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[ - ] We need an in-person intellectually oriented summer camp for our 15 year old son. Can anyone refer me to in person programs anywhere in the us? Will post more details below 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:49 PM Flag
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We have two daughters and a son. Daughters wanted traditional sleep away camp so one is going to Camp Blue star for the summer and the other is going to Catalina island camp. Our son really wants only intellectual sleep away camps. He loved the great nooks program at Stanford last summer but great books is closed this summer. So we desperately need a literary or historical or philosophy or political oriented program where he can live with other 15 year olds for the summer. help us out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:51 PM Flag
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as far as I know, all those kinds of camps are virtual this summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:49 PM Flag
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All camps on college campuses have been cancelled in person and are virtual. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:58 PM Flag
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Prof here: Sounds like your DS needs to use this time to read on his own. A little boredom and self-direction will be beneficial in the long run. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 05:18 PM Flag
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nope but thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 05:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Please help me consider something? What could be a reason why a man be using Facebook messenger? Thank you so much, all. 49 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:41 PM Flag
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Messaging a friend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:43 PM Flag
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OP: ok! Yes. Great...and helpful. Now how about this: twice or three times a day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:46 PM Flag
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He messages or gets a message 2-3 times per day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:47 PM Flag
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OP: right, sure. But: why FB messenger? It's weird. And odd, for, well, men. And when you have texting, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:53 PM Flag
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Odd for men? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:02 PM Flag
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NP: I find it weird that you're stereotyping app usage by gender. Even if the man in question is normally texter (or other platform user), not everyone else is and sometimes it's easy to just meet people where they are [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:03 PM Flag
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OP: good point. So I am stereotyping/generalizing. Because, really, Facebook has become a platform for women over 40 I think. Am I right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:04 PM Flag
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Uh. No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:06 PM Flag
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All the teenagers I know between 16-18 prefer to use FB messenger. Some of them don’t even use FB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 05:00 PM Flag
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this. my son hates FB but uses FB messenger instead of texting his friends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 08:30 PM Flag
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NP. I have OCD, can't touch my phone without napkins so sending text is difficult. I can use fb messenger from my laptop easily. I prefer to use messenger to make calls and messages instead of phone. Also I have facebook friends whose phone #s I don't have, our only communication platform is messenger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 07:06 PM Flag
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What? No. And FB messenger =/= FB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 09:47 PM Flag
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can't decipher. what do you mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 01:07 AM Flag
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My husband uses FB messenger as his main means of texting/contacting people. I think people just get into habits. I tend to text my close friends, but my brother prefers google messenger and DH likes Facebook so I use those platforms to contact them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 02:04 PM Flag
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that sounds like a conversation. is it every day or just 1 or 2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 04:43 PM Flag
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He wants to message someone and doesn't have other contact info. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:44 PM Flag
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OP: hm. Ok. Yep. Could be [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:46 PM Flag
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np. That's how I keep in touch with a few HS friends in Europe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:48 PM Flag
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OP: see, I keep in touch with all of my overseas clients and friends with WhatsApp--- which is 100 times better, by the way. And which the man in question has, and uses with me because I prefer it in general. So he's choosing FB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:54 PM Flag
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pp. I don't have the phone numbers sometimes, so FB is easier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:59 PM Flag
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This. It's either Messenger or Whatsapp for foreign pals. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:55 PM Flag
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Need more details: What man? Is he texting a male/female? How does he know this person? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:50 PM Flag
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OP: so. I'm on FB just looking. And I happen to notice my husband has been on messenger. He's literally never on there, it's a running joke. Every few years he'll get onto Facebook and post "hi sweetie!" and leave for another few years. So you can see when someone is on messenger but that's it. That's all I've got. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:02 PM Flag
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they show up on messenger if they're online. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:05 PM Flag
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OP: pretty sure that's not true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:15 PM Flag
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By online I meant on facebook. Any time you're on FB you show as active in messenger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:23 PM Flag
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This, even if you just have the tab open [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:33 PM Flag
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This. If you're on FB on the computer, it shows you as active on messenger. There's probably a setting somewhere to decouple this, but it's not readily accessible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 02:34 PM Flag
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If you're suspicious over this, there has GOT to be more to the story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:34 PM Flag
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This! OP, tell us what's really going on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 02:34 PM Flag
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My DH and I both FB messenger, even more during the pandemic. Some of the reasons: you don't have someone's personal phone number or email but need to contact them for something; you see an article or post of interest on Facebook and want to share it immediately without copying and pasting a link into another service; one of the parties doesn't have access to Facetime, zoom, etc., and FB Messenger's video chat option is easy (we actually use it with my non-tech savvy parents). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:54 PM Flag
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OP: ok. Yep, makes sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:08 PM Flag
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My brother uses messenger with me because he has a Samsung and I have iPhone and videos work better on messenger [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:00 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:03 PM Flag
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It's good for group chats if you don't have everyone's phone numbers, or if people are in different countries, on different operating systems, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:04 PM Flag
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not trying to fan the flames but I do know people who use it to be more undercover bc harder to find then texts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:44 PM Flag
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OP: this is sort of what I was thinking. He knows I know he uses text and WhatsApp. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:54 PM Flag
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I agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 06:40 PM Flag
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He be messaging somneone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:49 PM Flag
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Currently I am fb messaging with a man. It's because I don't have his phone number and I would like to contact him about an area I know he is knowledgeable about (hikes in his area). NOt odd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:51 PM Flag
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Huge numbers of people use FB messenger to communicate rather than texts. Group chats are more convenient- same as WhatsApp. People use that for groups rather than texts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:59 PM Flag
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I would look into this. I don’t know any man who uses a messenger. Most use WhatsApp. All of my girlfriends, on the other hand, use messengers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 06:40 PM Flag
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OP: exactly this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 07:40 PM Flag
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Crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 11:33 AM Flag
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I know lots of men who use Facebook messenger. I have never thought it was unique to women. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 02:13 PM Flag
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What a weird question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 02:05 AM Flag
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to check in with someone that they areant close with and dont have their phone or email. I would only use it for "facebook frinds" that i dont interact with in real life: like a friend from 30 years ago, if i knew their parent had dies, etc. Or to check in with an elderly aunt. You seem suspiscious, and you wouldnt be wrtong. It would be a good way to "innocent;y" reconnect with an ex from the past. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 04:42 PM Flag
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Sometimes I log into it just to see who is on and forget to log off! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 05:40 PM Flag
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Some people prefer to type on a keyboard versus using their phone. I only FB messenger a few friends but when I do it’s from my laptop which is always open because of work. I prefer it too over texting. Maybe he is on his laptop more tHan phone and maybe he likes to type versus text? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 07:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Need ideas for 14 year old Dd to do this summer please 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:14 PM Flag
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Babysit for working neighbors with elementary age kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:17 PM Flag
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Op haven’t found anyone yet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:24 PM Flag
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Are you in the city? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:26 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:34 PM Flag
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I would distribute flyers in your building with a very specific description of what she can offer, like: "Working from home and wondering what your kids will do all summer? I'm available for 2 hours per day to take your kids to the park to play and get exercise while you work. Pricing by week or by day." Also list any sports, arts, instruments, special interests she has, etc. if you want to make it more specialized. As a parent, I would be more likely to respond to something very specific like this than an open-ended offer to babysit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:50 PM Flag
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np: brilliant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:17 PM Flag
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https://precollege.goputney.com/programs/vermont/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:23 PM Flag
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God, I wish you lived near me! I have an 11 year old DS who would love company [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:16 PM Flag
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My 14yo dd is doing online courses that she chose based on her interests. Many boarding schools are offering virtual camps this summer instead of the usual in-person camps so we're doing that. If your dd is a rising 10th grader, many colleges including Cornell have courses for HS kids that are all online too. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:25 PM Flag
[ - ] If schools do go this hybrid model that is being talked about, what will the many teachers/admin/staff at schools who have children do when they are expected to be at work everyday and their own children going to school only 2 days a week?? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.12.20, 03:10 PM Flag
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the teachers are doing VERY little teaching now. it's really bad - i understand some have issues with their own child care (not my issue i have them also!) but even teachers with no kids are slacking off. just venting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.20, 09:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Dd age 11 told me she is bisexual. I trust her instincts and am personally fine but am concerned about how her middle school peer group will react. She has already told a few people. I am hoping for help with resources (books, online, safe forums, etc) for dd to learn more and connect with others in a safe place. Her school isn’t large enough to have a lot of others who will understand - plus she is realizing this quite young - so I am asking her to not yet label herself with schoolmates. But she will need some places to find her group. Thanks so much. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:08 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:11 PM Flag
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Where do you live? I feel like this would be a non-issue in my kids' peer groups in NYC. DC is 11 and while I haven't heard of any kid come out yet at that age, my kids (and most in our social circle) have been surrounded by out queer teachers, family, friends, classmates' parents, leaders, clergy, etc. and have been exposed to inclusive messaging from a young age. Not to mention what we see in the media (and on social media), for those who might not be in a "tolerant" (hate that word) environment - there is so much more positive representation than when we were kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:16 PM Flag
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+1 NYC, DD already has 2 trans friends, age 11. DS is 14 and a friend just came out. We celebrate it, say That's Cool, the parents of these kids seem pretty cool too, and move on. I have other things to think about! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:21 PM Flag
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^Didn't mean to not offer advice or a solution to your question - just putting it out there that it might not be as big of a deal among this generation as it was for us [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:22 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:26 PM Flag
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+1. Honestly, I think in my kids NYC MS peer group this would be considered the "cool" thing to do. I'd be accepting of course, but definitely skeptical about whether DC was just trying to show off their alternative-ness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:41 PM Flag
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yep - this - i just commented below about a friend's daughter where it seems like it's this, because mathematically seems unlikely that every single girl in that class will grow up to identify as bi (though, I guess, argument to be made that we all are to some degree?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:43 PM Flag
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OP we are in a small, conservative town. Lots of gossip and cliques etc. we moved out of nyc and I agree it would be completely different there. Or even at a larger school... my big concern her is that she gets labeled to negative effect. So hoping for some safe outlets where she can explore for now. I feel like by high school people would understand more, but middle school is pretty young. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:11 PM Flag
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yeah that sounds s**t. sorry. you should have said the point about it being a small conservative town in the post (this is UrbanBaby after all). Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:18 PM Flag
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I would just talk to her. Ask her if she knows what that even means. If she says she likes girls and boys, say, "Ok. Cool. There's nothing wrong with that. Lots of people feel that way. Are you confused about anything? Is there anything you want to know?" Answer accordingly. Hint: Her questions probably won't be any different than any other 11 yr. old's infatuation questions. If there is something you can't answer, find out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:29 PM Flag
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OP she does understand and has felt this way for months. It is also consistent with girl crushes she has had for years. It’s who she is but I don’t think her peer group is ready to understand much less embrace this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:13 PM Flag
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A friend of mine told me recently that her 6th grader recently said the same to her, at age 11, and that she also told her that "all of her female friends" are bi. My friend's reaction was like "ok, i support you! have you had a crush on anyone yet?". nope. just something that all the girls at her school are saying, apparently, to reflect alignment with progressive values. could be a lot worse :) this is at east side middle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:42 PM Flag
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+1. 12yo DD was agonizing over what her sexual orientation was very much like when she desperately tries to dress very cool. It could be she is attracted to girls, but I have never ever heard of it and she has no filter at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:52 PM Flag
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Well 11 is not to young to have feelings about sexuality, I would probably sit my child down and explain that sexuality is fluid. No one is 100% straight and no one is 100% gay. Further experience and experimentation will be needed and it's okay if your 11 year old thoughts don't match your 24 year old thoughts. I'm super free with sexuality but I think we force kids to label themselves WAY to early. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:48 PM Flag
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Too, not to [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:13 PM Flag
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I'm in CT burbs and last year, my 10 year old dd told me her friend at camp said she was bisexual. We talked about but it wasn't a big deal to her. I don't think kids these days are as shocked by that kind of stuff [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:25 PM Flag
[ - ] 10 years ago, we looked at selling in Brooklyn and buying in Hastings. It was a close call. We ended up trading up in Brooklyn. We're richer for it, but if someone told me just how many hours I'd spend on school admission stuff (x 2 kids), I'm not sure it was worth it 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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how do you know you're richer for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:13 PM Flag
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OP oh, the house we almost bought was resold not too long ago. so it's easy to compare [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:14 PM Flag
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Uh.. things have changed pretty dramatically in the just the past couple months... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:24 PM Flag
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OP it sold mid-may. this is why I was thinking about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:47 PM Flag
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np. The effect of this health crisis is still not reflected in the prices. The suburb prices will move up and the city will fall. No one has sold anything here yet, but I see a bunch of new listings and more will come. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:50 PM Flag
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I know, I also lost years of my life to the public school admissions process. I'm an urban person and always wanted to raise cosmopolitan kids in a diverse, culturally-rich environment. But in hindsight, I can't say it has been worth it. They probably would have been happier with a back yard and a dog. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:19 PM Flag
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+1 In Brooklyn with a 7th and 8th grader. Not worth it, though I'm not sure where we should have gone. Somewhere else, much earlier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:53 PM Flag
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np. But where? We can still move and I can't decide what is a good place to replace Brooklyn, besides Montclair. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:59 PM Flag
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Totally agree. It's not worth the effort and the stress. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:58 PM Flag
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Dc still less than 12 months here. What kind of time did you spend and what did it involve you doing? This sounds like a cautionary tale I should hear [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:59 PM Flag
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Well, the entire process is going to be overhauled now. They don't have grades or test scores from this year to use for screened admissions, so it looks like things will go to a lottery. But the high school process was a total nightmare - we went on about 20 tours, mostly during the school/work day, with many schools having their own requirements (essays, interviews). We could have moved to a nice suburb, walked into the highly-regarded school down the block, and just registered. (And that school would have things like an orchestra and band, and a nice library, which my dc's high school does not have). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:21 PM Flag
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NP: Just to clarify the above, it's not that we don't have grades this year. It is that DOE decided to get ride of grades, despite having regular learning for 3/4 of the year. This decision was clearly made with intent to impact admissions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:16 PM Flag
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I put off a job search due to the double whammy of middle school and high school admissions navigation - I'm angry about that - as who the hell knows if I'll get a job now due to pandemic! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone recommend a place on Madison near Central Park to pick up a to-go drink (alcoholic, not coffee!)? TIA! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:01 PM Flag
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I bet Sant Ambroeus is doing pick up drinks. If you're willing to walk to Lex, I saw D'Orsay and Eats doing to-go stuff, including drinks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:04 PM Flag
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^^ Sorry, Orsay. Idk why I always get that wrong [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:05 PM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:43 PM Flag
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Da Capo if you are uptown, maybe Island or Eli's -- really depends where you are on Madison [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:56 PM Flag
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Thank you, around 90th is most convenient but will go farther for good drinks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 05:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Does ADHD affect kid's grades or just makes them disruptive in a class? Can a ADHD kid have good grades in a demanding school (disruptions in class being a separate issue)? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:59 PM Flag
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Depends on the kid, whether she's medicated, any co-morbid issues and age. Most kids with ADHD aren't disruptive, especially if medicated. The biggest disruption might be talking out of turn, talking too much, asking irrelevant questions. If they are smart, they can still get good grades, but may need a 504 or IEP to get around the rough edges. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:05 PM Flag
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Usually both (unless medicated and he/she responds well to meds which is not always the case). A super genius with not very well controlled adhd might have great grades in a demanding school, but that is probably not the norm. The early years might be fine, but as the demands and homework load increases, these kids often struggle [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:05 PM Flag
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DS fits the PP's last point. Fabulous memory and did fine for years, but hit a wall in middle school as more organization expected to succeed. I am struck by how many teachers fail to recognize these traits and blame the student. DS couldn't figure out what to do and lacked confidence to ask (very quiet). Teacher assumed he was just a horrible, irresponsible kid. Sad because I liked the teacher. DS tested one year later and now takes meds - help a lot but not fool proof. Sometimes I wonder if I should go back to the teacher and suggest that she ask the student/parents about what is going on rather than being punitive. This is an independent school, so the teacher has reasonable class loads to manage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:26 PM Flag
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Also- in early years many kids are disruptive and slightly nuts. We noticed that starting third grade most kids calm down where ours did not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:44 PM Flag
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Yes and Yes. It all depends on the kid and the school. They need good support with people who know about ADD and what strategies support the ADD brain while it is growing. The biggest risk at a demanding school is that the teachers won't have the training or background to support and the kid will feel like shit because they are treated like there is something wrong with them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:17 PM Flag
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yes! just posted above. so sad how teachers who work this population seem unable to recognize traits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:27 PM Flag
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In the upper grades especially, teachers in privates are hired more for their content knowledge than their pedagogy. Being in touch with support services (the dep't that actually has the training and experience) early and often is key so that they can interface with the teachers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:32 PM Flag
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yes, but if you are completely unaware of what is happening, you do not necessarily to think to reach out to support services. and even if they are hired for content knowledge, wouldn't you start to make observations about populations after prolonged exposure? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:46 PM Flag
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You would think but unfortunately (as a teacher and as someone who came up through extremely demanding schools with ADD) some teachers don't see what they aren't looking for and some of them are resistant to even acknowledging that ADD exists. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:53 PM Flag
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Another factor is that many teachers are explicitly instructed not to make recommendations or observations that indicate they think a child has a certain condition. They can describe what they see, but recommending evaluation is a huge no-no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:55 PM Flag
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PP here - agree and meant to include that. OTOH, a teacher could describe as well as make a gentle inquiry about if anything is going on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:04 PM Flag
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both my kids are at selective HS and both have friends with ADHD who are doing fine with appropriate accommodations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:53 PM Flag
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My son has ADHD and is doing well at STUY. It depends on the kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:00 PM Flag
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Is your son on any medication? My girl is waiting for her evaluation in Dec. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:38 PM Flag
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Please don't assume ADHD equals a disruptive child. I have become guarded about who I tell about my child's ADHD because too many parents and teachers assume this. Even before he was medicated, he was never out of control. This is why he wasn't diagnosed earlier. Can he keep track of his assignments on his own or advocate for himself well, no? Is he the target of bullies - yes! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:03 PM Flag
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This. ADHD is not the same as ADD. My DS is ADD, not disruptive, very shy, but cannot focus w/o medication. Also poor impulse control w/o medication. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 06:22 PM Flag
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a properly medicated ADHD kid with a high IQ can do very well in school AND won't be disruptive. It's odd to me how you separate out the two issues -- if the child is having behavior issues, the child isn't properly medicated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:05 PM Flag
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Um... No. That's your experience. Your dc probably has mild ADHD. Kids with severe ADHD may struggle even with medication. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 08:06 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:29 PM Flag
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For my DS, ADHD made his disruptive but also made it difficult for him to focus and concentrate on his work. For years we didn't realize this was the issue. Then had him tested, started medication- and the improvement in school work and grades was pretty dramatic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:43 PM Flag
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What grade did your son start medication? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:39 PM Flag
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if a child is unable to focus so it takes them 10 minutes to read one paragraph, or doesn't turn in their work, of course their grades will suffer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Is anyone signing up your DCs for remote "camps" this summer to focus on academics? We are at our vacation home and have a pool, so kids will be outside for much of the day. I'm thinking maybe 2-3 hours of camp in the mornings. DCs age 12 and 10. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:45 PM Flag
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Have you asked them? Are you working each day or enjoying a much needed summer break? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:02 PM Flag
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Well I told them they would need to do this--they aren't exactly jumping for joy. Yes, need to work most days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:15 PM Flag
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DS and I worked out a deal where he's getting some extra allowance if he works on his writing this summer in a couple of online classes, BUT he is behind his classmates and knows he needs to catch up. If he was on track, I'd let him take a break. Especially if I had your outdoor space. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:10 PM Flag
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We are trapped in a small NYC apartment for the summer, with two adults working full-time from home, but the kids (ages 12 and 16) are adamantly refusing to do any virtual camps or programs. They are sick of remote learning. If we had a pool, or any outdoor space, it wouldn't even be a consideration. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:55 PM Flag
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This. Just make sure they read, and you're good. If your kid is struggling in a specific area and needs remedial help, that's a different story, of course. But that would be the same, pandemic or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:08 PM Flag
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Son: 2 hours a week of Japanese Tutoring w/live person on zoom- This was his idea Daughter: Ukelele lessons (her idea) & my friends kid will do some math with her (my idea because she needs it). I will be on both kids to read over the summer for sure! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:32 PM Flag
[ - ] If you postponed a major gathering (Wedding, Bar Mitzvah etc. - 100+ people) did you set the date yet for when it will happen?...seems like it's too soon to do so. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:45 PM Flag
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We were supposed to attend a wedding in July that was postponed to the same weekend next summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:55 PM Flag
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that seems reasonable to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:58 PM Flag
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One was rescheduled already to the same weekend next year, but one is just up in the air right now, cancelled but no new date [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:07 PM Flag
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My wedding was supposed to be in April but involved travel overseas. We have not decided on a date for next year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:31 PM Flag
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A friend is still planning to have their child's wedding this July in Delaware. We will see. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:02 PM Flag
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OP: Do you think an event of this size for 2 years hence (summer 2022) will happen? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on this Riverside, CT house? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:32 PM Flag
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https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/275-Riverside-Ave-Riverside-CT-06878/66669802_zpid/? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:32 PM Flag
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Amazing location. Weird layout. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:35 PM Flag
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Is a weird layout. You have to walk thru the office to get to the dining room...?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:42 PM Flag
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I watched one of the listing videos bc I dream of the day we can move out of our 1 bedroom apt. into a $4 million house and it's actually a butlers pantry with a desk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:40 PM Flag
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NP: Came here just to say that- I didn't watch the video, but it seems really obvious to me that it's a butler's pantry- a weird choice to try to make it into an office when they have office space on the 3rd floor- I would just turn it back into a butler's pantry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:08 PM Flag
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I really don't like dormers like that on a house, but that's just me :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:38 PM Flag
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NP. Agree, those are some prominent dormers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:41 PM Flag
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I like mid country much more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:03 PM Flag
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Different strokes! We absolutely love the area of Riverside and the schools. Looking for something a little less rural and more walkable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:18 PM Flag
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Love this house [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:53 PM Flag
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Love the yard. Decor/finishings are ehhhh, kind of characterless and stark, though that can be fixed. I don't find the layout odd at all; in fact, it's very common. The labeling of "office" is the issue- usually, that space would be a galley pantry. The kind with transparent cabinets where you put the china and showcase the nicer stuff. Nothing really strikes me as "special" about this house but that said, there is nothing wrong with it whatsoever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:25 PM Flag
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This. It's fine. Nothing wrong with it, but nothing I'd be thrilled to spend $4.7m on either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone discussed the challenges with school busses for returning to school? The social distancing requirements will require far more busses to run. Maybe this is more of a suburban issue, but it could single-handedly prevent schools from reopening. Has anyone heard how this will be addressed? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:01 PM Flag
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Why wouldn't the kids just be required to wear masks like on a public bus? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:02 PM Flag
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They might, but even then the guidelines require 1 child to a seat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:03 PM Flag
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on a public bus there isn't that restriction. What I am suggesting is that it makes no sense to require MORE for children than what is being required for adults. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:21 PM Flag
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totally agree. Then they wash their hands when they get to school. Why are people making everything so hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:03 PM Flag
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I think you are on your own [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:26 PM Flag
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I am in flyover and this has been discussed - a regular sized school bus can hold 12 children instead of 72 with having to do social distancing. I don't think there are enough buses and drivers anywhere to make it feasible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:56 PM Flag
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if buses that carry adults to work aren't doing this, why are we requiring this for kids? It makes no sense. Everyone wear a mask. Done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:07 PM Flag
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Isn't that going to be balanced with the lower number of children attending at a given time point in a hybrid model? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:06 PM Flag
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Yes, that could be, and also more parents will drive their kids. But this seems like a very significant logistical issue to work out ASAP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:17 PM Flag
[ - ] I am rather bossy and a bit of an overreactor. Have a tendency to snap at DH a couple of times a day. Every time I do it I regret it after but the feeling doesn’t stay with me long enough to stop me from snapping the next time. The first thing I said to him when I woke up this morning after he said hello was ‘did you take out the trash?’ in a bitchy voice after I noticed it overflowing in the corner. In the moment, I am flooded by feelings/stress and it’s almost like I can’t control my tone. How can I stop this? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:56 PM Flag
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Has this been a pattern of behavior for your whole life? Have you seen a therapist before? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:59 PM Flag
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This was a thing pre Covid but has definitely been heightened because of proximity and time together now. In the past I snapped maybe 2-3 times a week. Have seen a therapist but not for this. Am a generally anxious person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:11 PM Flag
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np -- it's good you are aware of it and want to change. I would consider therapy to specifically deal with this and learn new coping methods. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 05:05 PM Flag
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So you're aware how much damage you do by every instance of snapping at him? Yet you can't get yourself to stop the behavior. I think you'd have to talk to a real counselor for advice, but my immediate thought is that you're getting something from it. Perhaps you get some sort of release by flagging shit that he's not doing or doing incorrectly. Maybe you have no concept of just how much strife and resentment you're generating by doing this incessantly. I really hope you can find something that works - website, books, talking to someone. If you were my partner, I'd be becoming increasingly resentful every day. You guys are a team. Can you get a whiteboard and divide the tasks and agree that you'll each accomplish your side of the board with no conversation about it each day? Create some system where you don't feel like you need to mother him into doing his fair share. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:00 PM Flag
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Do you realize (when you're not snapping) that you also do annoying things to him, that he has to put up with? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:18 PM Flag
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Yes I know. He’s just a lot calmer and more centered than me. I don’t deserve him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:00 PM Flag
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So, every time you are about to lash out at him, remind yourself that he forgives you without saying a word, so you should forgive him. Take it step by step. Try softening what you say first. Notice how good it makes you feel that you were kind to the person you love. Once you have done that for while, try not saying anything. "Is taking out the trash really that important? What if I let it sit for one more day? What if I let it sit for one more day and then ask him nicely to take it out? Will the world end? No." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:39 PM Flag
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Lots of will power. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:03 PM Flag
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DH is extremely anxious and it sets me off when he questions things I am doing / not doing to his liking. It starts a lot of unhappy fights. Then he feels I am not doing it his way, I am only interested in what I need. The truth is I don't do a lot of things BECAUSE he only wants it "his way," like laundry, or packing. If he feels so "responsible" it's because he's inflexible and critical. I don't know if I can stay with him in the long run but I can't deal with that on top of everything else right now. Huge huge stressor and I can relate on losing my shit and yelling at him, frequently. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:16 PM Flag
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I suspect this is not the real issue. Something else is making you angry, resentful, fearful, whatever. This is just your outlet. You need to find out what exactly is bothering you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:18 PM Flag
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I'm currently divorcing someone like this. Sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:37 PM Flag
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I was like this before I treated my anxiety with meds and therapy. You need to make changes and become a better spouse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 08:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Would leave DH in a heartbeat for "Christie Carmichael" on The Split. He is beyond sexy. Am I the only one who feels that way? OK, maybe one night? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:19 PM Flag
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You are not alone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:33 PM Flag
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The show is good? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:48 PM Flag
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Yes. Very. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:59 PM Flag
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I would call it a British Good Wife with a little Parenthood sprinkled in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:01 PM Flag
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intriguing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:03 PM Flag
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SO good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:15 PM Flag
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No idea about this man or show. Should I be watching it? Looks like JustWatch says S1 is on Hulu. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:02 PM Flag
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I watched Season 1 on Sundance streaming service. Second season is airing now. Not sure about Hulu. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:07 PM Flag
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Second season ended last week. Loved it, better than 1st IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:15 PM Flag
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But I loved how Season 1 ended. Season 2 - True colors started showing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 09:19 PM Flag
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Spoiler-ish*** : Definitely but even though I think Nathan is supposed to come off as the good guy in S2, I can’t forget how slimy he was in S1. In some way that fact that Hannah’s feelings are deeper and more complex make them more forgivable to me. Nathan was such a slimeball. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 09:32 PM Flag
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British Drama about a mother and daughters who have run a law firm specializing in divorce. In addition to the hot ginger mentioned above there is also the cute guy from Episodes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:09 PM Flag
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Sorry not have run. - either have a law firm or run a law firm take your pick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:10 PM Flag
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He's not really a ginger, more blondish grey. So gorgeous, that grey tee-shirt he wears makes watching the show worth it. I just finished season 2. My lips are sealed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:50 PM Flag
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I read they are filming season 3, can't wait. I know where my heart is on the ending. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:52 PM Flag
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I read they are filming season 3, can't wait. I know where my heart is on the ending. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:52 PM Flag
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Sorry about that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:52 PM Flag
[ - ] So happy it's finally Friday. Week from hell at work. I can't wait to pour a glass of wine at 5 and watch something stupid. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:57 AM Flag
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I'm right with you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:07 PM Flag
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x2! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:15 PM Flag
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I'm not waiting till 5..I'm gonna be drinking early!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:18 PM Flag
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100%. This work week and home school week COMPLETELY BLEW. Countdown is on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:03 PM Flag
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I stopped drinking wine to lose weight but might indulge in one Titos & seltzer this evening after this week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:10 PM Flag
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I've seldom missed my glass of wine or beer on the terrace during the recent months, and I've also lost about 15 pounds. So it goes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:48 PM Flag
[ - ] For an unconnected, non-urm family, what makes more sense - NYC tt private or top rated NJ suburban public? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 10:57 AM Flag
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Either sounds fine, but you may not get into a tt private in NYC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:19 AM Flag
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We are currently tt private - considering a switch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:30 AM Flag
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So then whatever you think makes sense for your family. How can anyone answer this not knowing your kids, the type of learners they are? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:33 AM Flag
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Well, what do you like and dislike about it? The OP and then this OR are absurd -- why would you not give the necessary information for people to respond? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:53 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:02 PM Flag
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Pros and cons of each. If your main metric is which offers the best opportunity for college placement I would guess the latter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:30 AM Flag
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It's not all about college, but what program will develop them best as learners and people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:34 AM Flag
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And how would anyone on here know the answer, without any info about either the schools or the DCs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:02 PM Flag
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a TT private. Hands down. Ask anyone in college. The kids from Scarsdale etc will tell you that the kids at their college from private school were much better prepared for college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:04 PM Flag
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What's a non-urm family???? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:54 AM Flag
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White [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:15 PM Flag
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Or Asian. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:36 PM Flag
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right [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:38 PM Flag
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URM stands for Under-Represented Minority. In other words, OP wants to know which schools are better for her white DC. This post feels kind of racist. Is there any reason I should NOT be upset at this post? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:44 PM Flag
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Eh, either way, her kids are going to school with majority wealthy white people. The decision is btwn rich white ppl in the burbs or rich white ppl in the city. That's why no one can answer it because OP hasn't explained what she wants or doesn't want. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:15 PM Flag
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Seriously? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:01 PM Flag
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Why? White people can't wonder whether public or private is a better option for them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:08 PM Flag
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It’s phrased this way a lot on UB but she could’ve written unconnected white family to describe herself so not sure why she chose a vague roundabout way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:02 PM Flag
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bc that can upset people too. i wrote something similar once and my account was frozen forever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 07:42 PM Flag
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You should not be upset [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 05:36 PM Flag
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IOW - which of two excellent options that are available to mostly wealthy white people will be the ABsolute best? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:07 PM Flag
[ - ] We are relocating from London to NYC for work reasons. We won't all be moving until January 2021. My children (boys) will be aged 10 and 7 when we move and I am trying to work out where to live, and what schools to consider. They are in a very academic London prep right now - the youngest thrives, but the eldest finds it a challenge. That said the curriculum is known to be "ahead" of the public school system. Our main requirements are a walkable commute to mid-town and to be near green spaces. I wondered if anyone has any insight into schools on the Upper West side? I think this is likely to be a good location for us. Alternatively, we would consider Battery Park City (and subway to work) but don't know a lot about schools in that area, only the UN international school, British school and the Blue School. Anyone have any insight? Thank you! 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.12.20, 09:57 AM Flag
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The crux of this is will you be moving back to the UK and will kids go to university in the US or UK. Where in midtown will you be? East or west side? It’s ok to have kids be in different schools l; my kids have never gone to the same school except one year in Nursery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 10:40 AM Flag
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Yes, the UK curriculum is one year ahead of the US one, we moved from US to a British school overseas. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 10:41 AM Flag
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Mid-town east side (fifth ave) office. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:13 AM Flag
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Contact the Parent’s League [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:46 AM Flag
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You will need to go public for the spring but can apply for private for the 2021-22 year this fall. The best school zones in the upper west side are PS87, PS199 and PS 9 you can find more information at inside schools https://insideschools.org/school/03M087. For private, the most demanding are Collegiate (all boys on the UWS), Trinity(UWS), Dalton (UES) and Horrace Mann (Riverdale, kids will need to bus but has big fields and amazing campus) -- these schools tend to have few openings if it's not an entry year. Other private on the UWS are Columbia Grammar and Prep, Ethical Culture Fieldston School, Dwight and Calhoun. Hope this helps! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:47 AM Flag
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Do you want your boys in co-Ed or an all boys school? Do you want a K-8 or K-12? St Bernard’s (K-8/ all boys) is modeled after a British school. It is very rigorous - and they may have spots open. You should contact the admissions office. It is right across the street from the park. If you lived in that area you could walk your boys to school be near Central Park. It is not walkable to mid town. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:46 PM Flag
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You should look into all the boys schools. Most located on the upper east side. Browning is located on 62nd between Park and Madison and is the closest all boys school to midtown. It is also K-12. You would be close to the park, walk kids to school and walk to work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:50 PM Flag
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If you want to live on the upper west side. I would try for trinity (k-12/ co-Ed). You could also consider Collegiate, which is the only boys school in that area. It just moved to a new building - the location is very far west in the 50s. It would not be that convenient. But it is one of the top schools in the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:55 PM Flag
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It’s actually on 61st but far west around newish buildings [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:35 PM Flag
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As for downtown. I would look into Grace Church (K-12/ co- Ed) or St Luke’s (K-8/ co-Ed). You could live in battery city and drop you boys to school on the way uptown. These schools are located in Greenwich village. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:58 PM Flag
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Coming from an academically rigorous school in London, I think you might be disappointed by UNIS and the British school. Go for top private schools, which are all uptown. They are Trinity and Collegiate, followed by Dalton and Horace Mann, which is all the way in Bronx. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:47 PM Flag
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Agree with this. I would live uptown. Near Central Park. On either the upper east side or upper west side. If your boys are in an all boys school now...you may want to consider all the boys schools - at Bernard’s, Buckley, st David’s, allen Stevenson and browning (all East side ) or collegiate (west side). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:03 PM Flag
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I agree with this, but would add Fieldston and Riverdale to the list. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:07 PM Flag
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Dwight has the IB and lots of Brits. UWS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:04 PM Flag
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Not academically rigorous, especially compared to top London schools [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:53 PM Flag
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they have different tiers, I think it's fine, really nice community too. If you must stay with Brits try the British International School. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:56 PM Flag
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Definitely join Parents League (https://www.parentsleague.org/ ) - for under $300 you get unlimited advising appointments. There are lots of schools to choose from - you can get a list of independent schools from the Parents League website (https://www.parentsleague.org/schools/members). Also, for a mid-year transfer, perhaps Wetherby-Pembridge, on the UWS, would be less of a transition from the current school? (https://www.wetherby-pembridge.org/) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:54 PM Flag
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never heard of that place, sounds like a waste of $$$$$$ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:58 PM Flag
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It is the NYC branch of the London school Prince William and Prince Harry attended for nursery and primary school. But, then again, what fun would it be to quickly Google it when you could write a snarky comment in blissful ignorance and hide behind the anonymity of this board?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:26 PM Flag
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Dont think they can take kids that old. It's new and small. Also rec. the Parents League [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:39 PM Flag
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How long do you plan on staying in NYC? If it’s short term, I would look into city schools — Collegiate, St Bernards, Dalton, Trinity but also apply to Horace Mann, Riverdale, Fieldston. UWS has two great parks —Central Park and Riverside Park. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:09 PM Flag
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We are at a k-8 boys school and most families who have come from London are quite happy but I do remember one family that was not at all content and felt like the culture shock was too much. This is just to say that all these schools have experience welcoming people from various types of London schools so they will be able to guide you as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:10 PM Flag
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We are at a k-8 boys school and most families who have come from London are quite happy but I do remember one family that was not at all content and felt like the culture shock was too much. This is just to say that all these schools have experience welcoming people from various types of London schools so they will be able to guide you as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:10 PM Flag
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Also- you do not want to live in Battery Park City and send kids to UNIS or British school- crosstown drop offs are annoying. Think of keeping your commuting corridor on an uptown/downtown axis. The exception to this would be living across Central Park from your school- walking through the park everyday would be lovely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:21 PM Flag
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My SIL and her family moved to London from NYC. Her DS was at St B and had an easy transiton to a prep school that is considered rigorous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.20, 05:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Any tips to keep my hair from turning brassy when I dye it at home? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:03 AM Flag
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purple shampoo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:15 AM Flag
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does it stain shower tile? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:15 AM Flag
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I buy the ash-tone dyes, even though my hair was never ash-tone. I was a brunette with red highlights (but now have a lot of gray). If I buy dye that is actually that color it gets very brassy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:32 PM Flag
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Neutral or cool tones (should be in the color name and or number - w=warm, n=neutral); also look for dye that has a purple base (some have purple, some have green) - I think L'Oreal used to have a purple base, you can sort of tell by looking at the ingredients on the box (or call their customer service). The purple doesn't help brassy but helps cool tones not look too ashy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Looked at my 4th grader’s group chats and so much of the conversation is telling each other to shut the f up and calling each other b****. Vicious stuff. I am pretty horrified. Is this normal?? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:59 AM Flag
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OP: These are nerdy fourth graders talking like ex-cons. It’s really gross. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:06 AM Flag
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My 5th grader's group chats are nothing like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:45 AM Flag
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+1. My kid is such a sheltered nerd (which I love), I'm actually afraid for him to start MS next year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:18 PM Flag
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No. I would put a stop to this. [