am right in the mood to kick his ass-and you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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yup! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:36 PM Flag
[ - ] when did you begin to show with your first pregnancy? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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6 months. Up until that I just looked like Beer & Potato Chip Girl. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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18-20 wks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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pretty darn quick. by 4mos very very obvious. but i had a gigantic pregnancy most pp not like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 07:05 PM Flag
[ - ] dh is being fired from job after 1.5 years of working there. can he qualify for unemployment. he made 55k/year. very stressed out mom here... 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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most likely yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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My guess is yes and at that salary he should qualify for top amount which last I checked was 400 a week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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Yes if for poor performance. No if for "cause" such as stealing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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yes, he can qualify. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:39 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you agree with the Bear Stearns indictments? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.20.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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scape goating [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:25 AM Flag
[ - ] What is an appropriate raise for a nanny who makes $750 per week now (about $14 per hour). I have given her an additional $50 per week per year for the past 4 years. At what point is enough enough? (2 kids, 1 entering K in fall) 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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At a certain point, I stopped giving raises to my nanny. dc's are in school all day, and she has the house completely under control. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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No raise esp. w? economy. She should be lucky she has a job, i know a lot of families who are letting their nanny go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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No raise. Consider giving her extra time off instead of a bigger cash bonus at bonus times (bday or xams?). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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I think her raise is that one kid is entering K in the fall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:26 AM Flag
[ - ] Lunch ideas for 17 mo and 4 yo? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.20.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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Whatever you are having! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:58 AM Flag
[ - ] Good book recs? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.20.08, 10:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it possible to get through to DOE about placement issues? will they help? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.20.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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Apparently not, have even reached out to Boro Pres & my City Councilperson to get their attention ... it is like triage over there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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I am finding that there is always somebody else's issue that is more important than mine, so no responses here... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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What issue do you have> [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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my kid got a 99, but didnt get into Nest [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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for real? Many 99ers did not get into NEST nor Anderson and were placed in their 3rd choice school. There were just too many 99ers this year who picked N and A as their first choices. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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^^^^ in addition to the siblings, of course [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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That wasn't OP posting & you don't know what my issue is. My point was that DOE, specifically OSEPO, is such a phenomenal mess right now due to all their bungling that there is a very long line of people needing answers. My prob: no placement at all for K, & hoping to get sib into same undetermined school for PreK on Monday when slots are announced! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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wow, apologies, hope it works out! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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no placement because you haven't gotten the letter from the DOE, yet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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School accepted, but OSEPO has to OK variance. "In principle" just a formality, but say we will be notified in August -- way past PreK enrollment date... DD was accepted for K by school in April. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:18 PM Flag
[ - ] What are some good places to go with 16mo and 3yo boys? am going to be in seattle for a week staying downtown at an apt in the metropolitan tower....thanks! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Seattle/Portland 06.20.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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will you have a car? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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Seattle Center - on a hot day, kids love playing around the fountain. Children's Museum, the Science Center is on the same block. The Woodland Park Zoo is a daylong excursion, Zoomazium is a good indoor playground within the zoo. Greenlake has a nice wading pool and playground. PCC is a good grocery store. Each kid gets a free Organic fruit of their choice. Catch a storytime at the Seattle Public Library -it's worth a looksee for the architecture. Pick-up Seattle's Child for the local calendar of events. Visit the Tacoma Glass Museum and Point Defiance Zoo and Park are worthwhile trips. Fremont Sunday market is a fun way to mingle with the locals. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 02:55 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm going from upstate NY to seattle, two flights, with my dh a 16mo and a 3yo both boys. Any good advice? any good toy ideas to bring on the plane? thanks soooo much! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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DVD players, lots of snacks and small toys they've never seen before in bags they can't open until they are on the plane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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oh, bag idea is good! i'm going to steal that one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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portable dvd player with LONG battery life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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earplugs and xanax [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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enough for everyone around you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:56 AM Flag
[ - ] WWYD? 4.5 yo got a splinter in his thumb at the playground. Made a big fuss about it. I told him that we would go home, take the splinter out with tweezers and then have a popsicle and play in the wading pool. Ultimately he would not let me remove the splinter so I said no popsicle etc. Big fuss! How do you get a splinter out of a big kid who's fussing because it hurts? Of course it hurts, but that doesn't mean you don't have to do it. I'm so frustrated. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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Can you get him to help you get it out? I'm sure he is scared of the pain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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Maybe try to have someone else do it who he already trusts...Grandma, nanny, or neighbor? When we had splinters at the beach club, Grandma Bella was the designated splinter remover for all the kids, sometimes it's easier if it's not the parent...less fuss. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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Soak in Epsom salts and in the bath. It will work its way out. Also, you can put Neosporin on it and cover with a bandage. I've been through this. It really will work its way out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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I used to get away with it when my kid was asleep for the night. Let him have a part in the process and read a book while you put a really peroxide soaked cotton ball on it before he goes to sleep. The rest should be simple. I hope you have a pair of slant tip Tweezermans; they're the best and quickest-for splinters and eyebrows. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:35 PM Flag
[ - ] DH Here: Wife just agve birth to our 2nd (girl). What is a good "push present"? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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Now you're asking this? Jewelry is always a good present and only you know what she has and/or would wear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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i was thinbking jewlry, but there are so many choices. Something with both kids birthstones? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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You might look at www.judithbright.com; great jewelry using stones...not necessarily all the birth stones, but her stuff is handcrafted and very unique. She recently held a trunk shown at Henri Bendel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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first..nix the term. 2nd get her something she loves (earrings, hired help for a set time, ect) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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i was trying to get something special and extraordinary. I feel like its taking the easy way out just getting jewlry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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you, i like. you must be a good dh and dad. is there something she enjoys doing? what about a class of some sort that ensures she gets out and does something for herself at least once a week? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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if she needs a push present besides the one she "pushed" out, i would divorce her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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oh please - op sounds like a nice guy. i say something with birth stones - stacked rings, charm bracelet, etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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i was thinking birth stones or maybe a locket necklace with both kids pictures inside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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noone 'needs' a present, but it is still thoughtful and sweet to get one for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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She just got a baby what more could she want!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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you are a nut. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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Not at all. I think I'm one of the sanest people I know! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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the excessive exclamation points give you away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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!!!!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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is that why you talk to yourself all the time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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lifetime supply of tampons for her and the girls to share [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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a boy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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i wasn't clear...2nd child is a girl, 1st is a boy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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A really pretty locket with both dc's pitures in it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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I got Cartier earrings for one and a Tiffany's diamond wedding band for the second. My answer is jewelry is the best present but no birthstone stuff. Just the straight up good stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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A nice handbag. Helps you feel less schlumpy with postpreg weight etc. Ask one of her friends for recs. Some women don't like $$$ designer, some do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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how about a charm bracelet with a diamond initial charm for each child and a heart charm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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I have to say I may be the only one but I find both the word and the concept absolutely repulsive. so gross. If DH offered me that I would just barf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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both the term and the idea are repulsive IMO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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ugh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:37 PM Flag
[ - ] ANyone else feel like they know the people posting anonymously on UB? Unfortunately, i don't think UB is so anonymous anymore. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.20.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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No one knows who I am!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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i recognize the stories of about 4 people on here that i know. i'm sure others do too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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which ones? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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I recognize certain people from school, yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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I often pretend to be people I know so I can talk about their stories without outing myself. wonder if others do that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:28 PM Flag
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I do that sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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Why would you do that? Are you bored? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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just like discussing what I know about. don't want to talk about others and piss them off, so I act like I am them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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np. And you don't think being impersonated on UB is likely to piss them off? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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I recognized someone here back when private school acceptances were coming out. Her situation is pretty unique, and she was fairly specific with her posts here. The awkward thing was that she posted with good news, and I was so happy for her I felt like congratulating her in a way that would let her know it was me, but I felt too shy to out myself like that, or to point out that I had IDed her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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How do you know? It is a big city and there are A LOT of people here. What you might think is unique is not that unique. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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No. This was waaay too specific. The poster named the school, her dc's age, gender, grade they were applying for - not a standard admission grade - and other particulars. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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Oh, not for Kindergarten or major entry grades? I see. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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Right, an "off" grade. I think she was just so thrilled she didn't care if she was giving enough info to out herself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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Yes from time to time. But no biggie. They are just on it to ask about schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.21.14, 09:37 PM Flag
[ - ] I've never worried about dh, but I went to use our computer this am, and it was frozen with an error msg. Behind the msg I could see a yahoo account with a provocative user id. No email. I'm kind of stunned, but not sure what to do. It's not like I saw anything incriminating--I'm wondering if I should just ask him what the hell is up with getting a personal email account with a somewhat sexual name. There's no real good reason, is there? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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maybe make a joke of it to see what he says? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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That's sort of what I was thinking: "insert weird name here" is your private user name now? Should I be worried?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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I would be. But until you ask you won't know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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I'm not sure I would do this... it is too serious... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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Ask him calmly. It doesn't sound good to me but you never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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definitly ask. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:34 PM Flag
[ - ] so here's a little tmi... been reading trashy sex novels lately, and i'm very, uh, interested in hooking up with my dh. for the first two weeks in the 15 yr we've been together, he's not that into it. ARGH! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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Pass him the books when you are finished with them! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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actually, i xeroxed a particular scene and put it under his pillow. he was very interested, but then fell asleep early. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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Keep trying. It will be worth it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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i know. just frustrating... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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i know what u mean. my husband has been making me feel like im a dog. Mind u the boys in my daughters middle school call me milf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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care to share titles, authors? amazon.com links? TIA! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:33 PM Flag
[ - ] 8wo dc has thrown up once a day for the last 4 days. Also, has what looks like either pink eye or clogged tear duct. Has been in a fine mood...smiles a lot etc....should I take dc to dr? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.20.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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I would call and ask [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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I would take to the Dr. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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for an 8 wo, I would definitely check with a ped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:52 AM Flag
[ - ] Hijack to post about paying PT nanny: We have a babysitter who comes 2days a week for 4hrs/day. (DH or I are usually WFH and she's there to watch baby so we can actually work)She'll often cancel at the very last minute (we're ok with this since we're already home and sh'es great with DB). And she sometimes can't come at all bc DC that she's the primary nanny for need her that day. In this case, if you are on vacation, do you pay her for the 2days? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.20.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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huh? THis doesn't make sense. If you're on vacation, how could she cancel last minute? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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I meant, given this history of our employment relationship: when we do go on vacation, should we pay her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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no, i wouldn't. it sounds like it's understood you are paying her on an hourly basis only. don't owe her the vacation time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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that's what i'm thinking. thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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