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[ - ] Bfing moms: How long can pumped bm stay out before putting it in the fridge. i just pumped a bottle & am wondering how long before I have to put it in the fridge. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:04 AM Flag
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Asap. I wouldn't leave it out longer than necessary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:05 AM Flag
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Check kellymom.org - I think it's up to 6 or 8 hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:08 AM Flag
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np I think you are right - isn't it 8 hours at room temp, 8 days in the fridge and 8 weeks in the freezer? Something like that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Okay, so I can think of plenty of reasons *not* to have a 3rd baby: my other 2 are 5 & 7 (big age diff, been out of baby game for awhile), the ease of doing everything now, the terrible 2's and tantrum 3's, and, and, and... the biggest reason I have to have a 3rd is that I just want another baby. I guess I'm most worried about age differences, and a few other little things. Anyone btdt willing to share thoughts? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.03.08, 04:53 AM Flag
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The age difference is great! Easier for you and for dc. My brother and I are close in age and my sister is 8 years younger. My sister and I are very close and she is closer to my brother than I am. It was so much easier for my mom with my sister than it was with my brother and I. GL and enjoy the baby when he/she comes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:55 AM Flag
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that's what I was wondering, about the ease of it all too. I was hoping that having two older kids would really help (as opposed to having two toddlers together with no older kid around, which was of course my earlier situation, and I thought I was going to go nuts!). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:57 AM Flag
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np: I posted below. The older kids will help out. My mom had my brother when I was 11yr and my sis was 7yr. She said we did everything for her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:58 AM Flag
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I am or, and I loved to help my mom when my sister was born. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:01 AM Flag
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me too. Since I was 11yr I was a mother's helper and got lots of training [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:01 AM Flag
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I'm pg with my 3rd and am 40yr old. I was all finished (so I thought). Both kids in school (ages 8yr and 4yrs) and life is very easy now but the urge for another was growing and growing. I just gave it and said if it's meant to be it will happen. I got pg on the first try and am 23 wks along now. I tried to fight the urge for a 3rd but I had to be honest..I wanted another. Things will be hard but times goes by fast [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:56 AM Flag
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^^BTW my first 2 dc are 4yrs apart and the age diff is great. No jealousy, very helpful, very easy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:56 AM Flag
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OR below: I agree, 4yrs age gap has been wonderful for us, they are great together (and only 1 kid in college at a time!). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:59 AM Flag
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yes 1 kid at a time in college!..that's great [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:01 AM Flag
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op: that's exactly how I feel. Was sure I was done, and then my older one had serious health problems, which took a few years to get through, and now I really feel this strong pull to have a 3rd - in my heart I think I always wanted 3 - I felt it a year ago too, and pushed it aside, but it's back, and stronger now. Wow, sorry don't mean to sound so melodramatic! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:59 AM Flag
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not melodramatic..I felt just like this. I pushed that urge away for a while but I always wanted 3 too. I have 2 dds and it's been great but wanted a 3rd...now I'm having a son! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:00 AM Flag
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We are thinking about the same thing. #2 is 3 now, and we would need to adopt (no more uterus here), so #2 will probably be 5 by the time we get a child. There is already a 4-year age gap between #1 and #2. But then I think how worried I was about the age gap between them, and how now they are great brothers and it just is what it is - it's our family, not an issue, once they were both actually here. I'm rambling, need some coffee, but hope you get me a bit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:56 AM Flag
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No personal experience but my dh has 2 younger sisters. One is 2yrs younger and the other is 12 yrs younger (all by same parents). He is much closer to the youngest one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:58 AM Flag
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Don't worry about the age gap. I have one who is five if we have a second it won't be until she is at least eight. There was a large age gap b/t my sister and me and it was really nice and we are very close. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:00 AM Flag
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The years went quickly by after my 2nd was born. 39yo before I realized how much I really wanted another. Didn't go RE route. But now approaching 41 wish I had been more aggressive about trying for the 3rd. Feeling sad. So...if you feel the urge, I recommend going for it! GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:01 AM Flag
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OP: thank you all so much! these are exactly the things I needed to hear - all the positives. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:04 AM Flag
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np: I posted above (40yr old and pg). I used fertilityfriend.com for conception. I used their charting board and it worked on the first try. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:09 AM Flag
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I have met Moms who say they regret not having #3. I've never met anyone who says they regret having #3. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:02 AM Flag
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I think she should go for it, but that is silly reasoning - no one is going to admit, at least not to many people, that they regret having a dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:04 AM Flag
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np not IRL maybe, but here people admit to all sorts of things! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:38 AM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:40 AM Flag
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There is (almost) nothing worse than getting stuck trying to pass a mom and 3 kids on the sidewalk. If you have a third, please stick to cabs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:53 AM Flag
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really? you can't think of anything worse than this? too funny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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I walk a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 06:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Looking to go on vacation with my husband in an all inclusive...any recommendations? We're thinking Jamaica but I've heard mixed things? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:13 AM Flag
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is $$$ an option? We love Barbados and Grand Cayman. I don't have hotel rec's (we cruise there) but the islands are beautiful and the snorkeling is amazing. My friend went to Nevis (Four seasons) and loved it. My sis goes to St Thomas Ritz yrly and loves it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:36 AM Flag
[ - ] my father is old and unwell. according to my who passed away a few years ago, he has a history of womanizing and even may have had an affair with a 14 yo at one time in the past. none of these things have ever ben apparent to me and he has asked to move in with me and my family. i have a 2 yo dd and even though i cant believe what my mom has said, the thought irks me a bit. i am his only child and i feel for him in his old age - he has nowhere else to go. wwyd? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.02.08, 11:20 PM Flag
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I read your post a few days ago but had to sign off. Are you bothered or worried that he's a pedaphile? I'm just asking because I can't make it clear from your post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:41 AM Flag
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how well do you know your dad?? are you in denial or do you truly believe there is no way it could be true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:03 AM Flag
[ - ] My friend might be buying a condo, or thinking about it in Harlem, for 455000, is that a good deal for a 1 bedroom. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:43 PM Flag
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Yes, and if it is below 125th it is a steal, but a good deal anywhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:52 AM Flag
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It truly depends on immediate vicinity, amenities, squ.footage, proximity to Manhattan mta and even school zones. You could currently get a 2br w/a dining room in some areas, so price is all relative; isn't it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:54 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm 31, My husband and I have finally decided we are ready for a baby- 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:41 PM Flag
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thank god you aren't 46yr old because ppl on here would throw stones at you. Congrats! I was your age when we decided and had my first at 32yr, 2nd at 36yr and now pg with#3 at 40yr [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:43 AM Flag
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so? do you have a point? come back after you give bith [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:02 AM Flag
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np: who pee'd in your coffee this morning? Maybe OP was just making a statment. It's SO to you but means a lot to her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:44 AM Flag
[ - ] How do I deal with the guilt of returning to work, I just returned to work my DC is 2 yrs and having a very hard time adjusting to child care, also I feel like I never see her anymore the time we do spend is usually with me cooking and cleaning, I really need some advice. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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Does your dh feel guilt? do you think he should? If he shouldn't, why should you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:45 PM Flag
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Is she having a hard time for a long time? because it's always hard at first, but then (if good child care) they LOVE it. About cooking and cleaning - -can you do less of it? e.g. hire help, share equally with dh, or just lower your standards... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:47 PM Flag
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ITA with above poster; everyone will adjust in time, but it's tough in the beginning. Hiring cleaning help is key, I have found. Otherwise, precious family time on weekends gets sucked up with cleaning. Within a short time, you'll see that your dc will be old enough to begin developing friendships and going to work will feel easier for you. Don't give in to the guilt; it's a wasted emotion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:59 AM Flag
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I belonged to a working moms group when I first returned to work and here ar some of their tips. I didn't follow them all, but they ar worth considering: 1. Get a housekeeper even if it is barely affordable; it will save your marriage and family. 2. Paper plates. 3. Cook on weekends and eat leftovers or pre-made meals on week nights. And there is nothing wrong with Chinese takeout once a week and it is cheap and super fast. 4. Have family dinner or sit down time as much as possible. 5. Your child will save up her emotions for *you* and it doesn't mean she doesn't like her child care, but some times they will see the best of her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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Or stay at home till she's in k. Make adjustments to your lifestyle so you can spend more time with her. Her babyhood is short and precious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:55 AM Flag
[ - ] has anyone traveled overseas using the CARES child restraint system instead of a caer seat. www.kidsflysafe.com We have the britax marathon and worry it is too big to fit well in the plane. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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looks great. How old is dc? I would definitely do it for a three or four year old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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haven't used it but have heard good things about it; fwiw, I've flown several times using britax marathon in planes, did not have any problems. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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I haven't flown overseas but I have used it on 3 or 4 hour domestic flights. I used to carry our Britax Roundabout on, but honestly it's so big and she kicks the seat in front of her when she is in it....the harness is so easy to use, to carry and store. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:15 PM Flag
[ - ] YOUR dc:zoned::MY dc: 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 07.02.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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have a feeling someone has gone over the edge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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Probably correct. But isn't this what most UB posts are about? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:35 PM Flag
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Exactly. Complaining that people have gone over the edge at UB is like complaining they've gone over the edge at the asylum. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 06:20 AM Flag
[ - ] how did you know your dh was the one - your soulmate? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.02.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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He's not my soul mate. I don't believe in that, find that people use the word to ignore problems about the other person or when they want to have an affair, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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*cricket* [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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we were just comfortable together - it felt like we had known each other the first time we spoke, i just always found myself wanting him to be there when i had good news and wanting him to hold me when i cried, he was the first person i trusted like that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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We've known each other for a long time -- we worked together for years, then were casual friends, then became better friends and then started dating (finally!). As we became closer, we found that we had a lot in common -- likes and dislikes, experiences, etc. -- and we'd both always had a soft spot for the other. I don't know that I'd use the term "soul mate", but I would say that we're very compatible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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i'd say he was my soulmate when i was in my mid-late 20s. when i hit my 30s, my needs changed (i don't need to see the latest movies immediately, wanted a family, more serious about my profession) and he wasn't quite a soulmate anymore, more like a recalcitrant boyfriend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Alex and Simon have an article in NY Mag. According to the article, they make "six figures" doing the show? This sounds ridiculous. I can't wait till the new follies begin though, do you think they'll have more sense not to be themselves? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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I would be surprised if they got paid ANY THING AT ALL. That is just their public justification for wanting to be followed around with cameras. Next we will hear that her nude photos earned them a million dollars. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:57 PM Flag
[ - ] i totally messed up. i need b-day decorations for dd's b-day. i just tried to order from celebrate express and do overnight shipping and it's saying i wouldn't get them until monday? anyone used them before? is that really the case. i'm so screwed. dd has her heart set on this particular theme and her party is sunday! 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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Its the holdiay. you are screwed, what theme? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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unicorns, i can't find it anywhere else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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oh, we did unicorns for dd's birthday last year. got most of the stuff from birthdayinabox.com. also bought some stuff locally (in NYC). GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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i don't understand why they can't process it and ship it out tomorrow and have it to me by saturday! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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no party stores near you have unicorn? Just google and call local stores tomorrow. Good luck, buy horses and tape on horns if you must. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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the few i tried didn't have any, i guess i can keep calling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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yes, or buy a sticker book and stick them on white cups and plates and make color copies of library books to hang up. You can do it, yes you can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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Saturday delivery costs extra. Call them and ask if they offer that option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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Make cutouts of unicorns. Hang them around. Buy unicorn coloring books and sticker books. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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have everyone make a unicorn horn to wear [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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good idea. (or) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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Have you tried Oriental Trading? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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PARTY CITY stores. They have everything [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:46 AM Flag
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my god you are a moron [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:01 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone know when and where to see fireworks in southern westchester this w/e? tia 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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Mamaroneck Harbor Island and Rye Playland. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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