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[ - ] Need to know going rate for a nanny in NYC working 50 hours a week with a newborn - and any other perks you might provide (i.e. metrocard, cellphone, lunch?)? TIA And does money make a difference if she doesnt have papers? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 07.25.08, 09:44 PM Flag
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$600, 2 weeks vacation, all major holidays plus any other time that you go away, have in the house what she likes to eat (or give her $ to go grocery shopping). Metrocard is a good perk to add after 6 months if you like her. Raises of $25-50/yr and $50-100 for each additional child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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Is $600 her take-home pay or the gross amount (if you're on the books and pay taxes)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.29.08, 09:49 PM Flag
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$600 is off the books, take home pay -- apparently this is standard rate in NYC - - but i know some people paying 550 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.30.08, 03:49 AM Flag
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Anyone have a list of nanny duties or household rules they can share? need to draft something for a nanny to be hired and want a precedent....... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.30.08, 03:50 AM Flag
[ - ] what is the "other" site?? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Need to know going rate for a nanny in NYC working 50 hours a week with a newborn - and any other perks you might provide (i.e. metrocard, cellphone, lunch?)? TIA And does money make a difference if she doesnt have papers? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:39 PM Flag
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We pay ours $11, she gets a metrocard, cellphone with unlimited minutes, lunch, the ability to bring her older child in when she likes, two weeks vacation, 1 week scheduled by her, 10 personal/sick days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:45 PM Flag
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op: how do you deal with lunch? just let her buy groceries with baby's groceries? set a limit? And do you buy time and a half for more hours? THANK YOU [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:50 PM Flag
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Yes we both buy groceries as needed. We asked her what kinds of food she liked to eat and haven't had to set a limit as she's not abusive of it. We pay time and a half overtime. The one sticky point we had was letting her take *additional* paid time off in excess of all her paid time off during the day that she wanted compensated as time and a half at night. For example, she'd want to trade a seven hour block of time during the day for 3.5 in the evening. That would have really consumed a good chunk of my remaining vacation time. I too would like to trade in my 40 hour day job for a 20 hour night job for same money. I can't. We both got over it. I interviewed many and spoke to lots more candidates. None were legal despite our advertisement for one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:03 PM Flag
[ - ] so excited. i having a 40th bday party tomorrow! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:41 PM Flag
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kudos! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know about Public/Private schools in Williamsburg? We're considering a move there, and my ds will be in pre-school/kindergarten there. I've looked at insideschools.org, but can't seem to find much. Any insight is appreciated! TIA! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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I would assume that the public schools there are horrible. I think you will have to go outside the neighborhood for private. Sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:36 PM Flag
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Wow. What a crazy response. I don't even live there and I know there are some good Publics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 04:01 AM Flag
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why would you move to an area where you don't know if they even have decent schools if you have a dc? makes no sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:43 AM Flag
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that is, I think, why she's asking now, before she moves [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 03:56 AM Flag
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probably because it is affordable, numnuts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 08:59 PM Flag
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P.S. 31, 34, 132, 196, 250, 257 and 380 are all good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 04:06 AM Flag
[ - ] If you sold a large item on ebay for pickup available would you let the customer pick it up at your house or arrange to meet somewhere public? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.25.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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I've sold things off craigslist and had people pick them up. But my building has a doorman... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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I've waited outside. No strangers in the apt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 05:35 AM Flag
[ - ] Venting: So its Friday night, I am home with the three kids and DH is out with the boys..again. To aggravate the situation, we just moved out to the burbs and I know no one, still have crazy unpacking to do and I am tired. Physically and emotionally. I think I am done. How do you start a conversation with DH about where our relationship is going? I feel like we never see eachother- he is not home much and when he is, he is in his 'daddy zone'- free of kids and wife. He even missed our oldest's birthday because he was driving up from a night out with the boys. I feel like I am married to Vince Vaughn's character in Break-Up. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.25.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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Eeek.. Are you in NJ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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no- northern westchester [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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Oh... I'd hang out w/ you if you were in NNJ.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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thanks for the thought!! It's just hard to believe how dramatically my life has changed in a year...i can hear the violins now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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I understand. My guess is you probably lived in Manhattan where everything was close to you and now you have to drive everywhere. It's a big change; and I am not saying this to be a wiseass [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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i was on the UWS. the biggest problem is finding a babysitter. Plus i have no family in NY, so I won't be going anywhere until I can get handle on that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:45 PM Flag
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have you considered an au pair? We are moving out of the city and getting one this summer. My friend who moved from the city to the burbs loved her au pair and kind of enjoyed having someone to talk to (DH also worked a lot) when she didn't know anyone....and then you have a sitter too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:00 PM Flag
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you need to have a long conversation about this. It can be a deal breaker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 05:35 AM Flag
[ - ] People suck! I am aggravated because my DH and I were not invited to our BIL's relative's wedding when the rest of DH's immediate family was! The reason (I suspect) is because I have not been the most social individual toward these people, I think they are fake, and can be kind of hostile and unfriendly to them when I see them at my BIL's house. 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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i would have no expectation of attending my bil's relative's wedding (whter it is my sister's dh or my dh's brother). you need to grow up and get over crap like this. though I am curious what stupid things did you do back in the day? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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But wouldn't you be curious if EVERY OTHER SIBLING in the family was invited? As for the "Stupid things", I would be standoffish, occasionally talk $hit to them (and about them) when I was drinking, and basically not ooh and aah over them the way everyone else does... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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sounds like maybe the other sibs weren't standoffish or talked shit to them or about them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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You're probably right. However I am taking this from the angle that my DH's family usually invites EVERYONE (whether they are an asshole or not) to everything and I probably need to realize and understand that most people do not do things the way my DH's family does... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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or maybe just be a little introspective and look at what you are doing instead of blaming others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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Well of course I realize it's too late for any kind of relationship with THOSE people. I do have to move forward you know... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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yes, well, maybe think about relationships with OTHER people so you can move forward without repeating mistakes, you knwo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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I hear you; point taken [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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you sound like a nut job. if it were my wedding, unless my mom or fiance held a gun to my head, nfw would I invite you to mine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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w-o-w High school is over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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I think you're the one who sucks. You admit to being "hostile and unfriendly" to them, so why the heck would they invite a bioche like you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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Again, if they are not thrilled with me, I get it. But their dislike for me must eclipse their "like" for my DH [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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must in your world. clearly not a must in theirs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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We all have our "worlds" don't we? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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Are you close with them? There is probably a reason you are not social with them. If that is the case, I wouldn't want you at my wedding nor would I want to go to a wedding for a couple I didn't really get along with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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OP: I personally am not close with them, however my DH definitely has more "history" with them (he met them and socialized with them in the 80's, where I didn't really get involved with them till like '96 or so). As I said, it's ME they don't like, and I am feeling bad that my DH (who they DO like) is being excluded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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I am not being snotty, but is it possible a) they don't like your dh as much as you think or b)it's not about you? Maybe there is some other reason- either way life is too short to worry about a wedding you may not have wanted to go to anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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np: ita. It might not be about you at all. And even if it is, better to assume it's not about you, because it's not as if you can confront them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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As tempting as THAT would be, it would only make them view me more negatively (: [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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OP: Not taking it as snotty at all, however this is a 300+ person affair and it was made public that the parents were paying for ALL OF IT, so it is not a budgetary reason. I hear what you are saying about life being too short, but I can't help feeling pissed off about the whole thing... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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get pissed off. grab bottle of good vino- or tequila. Have a few and brush it off. np is right you can't say anything. Go with it. Get a sitter for the night of the wedding, go out with DH and party like you were 21. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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Now that's a thought (: [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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i'd drink with ya. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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as in people like you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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Ditto. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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are you the one who posted about the parking JERK? if yes, you really need to get over things [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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Um, no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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Oh, come on! You have to be the one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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WHy would they invite you? It sounds like you don't like them & make it pretty known. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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Sounds like you answered your own question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 08:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Everyone says don't 'prep' your kid for ERB. But what does that mean, that I shouldn't allow him to play with blocks or puzzles?? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.25.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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don't be silly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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That's moronic. Of course play and read and enrich and talk to your child. Look at maps, do puzzles, build towers and talk about the world and how things work. Draw pictures and practice letters and drawing shapes and patterns. Play games with your own kid, duh! You don't have to pay someone $20,000 to do this with special worksheets for some overrated test -- you can and should be enriching your child's life as their parent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 08:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Which schools are TT, 2T, 3T. IS there a list somewhere? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.25.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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TT: HM, Dalton, Trinity, Chapin, Collegiate, Spence, Brearley. 2nd tier: St Anns, St B, ECFS, Riverdale, NBS. 3rd tier all except these schools that are 4th tier: Dwight, BWL, Hewitt, Claremont, and schools that go up to 5th grade. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:08 PM Flag
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The tiers are stupid...how can there be three TT girls' schools and only one TT boys' school? How can there be only two TT co-eds in all of Manhattan, and one is virtually impossible to get into w/o a sibling connection? UB should give the tiers a rest, especially in light of how difficult it was to get into ANY private school last year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:28 PM Flag
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So-called top tier schools are K-12 schools, because their tierness is based on exmissions to college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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^^^ I agree with you that the rankings are silly. You will find very bright kids at every school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 06:25 AM Flag
[ - ] is it just me or while looking for a house everyone says the market is dropping but westchester still seems to be at a a high 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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i've been watching the market for 3 years now and westchester has only dropped in those areas with crappy schools. it's unfortunate but true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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northern westchester seems to be cheaper but you pay it back since everything is oil heating up there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Do they sell splits of Veuve Clicquot Champagne? I've never seen them before and curious, if they do sell them, how much they would be 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.25.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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yes, but bought it in a restaurant. go to any liquor store. probably about $25 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:21 PM Flag
[ - ] minivan or suburban/yukon xl? 4 carseats 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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for me, minivan, because easier to drive than an SUV (they are so bouncy to me- the truck platform). I have several friends with Odysseys and they look so easy- everyone just piles in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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Have you looked at the Acadia..It actually fits 4 seats, has cargo room and gets 24mpg city! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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love my Odyssey but 16 mpg is true figure and pretty shitty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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DO you have an old model Odyssey or something? We have one 2 yrs old and we get 25-27 mpg, which is the same as our 11 year old volvo. We drive 2.5 hr stretches with it on weekends so that might account for better ms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:53 PM Flag
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I got a used Odyssey for Christmas and I absolutely love it. I can easily give another kid a ride to school or bring a friend home. For longer trips our two are in separate rows, so less fuss & fighting. The remote entry door thing is wonderful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 09:42 PM Flag
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Look at the Mazda5 - great gas mileage - room for 4 carseats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 04:09 AM Flag
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