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07.22.08, 13:12 PM New York City
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WWYD. Babysitter watches 3.5 year old and she has told me that he is bossy. He says "please don't touch that or please don't do that." How do you handle this? He also wants her to play a "certain way" saying "please say it this way" or "please do it this way" TIA [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 07.22.08, 01:12 PM Flag
 

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who is the the adult. she needs to handle it not you. I tell my 3 yo that I'm the boss of applesauce! he laughs but gets the idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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i would get a new babysitter - just not a good fit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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she has brought this up for the third time now. I think that you might be right. I told her that she could tell him that she is going to take some time to herself and not play with him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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he is 3 and saying please. what more do you want? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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ita. what's the problem? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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should he play with her, not boss her around telling her how to play a certain way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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that is up to the babysitter. it sounds like your child is used to being controlled (all of the pleases and apologizing for not being polite). Have the sitter try and take charge a bit, but if it doesn't work get a new sitter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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it sounds to me like she doesn't know much about 3yos and how they speak. she needs to know how to handle that. b/c it sounds very normal and not rude at all. she doesn't have to do what he says but he's not being bad. it reminds me of a nanny i once had who thought dd was misbehaving b/c she insisted on trying to dress herself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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no. children at this age should be in charge of the play when they are playing with adults. the adult's role is to become a participant in the child's world, imho. not talking about when they are wanting to do something dangerous or anything like that, of course. ita that he is saying please, which is great. he's strong-willed and has definite opinions. her label of him as "bossy" would concern me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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yes and no. isn't demanding that they play a certain way just not right. for example he says "don't hold the firetruck like that, hold it like this. don't say that, make it say this." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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that's really normal 3 y/o stuff. they are very controlling at this age. and - i dont' know if this applies to ds - but particularly bright kids can be especially so. they just have really developed internal worlds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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ITA that it is normal for that age. Tell your sitter to just go along wiht it, he's in a phase, unless there is something really big she doesnt' want or can't do, in which case your ds can understand why not if she explains [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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Oh and before that babysitter left, he said that he was sorry that he wasn't polite today and he would try and be more polite the next time she comes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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OMG. you need a new baby sitter. It sounds to me like she is potentially being verbally abusive to him. I bet she is constantly telling him that he isn't nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.22.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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