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[ - ] When you no longer need your nanny, do you pay her for unused vacation/sick time even if you're only 3-4 months into the year? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.20.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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I guess I'd prorate it. If she gets 10 days of vacation and 5 sick days, for example, and has used none, I'd give her 5 days extra pay for 1/3 of the year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Just booked first real vacation in six years (have just gone to parents' house before). Just me and ds; we're going to Bar Harbor. Excited but nervous about the money. We'd better have fun! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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you and your son or your husband? you'll have fun either way i'm sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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DS. I'm single. Thanks. Hope so! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:35 PM Flag
[ - ] How do you pronounce the name "Sagit"? Calling someone for work who I don't know! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.20.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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I knew someone who pronounced it "sahgeet". Isreali name I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Talk me down. DS is still nursing at 2 1/2 years. It used to be a lot now we are down to about 2-3 times, bed time and in the middle of the night (co-sleep). I want to wean by mid-August but now I feel guilty bc I wound up at Kellymom and LaLeche sites. Tell me I should wean (but don't flame). 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.20.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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Don't feel guilty! Most people wean by 6 months, so your ds has gotten more than most. And at that age, he can get all the nutrients he needs from food and milk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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Ew I am sorry but that is gross. When they walk you should stop, it just looks and is very odd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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You are an uninformed woman. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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Nothing to feel guilty about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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What seriou? That is gross it is like lyneete's co-worker on Desperate Houswives. Get that kid a sippy cup. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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she feels guilty about stopping, not bf'ing till now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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np: whatever. To the OP, don't feel bad about weaning. If you are ready to wean, then db's time is up. I bfed until db was 2 and then I was just ready to wean. If you are beginning to feel resentful or uncomfortable (physically), then that is your sign to stop it, just as you would if db lost interest or wasn't comfortable. All of the bfing advocates say for as long as is "mutually [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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^^^sorry. "Mutually beneficial" to both mother and child. And don't listen to the whack jobs. You know they have nothing better to do . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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I nursed DD up to nearly 2 years, but the night-nursing damaged her top front teeth. They don't need that middle of hte night feeding at all and it's bad for the teeth. Of course DD probably inherited my cavities. It's been great for her immune system, but I would gently urge you to break the boob. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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Thanks all of you with helpful words. It's amazing how nursing elicits such strong reactions from some people. I never imagined we'd be nursing for so long (actually never thought I'd nurse at all bc I didnt get pg for years). Ds was a premie but always loved to nurse. Last winter he was really sick w pneumonia so we postponed weaning. But it's time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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Wean. Esp the nightfeed. Kellymom and LaLeche are a little ridiculously extreme, ignore them and listen to more middle of the road pp. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 06:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Ok, I have to run 6 miles tomorrow. I need songs people. Shake your ass and keep your legs moving type of songs. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.20.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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Travis Tritt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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thanks, but I don't run that slowly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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his T-R-O-U-B-L-E has some rockin' songs on it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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"All This Time" by Heartless Bastards [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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Rhianna, Bad religion, Offspring, timberland, Justin Timberlake, Hairspray soundtrack, Madonna, Jay-Z, weezer, Tom Petty, Brad Paisely, Tim mcGraw, I like a variety tht way I don't get over one type of music. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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take me away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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Try dance remixes of songs you like. They're all over iTunes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there anyone who has dc in the Lucy Moses School for Suzuki violin? Any comments about that school? 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.20.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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music teacher here. do not like lucy moses or suzuki. lucy moses is based on russian teaching which i hate. and suzuki, though kids sound good, leaves students with a skill so good (ear training) that they become handicapped in every other area of music (musicality, reading, understanding) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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SMS is based on Russian teaching. I don't think Lucy Moses has anything to do with the Special Music School, does it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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some people say not, but how could it not? i went to an audition there of an 8 year old girl, and the adults there (4) ripped this girl apart. it was horrible. music should be enjoyed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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NP: It is two separate entities in one building. One is a private music/dance (only) school - Lucy Moses - and the other is a NYC public school (Special Music School) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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They share the same building. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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I understand that (DD is taking Ballet classes at Lucy Moses) but they are two separate entitites, no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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they are related to each other [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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They share facilities but I am very sure they do not share the philosophy nor the music teachers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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well,, i would never have my kid study suzuki. hate acquiring suzuki students. they can't read a note [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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NP: have you any advice for a 5.5 year old in Gowanus/south slope of Brooklyn? There is a school on 9th Street which looks like somethig I would love to support. Have you any experience with it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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Oh and thanks in advance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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no. but what i would look for in a teacher is someone who makes music enjoyable [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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great answer... simple and easy to follow. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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NP: In North Slope, but how about Brooklyn Conservatory of Music? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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Have you experience there? I'm gonna see if they have a site/kid's classes. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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NP from above: Yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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A lot of Lucy Moses teachers are also Russian, as is the coordinators. DC does piano there are pretty much all teachers are russian and strict. I don't care for it either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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What is the difference? Russian teaching or other kind? My son is in Queens College. What is your opinion about Queens College? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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another music teacher agrees 100%. lucy moses has a few good teachers a lot of teachers but more bad ones. many also teach at sms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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HATE Lucy Moses. My 7-y.o. daughter was taking a class on the top floor which is only accessible by elevator. Her class was the only one on that floor at that hour in the evening, so it was very isolated. I was a few minutes late picking DC up due to a stalled subway in front of my subway, so teacher left DC alone in the classroom so that she could make her next class downstairs. When I spoke with the teacher AND the director of the school, they both told me my child's safety is not their responsibility if I'm not on time to pick up my child. My daughter was in tears and terrified when I showed up that evening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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My experience with Lucy Moses has been extremely good to this day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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^^^^ usually they take good care of the children. Maybe it was just one of those one-off events. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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The school's response from the top was indefensible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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As long as nothing happens to your unattended child, I suppose your experience with Lucy Moses would be good. I don't expect them to babysit my child, but I was late for a good reason and their response wasn't even accommodating in the least. It's very easy for anyone off the street to walk into that building filled with young children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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op; it does seem a bit cold to me when I took my son to meet the chair. My dc is currently in Queens College. I really like the environment there. It has an atrium where all the parents and kids hang out while waiting for the next class. It gives me a big family kind of the feeling. After going there for a while, you kind of know everyone there. Considering changing due to scheduling issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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Where do you live? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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Sunnyside. It is a 15 minutes drive on LIE for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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If you live in Queens, is there any reason why you're looking at a school on the UWS? What about an UES school like Diller Quaile? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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Well, he is going to school on the UWS in Sep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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Ah, I see. Down in the 60s there? Because you can also look at Mannes on W 85th Street or at Bloomingdale School of Music on W 108th St. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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^^My dc goes to Bloomingdale and it's a very warm, family kind of place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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Thanks, I will check both of them out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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Try to read more about the Suzuki method to see if this is what you want for your child. We decided against it -- it gives early results (children mimic each other), but not good long-term results. Having said that, our db has taken other classes at LMS and we were happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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Instead of Suzuki LMS also offers traditional violin classes, I believe. Give them a call. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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Brooklyn Music School teaches violin the old fashioned way, not Suzuki. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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is that the one on Ninth St? Do you recommend it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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No, the music and dance school in Downtown Brooklyn, near BAM. They teach violin. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.15.08, 07:22 AM Flag
[ - ] Il's 6 months ago offered to watch ds for us on 4th of July as we have a wedding. Il's usually have a party, but told dh they aren't having one this year. Yesterday mil told dh his aunt was going to be in town and staying with il's during July 4th and they are having a couple people over for burgers. Dh thought that meant the neighbor or something. Today mil told me they are have a small party, just 10-15 people! If we knew they were having a party, we would have made alternate arrangements for ds. Mil gets really crazy when she has people over and at 18 months, ds is a handful!! Il's have a tough time watching him when they're not entertaining. WWYD? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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The kid will be fine. Good lord relax [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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Ask them if they are really up for watching ds. For my ILs, it would be fine--MIL does the planning and cooking when they entertain, and FIL could play with ds. You could offer to try and make other arrangements but you'd have to make it clear that you might not be able to find a sitter at short notice. On second thought, maybe you should just do nothing--they made their own problem! Now they will just have to deal with the added stress of a toddler around while trying to entertain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Once married, which hand do you put your rings on? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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left [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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generally the left but some women put the engagement ring on the left and the wedding band on the right (or is it vice versa?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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vice versa - wedding band is always on the left [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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in europe it is on the right hand... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:05 PM Flag
[ - ] I hate cubicle life. I hate my yammering colleagues. I just want to go home and see my kid! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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you are me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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me too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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Me three [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:19 PM Flag
[ - ] I am totally too old to be a bridesmaid. Not in years, but in enthusiasm. Love my friend but just don't want someone telling me what shade of eyeshadow to wear and how to get my hair done. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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omg, me too, and I am the maid of honor. it's the dress that is killing me--I don't want someone telling me to wear "coral" (aka orange) polyester at this point in my life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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op: ugh, you win! at least the dress is not bad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:14 PM Flag
[ - ] does anuyone use a portable air conditioner in their apartment? we are considering one bc we dont want to permanantly install one in one of the few windows of our apartment. any recommendations? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.20.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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we have one, don't remember the brand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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do you find the portable just as efficient as one installed in a window? does it not take up a lot of space in the apt? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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no, yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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another alternative is to rent. not that expensive. they will deliver, install, repair, and remove. piece of cake [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:48 PM Flag
[ - ] how long do you keep giving annual raises to your nanny - even after they start school. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.20.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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we didn't. her raise was in the form of less hours [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:49 PM Flag
[ - ] any md's on? i'm ttc, and last month, thought i was pg, took a test, nothing. then got pd 2 days late. now (2 weeks later) am having bright red bleeding w/ clots. wtf? this has never happened to me before, i'm ultra-regular. tia. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:40 PM Flag
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call your doctor or test again... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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i did, i'm going in tomorrow. but don't see a point in testing again, since it's a mc if anything, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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when did you go off the pill? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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haven't been on it in 4 yrs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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I have a 2.5yo ds already, i should have mentioned [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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It can take a while for hcg levels to go back down after mc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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could be what's called ovulation bleeding. i had this about 3 weeks ago and just found out i'm pg (after an earlier miscarriage) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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say wha? i am due to be ovulating but this seems like a lot of blood for an ovum. what was this like for you? did you have sex while bleeding? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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there'd been some spotting on a friday and then we had sex that night and i bled the rest of the weekend (ob said no sex and not to use a tampon until she checked me out monday morning). and then it stopped. she did a pg test and it was negative but i just went for another one yesterday and found out today that i'm pg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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wow that's crazy. dh and i not into the bleedy sex, but it's a real bummer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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was your period light when it happened? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:30 PM Flag
[ - ] db has been waking up at 5:15 the past two mornings - what, if anything, can I do to get him to sleep later? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.20.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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black out shades or move to australia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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books/toys in crib to play with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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put them in at night? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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yeah after he ggoes to sleep. put them in the corner..... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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try black out shades if you don't already have them. but it might just be a phase--my ds (now 2) has gone through periods with really early wake ups, sometimes lasting a week or two but he eventually goes back to sleeping later again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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When you find out pls let me know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 06:59 PM Flag
[ - ] ds got into nest and we took the spot now i am second guessing myself. he's a young 5 going into 1st grade please tell me i did the right thing 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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My five yo son is just about finished with K at NEST. It was great and we are excited for next year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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how far along are they academically at the end of year> [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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I don't know enough to honestly say they are at this or that grade level in which subjects. I know my son was reading just shy of third grade level at the third quarter teacher's conference. (But he is, I think, inately a good reader.) More than anything the kids seem to be learning good school and social skills. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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do you bus? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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nope. Live in Brooklyn. We tried to make it happen this year and couldn't get enough families involved. (The bus seems expensive when you are in the middle of the summer and totally excited about this new school.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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How can he be a young 5 and go into first grade? Must be at least 5.5 yo now. Did ds go to academic preschool? Does he read yet? How much math can he do? I would definitely do some academic work over the summer if you have any concerns in that regard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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yes 5.5 now, reads well, has decent math skills, can play chess a bit, piano, and takes spanish classes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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^^can do addition, subtraction, tell time, count money ect... 99% [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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Then he should be fine. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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he is currently reading level J [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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how far along are the graduating K's in chess and math? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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OR above: Chess is pretty varied at NEST. There is a chess class every week and a club. Not too many of the K kids do the club so levels are pretty different. Math at NEST is Singapore Math. They are just finishing the second (yellow) workbook. I don't know how that translates to any other system. They do add/sub, no mult or div, lots of math logic stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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np: Do parents have to know how to place chess to help the kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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play, I mean [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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don't worry. Even at Nest the kids are at all different levels. My dc is just finishing kindergarden and the kids in the class are at all diff levels. Some came into the class already writing in script and others came in barely know how to spell their name. Don't sweat it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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