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[ - ] what happens when the man you love and are certain you will marry has a gf - do you just wait it out? anyone btdt? how did it work out or not work out? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.05.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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Carry on living your life, seeing other people. If it's meant to be it will be and if not you won't have wasted your time. I'm a great believer in fate [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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yeah, i've been doing just that, trying not to tempt fate but going crazy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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Does he know you are interested? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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it has forever been one of those unspoken things, his parents have always subtley wanted us together, it is a very long story that is hard to explain without knowing us [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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I knew when I saw my now dh's pic in a friends photo album that we would get together (despite there being no obvious way that we would ever meet). Three years later we met at our mutual friends wedding and have been together ever since. Strange things do happen. I hope whatever happens you end up happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:12 AM Flag
[ - ] New to the UWS. Will need to apply to preschools soon? Is there a list or some information somewhere? Not sure how to go about doing this and when?? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 07.05.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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check the DOE website [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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Parents League might be helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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If DB is currently 2, the day after labor day you request applications, start tours, parent interviews, play date observations, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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Or 2 sometime soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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There is a book called something like 'Guide to Manhattan private preschools' which I found really useful it lists lots (but not all of the schools) the ages they take, the hours and the application process. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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^available from B&N I think [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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Its a little dated, but lays out the basics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:10 AM Flag
[ - ] This is loosely related to all the "cheating" threads. The DOE has been working to centralize placement so that parents and schools can't game the system. A clear and stated motive is to steer parents toward their local schools. There is a petition circulating about this, however it primarily focuses on the administrative failings which could easily be fixed. The more serious question has to do with the feelings of "powerlessness" that parents are continuously expressing on this board. This centralization seems to be exacerbating that feeling, heightening the urge to run from, rather than work with, the system. How can parents win back the power? Can we simultaneously keep the system "fair"? 49 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.05.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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Good question. If we are forced to go to our zoned school (PS145), we will leave the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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Centralized systems are rigid and bureaucratic. The idea that everyone suffers equally does not appeal to me, personally. Insofar as KLein treats the mc in teh same shitty way the poor have always been treated, i do not see that as progress. Only limousine liberals rejoice when mc gets kicked around. I don't think the mc is more virtuous, but you dont' have democracy without a strong mc, so it behooves all of us, who believe in democracy, to keep the mc alive and well adn growing inside and outside the schools. The pulse of the mc in America is the idea that if you work hard and strive adn are clever, you can have a good life. Creating a public school system, where it is mostly a matter of chance whether your child goes to NEST with a 98 or 145 with a 98 or a matter of a lottery whether your child goes to MSC or PS 84, is creating a school system where any mc family who can opt out will. And insofar as mc families cannot opt out, they will be demoralized adn their children will suffer an inferior education and the tendency toward a Latin American style oligarchy with an elite layer, a sliver of mc, and a large disenfranchised population will become more pronounced. Parents have less and less unofficial room to manuever and less and less official power. Teh Chancellor doesn't listen. He dislikes mc people and thinks they are at best irrelevant, and at worst getting in his way of implementing his grand ever-changing schemes for the majority of underprivileged children in the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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but if everyone else were forced to go there, too, wouldn't it be a different school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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Probably not. It is RIGHT across the street from a massive housing project. Given it pulls from morning side heights, a lot of the kids come from non-english speaking homes. My kid who is already reading and writing (just turned 4) would be ignored. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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The point is that the school will always have a vast majority of kids who come from very poor, non-english speaking backgrounds. Even if the 20% of UMC parents sent their kids there, not much would change and due to NCLB's focus on the ones not passing the test....kids like mine would be underserved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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From Inside Schools...."PS 145 has been added to the state's list of schools needing improvement under No Child Left Behind because of inadequate performance on the state tests in English. (December 2007)". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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Maybe there is something wrong with expecting a child who is a recent immigrant to take a test in English? Imagine if you moved to France and your dc was expected to be proficient IN French equal to children born and raised there in only a year or two. Crazy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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>>>and by the way, you or your spouse don't speak French either! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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I don't disagree with you. But when huge portions of a schools population can't speak english when they enter Kindergarten, significant portions of the school's resources have to be allocated to these kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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That's exactly why we need to allocate more money to these schools. The best schools have large fundraising PTA who put money back into only their children's schools. The poor kids in the poorer schools who really need the money don't get it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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Too bad the pot of gold doesn't exist. UMC parents are already leaving the city due to crazy taxes. You pull funding from performing schools, they will become unperforming. I wish I had an answer for you. I do not. I do think injecting into performing schools some of these at risk kids is the best for them. Any school can handle well 5-10% at risk students. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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Yes, and that was one thing that was happening before Kline/Bloomberg/Tweed made all of these rules. Performing schools were able to fill seats from out of district/zone to add diversity and fill certain spots for SETTS/ESL etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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But they did not. They cherrypicked who they thought would be involved parents who will volunteer and bring money to the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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That's not true of most of the UWS schools I know who worked hard to bring in a diverse student body. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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PS87 is the only one that did, but even they did not take diverse kids from the projects, but by and large from MC families. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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np: Those schools DO get more money - up to 3x more per child for language and poverty. The problems go way deeper than just learning a language. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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Very true. The fanciest schools will never fix a screwed up family or lack thereof. Didn't know they already get 3X as much money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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NP:Children who are recent immigrants do not have to take the ELA tests. These are the scores without those kids; the kids that have been living here for at least two years and have been assessed as NOT "ELL - English Language Learners" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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haha, us too. zoned for PS241. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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Just looked it up on insideschools. I don't blame you. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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OP - All interesting comments. To the OR, your concerns are legit. You may not be as detached from the local community as you suggest (how many of the people sending their kids to PS145 may do services for you, or work at local businesses?) But it is true that in many cases the community defined by a particular school zone only exists as abstract lines on a DOE map. Why should you feel committed to it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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I love my community. No problem with it. I just have a super bright DC who currently loves to learn. I want him to go to a school where that will be developed. Being sent to a school with so many at risk kids will not do that. He will be given a book and asked to read independently much of the day as he already passes "the test." Not fair to him. I will quit my job and leave the city before sending him to PS 145. Much of the zone for 145 is east of broadway. We live west of broadway. Honestly, very different feeling communities east and west of broadway up here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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np: I agree. I will leave rather than send dd to 192. I am a teacher, however, and can't afford to move to a better zone. That is the solution that I get here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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right. west of broadway are the white MC and the columbia professors and the like who all think they have super bright kids who deserve better than all the kids east of broadway. well, if you believe that, please pack up and move south on broadway. no need for a lottery or other system. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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ITA. UMC people want all the eclectic richness and vibrancy that living in a multicultural community offers, but then they do what every they can do to send their children into virtual gated community schools. The schools should reflect the communities we live in all colors, incomes and cultures. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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I'm the OR. That is not true. PS145's zone is not diverse, it is heavily weighted to at risk, non-english speaking students. There are certain blocks in my zone I don't walk due to repeated threats from groups of youth. Or yesterday, the drunk mom's coming back from the park with their young girls using the "bitch" and "fuck" every other sentence. I could do without that type of "vibrancy", but this is where we could afford a 2 bedroom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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145 sounds like roses compared to my zone. At least you are in district 3 and can enter the district 3 lottery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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True. Fingers crossed on the D3 lottery if DC has a bad OLSAT day. Good luck to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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Good luck to you too. I have an extra year but am prepared to fight the fight if I must. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 03:32 PM Flag
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Ditto that. This is why I was frantic about getting my kid into a citywide G&T. With no district G&T and no progressive lottery type schools there was no other alternative. If that hadn't worked then I would have moved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 03:09 PM Flag
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I'm open to suggestions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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raise taxes to pay more for education, elimate zones using a district wide lottery and stop g & t programs within underpreforming schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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Money won't solve many of the problems. Sorry. We already pay some of the highest taxes in the country. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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and how much money do you give to your PTA? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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Don't have school aged kids yet. If I did, and I was lucky enough to get into a good citywide or hit the lottery, I'd probably give $3-5K. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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See, you will only give to a "good" school. It's the underpreforming schools that need your money more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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Well, my kids will not be attending a bad school. Rather move. I wouldn't mind if I was lucky enough to go to a good school for 20% of parent donations to go to a more needy underperforming "sister school." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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Dream on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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would never advocate for eliminating zones. that would be terrible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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Rezoning requires Federal intervention. They couldn't rezone earlier in the 2000s and that's why they created Regions to approximate rezoning, but it was a disaster. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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they ought to centralize process for prek-3rd grade, tracking of dcs, start g&t in 4th grade. add to resources at early grades [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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The truly powerless parents in NYC are most certainly not those griping on UB. That said, the vocal parents can certainly be positive agents of change. I welcome the move away from the old system, where people from far away neighborhoods could "talk their way into" good schools that they're not zoned for. I also believe the DOE needs to crack down hard on cheaters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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I agree. But the vocal parents who have a voice are being demeaned as selfish brats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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Demeaned as selfish brats? What are you referring to? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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They absolutely should not start GT in 4th grade - what in the world do you think will happen to the kids who are way ahead of the other kids? If anything, they should offer more accelerated programs and more differentiation in gifted programs, citywide and otherwise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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NP: I think they should start G&T around 3rd grade. Resources should go into guaranteeing more kids a better foundation in the first 2-3 yrs of elementary school. But I agree that we need more citywide schools in other boroughs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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nnp: The problem is that third grade is the first testing year and so administratively that would not work, plus who wants to change schools every 3 years? I'd say tracking in K-5 and selective middle schools is a way to go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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The zoning system is segregation and decreases diversity in all city schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 02:59 PM Flag
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That's absurd. There is no way the city has enough money to bus kids all over the city. The bus system is already largest in the country and the majority of the kids do go to their zoned schools. If they didn't, there would be sea of yellow buses all over the place every morning. Insanity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 04:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone ever used "dieters green tea"to loose weight?It is a natural laxative and I feel better since I've been taking it but now I want to stop taking it.An I going to blow up now that my baody will not be producing the extra bowl movement?Please I need constructive help because my wedding is next weekend and needed to loose weight.Now I'm scared to stop suddenly.I have been drinking the tea for 1 week.Thanks!! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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I don't know anything about this but can you cut down the amount you take rather than stop straight away? If you are concerned about your wedding then either stop taking it now so that you have time to restart before your wedding if it has a big effect or just keep going until after your wedding. GL for your wedding [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:06 AM Flag
[ - ] Increase the number of accelerated programs to accommodate all kids testing in the top 1% Eliminate all G&T for scorers below 99. Thereby increase intellectual diversity in general education and demand meaningful differentiation in heterogeneous classes. Reserve acceleration for the truly freakishly different child who, arguably, qualifies as special needs. Stop the middle class feeding frenzy! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.05.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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Let me guess: Your 99 scoring dc didn't get into the citywide you wanted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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Nope. 99.9% SB went to Anderson followed by 99.8% SB also went to Anderson. Selective middle schools and high school. Not sour grapes at all. Just seeing that there's a real problem with the 'gifted' label, which is only exacerbated by extending it further and further down the testing spectrum. I say that acceleration should be provided to those kids who will have real difficulty if they are mainstreamed. Fluent readers/writers doing some math at age 3 or 4 need a separate classroom. Everyone else can be accommodated along the gen ed continuum (except for those who need remediation and can't be mainstreamed either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 09:31 PM Flag
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Faze out g&t until 4th grade and test all kids... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 02:58 PM Flag
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yep. let the gifted kids suffer, just to make you happy. no thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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99 is by no means the holy grail of anything, and most of these kids will do fine regardless where they are for elementary, considering they all have involved parents which is really the most important thing. Some may actually love being a star in a gen ed program. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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You forgot to mention that in order to do that you have to use a real IQ test that measures, as accurately as possible (e.g. SB, which has held up in litigation across the USA) for four-year-olds, unlike flimsy off-the-shelf tests like OLSAT which anyone; not a trained psychologist, can administer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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DOE can't afford to pay for OLSAT for all kids, no way they can pay for SB. Not to mention there are not enough testers to administer it to 50,000+ kids either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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Then it should go back to the old system - those than can afford to pay privately should and those that cannot, should be offered free testing. There can certainly be enough testers in NYC if they allow for staggered testing over a wider period than the 2-3 months it used to be, depending upon child's age at testing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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Hunter tests 1000 kids a year and it's pretty hard to get appointment. 50,000 kids? And how do you think DOE will pay for the 45,000+ that will not pay themselves? I don't see it. Offering it free is one of few things with the new system that does make sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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don't forget weeding the slower kids out of gen ed so they don't hold everyone back. Oh, and any problem kids or different learners or behavior issues too. Put then all in the same class and label them "special" then we parents of smart kids don't have to see them anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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lol. half the smart kids have behavior issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 05:46 PM Flag
[ - ] my 18 m/o is destroying our pre-child designer walnut table. i need to buy a glass top to protect it. any ideas where i can order one? in NYC. tia. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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Any glazer should be able to help or you might consider one of those padded table top covers for the short term. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone been to the horse exhibit at AMNH yet? Would an 8yo and 5yo enjoy it? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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sure [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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And if they don't, you'll go see the dinosaurs and then go play in Central Park. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 04:09 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm in Maine for the long weekend and appreciate nothing about it! Beach, nature, a ton of trees. I much prefer city life 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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ITTTTTTTA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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me, too. i'd much rather prefer to fly to rent an apt in a european city for the $$$. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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maine is gorgeous! such a break from the urine/trash smell of nyc in summer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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you should get out of your apt... or clean it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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Think of it as floss for your brain. A chance to input new sights, smells, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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why can't you enjoy both? you're an idiot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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okay, dahling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:39 AM Flag
[ - ] My DH is still asleep! 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:15 AM Flag
[ - ] There is a DH posting here? Someone said their ds is going to their legacy school, Collegiate. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.05.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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They do post sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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You don't think thats strange? I think its just a VBA alert [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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No, the question was where do you live and where is dc going to K in the fall. He answered, leave him alone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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So what [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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then there are at least two... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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My DH posts here. He finds you entertaining. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:49 AM Flag
[ - ] MIL and FIL have come to stay for ONE MONTH. Already she has taken over the kitchen and he is leaving newspapers all over the floor and they have only been here two days. DH seems oblivious. Any advice? TIA. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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drink [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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mine leave little wet crumples up paper towels around the house [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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ewwwww [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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big time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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It is your house. Set the rules. "Dad/Fred, this is not your house.You can't leave your papers around." "Mom, I'd love some help in my kitchen, but we need to coordinate." (I would also suggest, if she is a good cook, this could be a learning experience.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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like this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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LOL. And she is a great cook. But a month is a month. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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I assumed "set the calendar ahead two weeks" would not be viewed as helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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who gave the OK for a month ? was it unavoidable ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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Yes it was. They live a long way away. They are also both going a little deaf, so they speak very loudly. I have a 10-month DS who is teething, and they have already woken him up once. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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MY IL's are like this as well, but I remind myself that nothing is forever, and they will not be with us forever either. I try to be positive about what really is an intrusion on some level. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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You are right. The other thing that bugs me about it is my DH's attitude to my MIL. Yesterday she started cleaning the kitchen, and I think DH should have told her to stop. Even if she wants to clean (!!) she is still a guest in our house. DH was just sitting there with FIL, watching this 70-year-old lady stacking the dishwasher. WTF? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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A 70 year old can't stack dishes? She is your dh's mother--let her BE his mother for a month. Be a bigger person for 30 days. Your marriage will be better for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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np: as the mom of boys I really appreciate this post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:20 AM Flag
[ - ] Burb moms that have a landscaper cut your lawn, where do you live, how much property do you have and how much do you pay to have the grass cut? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.05.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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We stopped the service when it got to $35 per cut. I still get a clean up 1x per year and its about $400. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:10 AM Flag
[ - ] How much should I give my brother for wedding gift? They only want money. Very good/close relationship. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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can you get them a gift card to someplace ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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I think they are saving to buy a house - they are both very "frugal". So I need to write a check and I just have no idea what the number is supposed to be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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That is tricky. We had a couple like that (mot family, exactly, but close) and we gave them one card for Home Depot (to renovate), one card to Williams-Sonoma (to stock the new kitchen) and one to Voctoria's Secret (to be funny). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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so how much in total? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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^^and I like the way you did the gc - very gracious [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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We were in a position to do $100 to each. She was our child's first babysitter, but there were connections with family as well. You may be in a diff position. I just didn't want to "donate" to a house, which is what they were preparing to buy as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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Eeeek! I was thinking $1k. (we earn $100k.). Am I insane? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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NP: That sounds awfully generous to me. I'd do $500. And I come from an Italian-American family accustomed to cash gifts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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Now I feel like a cheapskate. Is $1000 a normal wedding gift ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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I honestly don't know. It sounds like a nice round generous # but he is my only sibling... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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I'm going to tell myself that since this was five years ago and she was our babysitter, $300 wasn't totally cheap. Let me believe that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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np: not cheap at all. Sounds very generous to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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I don't think so. I have really rich relatives from CT (they all make at least 1 mil a year), and they all sent about about $300-$500 in gifts. I've never heard of $1000 in wedding gift/money. I was married 2 years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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uh, NO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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Sounds like crazy money for someone making $100K. How are your finances. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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I agree. That's how much we make and there is no way I would give that much to my sibling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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thats so little if you earn 100k. i would do 5000k. it is your brother after all. and this is once in a lifetime [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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$25.00 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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I gave my brother 1K. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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We gave my husband's brother $5K but we were in a position to do so at the time. Ironically, dh has since lost his job and while we are not poor in any sense, we are definitely more frugal now. $1K sounds good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 10:27 AM Flag
[ - ] what to serve with crudite? hummus? dip? what kind of dip? afriad not everyone likes hummus.... 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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I make a dip everyone loves. I mix a pack of cream cheese, a big dollop of sour cream, a big dollop of mayo, juice of a lemon, some shredded cheese, and three or four chipolte peppers in adobo sauce which have been cuisinarted. Mix it all together, heat it in the oven for about 30 min at 350 and it's fab. Not healthy, but fab ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 07:55 AM Flag
[ - ] I think most of the moms posting here that want to see citywide go away are not the demographic that the city created this for. If there hadn't been this option for my Brilliant DH who came from a crappy neighborhood with a single parent he would not be where he is today. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.05.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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What demographic would that be. I think we need more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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if you create citywides in each borough, they will come to reflect the population in that borough. people given the option of a citywide close by will choose it 9/10 times regardless of what is being posted here. they will only be diverse as the region in which they exist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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True, but Brooklyn and Queens are quickly becoming rather diverse (i.e., white Upper Middle Class are moving there in large numbers). Those I know who live in Brooklyn would love racial and economic diversity, they just want good school and a parent body who supports education. A Brooklyn citywide would have that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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why make it citywide? doe should be creating gifted k-8s...district wide makes the most sense. there is diveristy in every corner of the city [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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I guess to leave open options. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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Maybe they are fantastic in bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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