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[ - ] Our nanny of 2 1/2 years has her last week with us this week. Want to do/buy something special for her in addition to the 1 month pay we are giving her (we are moving and she can't come with us). Any suggestions? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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take her to dinner? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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just me? or me and dh and hire a babysitter? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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whichever, ideally both of you...but whatever works [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:27 PM Flag
[ - ] How old does db have to be before I can run with him in the jogger? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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I always wondered if this was good for the baby. Seems like a lot bouncing around. What's in it for the kid? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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a healthy sane mother is what is in it for the kid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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at least 6 months but depends on how strong db is - should have total head and trunk strength [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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I waited until about 3 mos, and still used the neck support roll from the carseat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:23 PM Flag
[ - ] I know that this question gets asked exhaustively, but I have a 2.5 yo and a newborn and need a double stroller. Should I just get a boogy board attachment, a joovy sit and stroll, a phil and ted or a double jogging stroller. I live in the burbs and drive a ton. Seems as if 2.5 yo is almost finished with strollers anyway. People just tell me it's better for keeping them under control when you're walking places. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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just get a sling for the baby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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I thought about that, but after a while won't that kill my back? Also, when the baby is sleeping in the car seat, I though that it's easier to move the whole seat then wake the baby up to transfer to a sling. What do you think? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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If you are going to get a stroller, I would recommend the baby jogger city mini (not a jogger actually, but a great stroller, esp for the car). otherwise i would get a sit and stroll. but, yeah, at 2.5, you may not need one. i would probably just use a carrier for the newborn for a few months and make do with one stroller. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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i hated the buggy board-it isn't really user friendly for a lot of walking. it depends on how much time you spend walking. we got the phil and teds, which I love. but it is kind of a pita to fold at times. combis make ltwt doubles which are nice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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I have both a joovy and a double jogger. The jogger is too big for most errands, etc, but it's great for jogging, walks, etc. I love the joovy for shorter trips or for getting to the park from the car, going to the zoo (where he wants to get up close, and then catch a ride), etc. I recommend both. I used the bjorn for when db was up to about 3 mos. Now I definately need both strollers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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Is the joovy hard to steer? The wheels look tough to maneuver [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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I don't mind it. But, when my 2yo sits on the seat he can push the brake pedals. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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This made me laugh. It's the kind of thing when you're developing a product that you'd never think of in the engineering dept. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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this is just my opinion. i think a double stroller is a must have b/c the time that you are going to need it, you're really going to need it. (bear in mind that my kids are about 18mo apart). i heard the sit and stroll is really heavy. i went with an inexpensive double and i've been very happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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Get a combi snap n' go thing. I like the Combi much better because the carseat snaps in place. You will use it nonstop in the burbs. Your toddler can walk. Buggy boards do attach to the combi (you have to kind of jerry-rig them). Then when the baby reaches 6 months or so, get a double stroller. By then you'll know what you want. Until that point, it's sooo much easier to do the carseat thing. Believe me. Just did it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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do you have a 2yo? They can't walk and stay with you when you are running errands. She needs something for the 2yo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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- yes, my dd was 2.5yo. i attached a buggy board to the combi. i also bought a phil & ted's double and i used it 2 times in the first 6 months. my 2.5yo had no problem sticking with me running errands and loved the buggy board. then when the baby reached 6 months i brought out the double and it's been excellent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:35 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD? 3 yo ds in bath tonight, shot water in my face on purpose with bath book squirter thing. I scold him, told him it was unacceptable in a stern voice. He starts crying and refuses to let me was the soap out of his hair. At an impasse -what do you do then? Thank you. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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kids dont make the rules, you do. you have a 3 yo and havent figured this out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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np: can't stand responses like this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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so what would you have done? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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wash the soap out of hair. take away toy. you think leaving soap in hair is an option? bizarre. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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change direction--once you scolded, let it go--deflect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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why do you have to answer so snarky? I am asking because my DH and I feel differently about my response and I wanted some other opinions. Don't assume. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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so what did you do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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op: see below. yes I did. DH acted like I was abusive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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I'm not assuming anything. why would you not wash soap out of hair? this really makes no sense? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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op: yes, you assumed that I hadn't "figured this out" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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You wash the soap out if his hair, then you finish bedtime routine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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dump water on his head to get the soap out, pretty much. I'd wrap it up, that sort of thing is hard to work your way out of. after bath ends and pjs are on I'd probably try to talk about it again a little and make sure he understood what he did wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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op: OK this is what I did. My DH acted like I was totally overreacting and oout of control. I was not. I calmly told him I was going to wash out the soap and he freaked and I did it anyway. Then I promptly took him out of the bath and got him dressed. My Dh wanted to take over and I told him that ds needs to respect when I ask him to do something and that daddy is not going to take over every time he doesn't like it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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You are correct. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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sounds like you did the right thing. I think parents tend to try to "protect" the kid and/or spouse if a situation happens with the other parent and the kid is out of control. I say whoever starts the discipline finishes it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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I think that's fine. I hate when my dh tries to play good cop. it's really unfair. these situations need to be worked out for everyone's good. he needs to support you. hecan always offer - if you are really overwrought - to step in and relieve you, but this is your call. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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op: yes this was my point t dh. I was upset about the water and the fact that he would not let me wash out the soap, but I was not out of control or yelling in anger. My sh comes running in and starts freaking out, trying to take over, and I am like, look, we are fine,, please let me finish handling the situation, and dh would not leave and kept escalating it. It was ugly and I am really upset with him for making a mountain out of a molehill. Ds and I have these battles all the time during the week when dh is at work, and we work them out just fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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well, when dh calms down, try to talk to him a little and get on the same page. I can totally picture the situation and somehow he has to know that he made things worse for everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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op: thanks. I am totally pissed at him right now. He pulls crap like this all the time and I really hate that he does it in front of the kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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my ds started doing this also. if i get mad at him, he thinks it's quid pro quo that he can get upset back. so if i yell at him for stepping on the baby, it's ok for him to then throw a book. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Where should i move to in weschester with 1-1.3 million to spend? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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the galleria [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:12 PM Flag
[ - ] potty training of 3yo ds - went cold turkey for 3 days, seems to be working during the day - but what do you do at night??? I don't give him fluids before bed but he still needs to pee. Last night he woke up at 2:30am asking for water & I told him that he needs to pee first which he did so he woke up relatively dry. But do I wake him up every night??? Or just leave him be and wash sheets every night for now? THANK YOU! 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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Pull ups for bedtime. Newly potty trained dcs aren't overnight trained for a few months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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op: according to the books that I have read it it will confuse the child - is there something that will look like underwear but will absorb? Also, did your dc wake up earlier once s/he was potty trained? I asked my ds to call me when he needs to go - he now wakes up 45min earlier!!! Is that forever? Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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They make pads that you can put on the bed under him. I have them for my father-in-law. Inexpensive, washable, keeps him comfortable if he has an accident. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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op: like a sheet? But the blanket will be soaked occasionally, correct? I almost want to use feminine napkins for him but I think he will get itchy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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Pull Ups? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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you cant train at night - either they will wake up or stay dry at night but you just have to wait until they are ready. can be months, or years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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op: so do you wash sheets every day? Or wake up dc in the middle of the night - dh says it will form a bad habit... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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waking the kid at night seems like sleep deprivation torture! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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op: i know. And I am so sleep deprived having an 8-month old... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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Huh? Pull ups for nighttime. After a few weeks or months, dcs wake up dry on their own, and that's when you stop using pull ups. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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do pull ups at night. did for both my kids, until they could stay dry 2 wks in a row, then switched to underwear at night. stop reading the books. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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op: but he is so proud he is out of diapers and not like his baby brother anymore. If I put the pull ups back on, it will be the end of it. (fwiw, we used pull ups for the past 3-4 months, unfortunately, and it didn't work - he would ask to go potty at home but never outside, so it does confuse them.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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Use pull ups outside, you mean? Most people I know use pull ups only for bedtime until dc wakes up dry a few nights in a row, then switch to undearwear to bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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op: sorry, what I meant was that I didn't want to use pull ups for nighttime because they are not 'special' anymore since we used them for a few months already instead of diapers, so it is diapers for him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Horrible! http://www.tcpalm.com/news/2008/may/24/30gtteacher-lets-students-vote-out-classmate-5/ 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 05.26.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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http://www.tcpalm.com/news/2008/may/24/30gtteacher-lets-students-vote-out-classmate-5/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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I replied you on youbemom. They should look into this instead of letting it go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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This is awful but I see a few things at work here: 1) the child should never have been placed in that "least restrictive" setting - clearly was not working out for him particularly because his teacher has no clue how to educate or remediate him so bottom line is that the local EI failed him. This is an outrage for all involved and I feel so terribly sad for the little boy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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such a disgusting situation, but I want to point out that "not having problems at preschool" isn't really relevant here. preschool is such an entirely different atmosphere than K. K requires focus. To complicate this, he is *just* being dx'd, so parents didn't know that he would need a different environment. The teacher's actions are repulsive, though, no matter what. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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He doesn't even have an IEP yet, right? I don't think he was ever in EI - and he's 5, so he's long out of EI anyway. No matter what, this teacher is a poor teacher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:06 AM Flag
[ - ] I want to go on a midweek getaway with dh, not too far from NYC, any ideas? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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why not just stay in the city somewhere [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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want something more relaxing, looking to get away from it all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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this is what we are doing. save on travel time. staying in town, room service, in room massages/facials. just in a different part of city [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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just dh or w/ kids as well? how many nights? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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2-3 nights, leaving dc at my moms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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finger lakes. go to some wineries, check out some state parks w/ waterfalls. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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Lake George [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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how much do you want to spend? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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not more than $300 a night [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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Mayflower Inn in Connecticut [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:17 PM Flag
[ - ] I am SO F'ING miffed at dh! (soon to be ex - we are in process of divorcing but still living together). Our sep agreement says "every other weekend" but since we haven't signed yet he's not on board. I haven't had a day off from kids in a month! PLUS he's not paying a thing toward household expenses AND eats/drinks the stuff I stock the fridge with. ARGGGGG!!!!! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.26.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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well, the end is in sight [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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stop stocking fridge. leave dbs with him (ie stop being a doormant) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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np: i'd give the opposite advice. why start up when they are on their way to ending things? obviously they haven't worked this out. just grit your teeth until you can finalize the divorce. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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why be a doormat. may be a long time until divorce. IF she stops now he will get worse [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:35 PM Flag
[ - ] How hideous is this http://www.tcpalm.com/news/2008/may/24/30gtteacher-lets-students-vote-out-classmate-5/ 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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what a horrible story. what's wrong with people? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:14 PM Flag
[ - ] my 10 mo has been eating all kinds of new foods which is great but sometimes he gets not constipated...but he'll poop few times within an hour or so, and it's hard and stinky. He's eating tons of basic foods but really no veggies or fruit (except for his stage 2 foods) any tips? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.26.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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add bananas to his diet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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OP-he does eat some...but they are binding [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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give him water to loosen stools [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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Op-thanks. I'm trying and I know that's probably the solution. Esp b/c he eats fiber foods like cheerios and you need water to make it all go through! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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they get dehydrated when it is so warm out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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thanks! still new at this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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serve water at every solid meal, and ater a trip out if hot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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thanks...I'm on it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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and introduce every fruit, in bite size portions [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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why not give him some veggies and fruit?? does he not like them? otherwise, try some diluted pear juice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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that's what i'm asking! i'd like to give him cooked veggies. do you cook just until tender? mash? what kind? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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oh - by all means! at 10 mo they can eat just about any kind of cooked veggies and fruits. mashed pears, peas, carrots, sweet potatos, etc. you can just steam them until tender and put them in the blender or mash with a fork. Super Baby food is a great book for tips on this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:33 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm out of breakfast ideas for my 3 yo. H e doesn't eat bread or cereal, is maxed out on waffles/pancakes andhard boiled eggs...just eats fruit at this point. Suggestions? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 05.26.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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Why are you over complicating this?! Just give the kid fruit for brkfst if thats what he likes. Its healthy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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Because I don't think he's full enough by the time he gets to school...want something that'll stick to his bones and take a while to digest [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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kids eat when they are hungry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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you need some fiber in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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oatmeal, yoghurt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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scrambled eggs, oatmeal, french toast, pop tarts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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my kids get cheerios or raisin bran every day. don't complicate breakfast if you don't have to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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oatmeal, scrambled eggs w/cheese & tomatos (we have to mix rice in this) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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um...then keep giving fruit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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my dd is funny about breakfast foods - she eats sun maid raisin bread now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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Yogurt w fruit and granola [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:29 PM Flag
[ - ] what is your prediction of what will happen to Lehman? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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i don't know, but loehman's had a great sale recently! [ Reply | More
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