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07.21.08, 20:09 PM General Topics
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Headed to DH's parents' country house for Labor Day, most likely. Went there for July 4th weekend. We are very, very lucky to have that option, only... they are heavy smokers. I mean, can't go more than 45 minutes typically (if locked down they would wait up to 2 hours, I think) unless sleeping. DH's father very kindly smokes outside in consideration of the baby. DH's mother is not very well and has trouble w/mobility; she has been asked-- repeatedly-- to smoke only in her room with the door closed, and to keep the door closed when not there. She has agreed to this. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.21.08, 08:09 PM Flag

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SORRY, pressed "post" too soon. She has agreed and yet... TWICE I found her smoking in the kitchen while we were once two rooms away and the other time just off the kitchen, in the guest room. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:10 PM Flag

Relax. A few weekends out of the year aren't going to hurt dc. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:12 PM Flag

(OP again) I must be an idiot because when I press "enter" for a paragraph it posts. Anyway... am considering staying at a nearby hotel for the next visit. DH thinks this is awful and hurtful to his parents, but I think having our daughter sit in a smoky house-- and having his mother, however ailing and otherwise considerate, disregard the baby's (18 mos) health. Am I crazy to want to stay at a hotel? I can't take the stress for another visit, I think. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:13 PM Flag

It's not harmful enough to ruin your relationship with dh's parents. If she lights up in front of kid just take her in another room. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:15 PM Flag

I wouldn't let my 18 month old in a house with smokers. I would stay at hotel. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:16 PM Flag

(OP) It's just so stressful walking around feeling badly for asking them not to smoke... seeing his father be so mindful... and see his mother just doing whatever. I keep thinking that I'm trying to build DD's relationship w/them, but sacrificing her health. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:30 PM Flag

Turn off the drama mamma. Think about how stressful it is for your in laws to have someone like you in their house watching them like an eagle for wrongdoing. Also I think the term "sacrificing her health" is something I would apply to driving in a car with no seatbelts or playing with firecrackers - not occasional second hand smoke 2x a year. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.22.08, 04:57 AM Flag

Must be nice to have Labor Day weekend off. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:40 PM Flag

you are wrong - stay with in laws and have some respect and gratitude. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.22.08, 04:50 AM Flag