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[ - ] My friend was talking about doing time outs for my 13mo. I'm all for it (when she stands on the couch, stands on the cat, etc.) but how do you make this work and her understand? She is very verbal but I still don't know how to keep her in time out and if she'll really "get it". Right now all I have done is take toys away that she stands on and explain that we don't do that. Thanks for any advice. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:31 AM Flag
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i don't like time outs to be punishment. they're more of an "im out of control and need time alone" sort of thing. i usually just remove the object of trouble, so to speak. stand on the couch. you're moved from the couch. stand on the cat, the cat is taken to another room. with an explanation of why. repeat repeat repeat. fwiw, i don't really see the prob with a 13mo standing on the couch. but that is another story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:33 AM Flag
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I feel like if she stands (and jumps, bounces) she could easily fall off. She can get up on her own and I worry that if I'm not watching for 15 seconds, if she gets up and thinks its okay to stand/jump then she could get hurt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:38 AM Flag
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soon enough, tho, she'll be standing on the couch, tho. the danger part passes really quickly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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if she falls off and gets hurt that my do enough to teach her. keep saying no jumping and moving her but if she falls you can use that as a teaching tool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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np. yeah. i sort of agree. it's hard but ultimately we can't protect our kids from everything. and we can't watch them every minute. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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my sil doesn't let her kids stand on the couch either. I don't allow ds to jump on the couch but see no problem with standing I hate going to her house. Her boys are extremly calm but not very joyful mine smile and laugh all the time but aren't always the best listeners. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:39 AM Flag
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hagte to say it, but this sounds more like a SIL vent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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it is I just seized the opp. we both have 2 boys the same age and I wish we could hang out more but her house so uncomfortable and she doesn't like to take the boys out much. oh well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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she's too young for chrissake [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 02:18 AM Flag
[ - ] looking for packback for 4.5 yo (pre-k) - looking at llbean - which size is best? i worry that the junior is too small for his lunch. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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The jr is fine accomodates a lunch box plus plenty of other stuff. I even use kids old jrs. when I am out and about on the weekend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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My sister told me to get the original rather than the junior sized for my 5 y.o. It will last a long time, why not have the larger size? I am debating personalization. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Any idea how much a cleaning person, 1x a week will be in westport ct - 4 bdr. 3 bath house about 3,500 sq.ft.? TIA 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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vba [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:26 AM Flag
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np: are you $hitting me? how is that a vba? a modest house for westport. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 12:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Have a 4 month old. He goes to sleep at 7:30 pm and wakes at 1 am and 4:30 am for feedings. I'd like to get rid of one of those feedings. Which one- and how? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.22.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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try giving him a binky if he'll take it before feeding him. If he's just looking for comfort instead of food, that might help him fall back asleep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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thanks. the binky works for 5-10 minutes. keep getting out of bed to reinsert. thought he'd get the point after a few nights, but he hasn't yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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my guess is that he's still hungry then. 2/night at 4mos is still pretty decent. GL to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you think it is odd to put a throw rug on a floor that is fully carpeted? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.22.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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No, I've seen it look ok. Sometimes you are stuck with carpet and you use throw rugs to define various spaces. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:18 AM Flag
[ - ] I need to vent - I have a very overbearing MIL who over steps boundaries constantly. she is also very passive aggressive. she babysat the other night and while we were gone, put photos on our fridge of DH's illegitimate niece (who she is very insecure about). I am totally annoyed by it b/c again, she does not respect people's (mainly my) boundaries. its one thing to leave pics on the coffee table for us to have but putting them on the fridge I think is very intrusive and passivea aggressive. why can't she back off?!?!? 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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What does your DH say? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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why is putting them on the fridge a big deal? not snarking, just asking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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op: b/s its not her home. would you go to someone's home and put pics on their fridge without asking them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:35 AM Flag
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^^b/c [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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a good friend of mine pu tpics of dd she'd printed and put in a refridgerator magnet on our fridge. i found it very thoughtful. it was left as a surprise, so she also didn't tell me. clearly this has larger implications in your relationship with your MIL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:39 AM Flag
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op: I think its different when they are pics of your own child as opposed to someone else's. as I said, my MIL is very intrusive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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so this is more about her other intrusions than abotu pics on a fridge. putting them there is easy to undo. if she had painted something in your house. or put a frame in your bedroom with these pics, i might feel differently. but your upset isn't just abt these pics. it's about something else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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op: yes, didn't we already establish this? I'm upset b/c she does crap like this ALL THE TIME! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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Don't play. Just take them off and toss them. No need to battle. So, the pictures were on the fridge for 3 hours, big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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Or I suppose you could be direct and honest and say, "MIL, please don't decorate my home anymore. You are free to put anything you wish on your fridge, but mine is off limits to you - ok?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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op: you're right - I just don't want to deal with getting into a discussion/fight whatever with DH about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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dh has nothing to do with it. He did't put the pictures there and it most likely doesn't bother him. This is a territorial war between you and MIL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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seeing that the territory is op's house, mil needs to back off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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np: the big deal is MIL being disrespectful of op's privacy and space in many ways. it really begins to get to you. i speak from experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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Very annoying - but be passive aggressive back and just take the pics down. No neep to be confrontational about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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I don't see where taking the pics down falls under p/a. Taking them down and putting them up on MIL fridge the next time you visit is p/a. Taking them down is nothing more than taking them down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:31 AM Flag
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When MIL visits next time and sees that the pics are no longer up it will probably annoy her. I consider it p/a because it avoids the confrontation with the MIL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:35 AM Flag
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are there no choices between p/a and confrontation? Just pleasantly tell the woman she overstepped the boudry and move on. Perfectly healthy and appropriate response. NOT everything requires a psych degree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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Everytime my mom visits whe moves things around puts new nicknacks on the shelf hangs curtains. She is nice to come and help so I just let it go. If I like what she does I keep it if I don't I change it and tell her dh and I didn't like it. it sometimes bothers dh but he is also happy we have her to help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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its different when its your own mother. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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do people really still refer to children as 'illegitimate'? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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I was wondering this too... though I did just find out i have an illegitimate cousin I never knew about (for 30 years!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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why are so many mils like this? so obnoxious. send her the photos and tell her she left them at your house. no more baby sitting for her. hire someone and there will be no strings attached. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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op: ha! this was the best response - thank you for making me smile! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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WHY must you address an innocent dc as ILLEGITIMATE? This one thing in your post is more annoying than some pics on your fridge that you can take off. What did this dc do to you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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you are totally missing the point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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Actually I think she got it perfectly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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My MIL tried to decorate my home when we first moved. I packed up all of the items in a box and told DH to give them back to her. She put up old pics of their family in frames all over the place! I love DH, but I don't need their family picture from 1980 in our living room! I know it totally pissed MIL off when she was given them back, but it's my house. I told her we have plenty of family pics already and want to start our own collection!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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I think sending back family photos was cruel and b--tchy. Clearly she just wanted to make sure her son remembered her. I would've at least kept them in a box, or if I didn't like the frames, reframed one and put it in the house. You sound mean! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 09:12 PM Flag
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I think you're overreacting...at least in this instance [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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I don't. I have a MIL just like that. I know EXACTLY what you are dealing with. BTW, what is the difference between inlaws and outlaws? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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Outlaws are wanted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:15 PM Flag
[ - ] did anyone read the Allure article about the drug adderall? I really want to try it, but I'm scared of side effects. Has anyone tried it for weight loss? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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drugs for weght loss are never a good idea, IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:11 AM Flag
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ITA. It's not magic--reduce your calories and increase your exercise [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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yep... cut out white flours and cut down on carbs in general. veg, lean protein, whole grains. drugs and chemicals just change your metabolism and ultimately don't help youlose weight in thelong run. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:26 AM Flag
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I didn't read it but I was thinking of trying it myself. All the kids who take it are super skinny and their parents say they eat nothing while on the meds. A very interesting thought for helping with weight loss imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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it's basically speed. you know it's not good for you. skinny is not worth taking drugs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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^^skinny is not worth the potential physical hazards of taking drugs. which in the long term can mean you end up gaining moe weight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:44 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm exhausted. I cannot seem to get enough sleep lately, but I'm getting enough hours of sleep if that makes sense. Feeling a little low. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:06 AM Flag
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i completely understand. first, lack of sleep can def make you feel low. i get 7 hours a night and never feel wel rested. yesterday, even took a nap. stll tired. what think helps is makng sure I'm asleep bf midnight. even if sleep the same amount, the sleep seems to be better quality. that and taking deep breaths during the day. drnking chamomile. cutting out stmiulants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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Pregnant? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:59 AM Flag
[ - ] When my parents babysit dd, they let her stay up until 11pm. They say bc she doens't want to go to bed and it's not their responsibility to discipline her. My view is that it's not good for her. She ends up not listening to them or respecting them. And ultimately, it just impacts their relationship with her and means they shouldn't babysit very often. Yet, they want to spend lots of time wth her. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:06 AM Flag
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That would make me crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:07 AM Flag
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yep. it most def does. i know many say they're grandparents and dd isn't their responsibility, but they're saying they want responsiblity for her. they just don't want to deal with discpline. These are the same people who asked me to be sure to put them n our will as the caregvers for dd f somethng happens to dh and me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:08 AM Flag
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Sorry. 11pm is just ridiculous--it's laziness on their part. My SIL is having similar difficulties w/ our MIL wanting to watch their 6 m.o., but then not doing a good job w/ it. Did your parents let you stay up until 11? Ask them, and if they didn't, then why not. I swear they sometimes lose all memory of what parenting is like. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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If you think that it is laziness, you don't need to use them as a babysitter. Listen, these are your parents. If they don't want to fight with your child to get them to go to bed, they dont have to! Your parents are older and you have to decide- if it bothers you so much, find another sitter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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OP here.. the above wasnt' me. and you're right, i don't have to use them as sitters. and we have pretty much stopped. but they want to spend time with dd. they want to get to know her. and they want to be her caretaker if something happens to us. but obviously, if we don't feel comofrtable with them sitting, they're not going to be her caretaker in our will. (i know it sounds silly to be talking abotu that, but they bring it up often. a bit too often) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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^^it's not just about them fighting with her to go to bed. it's that dd has no respect for them at all bc whenever they tell her something, she says no, they don't follow through. she's completely out of control with them. she's not like that with anyone else. it ultimately hurts their relationship with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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What you are saying makes alot more sense now. I am sorry that there is no easy answer. How old is your DD? As they get older, they tend to calm down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:26 AM Flag
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she's 4. and no one, no other babysitter has ever had problems getting her to bed. we used to, when she first moved into a bed, but now, it's rare there will be a problem. i think it's more bc they are somewhat neglectful of her when she's awake and it's her way of getting attention from them. which makes me sad bc i had the same problem with them when i was a kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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they're sayng now that they did. but remember them putting me in bed at 7:30 and completely ignoring me. it is TOTAL laziness on their part. dd sits on the couch with them while they watch CSI or Law and ORder (Sex crimes division). she eventually falls asleep. then they lie about doing it and tell dd to lie to us about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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Okay, that's all kinds of wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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well- you know the answer- pay someone else to babysit! I always tell people who want their parents to watch the kids, it is better to pay someone- they usually listen and do what you tell them vs. parents [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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we usually do. this is my parents choice. this is something they ASK for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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then use them to babysit during the day time some week-ends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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here's the thing... that requires moe planning on my part. i have tried hard to make things as easy as possible for my parents to have a good relationship with dd. but they dont step up to the plate. we tried during the day sitting, but they don't do anything wiht her, she's bored and hates spending time with them. so then we try night sitting. get her ready for bed, etc etc. most times, we leave after she's already asleep. they ultimately need to step up if they want a relationship with her. i've done all I can do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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tell them that babysitting means you accept responsilbility for being the parent by proxy. If they can't accept that they are not willing (or allowed) to babysit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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I will save this post for my friends who lament that our families don't live nearby!! Thanks and good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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how old is your dd? i don't think this is a big deal. unless they are sitting for her on a regular basis and it's a weeknight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 12:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone with 4 kids ever think about #5? I am thinking of it. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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oh good lord. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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actually, on a per child basis this is the best model. -np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:59 AM Flag
[ - ] Would you take your 28 mo dd to walt disney world? I haven't been there myself and am wondering if it's more trouble than it's worth (will she be able to enjoy it or will merely be overstimulated and exhausted??). 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.22.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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Yes! I took my older dd for the first time when she was 20 months and then again a few months after she turned 2. Loved it both times, but differently. My younger one first went when she was 2 1/2 - perfect for them as long as you realize you won't be able to go on a lot of adult rides. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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I think it depends on the kid. We went to Disneyland this spring w/ ours--2 & 6. I think our 2 y.o. DD had a better time than the 6 y.o. because it just suits her temperment more. She loves music, people, any kind of stimuli. She had a great time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:06 AM Flag
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disney sn't my thng, so I def woudln't. I'd wait until dd was old enough to ask to go for herself., [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:07 AM Flag
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I took my DD at this age and she loved it. You go early and leave early. SHe really thought it was magical. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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imho- I would wait. why pay all that money for something she probably won [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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My sister is taking her two kids 2 & 7 in September. The two year old will be 30 months. My sister asked a bunch of people and they all told her the 2 yo would enjoy it but I'm not sure that my sister would be going if she didn't also have a 7 yo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:45 AM Flag
[ - ] what age is wall-e good for? thinking about taking my 4 yo. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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dd liked it. she's 4 too. she liked kung fu panda much better tho. (as she keeps tellng us) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:11 AM Flag
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I am 31 and I liked it too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:16 AM Flag
[ - ] So down, stuck religiously to WW for a week and NO loss. I am starving. Yes, used some extra points, exercising as much as possible, which admittedly is not much, and yes, I am overweight, but only get 18pts b/c I am only 5ft 3. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 05:46 AM Flag
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I think the pts are given not only according to height but weight that you started. At 18 pts I doubt if you had a lot to lose. I'm 5'4 and started WW at 190 lbs. I got 22 pts. I had a lot to lose so I got enough pts. I had to make sure I used the entire thing. Many times I only used 18 or 19 pts. GL..I know it's hard but it takes time. At first it didn't come right out but after 3 wks it really paid off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 05:48 AM Flag
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i'm shorter than you, have only a few pounds to lose and i got 20 pts - 18 is starvation city [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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^^^and, by the way, i lose like 4 ounces a week - it sucks and i [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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^^^oops and i'm starving, but at least it isn't going up! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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i find it hard to believe you have much to lose if you're at 18 pts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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That happened to my friend and she switched to core, which worked for her. But I highly doubt that you're much overweight if you only get 18 pts, even if you're 5'3". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Having a buyer's remorse about sending dc to a private school because of being surrounded by monied kids (not for me, but I wonder how dc will fare)... Our public option also was full of monied kids, so I thought it'd be the same, but I'm unsettled about this. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.22.08, 05:42 AM Flag
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Just take it one year at a time. It is only K. You can always leave for public as opposed to the other way around much more difficult. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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Thanks... I think I will feel better once the school starts (and if dc likes school - which I think dc will)... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 05:50 AM Flag
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I was hesitant at the thought of private school because growing up in Manhattan, I would see spoiled, entitled kids in many privates. Once I started touring, I saw that not all schools had the same vibe. We found a private school that is down to earth and regardless of the deep pockets (which we don't have) the families were very normal and nice. This place has a great sense of community. DOn't get me wrong, you have your label whores but you will find it everywhere. Take it easy and I hope that your dc will enjoy his/her school. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 05:50 AM Flag
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np: Care to share which school? We will be applying in Sept and do not have deep pockets either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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Exactly the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 05:58 AM Flag
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same here. Maybe we are the same school! FL for us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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PS 6? which public? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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selective school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 05:58 AM Flag
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np: There are no "selective " publics, besides G&T [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:07 AM Flag
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That's what I meant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:08 AM Flag
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which G&T? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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gifted and talented [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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I would think there you would find the least display of wealth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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I think I would be feeling the same way. But it sounds like the problem isn't just limited to private in NY, if that's any consolation. And you control what happens in your home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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OP: I went to a public school in a so so burb and the kids were all about showing how much money their parents had and what car they're driving or what they're wearing. I thought maybe private school people might be less "in your face" about bragging about money, but I might be wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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totally depends if they're old money or new money [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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Is your child starting in K? Kids make friends without regard to the parents' income. What worries you? Children may mention differences, but they don't attach value or meanings to them at a young age. So and so may go to France during the summer; we may go see Grandma in Delaware. Are you worried you are not giving your child what other parents can give theirs? A loving, attentive parent is a priceless gift to a child. We're on the lower economic end of a very wealthy school (dc in middle school now), so we've some experience. When my dd sometimes compares us to other families, I tell her we match the teachers. I've met a wide range of parents and have a lot in common with many of them--we want our kids to grow up to be kind, grounded people. Your child's school may have parent groups and speakers that discuss issues of differences and privilege. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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