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06.12.20, 03:59 AM General Topics
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Looked at my 4th grader’s group chats and so much of the conversation is telling each other to shut the f up and calling each other b****. Vicious stuff. I am pretty horrified. Is this normal?? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.12.20, 03:59 AM Flag
 

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OP: These are nerdy fourth graders talking like ex-cons. It’s really gross. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:06 AM Flag
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My 5th grader's group chats are nothing like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:45 AM Flag
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+1. My kid is such a sheltered nerd (which I love), I'm actually afraid for him to start MS next year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:18 PM Flag
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No. I would put a stop to this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:47 AM Flag
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+1. As liz lemon says shut.it.down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:05 PM Flag
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Not normal for my 5th graders group chat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:34 PM Flag
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Not acceptable at any age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:44 PM Flag
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My 8th grader doesn't talk like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:57 PM Flag
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Woah, in 4th? Boys or girls? Not that that matters. My third graders chats are all just dumb memes and boys repeating 80x 'can you play minecraft now?' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:05 PM Flag
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Both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 01:41 AM Flag
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I would characterize this as not okay and requiring your intervention but I hesitate to say "not normal" because all it takes is one kid to start this and then the others follow suit. I.e. I don't think it's indicative that your dc is abnormal, just that the dynamic needs to be broken up. I'd make him/her stop the chats for a while. (FWIW if this were 9th grade, I'd say focus on your own kid's behavior but don't start a whole thing about it being unacceptable to have friends who curse.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:38 PM Flag
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this. they are all new to this chat stuff and this cohort is getting into it much earlier due to remote schooling. I have a 4th grader too. They have veered wildly from just sending each other emojis to fighting in all caps and exclamation points. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:41 PM Flag
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Email the other parents and possibly the teacher, esp if these chats are in a school hosted forum. We saw something like that starting to happen in our grade's group chats and shut it down quick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:45 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks, guys. Yes, I'm on it. Contacting all parents to try to shut this down and change how the kids are treating one another. It's NUTS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 06:10 PM Flag
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My 4th-grade DD's chats are not at all like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 06:16 PM Flag
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My kids are in 7th and their chats are not like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 11:45 AM Flag
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