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[ - ] asbestos question: our co-op had the asbestos in our basement storage unit removed while we were away, and literally all of our belongings were in there. do you think it's safe to walk around in there and stuff? if i had a bunch of books out, do you think it's ok to touch them and bring them upstairs?  5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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Did you have professional asbestos removal folks do the work? Maybe call them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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good idea. yes, it was all done by the books, by professionals. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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np: You are fine! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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whew. i'm pregnant and slightly more paranoid about toxins and things like that. didn't even know that they'd done abatement while i wasn't here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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^^If you are totally anxious, bring some wipes down with you, dust everything with them before you bring it up, and throw the wipes out before you go back to apt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:01 AM Flag
[ - ] What is the deal with giving a baby nurse a tip? Is it assumed that they get a tip? How much should I be giving (in manhattan)? Thanks. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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We didn't tip ours. She didn't come from an agency. The $200 a day for 10 days was enough IMHO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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Thanks. That is helpful, as mine isn't from an agency either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:50 AM Flag
[ - ] any suggestions for get kids to pee outside on a portable potty. dd doing great at home but having a hard time outside on the little porta potty or even on a strange toilet with the portable top 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.26.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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do you have the Potette? It's the one with the fold up sides. Our dd has always liked it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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yeah she hates it. i think because it's not sturdy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:11 PM Flag
[ - ] so how many people turned down nest in the end? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.26.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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1 here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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ditto. it was a tough choice for us but in the end we decided nest wasn't the right fit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:29 AM Flag
[ - ] how can i find out how much a house was sold for in long island? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.26.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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is it zwillow.com or somthing like that i think [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:34 AM Flag
[ - ] My 5.5 yo girl asked me what "F$#@in' Child" means. I don't know what to do/how to respond. She said her babysitter calls her that when really mad. Her babysitter is a devout Muslim who cringes if I say something off color in her presence. I do not believe babysitter has secret dark side or would say this - especially to our daughter. Just don't believe it. My immediate response was "I don't understand what you're saying, don't know that word" and tried to brush it off. Followed a few minutes later by "babysitter doesn't say that, I bet your dad said it" She calmly said "no mom she does, when really mad at me, but let's keep it our secret and not tell anyone". I told her I was going to ask babysitter about it and she just kind of smiled at me - and didn't get upset and indignant like usually does when telling the truth. I am upset my daughter choose exactly this thing to create her story - and also that I think she's telling a big fabricated story. No idea how to handle this one. Help!! 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.26.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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PLEASE...believe me I don't buy this shit that these so called extra religious ppl are angels. I find them to be the ones that have more skeletons in their closets [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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OP - fair enough, and I agree. I should've said I know our babysitter pretty well and just don't believe she'd say it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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Why would your child lie to you about such a thing? You need to get this babysitter straightened out. And what on Earth is your DD doing that evokes such profanity? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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I think our daughter overheard someone else saying this and made up the story. I think she's looking for ways to push the envelope and control her environment and this is her newest attempt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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She would have to be pretty bright to put this all together... but it does sound like an odd story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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She is pretty bright and creative. But she's also 5.5 and doesn't generally tell big stories like this. How do I figure it out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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Nanny cam? That's probably what I would do, even though I normally wouldn't, it seems like too many moving parts for a 5 y-o to put together. They usually aren't good at lying at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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OP - when I asked our daughter if our cat scratched our foot, she said "it's ok, mom, we were playing catch the foot" so as not to get her beloved pet in trouble [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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You have to believe her!!! My sister was abused by an uncle (A FAMILY MEMBER) who my mother cared very much about, and thought she knew so well, since he was her won brother. She was also 5 and told my mother about it, and my mother at first thought it was a story. She eventually believed her, and it was in fact true. It takes a lot for a kid to tell her parents something like that, and kids are generally truthful unless someone asks them to lie or they have a real reason to lie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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^^Uncle was babysitting for her in the afternoons after kindergarten. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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I definitely agree in cases of sexual abuse, because kids that age really have no concept unless it happens to them about how to lie about it. But this isn't that sort of abuse, and there are ways she could have put together this story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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If you know your babysitter pretty well then you can probably speak to her frankly about this and ask her if she knows where DD heard that kind of language? You don't have to accuse her or anyone else, and you two might even have a laugh about it, but ultimately you will be pointing out that these things do get back to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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I am generally of the strong feeling that kids need to be believed and listened too, but also take everything wiht a grain of salt. My best friend's son said that his babysitter hit him and she fired her on the spot. A few months later he asked about her and his mom said she was in jail (my goodness - don't ask me why she lied, but she did) and the kid started crying and confessed he just wanted her fired because he didn't like her but she actually never hit him. He was 4 at the time. So, maybe talk with your babysitter about the language and see what she has to say. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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I don't see how asking her really solves anything. I doubt she is going to admit it if she does. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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OP - I see that. So what do I do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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I really would just put in a nanny cam. that way you can be objective about it. I don't think that they are very expensive. If they are then I would question dd further. Ask her specifics about when/where has happened. If she is able to come up with a convincing story with more details on the spot, I would be more inclined to believe her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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Above poster made a good point...don't ask her if SHE said it, just tell her that DD said she heard it and ask her if she can recall hearing it when with DD (on playground, etc.). That way she will know your daughter tells you things... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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that gives her an easy way out, she doesn't even have to figure out what she is going to say to you. Definitely do not do this. If she does do it, it is serious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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Thank you! that's helpful. I think my daughter doesn't want her fired, but is trying to create a wedge between the united discipline front of babysitter and parents to get herself some more wiggle room. It didn't work when she tried "babysitter always makes me ___ and I really don't like that" and now she's trying a different way, just happened to pick this language/scenario that she overheard somewhere, and doesn't fully grasp how disturbing the exact thing she picked to use is to us adults. Just not sure how to get her off the manipulative path she's on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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my dd is 4.5 and is also a bit manipulative and can tell a good lie. i would get a nanny cam and at the very least talk to babysitter. she may deny it though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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The thing that concerns me is that asking you what "F987987n" means is different than "Nanny said F98798879" Is your 5 year old that clever. The staging of the question is different than what I would expect from a young child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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her opening was "Mom, what does f42542in mean? babysitter says f23343in child to me when I'm really bad". Our daughter is always testing the limits we set for her, and is pretty smart (at least not according to her OSLAT scores, oops, didn't mean to digress), I just don't know what to make of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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I also have a dd who is 5.5. Her speciality is making up stories. She is always telling me about "getting in trouble" at school or with the nanny. Then the teachers and the nanny say they have no clue what she's talking about. Definitely ask the nanny. Even if she denies it, she probably will stop saying it if she was saying it at all. Also, we have a rule: kids are not permitted to have any secrets with adults. too scary with abuse, etc. We differentiate secrets with surprises (e.g., gifts, etc.) So I'd talk to the nanny and also institute a "no secrets" rule. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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helpful, thanks, and yes we already have no secrets rule, and I though I could flush out veracity of story by telling dd was going to ask babysitter about it, but not sure that works here... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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my dd also was a major story-teller at that age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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is it possible that she misunderstood her? maybe she was speaking farsi or other native language and it sounded like that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:39 AM Flag
[ - ] i'm going to paris on business and have one day for myself. already done all the major sites on previous trips, any recommendations on interesting places/shopping to fit into one day? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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This little gallery usually has some great pieces to look at (or purchase - we bought one of our favorite paintings here). Plus it's in the 6th which is great for walking, people watching, cafes... Galerie Protée 38 rue de Seine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:33 AM Flag
[ - ] Which is Chris Isaak's best album? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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Heart-Shaped World [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Am I crazy to think that Kung Fu Panda won't be mobbed at 1:40 today? Playdate just bailed. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.26.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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It has been out for awhile... and it is a week day... I would guess that it wouldn't be horrible... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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nah..won't be packed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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I highly doubt kids are going today even if school let's out half day (in NYC). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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NP: 5 of the moms at drop off today were talking about going as a group after pick up, so I'd not be too sure about your theory (np) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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It will be packed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:01 AM Flag
[ - ] my 3.10 yr old is in a half day summer camp. The group will go on a trip but I don't feel comfortable sending dc to such a large open place like central park. I feel bad but hoping dc won't know when I keep dc home from camp that day 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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How many counselors/adults to kids? I think you're being a bit overprotective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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op: 4 counselors for like 18 kids. I know I'm being overprotective but dc is 3yr old. I think if the place was like the children's art museum I wouldn't mind but such an open place like CP zoo or the open area for running has be a bit nervous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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DC is nearly 4 and knows better than to run away. Especially if you warn him about that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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UM, 3 and 4 yos don't always practice good judgment or do what they know they are supposed to. Just FYI. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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I am with you. I am nervous about sending 4.5 yo on trips w.o me and I would never send her at 3 yo. Just do something else fun that day. I am sure she will not care. My DD skipped a trip with her preK class (her choice) and she was perfectly content with her decision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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Ita... it's not like the camp is going to take chances with you dc... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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ditto. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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I think the camp knows how to handle groups of kids in public. You're being overprotective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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op: yes I know I'm being overprotective but this is how I feel. I will not do something I'm not comfortable with. I guess growing up in the city and being the dd of a cop has me very cautious [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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I think you need to let go. You send the child to summer camp and put your trust in the people, not the physical surroundings. Anything could happen anywhere - but you need to let your child go have fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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op: dc is having fun. Like I said I feel uncomfortable with such an open space like CP. DC has gone on smaller trips but not to such an open place [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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The CP zoo is hardly an open space [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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no it isn't but they are going to many diff. places in CP including the great lawn, carousel and park. I gotta go with my gut [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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If they're nearly 4 he's going to know he missed something super fun when the kids talk about it. Maybe ask if they need an extra pair of hands for the trip and tag along as a chaperone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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oP: they don't allow parents to tag along [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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are you the neurotic mom who asked crazy questions at the Westside Y camp orientation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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op: no I don't live uptown but would hardly call myself neurotic. My older dc has been going on playdates and trips with the class since 4.5yr old. I know my kids and I don't feel comfortable with this trip. Like I said, maybe growing up in the city and having a cop for a day has me very hesitant. So be it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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If you don't feel comfortable, just have dc skip it. Of course, 99% chance that dc will be fine, but it's not like it will be a critical educational experience for dd either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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thanks..this is what I'm thinking. I have allowed dc to go on other trips but my gut isn't feeling it for this one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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What if you volunteered to be an extra chaperone on the trip? Then you'd be comfortable, you could see how the counselors are for the next time and dc wouldn't have to miss the trip. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 09:39 AM Flag
[ - ] Do any private schools give out applications or take requests over the summer or is it all the nightmare of calling the Tues after Labor Day? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.26.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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the rules have changed for many. Many have started to put applications on their web sites as of Aug. Also others are now holding lotteries for an application. I would check in Aug. on the web sites, if not then call in Sept [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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ongoings? for most, you can request them now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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Ugh. I am so behind the eight ball on all of this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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no, you aren't, not at all. check the schools application procedures online. some post the apps there, others let you submit a request for an app when they become available. a few say check back in august. i just did this the other day, and it was way easier than for preschool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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thanks again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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^but thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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I think Hunter may offer application via website in Aug. If you are considering check out their site, very clear set of directions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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Sadly that ship has sailed. :) Fall b-day. 97 SB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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^^^whoops, thought you meant public. I think Trevor has stuff on line. Maybe others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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but there is no rush on Hunter, they accept applications into November. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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they all take requests over the summer. Many of them even have the app on line (most actually). only a couple let you submit it on line, but almost every ongoing has an online link to the app. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it true that BNS kindergarten kids were left on a subway platform during a fieldtrip? Heard this rumour? Some highschool kids rescued them and took the to Brooklyn Friends? Someone know if this is true? Unbelievable?! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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BNS? whaddat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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do you have dc there? if not, why do you care? I work in a school in ENY and have seen far worse things that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 02:20 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone have a blighted ovum? how many weeks? what happened? did you need a d&c? please tell me you experience bc i think this is happening to me. thanks! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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My friend did. At about 8 weeks or so she learned that was what it was. And she did ultimately have a D&C. FWIW she has two perfectly healthy kids now with no further pregnancy related issues. Good luck and be well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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I thought that you wouldn't know about blighted ovum until an u/s, why do you think this is happening to you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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I had an ultrasound yesterday at 6.5 weeks. They saw the gestational sac, but no yolk sac. It could mean it is early and I am less pg that I thought or a blighted ovum. Bloodwork is in progress to see what's up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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uggg, I hope it turns out alright! Keep in mind, before they see a baby, u/s isn't that great, because everything is still so small. It is very possible for you still to have a viable pregnancy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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I am trying to keep that in mind! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:36 AM Flag
[ - ] i am going to test today, just wanted your guess... age 45, fsh at 16. have peri-menopausal symptoms for the past 6 months. i am 3 days late with my period. periods have always come 14 -15 dpo. am i pregnant or is this the start of menopause? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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Good luck! I'm praying for you (for which ever you would rather)! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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to be pregnant! thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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I hope you get your bfp! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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I don't know. Im turning 45 next week and my period has been all over the map the past 6 months. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:24 AM Flag
[ - ] I had to take 5 days of Cipro. I've been off for 2. When will my stomach be back to normal? Still upset, burping, heart burn, etc. It's nasty. any btdt? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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take acidopholous or yogurt... it will help the flora in your intestines to grow back [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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