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[ - ] Public school mom here -- we never applied to any privates. Is there some sort of preliminary vetting that goes on at privates, or does everyone who submits an application form automatically get a playdate/interview? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.16.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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you automatically get interview/playdate unless you submit late and they don't have any interview spots left. there isn't a "vetting" process based on the application aside from sibling or legacy status. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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everyone gets an interview/playdate who applies, but they definitely sort applications into "yes" and "no" piles as soon as they get them. For those in the "no" pile, they sort of go through the motions with you. The KEY here is not letting on that you are in the "no" pile while they are going through the motions with you. Some schools (like Dalton) for example have pretty transparent methods (like if you don't interview with Babby, you are probably a "no"...... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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really? Please tell me more... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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once they have the full package--ERBs, school report, application with essays and parent's pedigree (career, degree/college/university attended)--they probably do a preliminary sort, then further sort after the interviews/playdate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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So if, say, dc has good ERBS (above 95), good PSreport, dh went to HYP, I went to TTlibarts, have interesting careers, etc., we might end up in the "yes" pile? (hypothetically... just curious) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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I'd imagine you'd at least be considered, though there are no gaurantees these days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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of course - i'm just wondering how our "credentials" would hold up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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then there's the waitlist "maybe" pile... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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right, but if you are put in that pile from the start you still don't have much hope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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Do you really think that the basement interview thing is true. I think that they get so many applicants that, unless you are super famous, it is just the luck of the drawl who gets Babby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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definitely not luck of the draw. it's very deliberate and methodical. not everyone who has virtually no shot goes to the basement -- they mix it up and this year sent families to interview at the upper school and in the reception room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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It just seems unlikely. First of all, it is not a good way to keep employees. If I knew that I would be interviewing a majority of parents in the basement whose dc would never get in, I don't think I'd like my job very much. And many people interview before their dc's scores or school reports are in. FWIW, we were interviewed in the basement and dc was reject, but I think it had more to do with the fact that we put every single SS ahead of Dalton on our list and that information was communicated by our PSD. I could be wrong, but I would hate to think that they decided dc would not get in before they met any of us and only knew from our application that neither of us attended Ivies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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The basement thing is ABSOLUTELY true. We had a basement interview when we applied for K (for the 06/07 school year). DH and I joked about being led to the basement afterwords but never talked to anyone about it. The following admissions year (for 07/08) people on UB coined the term "basement interview". Babby admittedly reads UB schools board. This season (for 08/09) nobody had a basement interview. Coincidence? I think not! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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Um, many people did. People posted about it here. We had one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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We had a basement interview this year. Boy was that a turnoff. They hadn't met DD yet and they didn't have her scores. The dingbat who interviewed us hadn't read the application or my carefully-written essay. We pulled our application, because (a) we thought Dalton was crass and (b)we wanted SS anyway - DD is headed for TT SS in the fall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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It is true that one of the interview rooms is in the basement. It is not true that where you interview has any bearing on whether or not your child is admitted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 06:24 AM Flag
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How do you know that? I think it seems very unlikely, but we did have a basement interview & the woman seemed fake and dc was rejected. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 06:31 AM Flag
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^^^^ But I still don't think that the place of interview had anything to do with it - but it does make you wonder. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 06:32 AM Flag
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not true, babby interviews selectively. my psd called and recommended us and we got our interview with her, but then dinged. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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This is simply not true at the schools that I am familiar with. The child interview carries a lot of weight in the decision process. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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we interviewed at Dalton without ERBs, without any PSD feedback, we are nobodies and got Babby. Ended up getting in, but I think plenty of people interview before Dalton has any knowledge if they are interested in them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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Everyone gets an interview, except at Trinity this is at least how it used to be back in my day, but after you get the interview then the vetting starts but once the scores are in the two piles are made [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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Trinity gives 2 family interviews to those with no shot, 1 family interview for those who have a chance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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I don't get that. What do you mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 05:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know of any week-long programs in the city for elementary-aged kids? I want to find something for 7 year old dd for one week in August. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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I know of some vbs but only 1/2 day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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what are vbs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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Vacation Bible School [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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you can do chelsea piers for a week. also check YMCA day camps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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Chelsea Piers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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try oasis camps [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Poll: What is your job (or are you SAHM), and are you happy with it. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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gallery director. yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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SAHM - very happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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p/t curator, yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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just curious- what type of degree/training do you have? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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phd, have taught college level art history courses and worked at range of arts orgs from small-major museums [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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good for you. are you in NYC? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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yeah, although for the record, I make peanuts. But doing what I enjoy is my priority. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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that's great. I'm he poster above who runs a gallery, and i would love to do what you do someday. I have an MA but no phd, but want to do p/t once i have dcs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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^^ oh, and everyone in the arts makes peanuts, so I totally understand! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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attorney and yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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EEO Specialist, love it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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what is EEO? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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Equal Employment Opportunity (it's HR) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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journalist/editor/producer. yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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inhouse lawyer-meh. i want a job in fashion/something more glam [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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producer/editor, only medium [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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sahm - very happy with it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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marketing consultant. love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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PR, WAHM, yup [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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Assistant Professor. Love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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SAHM - happy but i admit it hurts my ego to not have a paycheck. not enough to return to work but it does. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 12:14 PM Flag
[ - ] I want to stop pumping at work. Down to just one pumping session. Had mastitis 3 times over the past 5 months. I tried not pumping yesterday and immediately developed a painfully plugged duct. Any advice? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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Are you cutting down on the time you are pumping? I would do this rather than go cold turkey. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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I haven't tried that yet. I generally pump for 10 minutes or so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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Each time you pump cut back the time by a couple of mins to allow your body to adjust. The other thing you can do is just express enough each time to make yourself comfortable and again your body will adjust over time. It will take a few days at least. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 12:52 PM Flag
[ - ] I so want to have an affair. I've been married for 10 years and it just isn't the same. My DH is really getting on my nerves. I met someone from elementary school and he is HOT. I am soooo attracted to him. One time wont hurt, will it? Or does this mean I should be thinking about leaving DH? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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Oh please. You sound like you are still in elementary school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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yes, one time will hurt, because likely it won't just stay one time, and infidelity is still infidelity, even if it is just once. Have you spoken with your dh about your feelings? That is the place to start. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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You know what, I appreciate your view but there is more than one way to have a marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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ITTA. I've been seeing other men on the side for years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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and your marriage is BETTER for it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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no, you shoudl be thinking about what's up with your marraige.maybe it needs someowrk, maybe yor expectations are unreasonable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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people really don't take the "for better or for worse" to heart, do they [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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I assume you have dcs. Maybe you should look to improve your relationship before destroying it. Think twice g.l. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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How would you feel if you husband posted this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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YES ONE TIME WILL HURT. and you should not be thinking about leaving DH, at least not because you are hot for someone else. jesus. 10 years with one person, of course he'll get on your nerves and it won't be 'the same'. go have drinks with a friend, or read a book, or see a movie. just step away a little and you'll likely see that you do not want to f up what you have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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One man cannot do right in one department of life while he is occupied in doing wrong in any other department. Life is one indivisible whole (Gandhi). IE- you can't compartmentalize an affair- it will affect you, your marriage, your kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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which is a great thought but not a great example. gandhi was no gandhi in his sexual life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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Hey! You're right. That just made me laugh. Still- I think that if you want to start out with someone, you need to do it clean. So if OP wants to be with another man, she should end her marriage first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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i don't disagree! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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Ever hear of statutory rape? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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if your dh says its ok, its ok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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I totally understand. You shouldn't but at times I feel that way as well. get attracted to other guys and especially when my dh is being an a-hole. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 06:48 AM Flag
[ - ] I've posted this before so aplogies. DH and I just got off the phone with our lawyer and when we told him that we'd like tomake our 21 y/o son the guardian of our 7 y/o (our 25 y/o dd is not an ideal candidate and our middle guy wants it very much) in the event of our death he was quite negative. We really don't have anyone else. dh's siblings are much older than he is - they're in their 60s and my brother has had many issues. Money is not a guge issue, there will be enough for everyone. wwyd? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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What were the lawyers concerns? Hopefully this is something that will never need to be enacted anyway but I would have thought it was up to you who you chose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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I would do it. A similar thing happened in my family (I was the young child, my older sister- who is the youngest of my 5 older sibs) was made my guardian. Thank goodness my parents are still with us, but I know if something happened my sister would have done a great job. She now has 3 great kids of her own, and she is the guardian for my db if something were to happen to dh and me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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it is your decision, not your attorney's. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone who has bought or sold real estate lately...what is a reasonable amount of time to give a prospective buyer to sign a purchase agreement (contract)? At what point would you start thinking they are dragging their feet? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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If you have a prospective buyer, you're in better shape than a lot of sellers out there right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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even in manhattan? We've had a lot of traffic....but I know things have slowed down a lot in some places [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:47 AM Flag
[ - ] DS is starting kindergarten this fall, and I need to get him a nice book bag. Where should I look? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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lands end, ll bean are the usual suspects. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:33 AM Flag
[ - ] I think this is one of the livlier afternoons on UB since the new format. Uber-boobers, vaccination debates...good times 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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agreed. fun, though all in all i think i detect a little more live and let live than in the past. which is good (in my opinion). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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it's because i'm back--i defected from youbemom--couldn't take the immaturity ant longer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Are there any sleepaway camps that are not all Jewish or all Christian. I'm looking for a great camp with a mix of kids and families. We are not religious and I do not want my child to feel out of place. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.16.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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np: i want one that is all atheist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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Y camps try to be neutral about religion even if they have "Christian" in the name [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 12:08 PM Flag
[ - ] 8 mo ds is refusing to eat solids (except for oatmeal). We started at 6 mo and he loved them all until now. Any thoughts on whats going on? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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teething? a cold? when babies feel bad solids are often the first thing to go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:31 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone know of a good marriage counselor in NYC, Bergen County or Scarsdale area? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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-I heard you should go to Ackerman Institute [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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what is that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:34 AM Flag
[ - ] We're on the fence about having a second child. Anybody with siblings think they'd have been happier as an only child?? Any only children who really wish they had siblings? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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Oh jeez, giving dc a sibling is not the reason to have another, no matter what people on here say [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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ok, maybe i should ask question differently- anyone with one wish you had more? or the corrolary (though i doubt anyone would answer yes to this) anyone with more than one wish you only had one? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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I would have liked to have had another but my dh did not want more plus we couldn't afford it, so we are happy and content with our daughter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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why not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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ita- people have so many different experiences that there is no "right way" or "right" thing to do. Just weigh the pros and cons and make your peace with a decision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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ita. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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i am a happy only. never wanted a sib and stil dont. (i have steps but i barely know them.) FWIW i have two kids but one would have been fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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which one would you get rid of - #1 or #2? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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please. one WOULD HAVE BEEN, as in, if i hadn't conceived the 2d time (I was old) it would not have been the end of my world nor would i have made a huge effort to get pregnant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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I don't know if there's a right answer to this one, but when I look at my 2 kids interact (they are now 3.5 and 8 mo) there is nothing in this world that could make me happier. It's the most special thing I've ever seen. I can't imagine them not having each other. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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I say that my younger brother ruined my life. But truthfully, I'm happy I have sibling. DH & I were on the fence for 2 years before we decided to have #2. It was hard having 2. But watching our 2 kids together, even when they're fighting over a toy ... it's totally worth it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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I have only seen my older brother once in 20 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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I was raised as an only because my brother & sister are so much older. I think it would have been really healthy for me to have been at home w/ a sibling or two. I turned out fine, but I am somewhat self-centered. Also, my parents had a rough patch when I was young and my mom used me as her confidante and treated me like a mini-adult--not healthy, imo. I think that would be less likely w/ siblings around. Now my big sister and (17 year difference) are super, super close. But it would be nice to be closer in age. My kids are 3.5 years apart and are really growing in their relationship and learning a lot of from each other--it's awesome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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i think it's sweet that you are asking this question, because it's clear you are looking at it from the point of view of your child's well being. think a bit about what it means for your life and your husband's life too, of course, and then you'll figure it out. these personal decisions are really hard. don't let anyone sway you because of their own baggage, though. everyone is different and there is no way to tell what the future holds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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For me 1 dc was great 2dcs are better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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we are in the process of adopting dc #2, after 10 years of having an only child. Lot's of pros and cons, agree that only you can make the choice. BTW - dc#1 is dying to have a sibling but that is no guarantee that he will feel the same way when dc#2 arrives. I am close to my siblings, my husband barely speaks to his. You never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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My older brother made my life so much better overall. I would be so bored all the time if it weren't for him. He got me into my hobbies and passions, he taught me so much about the world that my parents wouldn't have. I wish I had more siblings, and I could not image life without any. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 10.08.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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You would be so bored? How do you know that you would have been bored if you were an only child? As someone with an older brother, yes, you get bored when he's not around but if you are an only child to begin with, you get used to spending time alone and enjoying friendship instead. If you were an only child, there would have been other people who got you into those hobbies and passions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.23.09, 07:42 AM Flag
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I hate to say this but I was perfectly happy with just my older brother. I was disappointed when my little sister was born because to this day at the ages of 19 and 16 we still have to share. it sucks for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.29.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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I am number 6 of 8 and have 4 of my own. I have 2 cousins that are singles. They always wished for a sib. You will always have days where a sib is a pain, but that is yoru decision to go for #2. If we had quit, I still would not be at PTA meetings, as my oldest is starting his family. BUt there are moments you will treasure. Last night we had a 'quiet' dinner with the family as my duaghter celebrate her 22 birth. My oldest, 30 + his wife; my second with his so my youngest at 18 and my spouse with the birthday girl 22. Up to you. I enoy the whole for the most part as a sib and a parent. Enjoy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.23.09, 06:58 AM Flag
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I am an only and I do not wish I had siblings. At this point my DB will most likely be an only, too (trying to make it through the first six months grrrl) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.23.09, 07:06 AM Flag
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ds was an only for 4 yrs i just had #2 another boy 5 mths ago and it's really fun..and ds loves having a sibling...im really happy we had another. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.23.09, 07:08 AM Flag
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I'm an only and always wished I had a big brother. I even had a named picked out for him when I was younger. I was quite lonely, but as I got older, I realized I didn't grow up alone. At least not all of the time. I tended to make my cousins and my aunts who were closer to my age my "siblings". I have two boys, 16 months apart. I was married to their father a terrible, violent man. When I found out I was pregnant with #2, I probably should have been devastated, but I was actually thrilled my first son would have someone he could navigate this world with especially when things got rough. They are complete opposites and have very little in common but get along great. The are both away at college, but when they both come home, I know I did the right thing when I hear them whispering in their room at night about the show Heroes, or school, or Lil Wayne's new song. I think siblings have a relationship with each other that is are different from the ones the have with parents or friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.23.09, 07:12 AM Flag
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I did the right thing when I hear them laughing and whispering in their room about the show Heroes, school, or the latest Lil Wayne song. I think siblings have a special relationship which is very different from the ones they have with parents or friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.23.09, 07:15 AM Flag
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My husband and I are hving our first (in April) but already are talking about our second. I was an only child and always wanted/will always wish I'd had a sibling. My mother was an only child and also feels the same way. There are many challenges -It is easy to become introverted and unsociable. I often felt bored. It took me a long time to learn to laugh at myself. Also, handling family matters as you get older can be a burden w/no siblings to turn to. My husband has two brothers. He can't imagine life w/out them and loves them dearly. His mom had a tough job raising three boys, but she certainly has no regrets. I am eternally grateful to her since I did marry the third boy. There are upsides to being an only child. I learned to be very creative and independent. I was precocious to an extreme. For instance, I didn't laugh when someone farted. I had to learn to do that fm friends at school! If you are on the fence it sounds like the answer is no/wait. Your only child will be just fine, just take into consideration the challenges/differences. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.23.09, 07:42 AM Flag
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to be very creative. I was very precocious. For instance I had to learn to laugh at farts fm friends at school. If you are truly on the fence then wait. Your only child will be fine, just be ready for the challenges. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.23.09, 07:48 AM Flag
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If you are thinking of getting another child for the sake of your #1, you should consider his opinion. There are dc's who beg for a younger sibling and those who balk at the thought of a younger sibling. You don't want to get a db for the latter and you don't want to deprive a db of the former. I am half serious but it's true. Otherwise, they could be miserable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.23.09, 07:46 AM Flag
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This is crazy and inappropriate. Having children is a decision of the parents, not the existing child. Besides, they can change their mind! I never wanted a sister, but now I can't imagine my life without her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.23.09, 10:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you think it's irresponsible to have more than one child? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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i'm only having one, but i can't think of any reason why it would be irresponsible to have more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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why are you only having one? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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we're really happy with the family just the way it is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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No--why would it be? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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my dh thinks it is, environmentally. and ability to give attention to that kid and our #1 (we both work). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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My friend is has cancer and is an only. She doesn't have a compatible bone marrow donor. THAT is irresponsible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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No guarantee that a sibling would be a match... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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I'm sorry your friend is ill but using that as a case for being irresponsible is going too far [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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She would disagree with you and is mad at her parents for not providing her with a sib. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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I'm sorry she's using her frustration in this way. It isn't going to help anything. I am an only child as well but would never blame my parents for that - there are many factors that contributed to it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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How would her parents have known that she would need bone marrow? To blame them for that seems pretty selfish [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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no, i think it's irresponsible to only have one. that places too much burden on an only child when you and dh get old and are wearing diapers again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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any only children want to respond to that? agree? disagree? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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i'm an only and i am fine with it. lots of times one sib ends up with all the elder care anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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Exactly, my Dad has two sisters & he and my mom are the ones who take care of my grandmother [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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I am an only and I disagree. My dh has an older sister who is absolutely NO help (actually a hindrance) with his older, ailing parents. If she wasn't around things would be much easier for us all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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i agree that it might be hard, but that's not enough of a reason to have another. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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Lady, You are sick. I think she is being really mature and responsible. Most people fail to consider how they may have limited resources to adequately support more than one child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.29.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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No, but then we adopted both of ours. But that's because I can't get pg. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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No. It takes 2 people to make one baby so 2 babies just replace the parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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