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[ - ] Any advice to help me decide if we should have a third dc? We have 2 beautiful little girls - dh is in favor of a third, but I'm on the fence. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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Without thinking, what is your first emotion when you first get your period? A little relief, or a little disappointment? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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Really nothing right now - still on BCP. I'm just trying to decide if we should try. I'm one of three - so sometimes I think 3 would be great, sometimes not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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I've wanted another baby since #2 was born, but I did tell dh I only wanted to try for a 3rd if he was also on board for #4. 3 to me just feels like someone will always be left out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:34 PM Flag
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Is part of your and your husband's desire for a third to have a son? If not, great, you'll be happy with a b or g. If so, be honest about this with yourselves so that you're not "disappointed" with another girl. I know family friends who just had their third girl (us told them it was a boy) and the whole extended family is "upset". It's so sad to me that they feel this way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 04:47 AM Flag
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we went for it. two lovely girls and now I am 20 weeks g with #3. We are not finding out what it is. We both came from families of 3 and just felt like we would always kind of wish we had 3. I ahve apretty big span though - I could not have done 3 close together. My oldest is going into 2nd and my youngest is going into k. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 04:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Headed to DH's parents' country house for Labor Day, most likely. Went there for July 4th weekend. We are very, very lucky to have that option, only... they are heavy smokers. I mean, can't go more than 45 minutes typically (if locked down they would wait up to 2 hours, I think) unless sleeping. DH's father very kindly smokes outside in consideration of the baby. DH's mother is not very well and has trouble w/mobility; she has been asked-- repeatedly-- to smoke only in her room with the door closed, and to keep the door closed when not there. She has agreed to this. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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SORRY, pressed "post" too soon. She has agreed and yet... TWICE I found her smoking in the kitchen while we were once two rooms away and the other time just off the kitchen, in the guest room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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Relax. A few weekends out of the year aren't going to hurt dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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(OP again) I must be an idiot because when I press "enter" for a paragraph it posts. Anyway... am considering staying at a nearby hotel for the next visit. DH thinks this is awful and hurtful to his parents, but I think having our daughter sit in a smoky house-- and having his mother, however ailing and otherwise considerate, disregard the baby's (18 mos) health. Am I crazy to want to stay at a hotel? I can't take the stress for another visit, I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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It's not harmful enough to ruin your relationship with dh's parents. If she lights up in front of kid just take her in another room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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I wouldn't let my 18 month old in a house with smokers. I would stay at hotel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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(OP) It's just so stressful walking around feeling badly for asking them not to smoke... seeing his father be so mindful... and see his mother just doing whatever. I keep thinking that I'm trying to build DD's relationship w/them, but sacrificing her health. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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Turn off the drama mamma. Think about how stressful it is for your in laws to have someone like you in their house watching them like an eagle for wrongdoing. Also I think the term "sacrificing her health" is something I would apply to driving in a car with no seatbelts or playing with firecrackers - not occasional second hand smoke 2x a year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 04:57 AM Flag
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Must be nice to have Labor Day weekend off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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you are wrong - stay with in laws and have some respect and gratitude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 04:50 AM Flag
[ - ] We just moved to Japan. I'm now in the process of registering kids for school. My dh wants our 4 yr old to attend a Japanese preschool instead of attending an American program. I don't think this is for the best. He is very bright but is a terrible speaker. I can barely understand him. What would you do? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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So your 4 yo will be sent to a Japanese school where he won't be able to understand anyone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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I think some of the teachers speak a little english. I understand my dh wanted a bilingual child but I think it would be very hard for him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:09 PM Flag
[ - ] what are the best areas north of the city - good schools affordable(under a mill) homes? Hastings, Irvington and Larchmont are on my list - can someone tell me what life is like n these areas? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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Scarsdale, Riverdale? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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My friend lives in Irvington. Her kids play soccer all the time and are happy. Lots of people there work for the NY Times for soem reason. It's green and pretty. She's bored, but kids are happy. it's a bit white bread; not a great place for an outlier type kid or adult - if that applies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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Houses in Riverdale are over a million or need work. Missed that boat. Same in Hastings. Scarsdale under a million? What are you smoking? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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There are 5 sections/5 elementary schools in Scarsdale. The Edgewood section is the only section with small homes under 1M. Kids join up w/other 4 neighborhoods for middle and high. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.03.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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There are homes under a million in all five elementary zones in Scarsdale, but probably the most in Edgewood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.04.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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Edgewood is known by other people in Scarsdale as "the hood". Personally imho, if you can't afford other parts of Scarsdale you should look elsewhere such as Larchmont-Mamaroneck (both share a middle school and a high school) and virtually all recreational and town facilities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.09.08, 08:59 PM Flag
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Not all houses in Riverdale are over a million or need work. Those houses would be in the Fieldston or Estate areas. There are many other areas in Riverdale that have less expensive homes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.04.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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My friends are happy in Mamaroneck and New Rochelle and Larchmont. I'm not sure if there is a town pool - the golf clubs and "beach" clubs there seem to be expensive - but they've made lots of friends. I think Katonah has a more country in an upscale way vibe, but the commute is worse. My friend lives on Lake Katonah and it seems really nice there. You really have to go with a realtor and see what you can get for your money -- don't go by UB. There are things in Scarsdale for under $1million but they aren't as large as what you could get in Katonah, for example. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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New Rochelle and Mamaroneck are more affordable and less white-bread than Larchmont...very few under 800k in Larchmont though. under a Mil, you have good pickings. Plenty to do in these 3 sound-side towns. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.04.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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Larchmont and Mamaroneck are very different from New Rochelle. New Rochelle is a city to begin with and is truly diverse, just over 50% white, with black and hispanic populations each being almost 25% (the northern section is less diverse and more affluent in general). Mamaroneck's waterfront communities are actually more affluent than Larchmont Manor especially Orienta which is one of the top 50 most affluent in the and includes homes that cost up to $20 million(Larchmont's most affluent neighboorhood), but it is more divese economically and racially (whites are about 75%, hispanics about 15%, other minorities (mostly blacks, asians, mixed race) make up the rest. In Larchmont whites are 90%, hispanics about 5% with other minorities making up the rest. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.09.08, 08:56 PM Flag
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fairfield, ct [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.04.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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My family used to live in Hastings, and we loved living there. My dcs were too young for school, but I think the schools there are very good. We live in NYC now (we have moved twice since living there, for career reasons). Dh works such long hours now that adding a commute would mean he never sees dcs during the week. If not for that I would prefer to be in Hastings still. If you enjoy walking, the place is beautiful, and there are amazing walking trails that you can travel for miles.Other pluses: people are friendly, there is a wonderful library, also a fantastic community pool and community gardens. The train ride to NYC is easy and it is a fun weekend trip with the kids. We did it all the time when we lived there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.10.08, 07:19 AM Flag
[ - ] random / long shot: can anyone recommend a car inspection place in brooklyn heights or downtown bklyn or cobble hill? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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I think there is a gas station on Hicks St. around Summit (right before Hamilton Ave.) that does them. There is also a place on Union St. right around 3rd or 4th ave that does car repair and I think also inspections. On right hand side of St. as you drive toward Prospect Park. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 07:47 PM Flag
[ - ] its so frustrating that i can't talk to my husband about sex, about what i like, what i want and don't get and what he might want. he is just so uptight and he would take it the wrong way. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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My dh is like this. He's not even that uptight, he just has so much ego involved that it's hard to bring this subject up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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This is difficult. I would recommend a sex therapist, but it sounds like your hubby wouldn't be open to this. If nothing else, try to open communication in other areas with your husband, and take up your own therapy sessions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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don't talk, show! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:47 PM Flag
[ - ] This is going to sound weird, and probably get me flamed, but does anyone ever have cultural/racial identity issues? I am white, but grew up in a heavily black, inner city neighborhood, and was basically of the same economic class as my peers in my public school. There were perhaps 4-5 white children in the entire school. Thus, most of my close childhood friends are black, and I grew up listening to negro spirituals, without even knowing that this was perhaps different than my cousins who went to private (read: mostly white) schools. Even in my high school, which though also public, was more racially/culturally diverse, I was involved in gospel choir, and had mostly non-white friends. The same thing happened when I went to college and was in the gospel choir. I'm moving to a very wealthy, white town soon, and fear I might not be able to fit in the way I have in all my other urban living environments. As a side note, I am an Ivy League Ph.D., so I think all the moms who believe sending their kids to a "crappy" (read heavily poor/minority) school will ruin their children's future are out of their minds. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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argh, having computer trouble. Anyhow, my point was, I'm moving to a heavily white, rich suburb soon (for work) and am nervous about fitting in. I've never lived outside of a major city before. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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Oh, and by the way, I'm an Ivy league educated Ph.D., so all those moms who believe sending their DCs to "crappy" public schools dominated by poor kids, are deluding themselves. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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Well, you might have issues just moving from an urban to suburban environment. I am white but have never lied outside of NYC & get hives just thinking about it. My SIL lived a couple of years in Sugar Bush, Texas (Geore Bush country) and she could not stand it. My brother got posted to Ghana & she was thrilled & loved the shocked/horrified reactions of all her neightbors when she said she would be happier in Africa then there! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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Sorry - having trouble following what your issue is. Are you afraid of how you'll fit in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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Very lengthy post, so not sure what you are really looking for. I grew up poor and Chinese immigrant in a mostly black/Latino school, and I was the only Chinese girl in my grade. Now married to a Jewish-American dh who grew up in the burbs, and have leap-frogged up to an upper middle-class existence in a gentrified part of Brooklyn. Yes, sometimes I wonder how I got here, and sometimes i have felt culturally out of it. But a sense of humor and open mind will get ou pretty far. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.21.08, 07:32 PM Flag
[ - ] has anyone tried the Wii Fit? I am training for a marathin and would like something indoors for cross training at home. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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It's alot of fun, but probably won't do much for you if you are looking for something to push you further. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 06:12 AM Flag
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