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there are millions of reasons for people to get married and "because we're so in love" certainly isn't the only acceptable or even most practical reason. MYOB. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:02 PM Flag

np: ITA. I have a good friend who is pushing 40, wanting to marry and have kids but yet still having totally unrealistic expectations for her Mr. Right and blowing off any guy as not suitable. Quite sad. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:07 PM Flag

tell her to do what i did. i am a single mother by choice. if i meet mr. right, great. if not, i didn't miss my shot at having kids (and possibly not being geriatric when they go to school. i did have a friend who married because of the above concerns. she had her 2 dcs, awful marriage and drawn out divorce. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:33 PM Flag

[ - ] Good night, three fellow ub'ers. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:48 PM Flag

buenas noches [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:48 PM Flag

good night! When will you be back? Maybe we need to make appointments so all 10 of us can be on at the same time for a little while! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:49 PM Flag

i'm here too! about to take a bathroom break but i'll be back. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:52 PM Flag

uno dos tres catorce [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:14 PM Flag

[ - ] Crickets. Chirp chirp chirp. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:48 PM Flag

they're all at youbemom, this sux [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:49 PM Flag

[ - ] Anyone here have a child in nyc public elementary? Does your school require that a child is reading to enter first grade? If so, will you post the school? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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NY Schools 05.26.08, 06:46 PM Flag

Good luck. Crickets on ub. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:47 PM Flag

Why is that? We are all home from vacation, the laundry is done, the children asleep - time to UB! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:50 PM Flag

We're at PS 6 and we skipped K and went straight to first. My kids weren't reading at all. So I'd say no, they do not require it [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:50 PM Flag

they cannot require it! Some HS students in NYC still can't read! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:52 PM Flag

Well that's the fault of a lot of people [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:56 PM Flag

The only school I know of that might fit this description is NEST, 2+ years ago. When Celenia was in charge the school would counsel dc out in K if they weren't making satisfactory progress in reading. Even the year after Celenia left the school still put a lot of pressure on dc, to the point of putting K students on academic watch in the middle of the year if they weren't reading well enough. BUT, I think that's changed now, and I think they were the exception to the rule all along. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:09 PM Flag

Thank you, I should have said general ed. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:14 AM Flag

no general ed school requires reading to enter first grade. Think about it. K is not mandatory in the state of NY. How could a school require reading in the first mandatory school entry point? It is required to pass 3rd grade, meaning to get into 4th grade, city-wide. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:17 AM Flag

I wonder: at a G&T program like NEST -- isn't it fair to expect that a child who was there for a year be able to read by the 1st Grade? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:53 AM Flag

My child was not reading fluently at the beginning of 1st grade. She was (at most) reading something like hop on pop (and haltingly) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:18 AM Flag

^ They give you reading levels starting at A and I think DD was reading at "B" level when she finished kindergarten which is really low. By middle of first grade she was at level G. Holding back was never even discussed ir alluded to. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:19 AM Flag

Not every school uses the same reading levels, FYI [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:20 AM Flag

ITA, and it's better when they don't IMO. My dc always read above reading level (4s on report cards for reading always) and I have never gotten his reading level, not once in the three years in public school. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:54 AM Flag

They don't require reading to graduate from K but they certainly teach reading in K. At least at PS 41 they do. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:20 AM Flag

they teach it, but it is not REQUIRED until 3rd grade. A child would not be held back for this reason alone until 3rd grade. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:33 AM Flag

That's what I said, not required. However I was surprised it was so emphasized & for what it is worth I'd say 90% of dc's class was reading by time K was finished [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:42 AM Flag

But if your child can't read in first or second grade it filters through to other areas. You can't do any of the research projects they do in class which all require reading. Even the math tests have words kids need to be able to read to know what to do. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:08 AM Flag

no school "requires" that a child be reading upon entering first grade. that said, all the kids entering first grade were reading at dc's school -- reading is taught in kindergarten. i would guess that about half were reading to some degree upon entering k at dc's school, though that's just a guess. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:21 AM Flag

^^^this is anderson, btw. didn't realize you were asking about gen ed only. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:23 AM Flag

[ - ] When the doctor checks to see if the patient is still breathing, it's disgust, not compassion, that leaks out between his syllables: "You couldn't kill her with an ax," he sneers. That patient—the wide-hipped, unwieldy woman at the heart of Dorothy Parker's 1929 short story "Big Blonde"—is a familiar image in books, films, songs, comic books, TV series, video games and, now, politics: The woman as monster. The over-large, over-ambitious, overbearing creature who irritates everybody, the death-defying witch who just won't go away—and who therefore must be destroyed. 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:46 PM Flag

She's a vampire, a zombie, an alien, a werewolf, a psychopath, a serial killer. She's Alex, the Glenn Close character in "Fatal Attraction" (1987), who ... keeps ... on ... coming. She's the looming, clutching, stifling mother or wife or girlfriend in a Philip Roth novel. (Which novel? Take your pick.) She's the eerie, outlandish creature in the Sylvia Plath poem "Lady Lazarus" (1965), who proclaims, "Out of the ash / I rise with my red hair / And I eat men like air." She's the vengeful giantess in the 1958 film "Attack of the 50 Foot Woman." [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:46 PM Flag

And to judge from the media commentary about the first woman to get anywhere close to a major party's presidential nomination, she is Democratic Sen. Hillary Clinton. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:47 PM Flag

You know, that's really stupid. Dracula is the main vampire, zombies are of both sexes in equal proportion, werewolf? Both teen wolf and wolfman were, um, men. Psychopath? American Psycho = man; Norman Bates = Man. Serial Killer? Hannibal Lecter. Roth and Plath? Um, whatever. I don't think mass media takes its cues from Sylvia Plath. And way to go on citing a movie from fifty years ago to make a point about modern media. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:53 PM Flag

Norman Bates was a man, but it was his mother who was evil. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:56 PM Flag

ah. There you are! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:47 PM Flag

Yea, like Lady MacBeth. Familiar figure in literature. There are these types in the Bible, too [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:47 PM Flag

Very dramatic and eloquent and ultimately pointless. She's a monster becaues she IS a monster, it's what she's said and allowed her cronies and dh to say. She has lost because of who she is and how she ran, period. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:48 PM Flag

wow, brilliant logic. she's a monster because she IS a monster. thanks for clearing that up. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:49 PM Flag

you're welcome, sometimes it stares you right in the face but you can't see it. Like the fact that you're a bitch because you ARE a bitch. Live with that. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:50 PM Flag

it's sad that you can't see the sexism even when it smacks you in the face [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:52 PM Flag

oh please STFU, it's not sexism with her anymore than it's racism with him. You either capture the electorate or you don't in greater numbers than your opponent. Period. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:54 PM Flag

why do you hate her the way that you do? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:56 PM Flag

np: You have to admit she is getting a bit pathetic in her whining. Can't imagine Maggie Thatcher whine like this. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:05 PM Flag

No matter what she says, you will call it whining, because you hate her and want to justify your sexism. When Obama blathered on about race it was oh so historic and dignified, if she mentions sexism, it is whining. Keep up your double standard and see how that works for you in the long run [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:08 PM Flag

Obama has never complained about people not voting for him because of his race. Media is all over that crap, but he never did. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:13 PM Flag

oh, come on. cut the crap and please get real. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:16 PM Flag

Revealed in the coverage of Clinton's campaign is the persistence of an ancient and distasteful cultural theme: the powerful, ambitious woman as cackling fiend, as fantastically terrifying ghoul threatening civilization. And because this creature (or "she-devil," as MSNBC commentator Chris Matthews called Clinton) is not human, the only solution is to kill it. Not just derail its career—obliterate it. Smash it to smithereens. Vaporize it. Leave not a trace of the foul beast behind. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:49 PM Flag

Hence the appalling preponderance of violent, death-infused imagery in conversations about Clinton, smuggled into otherwise ordinary political discourse like a knife taped on the bottom of a cake plate: On CNN, pundit Alex Castellanos said democrats must realize that "it's time to take the family dog to the vet." Matthews' MSNBC colleague Keith Olbermann expressed the hope that "somebody will take her into a room—and only he comes out." CNN's Jack Cafferty gleefully floated the specter of Clinton being run over by a flatbed truck. A recent Tribune editorial compared Clinton to a euthanized Kentucky Derby contender. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:51 PM Flag

he is, according to author Andrew Sullivan, akin to the zombies in the film "28 Days Later" (2002), as well as that knife-wielding harpy in "Fatal Attraction"—the one with the relentless, rapacious, inhuman will: "It's alive!" Sullivan wrote, adding, "Whoosh—She's back at your throat." The comparison between the Close character and Clinton also seemed apt to U.S. Rep. Steve Cohen (D-Tenn.), who wrote, "Glenn Close should've stayed in that bathtub." Translation: Death. Comedian Chris Rock loves the "Fatal Attraction" link as well. Ditto for blogger Wil Wheaton, who played Wesley in the TV series "Star Trek: The Next Generation," who dubbed Clinton "the psycho ex-girlfriend of the Democratic party." [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:52 PM Flag

nd we know, don't we, what to do with psycho ex-girlfriends? Drown them, club them, electrocute them. Meanwhile, analogies between Clinton and that flat-eyed, metallic, multimovie franchise character "Terminator" are copious to the point of cliche. You may or may not like Clinton—or any other female candidate. You may or may not agree with their policies. But is it really necessary to order a hit? Isn't it enough just to vote for somebody else [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:53 PM Flag

LOLOL - the cackle is all hers, nobody is attaching anything to her that isn't there. She ran with a disgusting sense of entitlement, she and Bill, panting to get back in the white house and on airforce one, and it showed, it smelled and most said NO> [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:52 PM Flag

you know, she laughs like an ordinary woman. but that is enough, isn't it? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:54 PM Flag

This is not simply sexism or racism. Those prejudices are familiar, if still repugnant, and leaders as strong as Clinton and her opponent, Sen. Barack Obama, have faced them many times. This, though, is something different and more sinister, because it is not just a commentator's opinion about a person's fitness or unfitness for public office. It is not about using colorful, vivid language in order to wish that a person might or might not continue a campaign. It is an unprecedented public call—albeit metaphorically, but still violently and persistently—for a person's death. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:54 PM Flag

In their landmark book of literary criticism "The Madwoman in the Attic: The Woman Writer and the Nineteenth-Century Literary Imagination" (1979), Sandra Gilbert and Susan Gubar were among the first to spotlight this noxious theme, this isolation and ridicule of powerful women by labeling them crazy, hysterical, perverse, monstrous. To challenge male domination—of the world, or just of oneself—was to be risk being marginalized, ostracized, locked away like Rochester's wife in "Jane Eyre" (1847), the fate that gave the book its title. In real life, behavior that strayed from the polite, demure norm expected of women in the 19th Century was rewarded with psychiatric evaluations and often, imprisonment and death [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:55 PM Flag

One of the most barbaric medical procedures ever performed legally in this country was the lobotomy, and a look at its early history is chilling. As Jack El-Hai recounts in his book, "The Lobotomist: A Maverick Medical Genius and His Tragic Quest to Rid the World of Mental Illness" (2005), the frightening operation that could leave patients catatonic or dead often was employed as a way to deal with "difficult" women, with wives and mothers who had minds of their own, with willful daughters and headstrong sisters. The message was clear: Do whatever you have to do—but shut her up. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:55 PM Flag

The notion of a powerful, driven, influential woman as a hideous threat—a threat that can be curtailed only with her death—ripples through literature, from the D.H. Lawrence novel "Sons and Lovers" (1913), with its protagonist's conviction that he must escape the clutches of his looming, clingy mother if he is ever to realize his destiny, to the 1962 novel "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest" by Ken Kesey, with its way-scary female character: the loathsome, larger-than-life Nurse Ratched. The joyless, hulking harridan who wants to keep her patients drugged and miserable so she can control them. From the Furies in Greek literature onward, the women-as-mythical-monsters theme has shrieked, flapped and lurched its way through the arts. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:56 PM Flag

It's natural to wonder whether Obama approves of the death-haunted images that surround his opponent like a phalanx of vultures. Surely he doesn't. He is an intelligent, sensitive, enlightened man whose life has been enriched, as he frequently acknowledges, by the presence of strong women, most notably his late mother and his wife. I wish, therefore, that he would publicly condemn the trend of evoking death and destruction when it comes to Clinton. Perhaps, someday, he will. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:57 PM Flag

Meanwhile, the pile of death images continues to rise, like corpses outside Dr. Frankenstein's laboratory door. After Clinton's victories in recent primaries, the New Yorker's Elizabeth Kolbert called it a "back-from-the-dead" moment. Walter Shapiro, Washington editor for salon.com, opined last week that Clinton had entered the "death with dignity" phase of her campaign. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:58 PM Flag

Death, death, death. The steady, depressing drumbeat continues. What these commentators seem to seek is not just a proud female's withdrawal from a political contest—but her outright annihilation. They evoke the nightmarish vision of a commanding woman intent on destruction—thus she must be destroyed before she can launch her evil scheme. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:58 PM Flag

In a thriller by Irish novelist Tana French, "In the Woods" (2007), a detective muses about a psychopath who has outwitted him, "I wanted her not just dead but obliterated from the face of the earth—crushed to unidentifiable pulp, pulverized in a shredder, burned to a handful of toxic ash." With that attitude, he won't have to worry if the gumshoe gig ever fails him: He can always apply for a job with MSNBC. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:59 PM Flag

good night curb mom [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:02 PM Flag

[ - ] if i subscribe to a podcast, do i have to download it manually every week/day? or does it somehow download on its own? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:45 PM Flag

[ - ] why does this board seem so boring now? Is it, or is it just me? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:44 PM Flag

it's just really really slow. Everyone left us. I have to say I am really disapointed in my fellow UB'ers. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:45 PM Flag

why are you disappointed? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:46 PM Flag

because it's a format change for pete's sake! It so silly. It's not that hard to adjust to a few changes. I thought most of the women here were lawyers and doctors and people with some sense! Not a bunch of whiners who abandon us b/c the screen is a diff color now! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:48 PM Flag

It's not the screen color, because I can tell you, I don't like the new colors at youbemom.com, but it is BY FAR more fun and interesting than here. They killed a really good thing. Luckily, some smart, quick person re-invented UB over at youbemom.com. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:49 PM Flag

but that's my point. UB is the people, not teh format! It's like changing religions because your parish built a new church building with the bathrooms in the hallway instead of the basement! Who cares? The fun was the people. The format is a minor detail. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:50 PM Flag

No it is not. I liked it because it moved fast so you could sort of talk to people quite quickly. Now that it does not move it's no fun for me any more. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:00 PM Flag

It is that boring and I'm kind of glad. I needed to be done with this anyway. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:46 PM Flag

then don't go over to youbemom.com. That's where all of the wit and interesting posts went. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:48 PM Flag

that board looks like hell, it gives me a headachew [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:50 PM Flag

I've been there and I'm not seeing it. Also, if it's so great there, why do you need to keep coming here to say so? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:50 PM Flag

exactly [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:51 PM Flag

np: I still go back and forth to see what's up, and while it's not always great on YBM, that board moves way faster than this one. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:59 PM Flag

I go back and forth between being bummed and being glad. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:48 PM Flag

[ - ] Anyone use a sling that they really like? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:44 PM Flag

[ - ] when did you start giving your child time outs? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:43 PM Flag

op: is 2 too early? Not sure mine would understand. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:45 PM Flag

18 mos. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:46 PM Flag

we started around 2 ish, but she didn't really get it. It was more to get her used to the idea. Now she is 3 and does get it [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:46 PM Flag

[ - ] MIL is trying to buy a house with her boyfriend, who I've never met. Somehow everything with MIL is a big mess that she will try to change or back out of, so I am highly suspicious of this. Why is nothing with her simple and straightforward? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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Toddler 05.26.08, 06:43 PM Flag

She likes drama [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:44 PM Flag

It gets so old. I feel like she is a child always looking for someone to rescue her [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:45 PM Flag

[ - ] My FIL is so crass. Today he talked about his nephews' penis size and which one has the largest. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:42 PM Flag

I would immediately walk about of the room if such a conversation came up. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:44 PM Flag

so would i [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:44 PM Flag

I walked out once already, when he talked about gross meat manufacturing stuff. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:45 PM Flag

welcome to the family! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:44 PM Flag

[ - ] so how many people are here right now? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:42 PM Flag

me [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:43 PM Flag

8 [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:43 PM Flag

OP so there are 3 of us here right now? Geez [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:45 PM Flag

three people, and 60 employees of CNET. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:45 PM Flag

well they need to post then! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:46 PM Flag

lol. that would be "me" from above, by the way. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:46 PM Flag

damn. I thought there were 4 of us. Sigh [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:47 PM Flag

[ - ] If you used opk's in order to get pregnant, did you have a girl or a boy? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:41 PM Flag

used them twice, 2 girls. conceived both on day before ovulation [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:44 PM Flag

i don't know. i miscarried in my fourth month. (and yes, i know i'm bitter) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:46 PM Flag

[ - ] How old is dc when he/she moves from a big carseat to a booster? TIA. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More

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Toddler 05.26.08, 06:40 PM Flag

hijack: DS is 5yo and 43", but only 36lbs. Should I keep him in the carseat? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:44 PM Flag

[ - ] While driving to upstate NY for vacationed this weekend, we got a speeding ticket for 50 mph in 25 mph. I'm pretty sure that DH was driving 30-35mph. It was dark in a local street and the speed limit sign was not visible. He got a clear driving record, should he plead guilty or hire a lawyer to fight the ticket? tia! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:38 PM Flag

just pay it and get it over with. Cheapest way to resolve it. Also, in my experience, it is very easy to be driving 50 mph and it only feels like 35. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:40 PM Flag

Did they clock him on radar? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:41 PM Flag

what you need to do is continue to postpone your court date. That's what I did; the state trooper was re-assigned and not able to make my court date. It was automatically dismissed. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:42 PM Flag

they will catch you in those little towns. And if you were 35 in a 25mph zone, they'd still ticket you. Agree w/ other poster about postponing court date. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:47 PM Flag

go to the magistrate- you'll at least save the points on the lic. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:49 PM Flag

Never done this before, how? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:52 PM Flag

i'm a lawyer- just go have some excuse- throw yourself on mercy of the court and even if you have to pay the fine you'll save on the points- if you live far away it may not be worth it though [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:55 PM Flag

the place is like 4 hours away - so DH should just plead guilty and pay the fine? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:57 PM Flag

so plead not guilty and just continue to postpond? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:51 PM Flag

seems like a lot of trouble... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:58 PM Flag

is it worth fines and points? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:07 PM Flag

[ - ] i haven't told my parents this, but dh and i are thinking of moving family to boston suburb. my parents will FREAK out. we're all very close. I don't know how to tell them. we currently live 15 minutes apart. sh*t. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:38 PM Flag

i'm sure they'll be nothing but happy for you [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:39 PM Flag

np: ha. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:41 PM Flag

why are you moving? I think they will understand. we moved away too and it was fine [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:39 PM Flag

when they can't get in touch with you, they'll know. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:40 PM Flag

similar situation. we live about 1/2 hour from my parents now, they desperately want us to buy closer to them. i don't have the heart to say we're not really considering it. i feel terribly guilty. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:41 PM Flag

do you have kids? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:41 PM Flag

[ - ] If I conceived 1.5 to 2 days before ovulation, I am most likely having a boy, right? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:38 PM Flag

not necessarily. the odds are ever so slightly higher, that's it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:40 PM Flag

no, it's a 50/50 chance. also you can't tell exactly when ovulation is, so it's all pretty random. I can give you better odds---tell me how old you and dh are, and what they sex of your other kids are, and I'll make an educated guess [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:41 PM Flag

I think that would be - If you had sex 1.5 - 2 days before ovulation...and you would most likely have a girl. You can't conceive unless the egg and sperm meet up - how does that happen without ovulation? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:41 PM Flag

girl sperms last longer, thus if you have sex before ovulation, it's more likely you'll have a girl. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:44 PM Flag

np: her point is that you can't conceive before ovulatoin. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:47 PM Flag

you're more likely to have a girl in that case. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:43 PM Flag

This is correct. Can't say it always works but it worked for me both times (well, I can say that because I got the boy & girl I was trying for). [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:45 PM Flag

op - meant to say I had sex 1.5 days before ovulation. SHouldn't this mean I'm more likely to have a boY? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:54 PM Flag

[ - ] When I think of other people's marriages, I think they are all as miserable as us. (We are getting divorced.) Is that what everyone thinks? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:38 PM Flag

I assume most people are at least somewhat happy or they would be in therapy or getting divorced. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:39 PM Flag

I have been miserably married and happily married. I find that now that I am happily married I don't think as much about other people's marriages and when it comes up (friend confiding in me about problems etc.) I really feel like I have no idea about whether they will make it or not. Marriage can be such a fortress and it is hard to really know what goes on between a couple. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:42 PM Flag

I don't really assume but thinking about it now I think most people are less happy then dh & I. We communicate really well and I am always surprised by how nervous people are about sharing feelings w/their dh. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:44 PM Flag

misery loves company? My friend is getting divorced and is so happy now. She thinks everyone should get divorced. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:44 PM Flag

I think that is me now! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:56 AM Flag

[ - ] Please help me choose a really cool, really stylish tote/briefcase/purse (i.e. something big enough for computer, makeup bag, cords/Ipod, wallet, folders, etc. but not huge or "businessy") I work in the arts, but want something polished. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:37 PM Flag

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