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Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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Thanks so much,

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[ - ] Anybody else on that is over age 40 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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44 here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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just turned 40 and pg with #3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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Boy UB sure has changed. I feel old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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why do you feel old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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Because I realize thie majority of people posting are under 40 and I am 44 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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I don't think the majority are that much younger than 40. I find many to be in their 30's..not like 21 yr olds all night [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:36 PM Flag
[ - ] would you wear calvin klein's one (eau de toilette)? as a woman in summer? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.20.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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Nope- Summer is all about my Jean Nate body spray. When it is winter I switch to Windsong [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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Please be kidding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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And then I apply my bonnebelle lipgloss for extra beauty while also occassionally spritzing some Loves Babysoft [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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You know, I actually do use Babysoft sometimes. Clean, showered smell. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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Yes, but does your husband wear Stetson [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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LOL, no! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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Totally, I love that scent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:26 PM Flag
[ - ] I want to get BF a little something. Any suggestions? Not a BJ...something tangible...50-100. I am very into him, and he is treating me well and I just want him to know how much I appreciate him. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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Get an experience you can enjoy together--like a couples massage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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good idea, but neither of us are into that sort of thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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Dinner cruise? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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that would be more than 100...we are both kind of food snobs and wine snobs...I was thinking like a nice shirt of cuff links or something like that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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How long have you been dating him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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2 months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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I wouldn't buy cuff links. You will freak him out. I gave my dh cufflinks as a wedding gift! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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ok, what else could I do?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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Chill out? It's only been 2 months. Or take him out for dinner one night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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If there's no occassion, that's kind of icky and SugarMommy-ish [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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that is why I was asking for suggestions [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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At 2 months, I wouldn't be giving gifts. Stay cool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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I don't bake, but once I made an ex chocolate chip cookies from scratch. Went over well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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oy, it is so bad, I did that...well, not from scratch, but I already did the cookie thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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I think most men consider a good bj to be a nice tangible way to show appreciation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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it is a given...our sex life is amazing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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make it extra special [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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lol! ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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I sent flowers to DH at work once and he thought it was super cool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Ok- so you were too sick to put your own kid to bed but you have been able to UB about a nanny who had to pick up her own kids for the past 1/2 hour?: 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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she's using her last bit of energy to foster her righteous indignation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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THANK GOODNESS I was worried UB had lost it's sense of biting humor I heart You for sticking it out through the changes and still being here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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Step off, I feel her pain. I don't know why you all are always on the nanny's side. It sounds like they are super nice to the nanny, so I agree with her. Frankly, I'd find another nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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Because the nanny couldn't find childcare on short notice and didn't want to bring her own ds into a house where someone is sick? You blame the nanny for that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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After this family has helped her out so much in the past? Yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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family comes first, I certainly wouldn't expose ds to strep just because someone was nice to me before... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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What would you have had the nanny do? Conjure up a babysitter for her son? Expose her son and risk him getting sick (meaning she would need time off to care for him)? Leave the child out on the lawn, tied up like a dog? What exactly? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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Tie him to a tree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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of course... he needs to learn that he's part of the serving class;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:56 PM Flag
[ - ] NOBODY here has dcs who love the Jonas Brothers?!? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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my niece loves them and she's exciting for that camp movie... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 06:56 PM Flag
[ - ] I spoke to someone todat that mentioned there is not 1 child enrolled in the new G&T program that was added to District 2 at PS 111. I know that this is not a great school but very surprised...... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.20.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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I know dcs assigned there, but I don't know of one that registered. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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The 10% suspension rate can't be a pull. Were there any tours, any attempts to show prospective parents that it would be a successful program? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 05:03 PM Flag
[ - ] 45 minutes til the premiere of CAMP ROCK- anybody else have dcs that are stoked? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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my dd is but she's in bed and I'm dvr'ing it for her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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Why would you let your dcs watch that crap? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 05:22 PM Flag
[ - ] People who drive me crazy: Anyone who says (in some form or another), I have made terrible choices for myself, don't like the consequences, and want to pretend like the had no role in creating their misery. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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If they admit they made bad choices, aren't they accepting responsibility for creating their misery? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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np: Ever see some of the posts here? "DH is a billionaire, but I don't love him. Don't I deserve a private jet and a man who I love?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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ok- sort of get what you mean. I'm not a fan of the UB I am A Victim of Life Brigade either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:18 PM Flag
[ - ] www.bookswim.com is the netficks for books- you "borrow" them--do you think this is a good idea? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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you mean...like a library? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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yes-but online. You pay a fee, they send you the book, you send it back. I love netflix but not sure about books. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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you know...the library is for free. Maybe this would work for people who live far from libraries or who have sub par town libraries, but I think most would rather just buy used from Amazon, Ebay, etc... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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How is this better than a library? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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online--can order books at 1 am, and all books have reviews [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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Is it free like a library? And don't many libraries now allow you to reserve books online? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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so like a library but you have to pay? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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ahh, I see your other posts. Our library has an online system - I "shop" at amazon and put books on hold throught the library online, just need to pick them up. I could see paying a fee if our library didn't offer it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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that's what I do to... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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not a great idea because with movies you can easily watch a couple a week, how quickly could you finish a book? If it's more than $15 a month, you wolud probably be better off buying it off of amazon and using something like swaptree... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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I use bookmooch.com. It's free -- but takes some "work". You "list" books that you'd like to get rid of (and earn Points for doing so) and can "mooch" books off of other people's lists. But you have to mail them -- and that takes time and $? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:55 PM Flag
[ - ] 1st pregnancy and terrified of miscarriage. Help. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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there is nothing you can do about whether or not you miscarry. Try not to worry about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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time to read THE SECRET you create your own reality--thoughts create energy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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what utter garbage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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We watched the smarmy movie, but within two weeks of that experience two of our major life goals came true. We are big fans now of asset based thinking and practicing gratitude daily., [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:17 PM Flag
[ - ] If you are considering applying to Special Music School (SMS) for K next year, don't. Even though it is a public school, the whole process is completely fixed. Most of the children accepted are enrolled as preK students in the music class run by the Director of Admissions or already taking private classes with one of the teachers. Someone should write an expose about that place. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.20.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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really? I thought that is was like any other test - very talented dc could screw up and get shut out - just like with IQ tests. My dd, who has perfect pitch, didn't even make it to the second round, but she was sick that day in a bad mood and didn't like the guy who gave her the rhythm part of the test. FWIW, the one dc we know who got in took no private lessons there, as far we know, and not yet picked up an instrument. I think that they actually prefer to take talented dc who they think may not otherwise have the opportunity to develop their talents. I could be wrong though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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NP; was that this year? I think they may have some sibling preference. They certainly are opaque about the process. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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lots of siblings at the school. lots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:53 AM Flag
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But how can you explain the fully-booked preK class taught by the DOA? Maybe one or two new kids squeak in each year, but that's it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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I don't know. I was only speaking of my experience. Is it really true that they are mostly dc who took classes there? I just assumed that my kid got cut because she had a bad day and didn't want to perform. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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I know someone who got in and wasn't taking any music classes. Not connected. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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I didn't know SMS has a prek class. Are you referring to the school that is actually a private school? Lucy Moses? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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That is what she said [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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That sounds terrible. So, they only accept kids who can afford the prek tuition at Lucy Moses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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I don't think that is true, but who knows - nothing would surprise me at this point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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Totally not true!! Both my DC and my dear friend's DC went to Round 2 at SMS and were wait listed. Dear friend's DC was called this week and declined the spot (going private instead) then we got called and declined(going to very good district G&T instead). We had NO connections and our kids had not taken classes there before. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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But you were wl. All of the people I know with kids there had connections. We were not interested in the school but could have used connections as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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We knew NO ONE, NO CONNECTIONS, were w/l any way, and then got an OFFER proving the OP is completely off base with this post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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^^^^ Plus OP is telling people not to apply??? Why, DC goes on 2 play dates, big deal, it is STILL worth a shot! Again we knew NO ONE and eventually got offered a spot. We didn't take the spot but it was offered. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:31 AM Flag
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how do you know you're going to a district g&t instead? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.29.09, 01:01 PM Flag
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One year they passed out almost 1/2 the places in K. to siblings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 03:52 AM Flag
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so? Nearly every school has sibling preference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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NP: What do you mean, so? This school is supposed to be about being musically gifted. It has only 15 spots to hand out for the whole city. Sibling preference has no place there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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(OR) that was my point. I thought it was outrageous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:21 AM Flag
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I know every class and it is not true. No class at SMS has half of the class with sibs. RIDICULOUS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.30.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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Not true - DF's dd not connected in any way and accepted a place there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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Reading through all these posts it seems clear that sometimes SMS takes unconnected kids (just like sometimes Brearley does) but connected kids and siblings have a much better shot. I think they are worried about drop outs, and so families that are known to them and have made some big effort to court them are attractive b/c they are lower risk. It isn't really their stated mission and that part sucks for those of us on the outside. NP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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COMPLETE BS. we had absolutely NO CONNECTION and got in. The majority of sibs and faculty's children DO NOT get in. One or two sibs at the most every year (some years none) and they completely pass the tests based on their musicality. A huge portion of the music program is funded by private donors who believe in giving musically-gifted children the opportunity to take serious music lessons. How do you think these generous donors would feel if there was an "insider" way to get in? TOTALLY DEFEATS THE PURPOSE of this school. Go and see the kids perform, you will see that they are truly gifted and focused and love their instruments. You can call them and demand your child's score from past year, your child may have been very close to getting in, but if there is one spot left with three kids on the waitlist, obviously two families will be greatly disappointed. I am sorry you had a bitter experience, but PLEASE don't go around posting false accusations without having any proof. It is a very competitive school and not being accepted doesn't mean that your child is not musically-gifted. There are plenty of talented children who do not get in based on the final score but still grow up playing instruments as well as SMS kids. You go ahead and write an expose. There are a ton of families and well-connected folks who had to send their sibs/kids to different schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.30.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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I know people on the inside who tell a different story, especially about the relative talent of the siblings. While the school turns away plenty of insiders (only 15 spots) and admits a few prodigious unconnected kids, the bulk of the spots go to people who have been hauling their kids to Lucy Moses since they were in diapers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.29.09, 11:10 AM Flag
[ - ] wow-this board moves really slow--haven't been on since the change--did most UBers jump ship? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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yup [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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Isn't it insane!!! How can that many people all jump ship? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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Well, when they first made the shift it was pretty sucky--but they have made some adjustments and I'm willing to come back [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it possible to mainstream an older Pdd-nos child in public school? My dc is high functioning with strong academics 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.20.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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I think it really depends on the school, the other kids in the grade. My ds just finished pre-K, high functioning PDD-NOS. He's currently in an inclusion class, I hope one day he will move to mainstream...BUT I know he will have such a hard time socially, he could (like will) have such difficulty w/ kids who just prey on kids like him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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np: I am not sure what pdd-nos is, but I had a 7th grader with multiple disabilities transition from private to mainstream public this year. He has done well. He has been victim to teasing, but so do many kids that have been gen ed their entire lives. It depends on what you want for your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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I say yes, although I have limited basis for saying so. I simply believe that older children, like in middle school or high school, can have mastered coping mechanisms to help them with the social issues. In the right school, I think you can do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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be careful about this. He can easily be a target for the other NT kids and he might not have the social skills to deal with them. He might be better off in a highly-acadenic SN setting or integrated setting--unless you work intensively on coping skills. I'd have a neuropsych talk to him before hand to see where he is academically and socially and see if the neuro thinks this is a good idea. You don't want to put him in a position where he is going to be victimized. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 05:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Oh, Hunter - you broke my heart once; why are you doing it AGAIN?!? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.20.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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what? what? waht? what happened? I have a dd on w/l there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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Just that they expanded the boys WL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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np: Wow. That is very interesting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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or: is that true for real? CRAZY! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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don't let it. it is like lotto- you can't win if your don't play, but you can't expect to win just because you play. don't take it personally. signed another hunter shut-out mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Hold the fuck on... G&T is for KINDERGARTEN? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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Yeah, you'd think some of these kids were just accepted to Harvard while others are headed to truck driving school... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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np: LMAO..this is too damn funny but so true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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wow-are there no deleters on ub anymore? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Posted earlier. Asked our nanny to stay 1 extra hour to help put DS to bed. Temp up to 103.5 now. She said no. We have done so much for her including take care of her when she was sick. WTF? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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is she juts not able to tonight or did she have no reaspn other than 'no'? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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you can't put your son to bed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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She said she can't have her son dropped of at our home from school even though our house is closer to the school than hers. So, she needs to get home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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sounds reasonable to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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she has kids and you want her to stay late to deal with yours? I don't see how your request was at all reasonable.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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Only because I'm quite sick. I give her days off all the time to take care of her personal appointments. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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so don't do that anymore [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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You are right [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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maybe she had plans [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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She does not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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Picking up her son doesn't count as plans? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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if you're there, why do you need help getting ds to bed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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I have strep + 103.5 fever and not able to keep food down. DH has been away all week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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you should have said that at the beginning, you made it sound like ds was sick, not you... I'm sorry that you're so sick, but maybe it was too late to reschedule where son gets dropped off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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Sorry. That's what I thought at first, but I know the carpooler. She would not have minded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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NP: so sorry! I had the strep misery last week and it was awful! I know exactly how you are feeling. I'd be less likely to be understanding of nanny's needs next time she asks you for a favor. Now you know where you stand with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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That's a good point and thanks for the nice words [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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I know it's stressful to be sick and take care of kids, but she's your paid employee, and she has fulfilled her obligation to you by staying to her end time. She has her own life and her own problems. I hope you feel better- [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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Then I guess we should stop helping her so much with her personal life -- maybe that's the lesson learned. We help with her son, medical bills, loans and it goes on and on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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if it's freely given, it's freely given. If you expect something from her in return, this has to be explicit. I'm sorry; I wish I could agree with you because you are not feeling well and you are alone and you have a kid, and things suck right now. But don't take it out on nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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I asked her for +1 hour (at 3x pay) in a weak moment, and she asks for help ALL the time and we give it. I think it's quite unkind of her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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np: I agree with op. If the nanny can swing it, she should do it. Sounds like she could but is choosing not to do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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np: I agree with you. She could have done this one time, especially if you know that her son could have been dropped off at your house. I hope you feel better. I would be a little ticked off too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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Positive thing is you know where things are with your nanny now. Stop doing so much for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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she probably just didn't want her son to get strep, if you have 103.5 temp than you are contagious, who would want to expose ds to that at the beginning of summer holiday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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that's what i was thinking [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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When my manager asks me to stay late, I can only do so if I can arrange for childcare, etc. It's not as simple as cutting into my down time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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I don't think this employer is just a manager if she's helping the nanny on all the stuff listed above [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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I think you're exaggerating. You have a temp that high as an adult and have "strep" yet you are on the computer bitching about your nanny? No, actually, I think you are lying. Especially because you actually responded to the responses. freak. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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Dude. You're taking your relationship with your nanny way too personally. It's a business relationship. Deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] 7mo who used to love his bath is now in tears during them. Something always seems to happen to upset him and I am so upset - this used to be his favourite part of the day. How can we make it happy again? have toys, etc...he just seems to melt down. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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just make it quick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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Change the time- he sounds over tired, and I agree: make it quick and stop trying to turn it into major playtime [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Any reason why there is so much competition among women? I can understand from a biological perspective about competing over men - but schools, kids, jobs, professional/personal success...? What drives us to keep other women down? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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I think competition is natural to allhumans, not just women [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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Good point. But the men I know seem to work more cooperatively, at least at work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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I think you can't generalize from that. People are people. Comprtition is why we evolved. It's a good thing even if it's sometimes annoying [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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i think women are taught to be insecure in order to keep them in the old fashioned place of being subservient. all the attention on clothes, homes, jobs etc etc takes away from the full drive to truly suceed. men are also competitive, but it's of a different sort. no where near as catty and they truly believe they are they best (for the most part). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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ita, this is why I HATE talking with my girl friends about food, diet, trainers, weight, etc. SUCH a waste of human energy over silliness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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i'll talk to my good friends about these things. bc in those cases, it is truly for support. we can air our feelings, insecuirites etc and there no negative competition. thankfully, htese days, i don't have many friends with whom I feel strongly competitive or catty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:45 PM Flag
[ - ] 5yo dd is doing some alarming behavior. She keeps rolling her eyes back to her head. Ped said on the phone that it is probably a tick and I should ignore but I'm freaking out, she can't make eye contact and doesn't seem OK. Ped appt. Monday but I'm scared! 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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like a seizure or an eye roll of disgust [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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not a seizure because she still talks , but further up than a typical disgust roll [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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i seem to remember someone else i knew had a kid who did the same thing. in that case, it was just a tick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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people say just a tick, but the whole tick thing has me freaking out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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yeah. definitely. that's what made me remember this story. the mom was freaking out badly bc it looked horrible. take a deep breath. see if dd will take deep breaths with you... adn then you'll go to the doc on Monday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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if you need to see a neurologist I can recommend Dr. John Wells. We took our dd to see him not too long ago and we thought he was pretty great. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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that is, if you are in nyc or nearby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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The fact that she is still talking to you while doing it is a good sign. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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