• Filter the conversation
 

Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

If you have any questions or concerns, you can email us at urbanbaby-support@cbsinteractive.com.

Thanks so much,

UrbanBaby Support

[ - ] Anyone have a parent that got remarried when you were an adult and then they stopped having contact with you? My dad is getting remarried and has very little contact with us. I'm wondering how to keep the lines of communication open so that my dcs might get a chance to know him someday, while at the same time I'm really hurt/exhausted and would like to tell him to go to hell. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:42 AM Flag
»
why is he doing this? my dad remarried but we are all very close to step mother. he is making a big mistake - must really hurt. sorry! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:44 AM Flag
»
Mostly, I think it's because he's in arrested grief over losing my mom 2 yrs ago. He just jumped into this relationship and didn't really mourn my mom, so it's too hard for him to see us because we just remind him of her. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:45 AM Flag
»
wow- op you must be so sad. to lose your mom (been there too) and then have your father distance himself. give him time but don't let him go. some people are more fragile then others and less able to cope. he will snap out of it and be there again. 2 years out of the mnay they were together is not a long time. i hope he comes around. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:49 AM Flag
»
Yes, similar situation. It's been almost 10 years and we're settled into taking on the phone maybe once every 3 months. He's only met my 5 yo 1x, and even though he seemed really into the grandpa thing while he visited and promised to come more often, it's been another 2 years... I've pretty much just let it go. Not worth the effort/heartbreak. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:47 AM Flag
»
I'm so very sorry. This just made me start sobbing. I'm not kidding. How do you handle it? Do you see or speak at holidays? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:48 AM Flag
»
You know he's such a grumpy ass that I'm basically over it. I called him on father's day and he said "these holidays are so exhausting, all of you keep calling" - I'm like WTF?! Sorry I ruined your day! I think I was much more upset by it in the beginning, not it sadly just feels kind of normal. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:50 AM Flag
»
^^^ I totally agree with above poster btw, your situation sounds different than mine - I would continue to make an effort, your dad will likely come around. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:51 AM Flag
»
How is it different? Were your parents divorced? I actually wonder sometimes how much I would even care if my mom was still alive, and they were divorced, if he was deciding to "break up" with us. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:55 AM Flag
»
My mom is still alive - they divorced when she discovered that he had been cheating on her with our neighbor for their entire marriage - 18 years. So my Dad was always an asshole! Sounds like yours may just be going through a phase of it. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:58 AM Flag
»
I really want it to feel normal. I think the hardest part is all the lies, telling us that he is going to be around more and not showing, saying that he still cares about us, when he clearly doesn't. I just want it to end, but how the heck do you tell your dad, who is widowed, not to contact you any more. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:53 AM Flag
»
I think you would regret that down the line. He's still relatively recently widowed... if you have the nerve to say something like "jeez dad, it was hard enough losing mom, now it feels like we're losing you too" - that may strike a cord. You never know. I would recommend keeping whatever distance you need to not feel hurt, but don't cut him out completely. He'll come around. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:56 AM Flag
»
My mom got engaged to a man after my dads death. He totally alienated her from us and the family. I will never forgive him or her. They were together 6 years. Now she has Alzhiemiers and he has given her back to me because its too much for him. MAJOR JERK!! Dont let anyone come between you. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 12:18 PM Flag
»
Ok, this is a bit over the top. OP's dad has a right to have a life still, many men have no clue how to live alone especially if married for a long time so unless OP wants him to move in with her she is probably better off supporting the relationship. There is no excuse for him not seeing his kids and grandkids though. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 12:23 PM Flag
[ - ] In-laws are coming for three weeks, what have I forgotten to get ready? (Apartment BTW) 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
New York City 06.20.08, 11:38 AM Flag
»
earplugs and muzzles ready and handy [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:39 AM Flag
»
:). Enough sheets, towels... filled up fridge. Can't think what else. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:40 AM Flag
»
clean sheets i guest room and any random things they may have forgotten (toothbrush, soaps, etc), a flowering plant that will look nice for 3 weeks, radio/alarm clock in the room, wine (for you), quick easy meals you can defrost and look like a star, [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:41 AM Flag
»
- Thanks. I did Fresh Direct some stuff. That reminds me, we broke all of our wine glasses! And I need soap. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:42 AM Flag
»
OR a few more ideas: some moisturizer/handcream that is unscented or a fave of ils (ie Neutragena or Jergens since NY apts can be so dry), map or subway map if they will be walking on their own or even 2 $20 metro cards, one or two extra folding umbrellas, slippers (if you wear no shoes in the house...there are some great ones with arch support for women on sale cheap on company store), a few books to put on the night stand or an itty bitty book light if they like to read in bed [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:48 AM Flag
»
Thanks, that sounds nice -- when can I stay with you! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:50 AM Flag
»
I have tow open guest rooms at my beach house for this weekend! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:51 AM Flag
»
I'm coming! I'll say it's a business conference but I'll have to wear lots of sun block and answer all emails. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:53 AM Flag
»
the inlaws will wonder why you are tan..... [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 12:02 PM Flag
»
Hidden stash of narcotics and alcohol? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:51 AM Flag
»
Totally [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:53 AM Flag
[ - ] Need to purchase 2 extra car seats for 2 yo ds ( I am going back to work) he is 27 lbs. Should I go for an infant/toddler car seat or a booster seat ?? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:35 AM Flag
»
a regular carseat until he's at least 40 lbs [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:36 AM Flag
»
High back booster starts at 30 lbs - will be so much cheaper and longer lasting. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:38 AM Flag
»
not ready for a booster. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 12:20 PM Flag
[ - ] I am SAHM and DH generally works long hours (for only marginal pay, BTW). He has planned three separate short trips with his friends this summer, goes to baseball games several Saturday afternoons, and will want Sats free in the fall to go to football games. He always asks me in advance if it is okay, but it is really starting to upset me. I hate to say no to him and rob him of a good time, or deal with the resentment if I do, but I am feeling neglected and fed up. We have 3yo and 6mo. WWYD? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:35 AM Flag
»
carve out whatever time for yourself that will make it feel "fair" to you. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:36 AM Flag
»
Start planning your own trips/fun things and don't ask permission. Just let him know that it's your turn. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:36 AM Flag
»
have a sit down and explain to him what your issue is [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:41 AM Flag
»
Talk to him. That does seem excessive to me, but if he doesn't know it's upsetting you than you really can't blame him. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 12:02 PM Flag
»
I think it is excessive. I would start planning my own "me" time. Life is short and he shouldnt be the only one enjoying it!!! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 12:04 PM Flag
»
ITA. I agree that he should have down time, but so should you. You should have free Sats to yourself. You are a better woman than I, because I do "let" dh take a couple of guy trips a year, but would never go for three a summer. Don't fall into the trap of thinking that just because you don't work outside of the home means that you don't need the breaks as much as your DH. Staying home with kids can be hard and you'll be a better mother if you get some time away from them. (Can you not tell I'm a SAHM?) [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 12:18 PM Flag
»
Totally agree ^ [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 12:37 PM Flag
»
When do you hang out all together. I think that's too much for my comfort level. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 12:08 PM Flag
»
Does he take older dc to the games? At the very least he should do that to give you some break. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 12:26 PM Flag
[ - ] This morning someone posted about their nanny Felicia, who I think I've met and always wanted to hire. I asked for info and then poster just bailed. Bailed after posting 4 times about this nanny she is trying to get a job for because they are moving to Europe. I am sooooo annoyed. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:32 AM Flag
»
Hello there!!, I am the poster and I just replied to you by email. I work and so only check the boards a couple of times a day.... Look forward to catching up :-) [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 12:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you give Sprite to a 14 month old? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:31 AM Flag
»
i don't see any reason to [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:32 AM Flag
»
no [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:32 AM Flag
»
sprite as in soda, or sprite as in a mythical small woodland creature? b/c the second one would be really cool. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:32 AM Flag
»
hilarious... sprite as in soda. I had lunch with a friend and her baby and about fell out of my chair when she ordered a sprite for the little one [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:33 AM Flag
»
oh, well, then, I might let him have a sip, but wouldn't get him a whole one, no. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:35 AM Flag
»
I'm expecting and I just wanted to make sure I not crazy [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:36 AM Flag
»
not unless I was in some sort of bizarre life/death situation and sprite was the only available liquid [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:33 AM Flag
[ - ] what is the best sunscreen for kids? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:30 AM Flag
»
Our derm swears by Blue Lizard Baby or BLSensitive (same formula, different packaging). It's a little greasy, but it works. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:31 AM Flag
»
we use waterbabies [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:32 AM Flag
»
whatever one you apply liberally and often [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:32 AM Flag
[ - ] what is the best sunscreen for kids? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:30 AM Flag
[ - ] I am giving birth this August and live in NYC (close to NYU and NY hospital). I need to find a pediatrician and would love recommendations if you are happy with your child's MD. Thanks 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:29 AM Flag
»
Due in August too. I decided to go w/ Newman-Cedars, Sacks and Gordon. I only went to their "open house" and decided I liked everything about all of them. They all seem great. Although they don't take insurance, but I think that is acutally a good thing in the long run. They sepnd a lot of time with their patients. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 12:16 PM Flag
»
Manhattan Pediatrics on 60th [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 12:35 PM Flag
»
we go to Dr Jon Sarnoff at Premier Peds on 25th and Madison. he's great. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 01:43 PM Flag
»
Dr. Flavia Marino -212-490-2446. She is on 38th st and 3rd. We love her!! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 01:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Posted earlier: pls no snarks. I have a 103 fever now and it's Strep. Do I ask DH to come back from his boy-golf trip or will I feel better after a day of antibiotics? I have a 2yo and work. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:28 AM Flag
»
^ No friends or family available over weekend [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:28 AM Flag
»
he must come home. you have a 103 fever and strep. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:29 AM Flag
»
Feel guilty. He's been away since Wednesday and he's been planning this "boy" trip forever. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:30 AM Flag
»
come home, and don't feel guilty. he had a few days of fun, you are really sick and need help. Wouldn't you do the same for him? And wouldn't he ask you to w/out hesitation? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:31 AM Flag
»
No, he wouldn't. He would tough it out. But, he wouldn't have to ask. I would just come home. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:32 AM Flag
»
so he wouldn't tough it out, bc you would come home! He should come home. Family needs to be his priority, not golf w/ his buddies [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:35 AM Flag
»
You wont feel better until tomorrow so it is entirely up to you. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:31 AM Flag
»
Yikes - I recently got over 2 bouts of strep and have a toddler - it was rough. I think it took about 2 days on antibiotics to feel better. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:31 AM Flag
»
You'll most likely feel a lot better tomorrow, but if you really want DH to come home don't feel quilty about it. Can you imagine a man taking care of a 2 yo and being sick? Now way - he would have called 911 by now! [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:31 AM Flag
»
you're a work with 103 fever? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:33 AM Flag
»
Working from home today but also resting. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:33 AM Flag
»
skip working from home and take lots of naps.....you will feel better 24-36 hours after starting the abx. can you have your babysitter work for a few hours tomorrow? My dh rarely takes "boy" trips so I try to honor them as much as possible. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Would greatly appreciate advice on which strollers are best living in NYC. We walk a lot but may need to take taxis and trains occasionally. Thanks 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
Expecting 06.20.08, 11:26 AM Flag
»
[ Removed by moderator ] [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:28 AM Flag
»
I love, love ,love my Mountain Buggy Urban if you walk alot (but you will want a light weight folder, too.) [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 12:33 PM Flag
»
IMO, the best for NYC is doing the Snap and Go while db is young and then switch to a lightweight, like Mac. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.23.08, 07:22 AM Flag
»
There just isn't a perfect stroller. They are either heavy or have no storage. The Bug is good for walking around, the Maclarens are fine for getting around, don't take up lots of room in stores, can go on the bus, & make sense later when they are older. However, Maclarens have barely any storage and tip over when you put too much on the handles, aren't great in the snow, and some of them can't be used from teh get go. Also, at the beginning you can put the carseat on wheels and go around - it's ugly - since there is a basket underneath and you can get in a cab with the carseat/put the wheels in the trunk. You can also get a jogging stroller, but I've used mine twice, just not into it. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:32 AM Flag
»
- so bug/maclaren combo is probably good? [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:33 AM Flag
»
I have combi, its very lightwieght. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 12:21 PM Flag
»
np: any all terrain stroller plus a maclaren is a good combo. I have the BOB Revolution. Also like the Mountain Buggy Urban--and you can get a bassinet for that, great for a newborn. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 01:07 PM Flag
»
if you have the money to drop on both and have the storage, get both. I only use a maclaren as i don't have space for an extra stroller. And when you have the second kid, if they are close together, the bug is useless. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 01:10 PM Flag
»
I am the OR of this long post. You can get a Bug on Craiglist if you start your search early. FWIW, if you just want close to just one stroller, I have a Maclaren (I think it's a Quest). When I first had DD we had a small apartment. I borrowed my sisters carseat and used it on wheels, then switched to the Maclaren. I WOHM, so I am not sure if the Maclaren would be an issue in the snow - dd goes to daycare. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.23.08, 06:50 AM Flag
»
We have an umbrella (Mac) and a Bertini Bidwell. The Bertini goes from Pram to a double decker. If you are planning on having a newborn and a toddler this is a nice option. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 12:35 PM Flag
»
If you are considering having another dc in the next couple of years consider getting one of the single to double convertible strollers. I had a Bug and folding Mac then had to sell them to get a double. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.23.08, 06:52 AM Flag
»
We have the Bugaboo Bee, which we feel is a good combo - it's lighter and has an easy fold (though you do have to use 2 hands), but it's also sturdy and you can face the seat towards you if you want to. For the first few months though, we used the car seat & frame. Easiest & has the most storage room. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.23.08, 06:54 AM Flag
»
[ Removed by moderator ] [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.23.08, 06:59 AM Flag
»
here's something to consider, daycare/preschools/nursery schools want you to fold up that stroller if you leave it at their facility. it's considered a fire hazard to clutter up hallways. so if you want a bug, be committed to eventually also getting another stroller that folds. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.23.08, 07:00 AM Flag
»
Maclaren Triumph comes close as the perfect city stroller. But not for newborns though. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.23.08, 08:03 AM Flag
»
the new baby jogger citi-mini is great. one-hand fold and you can hold your baby while doing it. folds pretty small. feels sturdy (but not as sturdy as the bugaboo) and reclines almost 180 degrees so can use form birth. and goes up to 50 pounds. not great storage but comes with enough sun coverage and you can add an infant car seat adaptor. almost wish i never bought the bugaboo. one other drawback, to carry when folded requires your hand whereas you can put the maclaren over your shoulder. so for airports, would probably still use a maclaren. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.23.08, 01:34 PM Flag
[ - ] where is the best place to register in NYC? I am expecting my first baby August 29th. Thanks! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
Expecting 06.20.08, 11:25 AM Flag
»
Buy buy Baby, Pottery Barn Kids, Babies R Us (b/c it's easy for people outside of New York) [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:27 AM Flag
»
Target/ [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 12:24 PM Flag
»
BuyBuyBaby They have everything including those higher quality items that become a necessity in nyc. BRU not so much. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 07:01 PM Flag
[ - ] so how many hours should we give obama before he decides we should drill for oil in the us? anything to get the vote. what a politician. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:19 AM Flag
»
i'm all for drilling for oil here. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:19 AM Flag
»
[ Removed by moderator ] [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:20 AM Flag
»
don't understand why so many think it's okay to drill for oil everywhere else except here. we have it, let's drill for it. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:26 AM Flag
»
np: fine, but let's get some nuclear plants going. No, not a McCain fan, but it's totally ridiculous that we haven't been doing this. with the proper safeguards and training, it's perfectly safe. [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:34 AM Flag
[ - ] We just moved and switched daycares for my 20 m/o and although the teachers swear he has a lot of fun and is really doing well, the drop off is a nightmare - he screams and cries, but they say it only lasts for about 5-10 minutes after we leave. How can we make it easier?? Its killing us and breaking my heart! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
 ]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:10 AM Flag
»
Totally normal behavior, even with caregivers DCs adore. Make it easier on yourself by just walking away becaue it's over before you are out the door. I'd hear DD shrieking as I walked out the door. By the time the elevator got to our floor, I'd be hearing giggles. DC will outgrow it soon enough - mine now just looks at me and says "Bye, Mom." [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:23 AM Flag
»
[ Removed by moderator ] [ Reply | More
]
General Topics 06.20.08, 11:29 AM Flag
Refresh » New Post »
Select Category
close [X]

close [X]

Select a Category (only 1)

category
Stages
Regions