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[ - ] Split from DH, want to buy him out of our home. Does that mean giving him half of what is already paid off (equity) and taking over payments or something else? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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split = divorced? Should be part of the legal settlement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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divorced yes but I mean in general what does that type of buy out entail? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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well, it can be structured as part of the divorce settlement. If he was the breadwinner, he might surrender all that asset in exchange for keeping some other marital asset. Can also factor into alimony calculation. Talk to your lawyer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:28 AM Flag
[ - ] recently, whenever i eat ice cream my stomach starts to hurt pretty badly. what is it? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.30.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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Sounds like you're lactose intolerant. Congratulations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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but i normally drink whole milk and eat yogurt! it's just the ice cream. is that possible? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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Maybe this is the only time you notice it is with the ice cream [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:51 AM Flag
[ - ] I was cleaning just now and I accidentally knocked over and broke the vase that DH's grandmother gave him. DH loves that vase and will be crushed that it is broken. What do I do? How do I tell DH? He' 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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ebay up a new one pronto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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Make his favorite dinner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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if you cry, he won't have the guts to get really violent [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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are you sure? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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unless it incites his blood lust. Hmmm. Try Ebay first. If you find one there that's identical, tell him you were just having the first one cleaned. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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do you know your dh? how long have you known him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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Is it repairable? Maybe find a company that can repair it so when you tell dh you can also say that it is getting fixed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Someone mentioned in an earlier post that LL would be very dd dense for K in the fall. Does anyone have more detailed info relating to this or the incoming K classes in general. TIA. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.30.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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they're always 28 kids a class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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terc math in action! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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we'll know more when school starts in September... maybe a little earlier if LL is going to do a welcome thing before that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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Do you have a dc entering LL in the fall? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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we do as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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So do you two have DDs or DSs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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I think I saw the breakdown on a post a week or so ago. Try doing a search. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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how would anybody know this information? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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Current parents would know. Parent Coordinator would know. We know the breakdown for Anderson (33/17). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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that's insane. next year the doe damn well better take gender into account. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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why does it matter that a class should have a 50:50 ratio? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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because lower scores on olsat do not mean a ds is stupider than a higher-scoring dd. they mature at different rates. to make six years of a ds's education dependent on one test that puts him at a disadvantage sucks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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are you suggesting that boys should have a lower cut-off than girls? By how many points? Has there been research on this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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i'm not saying it's easy to correct the imbalance, but i do think they should consider testing for g&t when dcs are older and i for one don't have a problem with the onsites. ds singletons are otherwise screwed by this process. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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I agree with you. G&T should start at a later age. I would love to know why NYC started it in Kindergarten (I know all about middle class retention etc. etc. which is valid nowadays but I doubt this was the case when the G&T programs were established quite a while back). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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I doubt they will. I think it has been this way for awhile. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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for a while? this incoming k class is only the second class picked without regard to gender balance. my dc is entering 2nd grade in the fall and her class is gender balanced. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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i think they will have to go back to gender-balancing given the completely skewed class makeups. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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I don't see it as much as I'd like it. If they balance for gender, why not race, income, age, geographic diversity and any other variable they used to consider at onsites? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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this isn't a diversity issue. the olsat doesn't discriminate against someone from queens, but it does discriminate against boys. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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It also discriminate against kids that did not go to preschool or did not have UMC parents read to them/teach them stuff, which happen to be the vast majority of AA/Hispanic kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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not so fast! It does discriminate against poor kids who were not able to receive an enriched upbringing. Etc. etc. Balancing for anything is two-sided sword. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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this is another reason the olsat shouldn't be used. it discriminates against those from lower income families, sure, but let's not get carried away and say people from queens need a break as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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Not just OLSAT, Stanford-Binet does too, all standardized tests do at this age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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OLSAT, SB, etc. etc. This is not OLSAT or G&T specific. I think there are issues involved that cannot be solved by a board of education. It has much deeper roots in this society. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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Exactly, once you start it's a slippery slope. And for the record I do think the girl-heavy classes suck beans all around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Harrison High School - good/bad, details? Thanks 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.30.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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it is not well regarded. It's not as bad as, say, Port Chester, Yonkers or White Plans, but no where near the other areas surrounding it, like Purchase, Rye, Scarsdale etc. Many people who can afford it opt for private or parochial. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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Are Port Chester schools good? I didn't think they were? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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No, they are not. Go to the Blind Brook schools instead, which is basically the "nice" part of Port Chester but not as nice as Rye. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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so you can live in port cehster and go to rye brook school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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No you live in Rye Brook. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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i meant to write blind brook - [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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No. that's what I said. I said Harrison HS is not as bad as Port chester. PC HS sucks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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Kids in Purchase go to Harrison HS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:49 AM Flag
[ - ] To all WOHM with the rising gas prices have your companies started talking about 4/40, 9/80 work weeks or telecommuting options. Just curious i am at a fortune 100 bio device company where I never thought it was an option and now it looking like it might be. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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i just started working at a giant pharma company and they were very open to my working from home 1-2 days/wk from the get-go. I was actually very surprised... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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That is great. I just saw a position at Amgen for a 20hr week position it is right near my house. It would be perfoect, but it won't be enough money. :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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WHat's 4/40? 4 hrs out of 40? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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no it is 4 days a weeks 10 hour days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:02 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone with teens confronting the problem of keeping tabs on what they're doing on their computer? what is your strategy? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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i would watch the cell phone more then the computer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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We keep our computer in the living room she knows I can see what she's doing from across the room. Also, discuss privacy settings on my space/face book sites. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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do all that...then you just hope for the best? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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exactly. I don't even know for sure where she is irl! I only know what she tells me. I have to trust that I raised a good kid who uses her head and makes reasonable choices. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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it's not easy, but you have to trust. (sigh!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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age? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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age of dd? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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16 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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thanks, just curious if it was about the same as mine...it is. she's a good kid. I guess I just have to get used to letting go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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We just had about 70 kids (her friends) to celebrate her 16th bday. I knew about a dozen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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i have surveillance on my computer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:38 AM Flag
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You can load on a program that will monitor all keystrokes on the computer for you to monitor. The bigger question is, what do you do with that information and how do you and teen work out trust issues? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:18 AM Flag
[ - ] I recently met a Mom at that park that's a terrible gossip, I try to avoid her as much as possible but what would you say in response to her 'telling me everything she hears about....'? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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Abruptly change the subject and ask her how her summer plans are, or something about her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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ask her opinion about a current evetn or a book [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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stop gossiping about the gossiper! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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Fun! I love those moms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:32 AM Flag
[ - ] Favorite Boys name? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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James [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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Noah, Leo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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Miles, Cade, Milo, Ronan, Declan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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you must live downtown. Those are such "wanna be cool" names [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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No, babe. We downtowners don't wanna be cool, we ARE cool. Along with our kids' names. Now go coddle little Michael, John or Charles (zzzzzzzzzzzz). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:37 AM Flag
[ - ] why does it take so long to get responses on this new site? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.30.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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a lot of people ask dumb questions or questions that are too specific [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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I don't think there are as many people on as before the site changed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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bingo! many many people left. I don't get it. I don't see the problem with the new UB if everyone stayed, we would be just like before. Sigh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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np. ITA, it is getting better again though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 09:58 AM Flag
[ - ] Worried. ds will be 8 mo on Friday and has not (even remotely) started to crawl. He sits fine, but can't pull himself into sitting. I haven't seen him roll from back to tummy (although my mom claims he has) Is this cause for concern? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.30.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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hope not, my 10mo is still the same way. He's otherwise very active, pulls up on people, etc. Pediatrician said not to worry unless they are not moving by 1 year, I am inclined to agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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My just turned 9mo started crawling a few days ago. He wasn't really rolling much until 8mo either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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dd didn't crawl until 11 mo; walked at 13 mo...they all have their own timetable [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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My niece never crawled. Just started walking at 12 or 13 months. Her ped wasn't worried at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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thanks all. i'm a worrier by nature, but am trying to reform myself. ped said "throw out all your milestone books". argghhhh, i'm so type A and this is first db! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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my dd crawled like a pro at 6 months but didn't walk until 16 months -- she tried a few steps at a year, and apparently, decided crawling was way more palatable for her. don't sweat it, assuming all else developing on schedule. crawling isn't even technically a milestone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Boarding Schools. I'm considering sending my DD to boarding school beginning in 9th grade. Not really looking for Ivy League college entry/silver spoon prep school, just a solid academic program with quality fine arts education and variety of athletics. My thought is that she would attend a "local" school (under 200 miles from home) and possibly do 5 dday boarding (at least in the first year). Anyone do this now? Suggestions? Live in NYC area. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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And you want this why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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Because I'm a single WOHM and work in the city, but unfortunately cannot a afford to live in the city. The burbs are just too far away for me to let a high school student be alone for several hours each day until I get home. Plus, she is an only child--I think the boarding school atmosphere will benefit her. I would pick her up every Friday night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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i let myself in from 4th grade on in the burbs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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that must have been fun and exciting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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wasn't so bad. lots of kids were key children back then. By junior hshs it would really be no big deal. I'd much rather be home than commute 200 miles every single weekend. sounds horrid to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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NP: I did that too. I had a dog. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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and an early abortion [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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I had a dog too and lots of friends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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And were you an only child? Anyway, I don't agree with that--would never permit a 4th grader to let himself in. Absent any structure or responsibilities, given today's world if a child has the chance to turn on the TV or surf the net he or she will. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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no i was not. My sister was a child actress and went on lots of calls that my mom took her to [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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guess what I watched tons of tv and did my homework and went to univ of Pa [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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wow. I can't imagine doing this. However, my sister is doing it -- her son will start in 9th grade this fall in a boarding school in Connecticut (close enough to home for weekend visits, but could not be a day student). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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you might like Westover, seriously. westoverschool.org [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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Look at the George School in Bucks County PA....financial aid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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^^^and there are several in Princeton as well. She could actually take the train home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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OP here. Alternatively, would it be possible for me to get her into a Manhattan private school and have her commute into Manhattan from NJ? Admissions is so difficult in Manhattan when you aren't filthy stinking rich. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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in nj-lawrenceville and peddie, in ct and ma- hotchkiss, taft, deerfield, andover. i went to exeter (from bergen country, nj) and loved it, but it is far. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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she specified NOT silver spoon Ivy entry factory though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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