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06.12.20, 15:41 PM General Topics
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Please help me consider something? What could be a reason why a man be using Facebook messenger? Thank you so much, all. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.12.20, 03:41 PM Flag
 

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Messaging a friend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:43 PM Flag
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OP: ok! Yes. Great...and helpful. Now how about this: twice or three times a day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:46 PM Flag
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He messages or gets a message 2-3 times per day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:47 PM Flag
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OP: right, sure. But: why FB messenger? It's weird. And odd, for, well, men. And when you have texting, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:53 PM Flag
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Odd for men? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:02 PM Flag
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NP: I find it weird that you're stereotyping app usage by gender. Even if the man in question is normally texter (or other platform user), not everyone else is and sometimes it's easy to just meet people where they are [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:03 PM Flag
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OP: good point. So I am stereotyping/generalizing. Because, really, Facebook has become a platform for women over 40 I think. Am I right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:04 PM Flag
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Uh. No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:06 PM Flag
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All the teenagers I know between 16-18 prefer to use FB messenger. Some of them don’t even use FB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 05:00 PM Flag
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this. my son hates FB but uses FB messenger instead of texting his friends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 08:30 PM Flag
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NP. I have OCD, can't touch my phone without napkins so sending text is difficult. I can use fb messenger from my laptop easily. I prefer to use messenger to make calls and messages instead of phone. Also I have facebook friends whose phone #s I don't have, our only communication platform is messenger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 07:06 PM Flag
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What? No. And FB messenger =/= FB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 09:47 PM Flag
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can't decipher. what do you mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 01:07 AM Flag
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My husband uses FB messenger as his main means of texting/contacting people. I think people just get into habits. I tend to text my close friends, but my brother prefers google messenger and DH likes Facebook so I use those platforms to contact them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 02:04 PM Flag
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that sounds like a conversation. is it every day or just 1 or 2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 04:43 PM Flag
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He wants to message someone and doesn't have other contact info. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:44 PM Flag
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OP: hm. Ok. Yep. Could be [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:46 PM Flag
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np. That's how I keep in touch with a few HS friends in Europe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:48 PM Flag
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OP: see, I keep in touch with all of my overseas clients and friends with WhatsApp--- which is 100 times better, by the way. And which the man in question has, and uses with me because I prefer it in general. So he's choosing FB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:54 PM Flag
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pp. I don't have the phone numbers sometimes, so FB is easier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:59 PM Flag
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This. It's either Messenger or Whatsapp for foreign pals. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:55 PM Flag
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Need more details: What man? Is he texting a male/female? How does he know this person? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:50 PM Flag
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OP: so. I'm on FB just looking. And I happen to notice my husband has been on messenger. He's literally never on there, it's a running joke. Every few years he'll get onto Facebook and post "hi sweetie!" and leave for another few years. So you can see when someone is on messenger but that's it. That's all I've got. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:02 PM Flag
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they show up on messenger if they're online. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:05 PM Flag
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OP: pretty sure that's not true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:15 PM Flag
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By online I meant on facebook. Any time you're on FB you show as active in messenger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:23 PM Flag
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This, even if you just have the tab open [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:33 PM Flag
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This. If you're on FB on the computer, it shows you as active on messenger. There's probably a setting somewhere to decouple this, but it's not readily accessible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 02:34 PM Flag
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If you're suspicious over this, there has GOT to be more to the story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:34 PM Flag
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This! OP, tell us what's really going on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 02:34 PM Flag
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My DH and I both FB messenger, even more during the pandemic. Some of the reasons: you don't have someone's personal phone number or email but need to contact them for something; you see an article or post of interest on Facebook and want to share it immediately without copying and pasting a link into another service; one of the parties doesn't have access to Facetime, zoom, etc., and FB Messenger's video chat option is easy (we actually use it with my non-tech savvy parents). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:54 PM Flag
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OP: ok. Yep, makes sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:08 PM Flag
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My brother uses messenger with me because he has a Samsung and I have iPhone and videos work better on messenger [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:00 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:03 PM Flag
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It's good for group chats if you don't have everyone's phone numbers, or if people are in different countries, on different operating systems, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:04 PM Flag
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not trying to fan the flames but I do know people who use it to be more undercover bc harder to find then texts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:44 PM Flag
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OP: this is sort of what I was thinking. He knows I know he uses text and WhatsApp. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:54 PM Flag
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I agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 06:40 PM Flag
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He be messaging somneone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:49 PM Flag
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Currently I am fb messaging with a man. It's because I don't have his phone number and I would like to contact him about an area I know he is knowledgeable about (hikes in his area). NOt odd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:51 PM Flag
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Huge numbers of people use FB messenger to communicate rather than texts. Group chats are more convenient- same as WhatsApp. People use that for groups rather than texts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:59 PM Flag
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I would look into this. I don’t know any man who uses a messenger. Most use WhatsApp. All of my girlfriends, on the other hand, use messengers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 06:40 PM Flag
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OP: exactly this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 07:40 PM Flag
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Crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 11:33 AM Flag
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I know lots of men who use Facebook messenger. I have never thought it was unique to women. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 02:13 PM Flag
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What a weird question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 02:05 AM Flag
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to check in with someone that they areant close with and dont have their phone or email. I would only use it for "facebook frinds" that i dont interact with in real life: like a friend from 30 years ago, if i knew their parent had dies, etc. Or to check in with an elderly aunt. You seem suspiscious, and you wouldnt be wrtong. It would be a good way to "innocent;y" reconnect with an ex from the past. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 04:42 PM Flag
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Sometimes I log into it just to see who is on and forget to log off! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 05:40 PM Flag
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Some people prefer to type on a keyboard versus using their phone. I only FB messenger a few friends but when I do it’s from my laptop which is always open because of work. I prefer it too over texting. Maybe he is on his laptop more tHan phone and maybe he likes to type versus text? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 07:58 PM Flag
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