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[ - ] 7 month old db can play in her crib after a nap for over an hour. At what point should i go in and get her or should i let her play till she cries? She was supposed to eat 1/2 hour ago? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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why are you letting her play for so long by herself after she's been sleeping (by herself) for so long. Don't you want to interact with your child? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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I'm sure she interacts with her all day long. The woman deserves a break and every Db should learn to play on their own, esp if they obviously enjoy it. I'm jealous! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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Let her play until she starts crying. What a wonderful trait! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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Seriously! Or get her maybe 1/2 hour after. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:30 AM Flag
[ - ] Does your dd care what kind of towel she has at day camp? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.07.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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yes it has to be the green tie dye one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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Do you accomidate her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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yes, why wouldn't I? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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Do you do laundry everyday? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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not everyday but i also only wash the towel once a week unless it's totally filthy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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it's a towel, for crying out loud. In the whole grand scheme of things to fight about, I don't think a towel is a big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:20 AM Flag
[ - ] Would you move into a home with your DH if it was left to him solely and he refuses to put your name on the deed? 43 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.07.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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I would feel uncomfortable about it. Have you talked to him about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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sure if i didn't have to clean it, pay mortgage, utilities etc... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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Why doesn't he want to add your name? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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I don't know, when I try to talk to him about it we argue. His father and uncle were both divorced and were taken for their homes, I guess he wouldn't want this happening to him. I mean, we have two DC together, I can't understand this ignorance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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Sorry. He sounds like an a$$. Tell him you wont pay the mortgage if your name isn't on the deed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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Maybe you need a post nuptial agreement. P.S., his father and uncle were not "taken" for their homes - it was part of a settlement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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Maybe there is a lawyer on who can help you. If you live in the house for the next 30 years, raise your dc's there, clean it, pay the mortgage, etc, maybe it will be considered yours as well from a legal standpoint. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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I thought of this as well. I am still insulted though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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I would be too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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The big issue here is why does he refuse to put your name on the deed? That would send off a whole bunch of red flags to me that have nothing to do with the moving decision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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I guess out of fear of him screwing up and me putting his balls on a cutting board. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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he sounds like an asshole to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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np: I don't know, I own a home my grandmother left me and DH never said anything about being put on the deed (I got it before marrying him). It's not the house we live in though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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This is actually very common for people that have money in the family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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Yes, the money generally just follows the blood line, not the ILs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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would I move into a free house? yeah. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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DH lives in "my" house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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How so? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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it sounds like you are not going to get your way this time. I would drop it. he is not receptive to the idea right now. maybe down the road you can convince him but i would let it go for now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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I own it and am solely on the deed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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NP - any mortgage on the house? How long had you been married when you bought house, or did you buy it before you married? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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yes, we have a mortgage and the house was purchased a few years ago, after our marriage, and he is the responsible party but it is my name on the deed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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maybe you should just have a full post-nup agreement covering all assets and income. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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nope. He'll have to get over his relatives marriages and either get into or out of mine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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i'm not on our home's deed...we're lazy about stuff like that. dh just put my name on his bank accts after 10 years. but, everything is taken care of in a will. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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Of course will does nothing for you if there is a divorce, you realize this right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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yes, i realize that. but i don't think i'd want to live in this place anyhow. dh would definitely make sure that dd and i were taken care of in event of divorce, and i'd get 50% of his money, anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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Depending on the state you live in, you may get 50% of the house too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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I think he has a right to the house that was left to him alone. I would say that I would not move in however unless he agrees that the appreciation in value of the house while you live their as a couple will be shared equally. Otherwise you don't have the ability to share in the appreciation of the marital home which is the single largest asset most people have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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I don't get it. The house was left to him. As long as you stay married, you can enjoy the benefits of it. Why does he have to put you on the deed? Are you anticipating your financial status after a divorce? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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You don't get it? You are naive. Most marriages fail. You must protect yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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So, not only are you planning on what you're entitled to in the event of a divorce, you believe trying to get partial ownership of a house that you did nothing to help procur is fair. You sound like the ideal wife. This house is his birthright, it has nothing to do with you. If you want purchase a home or some other asset and don't share it with him. Why do you feel entitled to own a portion of his home? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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It is his house. With this argument you are trying to say that OP should get the most out of this marriage financially. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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Yes, if you are married, it is half yours regardless of deed. Did you sign a prenup? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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I guess men and women think differently. My wife has an enourmous amount of property coming to her after her dad dies. He's very elderly, so this is emminent. I never thought about asking to be put on the deeds once. I'm just happy for her and eventually our dd. I'm really sickened by the responses on this post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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I think this is more a UB woman kind of reaction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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I hope so. I believe you're right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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Look, it's something that was left to him solely, let him do what he wants with it. Put yourself in his position, if something was left to you solely (a big yacht, condo shares, etc..) how would you feel if dh kept nagging to put his name on the title? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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Exactly! ITTA!! This just shows her character. She's obviously thinking about what would happen in the event of a divorce. She wants to carve up an asset that rightfully belongs in his family. If I were her husband, I wouldn't budge one inch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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follow up to above: You feel more emotional about the house because we tend to feel that way about homes - the place we raise our families and live. But you have to recognize that it's just an asset that was left for him. If you are worried, start accumulating your own assets, and reconsider sharing all the items willed to you solely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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ITTTA! Great post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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If the family wanted both of you to own it, the will would've stipulated that. If it was left to him solely, you have no right to it, IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:12 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone try the lemon juice-cayenne pepper,maple syrup fast? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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yes, it's called the master cleanse [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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how did you feel on it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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many people. it comes off but will all then go right back on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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trying to lose weight postpregnancy- not coming off these last two weeks. lost 10 pounds already- but I feel like I am starving myself for nothing because I lost no weight these last 2 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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How many weeks Post are you ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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6 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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Jeez. Relax ! It comes off, but not that quickly unless you're a Hollywood actress training for a film role and have to fit into a super hero suit ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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it does not come off me without dieting. it took long with my first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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But you have to start now ?! Are you BF ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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ugh... that's gross. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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if you have just had a child, are planning to have a child in the near future you should NOT do this...it's a total body experience and will screw you up. From most people, if you dont stick with the proper diet (which is gross) after the master cleanse, the weight comes right back on. Good luck and be careful! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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i will [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:19 AM Flag
[ - ] What is the best school district in lower westchester for a moderately affluent black family (budget 800k to $1.2m) in lower Westchester? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.07.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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Mamaroneck,Rye Neck,Ardsley,Hastings, Doobs Ferry and Irvington. If it were a more affluent family I will also suggest Scarsdale. These school district are reasonably diverse, but if you want a very diverse school district I will suggest New Rochelle (Ward and Davis elementary schools). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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^^^Dobbs Ferry not Doobs Ferry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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op: thanks. I was asking for a friend, I had the same schools in mind including Scarsdale since it has the same proportion of black students as the other school districts you mentioned but wanted to get other people's opnions. Scarsdale homes start at about $650k so I think there budget can get them a home there easily. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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She didn't mention Scarsdale, because you said the "b" word. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Why do so many of you HATE the G&T moms (especially Anderson moms?) I have a 2 year old so i am not yet investigating this yet. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.07.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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The ones I know (whose dc's go to Anderson and Lower Lab) are really competitive and constantly comparing their dc's school to the tt privates. They think their dc's are the most intelligent dc's in the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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btw, the two Hunter moms I know are not like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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because they have nothing to prove. they KNOW their kids are the most intelligent in the city;) signed not a hunter mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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Hunter has the exact type of parent. they are just less impulsive about airing their business publicly. they all just smile in a low key way, and say everyone was qualified who made 2nd round. that graciousness provides them with a whole lot of latitude. they are pardonned! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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also, i think because they are not DOE, they are less likely to identify with the "we the people" mentality of most public school moms. Less likely to feel they are the center of the universe and of NYC politics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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Oh please, every school has nut job parents. Most are normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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Its a bad year to get an anderson accept. so much controversy over DOE changes, and the negativity has been focused on this one school in the system. I think it was nest in years past. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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The negativity exists only on UB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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bingo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 03:10 PM Flag
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My advice: form your own opinion. I almost let the negative hype keep me from sending ds to NEST last year. The parent body there is nothing like what is described on UB. Nothing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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That's just nonsense. This is a very small group of petty women with no lives who are creating this issue. Most people in NYC, even parents, have not heard of Anderson or Nest - just as most adults without children (other than those living on the UES) haven't heard of Chapin or Spence or even Dalton. I'm sure the parents at the G&T schools are not that different from those at TT or Gen Ed public school or even special ed schools - some will be active others will never show their faces, some will be snotty others will be friendly. The public schools will have more diversity, the private schools may have more resources, but not necessarily. The kids will not be too different. IGNORE THE HYPE. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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OR: That was my point, "form your own opinion." But in fairness, if you were new at all this stuff and doing research about schools last year, NEST -- especially after that NY magazine article -- would have looked suspect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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Last year I was surprised that some people bought into the bad press and turned down Nest spots. That article that came out reported on events that were over a year old so it wasn't really relevent at the time. Personally, I was really happy that the article came out when it did. My DC was waitlisted for the school and I think the article helped him getting into the school once the waitlist opened up. I know one parent from my district who turned down a spot for her dc stating the "competitive parents" thing. It couldn't be further from the truth. Everyone I met was really laid back. Even if it was like that, I wouldn't know it, I am too busy minding my own business. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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I could not agree more. But I do find that waving as the kids march past the window thing a little odd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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Thank god the kids in first grade march in the other direction and we won't have to stand there waving to them anymore. I will be able to get work 10 minutes sooner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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np: What are you guys talking about? Drop off in the a.m.? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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yes. Are you a new NEST parent? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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No, just curious [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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NP: I am - what is this? Also - can you ask another question? What happens at recess in the way of security? I was a little surprised to see the gates wide open with no one really "manning them", when I went to register DC for K. There were a lot of the little ones out (had to be K or first, not much older), and only one or two adults that I could see. do you know if this is normal? Seemed like it would be so easy for someone to just come in and snatch a kid. TIA! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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Recess- Sounds about right. There is staff there. I've never felt uncomfortable about that space. The earlier post is about drop off. The kids play till the bell is rung, then they line up and the teachers come and collect their class. They then go up the closest stairs which means a minute later they walk past a bunch of windows on the second floor which overlook the courtyard. Many K parents stand in the courtyard and wave to their kid as s/he walks by to class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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I never did that. I didn't have the time and I don't think it mattered to my dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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One morning I left without waving and at the end of the day caught crap from my kid. She did care. You are lucky yours didn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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I hate to admit that there is a part of me which sometimes wishes he was more like that... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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One word: Jealousy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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yep. OP do a search about Anderson just before the placements came out. just about everyone had it listed first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 03:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you think it is fair for one child with a serious peanut allergy to dictate what the entire school eats for lunch? 62 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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I know this is not PC, but no, literally one child, no. But I doubt there is only one child with allergies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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yes i do. if my child had severe allergies i would expect the school to act accordingly. i feel for those parents who have kids with allergies! i don't know how they cope it would push me over the edge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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ITA. Family we know has a severe problem with DD who is allergic to nuts, eggs, and dairy. Epipen allergic. I don't know how they cope when the a simple meal can be literally deadly to DD [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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yep, dd's school is in the process of moving to be a nut free school it's not that big of a deal for us as she is not allergic. imagine what it would be like for you to have to worry every single minute that your child might be exposed to something that could kill him or her. btw my dd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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last year this little girl held hands with another boy from class to walk to library. He had eaten cheese Doritos and she swelled up and had to be epi-penned. Seriously, how much dairy could there even be in a Dorito. It's terrifying for her family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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would it be fair to that one kid to die because the other parents can't be bothered not to put peanut products in with lunch? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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But dont count on me to be rigorous about preventing peanut products in DCs lunch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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that's very callous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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Yup but so what? I am not reading labels and picking through he grocery store for foods your kid can tolerate in addition to the food preferences and needs of my own kids. And I guarantee you no one else will either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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Our family doesn't eat meat, so to take an entire protien group off the table is a big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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that's bull, we're vegetarian too, it's not like we can't survive without peanuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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we are vegetarian and peanut butter is a HUGE part of my child's diet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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you may be an ass - and I believe that you are - but I do not believe that other parents are as lazy and unkind as you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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lololol - and I wouldn't put my childs life at stake to prove my point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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so I suppose you would home school, which seems wise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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my dd's class was nut free last year and I actually learned a great deal about allergies and was able to provide her with nut free homemade lunches everyday. It wasn't really that big of a deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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exactly, but you are a caring and involved parent. the lady above is not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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I am a very caring and involved parent - to my kids. Yours? Not so much. And again, consider this across the board and be careful whom you trust with your childs life if the whiff of a peanut is so deadly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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exactly. You're the mom who raises self-involved assholes. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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NP: The OR is trying to be offensive, but I think the overall question is a valid one. If you are the parent of a severely allergic child, how much of the burden of accomodating your child's allergy can you reasonably and comfortable switch to your school or to other parents? Not sending PB&J is one thing - easy enough for parents to do and easy enough for the school to spot if the parents don't comply. But if you start talking about reading labels for all food products or needing to wash other DC hands/brush their teeth if they have contact with peanuts at home, there's a possiblity that even a "caring and involved" parent makes an innocent mistake that ends up hurting your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.15.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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You are so wrong...at nut free schools parents do read labels to help out a dc with life threatening allergies. Anything I miss comes homes with a note from the teacher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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This must be private school right? There is no way parents would do this at most public schools. Some kids are lucky to be fed anything at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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if the allergies are that life threatening than they should not be somewhere that could not possibly be monitored closely enough. i do not think you should dictate what an entire school of children should eat. what if someone is a vegetarian and they have nuts as a regular part of their diet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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Kids with that kind of allergy need to be in a sep. facility. Both to avoid the issues their presence brings but also to ensure their safety - I wouldn't want to count of all those other people for my kids safety. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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it is totally illegal to seperate kids with allergies, why not seperate them by race, color or religion as well. What a dopey idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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Of course it is not "totally illegal" to separate children with special needs - it is done every day in every school district in America. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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not in a totally different facility as above stated. _R_E_A_D_ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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W - R - O - N - G [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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According to special education law, students must be with their nondisabled (nonallergic?) peers as much as possible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.15.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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That not true at all. Kids with allergies do sit at a separate table at our public school, especially on PB&J days. Why would that be illegal? It's done for their safety. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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but WHY is this happening ?! It's scary and creepy that a few years ago this didn't really exist and now it is a serious issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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FYI: The claims of "deadly allergies" and the actual incidence of untoward events don't match. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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It has actually been blown way out of proportion. Deadly peanut allergies are extremely rare, but most people don't know the difference b/t a mild one and a severe one so err on the side of caution. That said, the deadly variety do exist, so if most people do overreact to dc's allergies some do not. It really is not that big of a deal not to pack PB & J. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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did even the not deadly ones exist - say - thirty years ago ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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Yes, they did. I had a friend with the deadly one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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I hear about it all the time now and as a kid never heard about it at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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Because people are more aware. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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so you do not believe there is an increase ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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np: in that Harpers article below, a researcher from the CDC says there are too few actual allergies to base any epidemiological statements. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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Well, I'm 40 and I knew two kids growing up who had deadly nut allergies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.15.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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not to mention the fact - where does it end? What about the kids with egg/wheat/soy allergies? What about kids that are diabetic? What about kids that are immuno-suppressed? By the time kids are in school (grade school, that is), the child should know what they can/cannot eat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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the biggest difference is that nut allergies are more likely to be airborne. and peanut butter is more likely to stick on kids' hands. and peanut and tree nut allergies are more likely to have severe reactions than egg, wheat, soy and other allergies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.15.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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Yes and No. I mean at what point do you "stop!" I work at a private school and we accomodate EVERY illness/allergy. But we had someone complain early in the year that they had a pepper (as in seasoning) allergy and asked that we do not serve or cook with it - GIVE ME A BREAK! Unless the very smell of something could potentially kill you (which I know a peanut allergy could entail). It's tough and I'm not sure what the answer is! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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Lately I feel schools accomodate peanut allergies more than any thing else. If your kid was in wheel chair the school wouldn't spend the $$ to make the school wheel chair accessable. If you child was blind or deaf they would tell you we can't handle that here. ADHD and not on meds. SEE YOU LATER. but a peanut allergy is this big PC thing to get behind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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The makers of the epipen and its competitor put a lot of money into this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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I can atest to that. My dc was in a wheel chair for half of last school year. The school did nothing to accomodate. We had to do everything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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Move to Oregon if your kid has a disability.... we have really accomodating ADA policies. The whole school would be ADA accessible to begin with, before anyone even needed it to be. Haven't heard quite so much about peanuts though, so I guess its not the place for you if you have that problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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I think it is fair to require that the claims be documented and the kids be retested regularly. If the child is really so severely allergic that mere exposure could be fatal, than of course ban peanuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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^^^then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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I found this interesting: http://harpers.org/media/slideshow/annot/2008-01/index.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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Forbidding nuts is not a difficult task for parents to meet. Sorry. You get used to it. It's not that hard. It's worth everyone's time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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If no one in the school is allergic -- should nuts be baned? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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That is the rational for telling Americans they can't do something now? "It isn't a lot of work. Sorry, you'll get used to it." We ought to have a higher standard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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My school just went nut free and I am waiting for the new year to request a meeting with the director to review the issue. For one thing, having a nut free school does nothing for children who have serious allergies to other foods. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.15.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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I think it's good for my non-allergic son to learn to be considerate of others & that there's a time & place for everything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.15.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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1. this child is not dictating what they eat for lunch. she is dictating what they don't eat for lunch. 2. i don't know about fair but it is necessary. schools are required to provide safe environments. the same way they need ramps for wheelchair students. what i'm curious about is what's going to happen when there's a generation of highly allergic adults. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.15.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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Jesus Christ, are you willing to endanger the health and safety of another child for A PEANUT BUTTER SANDWICH??? Newsflash for you: the world is full of tasty, peanut-free foods that your child will enjoy eating during lunchtime. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.15.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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I love you and everyone above who supports peanut free! signed a mom of a peanut allergic child [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.15.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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I know a child with a life-threatening milk allergy who got raised welts on his leg when another child's yogurt splattered on his pants when she was opening it. Fortunately this type of serious allergy is rare. I think the policy in all schools should be that children are aware and respectful of all of the dietary restrictions of all the children in the classroom so everyone can participate. That means, to me, that children be sure to eat their own lunches and children with pb sandwiches wash their hands after lunch of there is a nut allergic child or if there is a severely nut allergic child who can't be around pb fumes then everyone in the class agree to refrain from pb sandwiches. It also means no ham during the Green Eggs and Ham day if there are kosher or strict muslim children in the class, no pizza parties if there are milk allergic children in the class and no turkey on thanksgiving if there are vegetarian children. I am actually being sincere about this and not snarky. One year for my ds' bday party there were two kids who--put together--had allergies to everything and I brought to school Italian ices instead of cupcakes and all the kids loved it. I think children should be taught to eat their own lunches individually and that group food should be a communal activity in which all can participate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.15.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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Could the child with peanut allergy die? That seems to me to warrant some pretty strong measures by the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.15.08, 11:58 AM Flag
[ - ] I decided to put my non spanish speaking 5 and 3 y.o. in Spanish emersion camp. Today was the first day and I am worried that I have made a terrible mistake. The kids all know each other from school (the camp runs a school during the year) and they all speak spanish and my kids looked clueless. WWYD? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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keep them there. my dd did french camp for three weeks, she really enjoyed it even though she didn't understand much. it's good for them to have exposure to hearing another language, esp at this age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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it's day uno. Wait and see a bit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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sorry but you sound so un-fun [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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you sound like a lunatic. "so un-fun"? what are you even talking about? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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A lunatic is someone who sends a toddler and a young child to a language immersion camp with no friends and no foreign language skills. I can't wait to see what you've cooked up for them next summer...Camp Guantanamo? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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I think you're DH is coming home for lunch. Get off the computer and look as if you're doing something productive with your time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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thats the best you got Fraulein? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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No, but with what you're working with you can't afford to spend time here. It seems to be too taxing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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roflmao [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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Must be so nice in your insular world with no outsiders and exposure to other cultures. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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np: Why not learn a language that is more useful and geared to achievement? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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You disgust me you racist bitch. Conversation is over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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FYI - language has nothing to do with racism. But thanks for the laugh you xenophobe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:39 AM Flag
[ - ] one month till the wedding... How do I drop five-six pounds? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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A snap. When you feel hungry, have a big glass of water first. Eat breakfast and switch from coffee to green tea. Lunch is always a salad with grilled protein, and dinner is similar. Now, run around trying to make your future MIL happy, and you've done it ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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np - and add exercise! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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I exercise all the time, but then end up eating high fatty foods. I have to break the cycle! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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stop the insanity ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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right 30 minutes here and there and she'll be set. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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I can't stand my future MIL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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This was so difficult for me, especially before the wedding, but try not to drink alcohol. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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sounds good to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone here have an irregular heartbeat? What do you do for it? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.07.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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I've had a heart murmur since birth. I mostly ignore it but I'm constantly having to explain to every doctor that it has been there since birth. My dentist does make me take antibiotics before cleaning to avoid infection. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:03 AM Flag
[ - ] 12 week ultrasound, baby did move much at all. doctor said everything looked good, but it freaked me out. anyone else? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.07.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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maybe db was sleeping [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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Was there a heartbeat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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I am 20 wks along and I feel the same way. Last two were gymnasts. This one is looks like he is in a medative trance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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my db barely moved at all of the ultrasounds and sonograms. She would put her hand in front of her face as if she wasn't ready for her closeup, but that was about it. I have heard that if you have some juice or something with sugar in it before you go, that can wake the baby up a bit and get them moving. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:32 AM Flag
[ - ] When I drink too much I am so mean to dh. I bring up past events and end up really pissing him off. I need to not drink 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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Now that you see that you can try to do it. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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I feel so bad. He literally was pissed last night because I kept on and on about dumb stuff... Something so stupid as him looking @ porn every now and again... He's a guy, and most guys do that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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My bad habit is always answering with "No" initially to anything and I had to re-train myself and my responses. Once I saw it and that it was unfait to my DH, I did it and it's made a diff for us. Now that you see the drinking leads to stupid fights, can you just stop ? Or is the drinking a problem in and of itself ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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I think it is a small problem but focusing on not drinking, and instead, go workout at night will help keep me away from it all together. When I get bored, I like to drink, which then causes problems. But stopping is the only way I will avoid stupid fights. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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Than work out or take a bath or whatever... If the drinking isn't the problem than it's a preety easy fix I would guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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Staying busy is the only way I won't drink. I can can see it becoming an issue later on if I don't do something now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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A gf of mine didn't go to AA, she does something called "sensible sobriety" or something like that. She drinks, but controls it. I don't know aything about it but she swears by it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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you sound awful! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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thanks... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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try aa? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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sounds like you need therapy to deal with latent anger issues to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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can't afford it.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:57 AM Flag
[ - ] What are some good kid-friendly,walkable neighborhoods to move to in Portland? No suburbs where I have to drive all the time... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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you should google Cookie magazine... they did an article about this a few months ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Breastfeeding 1 mo ds. How do you know how long to feed for? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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not more than 15mins per side -- after that, it's for fun, not food. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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I'm lucky if I get 30 mins, usually it's more like 20. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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that's fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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what's wrong with a little fun? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:13 AM Flag
[ - ] I literally have to tell my 8 yo dd to clear her plate every single time she gets up from the table. She's spacy in that way. Any suggestions for getting things to sink in instead of having to say it? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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Don't give her desert unless she does it without you telling her. That will change behavior fast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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If she doesn't clear breakfast plates she blows dessert for the day? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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np: yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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Thanks I'm going to try it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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another side of the same coin: have a reward for when she *does* clear her plate: 8yo girls still love stickers, right? How about a sticker chart, and then after a 3, 5 or 7 day stretch, a small reward? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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this sounds better to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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I think 8 is too old for stickers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:27 AM Flag
[ - ] Tell me where to go for a luxury babymoon (4-5 days) at end of August in the U.S.? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.07.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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Are you open to Canada? We went to Montreal and stayed at the W. It was really nice (and a short plane ride which was my prerequisite) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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hadn't actually thought about Canada, probably bc I had warm weather/beach in my head... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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np: Mt Tremblant (near Montreal) is great, and there's a big lake for swimming etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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We went in May and knew we had a few summer beach weekends planned so were looking for an urban/restaurant/spa experience. What about coastal New England somewhere? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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The 4 Seasons on the Big Island in Hawaii [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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If you want to drive go to Lee, MA to the Devonfield - gorgeous and you can spa at the Cranwell - eat at Chez Nous in town and see lots of great entertainment. That's what we did and it was wonderful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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What about Big Sur? Or Santa Barbara? Or the wine region near (oops, that won't work). I don't have a specific recommendation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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Where are you? How far along are you (i.e. how long do you mind flying?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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Yes, good questions! If you are in the city and past 7 months, maybe Kiawah or Charleston/Savannah/Kiawah (I forget which is nearby). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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Do you not know Big Sur is on fire and has been evacuated? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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Santa Barbara is on fire as well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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