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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] Anyone use a midwife while also being followed by a high risk OB? I'm hoping to find a midwife that works closely with a high risk OB. Really want to deliver at St. Luke's Birthing Center. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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I did. Barbara Sellers and Dr. Margano (sp?) He was head of dept at StL. that was many years ago [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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I think they are stil there! Thanks so much. I'm glad there are OB's open to that sort of thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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What is your high risk? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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rheumatoid arthritis [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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All the best to you! I hope you have the birth experience you want!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:23 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm embarrassed to post this but I have been married 3 years and never put my wedding album together. I have the photos on a disc. Any ideas on where to get one put together? It's been so long and I feel like if I don't do it now I never will! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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I have been married for almost 8 and don't even know where most of the pictures are. I put about three in an album. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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^^^ so, obviously I am not help [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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ditto and it has been 6 years for us! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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i was married 9 years this year... I put together an album (did it myself) within the first year. Used Dugal to develop the photos and purchased an album at kate's paperie. Never looked at it again so, based on that I would tell you not to bother. But... a few months ago 4.5 yo DD asked me to read her the wedding story, the album is out, gets read about once a week, she loves it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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my ds asks me to tell him the story of when mommy was a princess. I made my album after 3 yrs of marriage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:06 PM Flag
[ - ] doctor told me 3 things on thursday. im just 37 weeks..im 3 cm dillated, 90% effaced and 0 (on that +3/-3 scale)..what does all this mean? am i having this baby soon or could i go full term? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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hon you could be late [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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oh really?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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You received all this information and didn't ask? Instead you pose this question on ub? Tell me you're kidding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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i asked, but they dont promise you much. she said i'd be surprised if you went full-term..that's all she would offer to me, which is why i asked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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you know how it is- you could go in ten minutes, you could go in 3 weeks! But I would say with 3 cm dilation and 90% effaced that it will be sooner rather than later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:58 PM Flag
[ - ] i found a pair of underpants in my laundry that are not mine. we have a washer and dryer in our apt. and a weekend house that we share with dh's 17 yr old dd. what would you think? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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where did you find them? apt or house and is 17 yr old male or female? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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in our place in the city, 17 yr old is a dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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probably dd's. ask her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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if it was your bed, i'd be worried! but probably dd's. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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well she is never in the city and the last time we were out there she was away on vacation with a friend. i have done many loads of laundry and feel very conflicted. dh has been off work for the last two weeks and I have been working during the day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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could you simply ask him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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now this is suspicious. i'm sorry. i'm assuming you work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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have you noticed anything else suspicious, ie. bed rumpled, husband paranoid? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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np--why would a woman forget her underwear if it was an affair?! she came wearing them, im sure she would leave with them..im sure it's your dh's dd's underwear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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my thoughts exactly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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you obviously don't know alot of people who have had affairs then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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actually, you are right, i don't know one single person that has had an affair..or at least i dont know about them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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do they look to be your dh's dd's size? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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perhaps the affair WANTS the wife to find out...alas, leaving the undies. i know lots of women who date married men. they are a desperate bunch of women. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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I think they belong to the 17 yo. Underpants get left in the washer and tracked up in other things, and you wouldn't necessarily have noticed them if you were filling the washing machine with your own clothes. But if I were playing devil's advocate... what would you do anyway? Confront dh with a pair of underpants? Do you have other suspicions? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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Are they sexy underwear? If not, it isn't an affair. If so, maybe the woman left them behind on purpose? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.31.08, 08:23 AM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone recommend babysitting agencies? For evenings out, etc. Thank you! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.25.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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are you in the city? why not just get a student to do it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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where did you post? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:09 PM Flag
[ - ] i am planning a bridal shower for my friend. need a space to accomodate 30-40 people. price i was quoted range from 600-800 dollars for 3 hours. is this crazy? is this the norm in nyc? any ideas where i can get a more reasonably-priced space? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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including? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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op: just the space costs $600. one place quoted $800. is this normal? seemed so expensive. doesnt include anything! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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what type of place? would you then have it catered? try local restaurants with either a private room or an area they could give you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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np: ita w/this. I have hosted a couple of bridal showers, and both times we did private rooms in restaurants. The charge was per person, and there was a minimum number (in each case about your #- 30 or 35) but the charge was for the food; there was not a separate charge for room rental. Fwiw, this was in L.A., not NYC [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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what part of the city do you want to have it in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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thanks everyone. i didn't even consider a restaurant. any suggestions? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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do you want uptown, downtown, east, west? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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anywhere. maybe prefer downtown... but not too expensive. thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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pepolino in tribeca has an upstairs room. gigino in tribeca does not have a private room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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price? area? cuisine? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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do you know anyone that has a party room in their coop/condo that you could rent out? that is usually very cheap and then just get it catered. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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actually, the cheaper deal ($600) was in a condo!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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go to your local italian restaurant and ask to have something in the afternoon. most restaurants are slow during the day on saturday and would love to have a party. they should charge by the person and usually give soda/wine/beer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] IMO, people who think it's okay to bring an uninvited db to a wedding don't usually get invited to very upscale weddings. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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disagree. we are having our party at night for adults only. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Name Poll: August 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.25.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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will your baby be born in august? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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Reminds me of Willie Wonka's Chocolate Factory - the kid who gets bumped off first [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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Auggie for short. yuk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Someone told me that there is no parent interview at St. Ann's but there is one at Packer. Is that right? Is there no chance at St. Ann's to talk about your child? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.25.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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its better that way. trust me, most of the parent interviews are bs anyway. they get a sense of you from the application, essay, preschool report. then they see your kid. it really is enough. the parent interview is totally unnecessary IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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Thanks. Am starting the process now for the fall. It seems so scary. St. Ann's is the best for us location-wise but it also seems kind of "freaky." Still, everyone I speak to loves the school so who knows. Packer is more traditional I guess so more like the kind of school I have experience with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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there is no 'official' parent interview but they talk to you about how your child's interview went. which is essentially, your interview. but they say that the parents have nothing to do w/the process. this is bs. they're screening for pita parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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That's interesting. Who meets with the parents to tell them then? the tester? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.29.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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There is no parent interview at SA but the tester will talk with you after dc's interview/test. There also isn't an essay. They really base a lot on that interview with the child. Fwiw, I didn't even bring dh and didn't talk much either & dc got in. No connections and we're very ordinary parents with ordinary jobs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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Thank you. I will hope for the best then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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Both have a similar interview process: DC is tested while parents wait outside, then parents chat with tester while DC waits outside. Chat is mostly about test at both schools. I didn't feel like I was "interviewed" at either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.29.08, 11:02 AM Flag
[ - ] we were awarded financial aid for prek - about 25% of the tuition - dh says he is embarassed. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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lord take the money and run, is he a millionaire or something? tell dh to deal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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what's your hhi? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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op - just under 250K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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At that hhi they must love you/your kid! Your partner needs to look at the big picture-do either of you have professions that have offered incentives? Look at it that way; they want your family. Most pre-K do not have financial aid in place. Lucky you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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I am assuming, then, that the tuition is 25k or more & if that is a dual income, then you would probably not be able to do it without the aid. Tell dh to be happy for dc & yourselves. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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huh, they earn 250 and can't afford preschool? What does it matter ifit is one or two incomes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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It makes a big difference. If it is two incomes they have to pay for childcare on top of PreK, and that adds at least another 10K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:09 PM Flag
[ - ] 7 months pregnant and my knees are so sore - what is going on? i was about 118lb to start, am up to 132 now 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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all the pressure from weight gain, maybe, do you walk a lot? sometimes moving a lot is good, walking etc., if you sit a lot at work you may feel sore as well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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op - you are absolutely right. i am either in the car or at a desk 90% of my day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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if that's all you have to complain about you are lucky at 7 months i cried every night from the pain [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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what pain? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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baby on ribs On my feet a work all. rib pain was the worst [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:18 PM Flag
[ - ] i have little to medium sized blisters on the palms of my hands--they aren't on my feet and i have no other symptoms. what is wrong with me? ps it's not syphilis 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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I've gotten those from stress? could it be that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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yes-- what would you call it? tia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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is it itching mine was and a little red it was a long ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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yes and now it's dry and circles [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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i used baby powder on mine and tried to destress it went away how long have you had it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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how big actually? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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2 millimeter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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that's a little big for plain old hand eczema (which usually has blisters about the size of a ballpoint pen tip). there are a couple of different virus that can manifest as blisters. also gluten intolerance can manifest with a blister skin disorder called something like dermatitis herpetiformis. so, could be any number of things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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could be: shingles or herpes, that coxsakie thing hand foot mouth virus, warts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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no fever or itching [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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how many, like a couple? maybe you were doing something, gardening? and got them that way? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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10 or 15 on one hand 5 to 10 on the other [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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hepes without any other symptoms, what do you think? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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just see a dermatologist - its impossible to diagnose a rash on UB, even by an MD. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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well of course. It's just unlikely I'll be able to see some one before monday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Like the name Angus..I know it is not well received here. Please help me with others... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.25.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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ugh, my cousin just named their ds this, i truly don't like it, why do americans just think of beef? it is just unpleasant, how about Luke? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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I like Kyle, Raphel, stuart [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:06 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD? I work for a very well regarded preschool in NJ I have worked there for 8 yrs and am well liked by the parents most of the staff. I have had a few disgreements with my supervisor but nothing major. At 18 mo my ds began attending the school having my supervisor as his teacher she was a bit crictal of him wanting him speaking full clear sentences but by the end of year things seemed to be coming together. This past school year was a terrible. She complained nonstop about ds coming into my classroom if he took work from a friend or peed himself. my ds began acting up so she said he needed an eval. I took him to the district child study team and they loved ds said they saw no need to eval. School may not let him back in w/o eval wtf 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 07.25.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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are you the mo that was on here a while back asking about whether or not, if your ds' preschool teacher said negative things about your ds, it would affect your feelings about ds? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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op- yes i am so you remember? my life is really sucking right now. my 3 yr ds is the most wonderful boy I've ever met. but I really like and need my job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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god, your story broke my heart the first time. kind of feels like the universe is telling you something though, you know? there are other jobs. there really are. i feel for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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I'm look going to see another school Monday. Hate the idea of starting over but this is certainly not worth it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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your supervisor sucks, i think she/he is being unfair to your ds and your ds can feel it, he knows he is being picked on and he is now acting up, i'm so so so sorry this is happening [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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even before this she wasn't a good supervisor but i at least thought she was an ok teacher not anymore. i was told point blank she picked on him but director has done nothing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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if child study team says there is no need for eval, how can school say he must have one? that is crazy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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you said it siser! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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they said since he wasn't actully evaled we need to get a private one w/o afirm reason aside from classroom specific behaviors [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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what does the district say [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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district sees that it is a sticky situtaion and wants to be out of it. i was simply honest in my answering of questions. ds is well behaved at home- district offered to do an on site observation if problems come up in ds's new classroom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 10:46 AM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone have to have a c-section with their first and then did ok with vbac for their second? My first didn't progress at all, after days of labor for real, so what are my chances that my second won't budge either? My dd literally never budged after days and days, I don't know if it is like a genetic thing, or if my pelvis was too small etc., doc never told me. what do you think? anyone btdt? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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my midwife did a (rather painful) examination of my pelvic opening to get a sense of how large it was since db was estimated to be big. a good gyn or midwife should be able to help you with this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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thank you very much, my midwife was really horrible, i need a new practitioner seriously, do you remember she did with your pelvis? not to get to personal, thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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she reached in with her hands and felt all around the upper portion of my vagina. very thorough. ahem. and very uncomfortable and somewhat painful, but a relief to hear her assessment that my pelvic opening would be adequate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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ok, sounds like i can deal, my midwife manually dilated my cervix throughout labor, after that kind of pain i can deal with anything, thank you very much! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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yowsa. yep. you can definitely handle this then. gl to you!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:10 PM Flag
[ - ] ttc- how painful are ovedril shots to the belly? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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i answered this hours ago. they are less painful than the blood draws your are enduring. just ice the area first. not a big deal. they are shots into the skin, not the muscle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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^^ they should have gone over this with you at your RE's office, btw. just ice the area, then pinch the skin, and insert the needle and depress the plunger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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Thank you for answering! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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no prob. seriously, the blood draws are much more painful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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glad to hear it- just sort of freaking out, that's all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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it's a little freaky and, imho, kind of counter-intuitive to stick sharp things in your tender abdomen to try to get pregnant. but it's worth it :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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never got them, i'm sorry i know you keep on asking, why won't someone help this woman! someone answer her for goodness sake, she is going through some stress obviously [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:53 PM Flag
[ - ] name poll - paloma mirelle 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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i would go with something more traditionsl for a middle name if you want to go with paloma. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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op - ok, like what? i'd prefer something hebrew/jewish [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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rebecca? elizabeth? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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op - sorry - it needs to be an "m" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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miriam? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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i love it, love both names, they also work together surprisingly well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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op - thanks. we are not latin. is it still ok? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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absolutely, it is beautiful! my dh picked our ds name and it happened to be very common and hip at the time, boo. i love this name, it is different and beautiful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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