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[ - ] 12wk old newborn won't take the bottle. he has been mostly a formula baby. he has been fighting with the bottle on and off - progressively getting worse / more frequent. he just had an ounce and is now "eating" his hand. we've tried different nipples/levels to no avail. what else? is this normal? i couldn't find any info online but maybe i'm not using the right key words? please help. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.22.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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that sucks, I've never heard of that before. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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Have you tried switching formulas? FWIW, our daughter had a terrible time adjusting to a bottle (though I was bf-ing, so I didn't have the "she won't get anything to eat" stress. We ended up buying one of each bottle out there until we found one that she like (the 99 cent Gerbers, of course). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:41 AM Flag
[ - ] I live and New York and am pregnant. My husband and I want to have a mini-vacation not too far away in the next few months. Any suggestions? TIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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Thanks for nothing :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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Give it a minute! We went to Amsterdam for a week when I was 6 mos along and it was great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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what type of suggestions are you looking for? Have fun! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:36 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm a sugar/flour addict. It sounds trivial but i exhibit all the characteristics of addictive behavior. I'm really ashamed. I'm carrying about 40 extra lbs., enough to be fairly disgusted with myself but not enough (so far) to make me want to change. It's such a useful, and for me, lifelong crutch. I don't know if I can give them up. Any btdt? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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cognitive behavioral therapy may help. helps you link thoughts to behavior-what is making the craving happen and you to act on it. transfer it to exercise maybe. though I am of the harm reduction model vs. abstinence-in grand scheme of things, not a huge deal though being overwt has long term health consequences [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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i lie to get my "stuff," i withdraw, i'm cranky as hell if i don't have it, and my thoughts are consumed with it--this when i'm supposed to be caring for my kids. you don't think cold turkey is the way out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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you sound slightly bulimic, just without the purging. cold turkey may help but may not remove those cravings-may just transfer elsewhere or can do cold turkey for a w hile, then start again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:33 AM Flag
[ - ] Talk me down...Is it me or would you be mad too? My MIL sent out birth announcements for my newborn baby before I had the chance too! The baby was born 5 weeks premature and was in the hosptial two weeks and just came home last week. So, I haven't had the chance to do them yet. Don't you think that's stepping over the line?? 53 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.22.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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totally over the line. don't you deal with this, sic your dh on her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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Thank you. At first I was thinking I was letting the hormones get the best of me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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That's just nutty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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Are these announcements that she picked out or that you did? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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She picked them out. I just found out about them after they were sent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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That's insane! I would be yelling so much, and I'm normally pretty diplomatic... Huge line for her to cross, and she needs to know it in no uncertain terms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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Your MIL is a witch. How did she get the names and addresses of your friends and family? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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I am so sorry. I would be livid. That is really awful. I hope you say something to her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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I'd send her a note expressing my dismay over the fact that she wrongly assumed it was the Grandmothers place to do this. I'd say the preg and birth of dd were stressful and I was so looking forward to the joy of a new mom sending out the birth announcements. It was not your place, you overstepped your bounds and I sincerely hope that this is not indicative of how you intend to grandparent my daughter. If so, its going to be a long and bumpy ride. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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this is the message op's dh needs to send to the mil-having this come from op may not help [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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if mil thought this was acceptable, I doubt she will take dh seriously, but an irate daughter-in-law she might. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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well, it sounds as though the mil has little respect for the dil as it is-an emotionally tinged message isn't going to help (which your message is). op needs to spend time with her new db and adjust to being a new mom, let the dh deal with the negativity here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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I don't see any emotion in the note. Heck, I wrote it and am not the least bit emotional. Its laying down the law now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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NP: Actually, it should come from OP, but in person, not in a note. OP can be polite but firm about how disappointed she is having that privilege taken from her, especially after having been through the roller coaster of having a preemie. If OP has her DH do it, it's a subtle message that OP isn't willing to stand up for herself and would rather have her DH do it. BTDT, and it's much better to do this yourself than go through your DH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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not really. if op's dh does this, it shows he supports the op. op doesn't need to get up in arms about this-she can vent here or to dh, but let him deal with the ramifications. talking to mil now when op is newly pp and having to leave her new db in hospital for a few weeks, well emotions are raw, will not help situation. also btdt. dh intervenes and sets tone. he also has bigger parameters to push the mil, which op doesn't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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not in a note-how is that standing up for herself? do you guys not remember how emotionally raw you were pp? a note is very passive aggressive, a dh intervening shows you are willing to set boundaries and stand up for selves. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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written communication does not in any way shape or form fit "passive agressive". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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notes are always better in these types of situations. You choose your words carefully and it give recipient time to process before responding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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I disagree - chances are he won't do it and the relations between me and mil is a relationship between me and mil. I deal with the problems. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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OP needs to send it, or better yet, they both need to send it or talke with her. OP needs the backing of DH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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I agree with this. We had very serious issues with MIL overstepping bounds. We went to therapy it was so bad. Therapist recommended DH deal with his own Mother. It was very difficult for a time but 3 years later, we have a much better relationship with her and she rarely crosses the line and when she does, DH deals with her, never me. So much better in the end. Now, MIL is giving her own daughter huge problems [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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oh boy, that's tough. i hope it doesn't come to that for me and DH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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Way, way, way, over the line. You need to tell her.....NOW. She is the grandmother, not the mother. If she wants to offer to help you , that is fine (and you can tell her that, even if you hav o intent of accepting her help), but she is never to take your place again. The end. And, start planning *your* Mother's Day now, because this woman sounds like she will try to ownt hat next year, as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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np: My MIL acts that way on Mother's Day. It's so freaking annoying, especially since my own mom died long before I even got married or had kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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Good luck, I know you're getting conflicting advice. I think that the important thing is to rapidly and very strongly let her know this was completely unacceptable. If dh is capable of doing that then have him do it, if not, you will have to do it yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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i think that was not right of her. i don't agree with all the posters saying this should be your dh's place to say something. i'd call her, say simply that you did not feel it was her place to send them. and then drop it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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^^^and i would first confirm with dh that he didn't give her the ok to do this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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DH definitely didn't give her the ok to do this. Infact, he was venting with his sister about his mother stepping over the line about other things and that's when his sister mentioned the birth announcements. DH mentioned the Birth annoucements to me out of the blue... i don't think he realized how much it would bother me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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Yes. It was over the line. The only exception would be if you had previously agreed that she would send different announcements to her friends/family and that she would handle printing/mailing separately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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What does DH think? I hope he is enraged. If not, you have problems. If this happen to me, I'd want to claw her eyes out. You have a real winner. Sorry. DH needs to make very clear that if she does something like this again, it jeopardizes her relationship with you and her grandchildren. I do think it is ok for you to tell her off, but DH has to come in and seal the deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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Yes, unfortunately, the *most* important thing here is how DH feels. Trust me, I have an evil MIL but my DH is still a bit of a mommys boy, always trying to please me and his mom. Despite this, we have a decent marriage but honestly I think that if we ever divorced it would be over tension with his mom. Your DH should be enraged but if he blows it off as "oh, that's just my mom" then youre in big trouble. Means he's not willing to stand up for you and for you as a couple. Good luck, I feel for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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OR- ITA. My MIL was horrible. We almost divorced over her. It was the only thing we fought about. Now, DH has essentially cut her out of our lives. I feel sorry for her, but the anguish and pain she caused our family finally caused us to sever almost all contact. DH is filled with guilt that he didn't lay down the law 15 years ago when she first started doing crazy things. He thinks if he had the balls to stand up to his mother then, it wouldn't have come to this. Learn from our mistakes. Cut off bad behavior now if you don't want this to go down hill. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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Thank you all for you advice. The response seems pretty uniform and that is I or my DH needs to have a discussion with MIL. I fear if I do it I will ruin the relationship. So, I may need to have my DH do it because he tends to be a bit more diplomatic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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I think this is *not* the time for diplomacy and you need to show a united front....just my opinion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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She's a freak and it should def be DH talking to her not you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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I would have dh deal with this. She is definitely out of line but I think the ongoing relationship would be better if dh was the one to say something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 02:48 PM Flag
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Sole voice of dissent here. Maybe MIL thought she was helping out? After all, her son & DIL were completely preoccupied. OP's distress is understandable, but she shouldn't assume that MIL was trying to pre-empt her or otherwise make trouble. Unless there's a history of that sort of thing. By the way, your MIL has a new title: your child's GRANDMOTHER. She deserves respect, as well as boundaries. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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np: Gosh, when you're a grandmother I sure hope you don't think it's OK to act that way b/c you will not be a very well liked MIL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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Ok maybe I should call her GRANDMOTHER rather than MIL. Maybe I wouldn't have such a hard time with her actions if: [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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Ops got cut off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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keep hitting enter...sorry. i wouldn't have a problem with her actions if 1) she asked me if it was ok 2) sent me a copy of the birth announcement 3) asked me who I would want them sent to 4) asked me if it was ok to mail my childs picture around. I had no idea that she sent them out until after they were sent. So, it wasn't like she aske if she could help me by sending them she just went ahead and did it. Yes, there is a history of her butting in and this was the last straw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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If she truly thought she might be doing something that was helpful, then she should have asked not just assumed. Someone who assumes like that is not trying to be helpful, she's trying to be controlling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 03:11 PM Flag
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Deal with this now or it will get worse. Believe me. ONly in my case, it was my own parents -- not ILs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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OP, can you give us an update? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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No updates yet. Still waiting for my DH to make the call. Will let you know what happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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completely over the line. Awful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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this is when you don't let her see the baby until she apologizes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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outrageous. so wrong of her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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totally out of line. You tell her that she has had her children and this is your child and she has stepped over the line. Tell her that you were taking care of the baby and worried about her and while you appreciate her trying to be helpful, it was totally out of line. I say you take care of it with dh right by your side while you have the conversation and he backs you up on it. Say it now otherwise there will be many more inappropriate things down the line. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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would it be wrong to publish her obituary ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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WTF!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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Wow. That is nuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Recent pet peeves: teaching mandarin to over indulged, wealthy NYC toddlers (just in case), desperate hunter mom wanna bes homeschooling their kids until they get in off the w/l (just in case), UBers who always claim to know something about the inferiority of the OLSAT because their kids did not perform well, but are of course gifted; FA applicants who ask ways to game the system; racist posters and UES moms who sah and discuss how jealous everyone is that their kids are at TTs or are legs for TT schools. 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.22.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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you suck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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np: why does she suck? I agree with many of these points. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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Hi, I have a post below that this poster is referring to and I'm kind of glad that someone else stated what I was feeling. :) Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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maybe you'd see a whole other world if you stopped ubing. this is a small snapshot of many ugly posters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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mine - '99s' whining how DC unfair it is they didn't H, A or N who have perfectly good other public or private options while others are stuck with really not good zoned publics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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ditto. the "I'm so depressed over___school" usually a top G&T. UGH! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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Take it your dc didn't get 99s? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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Actually i'm the "lucked out" poster below, but thanks for playing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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mine: the people below who say they had to move to washington heights in order to get enough space to stay in the city, and then complain about the schools there. we live in a 1 br apt with 2 dcs in a decent zone. many of us make do with less space in order to live here. if we needed more space, we would put our efforts into improving the local school. such is the trade off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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eh... i think it's valid to complain about the quality of schools in less expensive zones. unless you bought a million+ condo. i chose the one bedroom in the bad zone in a good district, and lucked out. You can try to help improved your zoned school even if DC don't attend (we donate books to ours, always spend $s at their fairs etc and if I can find next year I will tutor there). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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these are good ideas [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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Is it ok to teach Mandarin to non-indulged middle-class NYC toddlers who happen to be Chinese? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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but only from a nanny, not a class [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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If you're middle class, you can't afford a nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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not really true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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only because new yorkers define middle class differently from the rest of the country. you can call yourself middle class but if you have a nanny you're at least upper middle class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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WTF is wrong with learning Mandarin? Is it any worse than learning Spanish or French or whatever language? Just bec it's an Asian language? You sound really racist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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no, its the fad aspect of it. nyers are like lemmings. someone says its a good idea, and everyone jumps all over it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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np: sounds a lot more difficult to me than learning french or spanish. Seems silly to send a toddler or preschooler to a class once/week for mandarin, or any language for that matter. Speaking a different language at home to your baby/toddler/preschooler sounds more useful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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mm aren't you assuming that everyone knows a second language they can speak to dc at home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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Mine: people who get any score above 95 and ask "if this oK? will Noah get into Trinity? will Maddie get FA at Brearly?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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LOL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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Aww but 95, it's understandable. There are 97 and 98 moms who ask the same q'n. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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or: they make me gag even more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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Terribly accurate. I may have a family, a household to manage, a business to run, parents to care for, a social life, and various interests/activities. But I spent MOST of my time and energy wishing I was a SAHM legacy at Dalton. Natch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 03:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Kid friendly suggestions around 100th and B'way for dinner? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.22.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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Metro Diner of course. But we also like Yakitori Sun-Chan, Henry's, Regional, Mama Mexico, Indus Valley, Rack & Soul, Pearl's [ Reply | More
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[ - ] What a miserable lot. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.22.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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Not really. It's just an anonymous place, so you can vent all your demons here, then go out and live your real life in a nice and happy way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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ITA. This board has sunk to a low point. I will be glad when the excited newbies enter for K admissions and drown out this group. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 02:52 PM Flag
[ - ] DB boy is a little red under his penis, nothing scary. What could this be? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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heat rash. is his penis very large? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:53 AM Flag
[ - ] Gabriel Isaac or Levi Isaac 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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Worst, Gabriel is better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:54 AM Flag
[ - ] For three years I've taken my DD to an activity several times a week. For three years I've seen the nanny of a kid who does the activity with her slowly destroy the spirit of the boy and his two younger siblings. I've seen her hit the baby, force feed a banana to one while another cried he was hungry, I've heard her bitch and complain about her bosses AND her job to her nanny pals -- in front of her charges -- she has never once brought something for the younger 2 to do while #1 takes the class (I usually end up playing with my younger DC and those kids) and every time I see them in the neighborhood the poor kids look scared and shell-shocked. There was a big event recently and I saw the kids' father for the first time in 3 years (never seen the mom). Instead of watching his son, he read a script the whole time. It's SOOOO sad. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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so sad! can you try to speak to the mom...maybe she has no clue? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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About a year into it -- after seeing the nanny hit the baby because he was crying -- I thought I would say something at the next "event." I've never seen the mom. (I know there is a mom, though because I've heard the nanny say, "if you don't XYZ, then mommy will not come home tonight") This is a martial art -- there are belt tests every 2 or 3 months. They are big deals. I didn't see a parent until last month when I saw the dad for the first time. There is a lot these parents have no clue about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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what did you say to the dad? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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if you've seen her hit the baby, i'd bring it to the attention of the lace where the class is. ask them to contact the parents (they will have the contact info) to let them know there's a problem. you can even ask them to pass your # on to the parents if they have any questions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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another way to go is to call 911 or child protective services the next time you see physical abuse. they will follow up with the family, who will then be notified [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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ita about speaking to someone at the class, as long as it was just a smack and not a beating, I don't think 911 is a good idea...they might send police right then and take the kids away - which would probably scare them more than the nanny ever could. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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but the scare would be a one-time scare which would then bring the parents into the equation. a one-time really scary experience may be world better than years of cruel care [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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That is a good idea, but I'm afraid that the school will toss and not get involved. I have to tell you, if I were in your shoes, I would write down everything. I would follow the nanny home to get address and I would go on a weekend, ask for the mom and give her the information with your phone number. Then its in her court. BTW, I don't think there is anything wrong with the dad based simply on the fact that you observed him reading once. Who knows what the situation was, BUT - it takes a village - and we have to protect those children. If not, who is to blame if they grow up to be a serial killer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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I've been in your shoes (not quiet with hitting but certainly with verbal abuse and watched a nanny really put a little girl down). And, many, amny other things, including having two nannies tell me that they had "befriended" her so as to keep an eye on her and the little girl! I called the mother after month do this..she was in complete denial (even saying other people had called her!!). Commented on how she knows people and how dedicated this nanny is to her and her family. Flash forward 8 years, yes 8....they stil have the same nanny, she favors the boy child in a sickening way over the girl child....they family ended up a the sam school as us. I even watched as a subsitute nanny filled in and the oldest girl became a differetn person. But the mom is clueless ....or has another agenda.....I have never let my daughter have a playdate with this daughter (and the nanny..the girl has been welcomed at our house). The mom and dad and irresponsible about other things too...the movies they allow their children to watch, etc. My child has even been tutoring the other girl in math in school (I doubt the parents give her much assistance). For yor own conscience and as a good citizen, please make a try at this...get her phone number and call....you never know [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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that's so sickening and tough position for u. i feel for that little girl. sounds like the mother would mess her up, nanny or not. ugh!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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she is an executive at an interantional company, and relaly thinks she is doing the right thing...but has missed her daughter staring a school play, etc.....didn't evne send the crappy nanny as a back up and the father works fomr home and is foul and clueless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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^^scuse the spelling above....this gets me worked up! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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Confront the family ASAP. This is abuse and these out-to-lunch parents should know. People should not have kids if they are going to be so uninvolved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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I don't see how one (you and everyone else there) could witness this for 3yrs and not do anything. Speak with the owner of the martial arts studio, the teacher, the other parents. Follow the nanny home and find out the family's address, then go back in the evening and speak with the parents. Video record the nanny on your camera phone and show it to the parents. What are you waiting around for? If the nanny does this in public, what do you think she's doing to those kids when no one's watching? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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ITA that you should try to reach the family, however, in my 8 years of parenting exp. I have seen a few times where these types of parents don't take action. I'm sorry, but don't you think that if their eyes and ears (and hearts!) were open they would have some clue. They would ask their kids about their days. They would have some clue about what goes on. I have hired caregivers and I've always tried to ask for feedback from people and I just know in my heart when someone is a psycho ... I really think they don't want to know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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OP: You know what? I have three kids of my own and no time to go all Harriet the Spy on this nanny and the kids' family. It's clear to me the parents don't care and probably wouldn't listen to me anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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then why are you posting this? you've already decided not to involve yourself. oh, and you clearly have the time to UB endlessly, but not to alert those parents about their nanny. nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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yep. flame me all you want, at least I don't pay a monster to raise my kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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no, you've just turned a blind eye to it and refuse to do anything and you *know* exactly what is going on, which may *not* be the case for the parents [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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you sound like kind of a jerk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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you really shouldn't make assumptions about whether or not parents "care" based on their willingness to attend a karate activity...the nanny may not be conveying what is going on or they may have jobs that do not allow leaving during the day (have a friend who is a great parent, but is a surgeion, for example). You've never even spoken to either one of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 02:02 PM Flag
[ - ] i hope dd is still in front of the tv where i parked here. i hate to think of what havoc she can be wreaking right now. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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you should get velcro straps. or figure out a way to jimmy the child leash so she stays put. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:45 AM Flag
[ - ] need dress. black tie wedding. plaza. help. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.22.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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nordstrom, rebecca taylor, bloomies (like soho one), lord and taylor, bergdorf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 09:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone going to the PS87 incoming kindergarten welcome picnic on Thursday? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.22.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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I thought they already had that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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Says June 26 on the invitation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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Yes, and FYI if it is raining it will be in the cafeteria. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Tell it to me straight: how bad does a Brazilian hurt? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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bad enough that i made her stop in the middle. and i'll never try it again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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so you walked around with "crooked crotch " ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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yes. she thought i was nuts. but there was no way it was worth the pain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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the visual is very funny.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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:-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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Maybe TMI, but it depends, but i would say to "trim it up" a bit first so the hair isn't too long... it's the LONG yanks that will cripple you... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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it doesn't hurt a bit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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not very much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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