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07.03.08, 04:53 AM Toddler
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Okay, so I can think of plenty of reasons *not* to have a 3rd baby: my other 2 are 5 & 7 (big age diff, been out of baby game for awhile), the ease of doing everything now, the terrible 2's and tantrum 3's, and, and, and... the biggest reason I have to have a 3rd is that I just want another baby. I guess I'm most worried about age differences, and a few other little things. Anyone btdt willing to share thoughts? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Toddler 07.03.08, 04:53 AM Flag

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The age difference is great! Easier for you and for dc. My brother and I are close in age and my sister is 8 years younger. My sister and I are very close and she is closer to my brother than I am. It was so much easier for my mom with my sister than it was with my brother and I. GL and enjoy the baby when he/she comes. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:55 AM Flag

that's what I was wondering, about the ease of it all too. I was hoping that having two older kids would really help (as opposed to having two toddlers together with no older kid around, which was of course my earlier situation, and I thought I was going to go nuts!). [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:57 AM Flag

np: I posted below. The older kids will help out. My mom had my brother when I was 11yr and my sis was 7yr. She said we did everything for her [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:58 AM Flag

I am or, and I loved to help my mom when my sister was born. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:01 AM Flag

me too. Since I was 11yr I was a mother's helper and got lots of training [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:01 AM Flag

I'm pg with my 3rd and am 40yr old. I was all finished (so I thought). Both kids in school (ages 8yr and 4yrs) and life is very easy now but the urge for another was growing and growing. I just gave it and said if it's meant to be it will happen. I got pg on the first try and am 23 wks along now. I tried to fight the urge for a 3rd but I had to be honest..I wanted another. Things will be hard but times goes by fast [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:56 AM Flag

^^BTW my first 2 dc are 4yrs apart and the age diff is great. No jealousy, very helpful, very easy [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:56 AM Flag

OR below: I agree, 4yrs age gap has been wonderful for us, they are great together (and only 1 kid in college at a time!). [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:59 AM Flag

yes 1 kid at a time in college!..that's great [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:01 AM Flag

op: that's exactly how I feel. Was sure I was done, and then my older one had serious health problems, which took a few years to get through, and now I really feel this strong pull to have a 3rd - in my heart I think I always wanted 3 - I felt it a year ago too, and pushed it aside, but it's back, and stronger now. Wow, sorry don't mean to sound so melodramatic! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:59 AM Flag

not melodramatic..I felt just like this. I pushed that urge away for a while but I always wanted 3 too. I have 2 dds and it's been great but wanted a 3rd...now I'm having a son! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:00 AM Flag

We are thinking about the same thing. #2 is 3 now, and we would need to adopt (no more uterus here), so #2 will probably be 5 by the time we get a child. There is already a 4-year age gap between #1 and #2. But then I think how worried I was about the age gap between them, and how now they are great brothers and it just is what it is - it's our family, not an issue, once they were both actually here. I'm rambling, need some coffee, but hope you get me a bit. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:56 AM Flag

No personal experience but my dh has 2 younger sisters. One is 2yrs younger and the other is 12 yrs younger (all by same parents). He is much closer to the youngest one. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:58 AM Flag

Don't worry about the age gap. I have one who is five if we have a second it won't be until she is at least eight. There was a large age gap b/t my sister and me and it was really nice and we are very close. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:00 AM Flag

The years went quickly by after my 2nd was born. 39yo before I realized how much I really wanted another. Didn't go RE route. But now approaching 41 wish I had been more aggressive about trying for the 3rd. Feeling sad. So...if you feel the urge, I recommend going for it! GL. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:01 AM Flag

OP: thank you all so much! these are exactly the things I needed to hear - all the positives. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:04 AM Flag

np: I posted above (40yr old and pg). I used fertilityfriend.com for conception. I used their charting board and it worked on the first try. GL [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:09 AM Flag

I have met Moms who say they regret not having #3. I've never met anyone who says they regret having #3. GL [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:02 AM Flag

I think she should go for it, but that is silly reasoning - no one is going to admit, at least not to many people, that they regret having a dc. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:04 AM Flag

np not IRL maybe, but here people admit to all sorts of things! ;-) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:38 AM Flag

ITA. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:40 AM Flag

There is (almost) nothing worse than getting stuck trying to pass a mom and 3 kids on the sidewalk. If you have a third, please stick to cabs. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:53 AM Flag

really? you can't think of anything worse than this? too funny. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 06:13 AM Flag

I walk a lot. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 06:21 AM Flag