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07.02.08, 20:29 PM General Topics
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How do I deal with the guilt of returning to work, I just returned to work my DC is 2 yrs and having a very hard time adjusting to child care, also I feel like I never see her anymore the time we do spend is usually with me cooking and cleaning, I really need some advice. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 08:29 PM Flag

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Does your dh feel guilt? do you think he should? If he shouldn't, why should you? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:45 PM Flag

Is she having a hard time for a long time? because it's always hard at first, but then (if good child care) they LOVE it. About cooking and cleaning - -can you do less of it? e.g. hire help, share equally with dh, or just lower your standards... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:47 PM Flag

ITA with above poster; everyone will adjust in time, but it's tough in the beginning. Hiring cleaning help is key, I have found. Otherwise, precious family time on weekends gets sucked up with cleaning. Within a short time, you'll see that your dc will be old enough to begin developing friendships and going to work will feel easier for you. Don't give in to the guilt; it's a wasted emotion. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:59 AM Flag

I belonged to a working moms group when I first returned to work and here ar some of their tips. I didn't follow them all, but they ar worth considering: 1. Get a housekeeper even if it is barely affordable; it will save your marriage and family. 2. Paper plates. 3. Cook on weekends and eat leftovers or pre-made meals on week nights. And there is nothing wrong with Chinese takeout once a week and it is cheap and super fast. 4. Have family dinner or sit down time as much as possible. 5. Your child will save up her emotions for *you* and it doesn't mean she doesn't like her child care, but some times they will see the best of her. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:47 AM Flag

Or stay at home till she's in k. Make adjustments to your lifestyle so you can spend more time with her. Her babyhood is short and precious. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:55 AM Flag