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[ - ] sigh. not only did ds wake up before i wanted him to, he found the box of dvds i was going to throw in the garbage. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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throw them away tonight [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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i'm debating if i should post them on freecycle or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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then put them somewhere he can't find [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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well, he was supposed to be sleeping. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:37 PM Flag
[ - ] i was in a car accident yesterday and am 16 wks pregnant, i wasn't hurt and went home. today several people have asked me if i went to the hospital to get checked out and i hadn't. I have a doctor's appointment today is this something you think I should mention? What can he ever do an ultra sound or something? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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of course you should mention it to your Dr [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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could there be something wrong? even though I wasn't hurt? I guess I just didn't even think about it considering I was fine, my air bags didn't even deploy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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unlikely, especially if you've had no effects, but you still need to get checked out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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do you think they will have to do any tests or something? or just give me my normal exam? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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just mention it to the Dr. Sometimes things like wiplash or back injury shows up much later [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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this is true. thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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yes you shold tell your dr. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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happened to me at 20 wks. was the friday of july 4th weekend. I only called the doctor on monday and they told me I should have called when it happened - of course there is a chance something could happen (if youhave no symptoms unlikely) but the 24 hours afterward are the critical time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:55 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm confused. Many people here say there is no correlation between early reading and intelligence. But I definitely see a lot of kids who score high on ERBs and get into TTs or who are going to Hunter, and can read, whereas most kids entering K do not. Anyone else think there is more of a connection than people here acknowledge? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.22.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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there is a correlation between early reading and intelligence. but there is no correlation between late reading and lack of intelligence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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There's not always a correlation between early reading and intelligence. And sometimes there's a correlation between late reading and lack of intelligence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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my dd learned to read early. Started K at a private and was the only dc in her class reading out of 16 kids. She scored 87 on the ERB..go figure [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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i think if i a kid is reasonably intelligent, you can teach them a lot. i don't think it's always wise to do so, but it's possible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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for what it's worth, have decided no correltation between early reading and successfully moving through life. used to want dd to score high on tests because thought a place in T&G would open doors and guarantee her becoming educated to succeed later in life. then recenly met 3 people who were all reading before Kindergarten and who had each made miserable messes of their lives (think divorces, IT "genius" who worked in 1 not particularly innovate place for 20 and now has no marketable career skills when 20 year place downsized and lost job, horribly dysfunctional and sad marriages and children) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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Most dc who enter Hunter and TT cannot read. Maybe more can than in other schools, but most cannot. There is a correlation, but it is weak and there is no correlation b/t late reading and average or lower IQ. The strongest correlation is between early math skills and intelligence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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I actually read an interesting article in the St. Pete times that said that there is not necessarily any correlation between early reading and intelligence, and that in fact many early readers do not actually understand the phonics behind the words and that it is more word recognition than it is actual reading or comprehension. It also said that children who read early do not do better academically than children who read around 6 or 7 -- in fact, the older readers often do better. Of course, I am not saying that this is the case with your early readers specifically or all early readers, but these are what some studies are showing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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^^^also, I think you have to look at whether there is a correlation between kids scoring high on these tests at 4 and how well they do throughout their academic careers. Those tests may or may not be accurate predictors of "intelligence." Also, there can be a difference between intelligence and performing well in school. It's actually much broader than what I've seen discussed on these boards. I don't have a school aged child, btw, so I am not saying any of this out of "bitterness." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 02:59 PM Flag
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That is interesting. Do you have a link? That is my sister and me exactly. I read early, she did not. While I am no dummy, my sister is much smarter and did much better in school than I. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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I've had the hard copy of the article sitting on my bedside table for months, finally just read it. I can look and see if it's still online. Be right back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 03:06 PM Flag
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^^^Sorry, I looked, but couldn't find it. Title of article was "Rush, little Baby" in case you have time to do internet search. Site search turned up nothing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 03:09 PM Flag
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Thanks, again - I'll try [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 03:11 PM Flag
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Here it is. http://www.boston.com/news/globe/magazine/articles/2007/10/28/rush_little_baby/?page=1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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^^^ it is pretty interesting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 07:32 PM Flag
[ - ] I posted yesterday about feeling conflicted about giving my nanny a reference. On the one hand, I am bothered by some things. On the other, I want her to be able to get a job. Well, it turns out that she got a job w/o a reference from me. Her new employer hired her and didn't bother calling me. Saved me from lying or badmouthing my nanny. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.22.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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lucky you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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Yikes. Someone hired a nanny without speaking with her current employer first? Just an observation, but some people spend a lot of time trashing nannys, but apparently there are some parents who hire them without a lot of thought, which makes me think they don't care a whole lot about the nanny's behavior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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yeah, that's what I'm thinking. I mean, how can a whole army of nannies get away with being neglectful in the parks? Parents let them get away with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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I personally know of one particularly grievous example where the parents ignored multiple reports of extreme borderline abusive behavior and continued to employ the nanny because it was "easier" than hiring a new one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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Most people get a new job before present employer being contacted, it is not unusual. otherwise, nannies could never change jobs on their own accord. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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Present employer is almost never used as reference, and if you let her go of course she did not use you as one. Part of the reason I believe references are pretty worthless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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I hadn't let her go yet. I was planning to, but she beat me to it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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If she was interviewing without you knowing about it, of course she did not use you as reference. When I was trying to leave a job my boss did not know and I never used her as reference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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I did know about it. My nanny went from FT to PT. She was open about saying that she needed to find a FT job. She told me about her interview. I said fine. It was all out in the open. She didn't know that I was going to let her go from the PT position even if she didn't get a job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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she beat you to it - good for her - of course she wouldn't use her current employer, I wish you all the best with the new nanny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 03:57 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD. Babysitter watches 3.5 year old and she has told me that he is bossy. He says "please don't touch that or please don't do that." How do you handle this? He also wants her to play a "certain way" saying "please say it this way" or "please do it this way" TIA 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.22.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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who is the the adult. she needs to handle it not you. I tell my 3 yo that I'm the boss of applesauce! he laughs but gets the idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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i would get a new babysitter - just not a good fit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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she has brought this up for the third time now. I think that you might be right. I told her that she could tell him that she is going to take some time to herself and not play with him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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he is 3 and saying please. what more do you want? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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ita. what's the problem? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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should he play with her, not boss her around telling her how to play a certain way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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that is up to the babysitter. it sounds like your child is used to being controlled (all of the pleases and apologizing for not being polite). Have the sitter try and take charge a bit, but if it doesn't work get a new sitter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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it sounds to me like she doesn't know much about 3yos and how they speak. she needs to know how to handle that. b/c it sounds very normal and not rude at all. she doesn't have to do what he says but he's not being bad. it reminds me of a nanny i once had who thought dd was misbehaving b/c she insisted on trying to dress herself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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no. children at this age should be in charge of the play when they are playing with adults. the adult's role is to become a participant in the child's world, imho. not talking about when they are wanting to do something dangerous or anything like that, of course. ita that he is saying please, which is great. he's strong-willed and has definite opinions. her label of him as "bossy" would concern me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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yes and no. isn't demanding that they play a certain way just not right. for example he says "don't hold the firetruck like that, hold it like this. don't say that, make it say this." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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that's really normal 3 y/o stuff. they are very controlling at this age. and - i dont' know if this applies to ds - but particularly bright kids can be especially so. they just have really developed internal worlds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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ITA that it is normal for that age. Tell your sitter to just go along wiht it, he's in a phase, unless there is something really big she doesnt' want or can't do, in which case your ds can understand why not if she explains [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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Oh and before that babysitter left, he said that he was sorry that he wasn't polite today and he would try and be more polite the next time she comes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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OMG. you need a new baby sitter. It sounds to me like she is potentially being verbally abusive to him. I bet she is constantly telling him that he isn't nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 02:17 PM Flag
[ - ] whatn time does your 3mo go to bed at night? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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at that age it was still on the late side 9:30 maybe? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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oh gosh. basically 6 hours from when she wakes up from nap. which can be anywhere from 9-10pm. she sleep until 8am, then naps 2 hours starting from 1 or 2pm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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3MONTH old or 3 year old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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oh, lol, sorry - 3 y/o!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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ok... I figured... I was about to commend you on your excellent newborn! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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omg, i wish. no, we didn't get sleeping through the night until dd was 2 y/o. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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^^ my 3 m/o didn't really have a "bedtime" yet - was still following the 2-hr rule for sleep and nursing on demand at that point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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good question - I have a 4.5 mo who won't go to bed before 11, and sleeps till 10:30am (with 2 feeds in the middle). have tried to get her to sleep earlier,but it's hard (we have dinner late, like 9 or 9:30). plus, dh gets home at 8 or so at night, if she had a "normal" bedtime of 8 or whatever, he'd hardly ever see her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Need some fun ideas for birthday party--7 year olds, both sexes, active kids. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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Party at the zoo. Very interactive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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swimming, tennis, soccer, relay races [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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Bowling. A sure hit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:32 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm sure it's the hormones, but I feel like I want to punch people at work who tell me that I look "thick" or "totally pregnant"?! I am only 18wks and gained like 8 lbs - so I'm, by no means, totally pregnant looking. I have a little belly. How do you deal with people at work who are totally out of line?! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.22.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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That's why I never tell until I'm like 7mos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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you dont start to show until 7 months? you should win an award for that. i was really petite before i got pregnant, so my belly popped towards the end of my 17th week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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My belly popped at 15 weeks! No way I could have waited until 7 months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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when i was 7 months pg I was very uncomfortable baby on ribs in constant pain. my boss told how people who excerise through the pgs are so much happier. for some reason i just wanted to kill her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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i probably would have slashed her tires - people are so rude! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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You smile and move on - I'm now almost 8 months pg and over the past 4 mos or so I've been told "you look way too big to be due in September"; "at least you don't have to be pregnant in the summer"; "you look like you are going to give birth any day now"; "are you having twins?" and countless other things I can't even remember. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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Thank you! I think I just had a crappy day yesterday! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 05:59 AM Flag
[ - ] I have bad smelly gas 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:07 PM Flag
[ - ] please tell me about your health insurance. my company is always bragging about how great their plan is but i'm wondering how it compares. we pay about $3000 a year plus $20 copays. doesn't cover dental or eye exams/glasses. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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We don't pay anything. Have full medical, dental and vision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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I don't pay anything. My boss pays @ $650/month for me, which does cover eye, and I have dental through dh's work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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we pay about 6000 annual (for the family) I think can go out of network, but I forget the deductible. copays vary (general vs specialist, etc) detal and vision are separate [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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you can't compare based just on this info. is it a ppo or an hmo? is there a per year or lifetime maximum benefit? is there a cap to how much you pay or to how much they pay? etc. the policies vary tremendously - and those variations are the ones that matter when you actually need the insurance when you're sick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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i understand what you are saying and you have a good point. and i'm happy with my plan and choice of doctors. but let's face it. my actual costs are a big consideration for me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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yes, but, when you are sick, you want to be able to go to the specialist you want to go to - not have to go to whomever the insurance company tells you you can see. and, if the plan has a maximum that the insurance pays, then a serious illness can bankrupt you in a very short period of time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone think private school Kindergarten wait lists will move in the next few weeks given all that is going on in the financial markets - layoffs, downsizing, etc? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 07.22.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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the vultures are circling.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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No. They are all overenrolled. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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do you honestly think their kid's education is the first thing someone will sacrifice if they lose their job? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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they should. big waste if the kid is normal and smart. could be helpful in terms of teaching prudent decisions [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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blah, blah, blah.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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no. the only people I know who are taking a financial hit and leaving town are the public school families in 'fancy' zones. The private school crowd has a cushion, or financial aid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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I know loads of families who are squeaking by to afford private. (with no FA) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 02:01 PM Flag
[ - ] ok need diner inspiration. have a pound of ground sirloin what can i make, i have bored my family to death. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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tacos? kinda the wrong season for this, but what about bolognese sauce? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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we were going to grill but it looks ominous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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I never knew there is a wrong season for meat sauce [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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not necessarily, but it's a heavy dish for 90 degree weather, IMHO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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what about sliders? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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pasta with meat sauce, burgers, chili, tacos [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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sloppy joes, meatballs, bolognese, stuffed peppers, meatloaf, tacos, burgers, sheperds pie, stuffed potatoes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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meatball lollipops (fun for kids?!) make mini meat-balls. serve them on top of sauce with skewers/ice cream sticks stuck in them to make it fun?! mini burgers are fun, too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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For some reason, meatball lollipops sound really gross. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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you forgot the ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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it's the same thing as normal meatballs, you're just trying to make them fun for the kids. There's nothing gross about them. is there something wrong with making dinner fun? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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don't be so serious. It's just that meatball and lollipop don't usually go together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone traveled to Europe with a 6 omnth old or small baby still on formula? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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yes - have traveled to Europe every year with children aas young as 6 wks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 12:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Savannah or Charleston for a long week-end? Which is better and why? Many thanks! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.22.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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now? aren't they both just too hot? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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no, Sept or Oct. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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Charleston is more of a visiting destination. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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oh fun...i've no idea but Savannah sounds very sultry and romantic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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charleston is beautiful and has great food [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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