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[ - ] what is a maxi dress? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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i just answered you on the other post. a long dress [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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oh. And that is cooler? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:05 PM Flag
[ - ] so I found out this weekend that just b/c you lose weight, do some toning and think you look good...does NOT mean you are in good shape and you should NOT put on sneaks and run a 5K like it's no big deal...OUCH!!! I HURT!!! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.26.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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aw, you loved it! congrats [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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oh, LOVED it but I loe the groin pain, shin splints, achy back, AND calf pain! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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wow, you got worked over pretty well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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I did! I also was SO out of breath at the end and I did not stretch enough...lesson learned! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] have you ever had to deal with the death of someone you lived with? i keep expecting to see them here, i call out to see if they're here and i know they're dead. i think i have to move 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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very sorry for your loss. How long has it been? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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oh, thank you. about 4 weeks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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that really is not much time. You may find it would be better to move, but then again, you may not. Give it a few more weeks and see how you feel, esp if it's a place you really like. These things take time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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What? Like a roommate? Someone closer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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a family member, in my case...but i feel like, even with a roommate, it would feel so strange to still live there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry for your loss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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freaky [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:05 PM Flag
[ - ] I just got an 'on the spectrum' diagnosis for my son (3). speech delay, delayed play skills. I'm in shock, I'm angry, I feel guilty for working, for not catching it earlier, I feel helpless. But my immediate question is: he's in normal preschool and the teacher has noticed nothing beyond speech delay. he is happy though shy. would you move him to integrated preschool? I'm trying to focus on practical things, keep it together, but this is so scary 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 05.26.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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what was the exact dx? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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its a long report but mostly developmental delay (some gross motor, some speech, some social, but mostly in symbolic play and 'performance' (ier doing the puzzel quickly.. he did it, just didn't make any effort to do it fast despite instructions). I have a hard time swallowing the test - it seemed so arbitrary. he did not meet the criteria for an autism dx, just spectrum. the OT things its all sensory/motor planning. the physio thinks much is related to jammed up part of upper spine which has limited his extension. the speech terapist says 'yes on the spectrum but these things change' .. we have no overall 'case manager' (not in US) which leaves us feeling out of our depth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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wow. i am in the exact same situation. WOHM mom with a 3 yo. I have no good advice for you other than i am just as lost and confused as you are. where are you? I am in Westchester. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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I'm in asia.. we're expats. how are you doing? when did you get the dx? for us it was abt 2 wks ago. theres lots of services but you kind of have to hunt it down (and pay) on your own.. am starting with OT and ST, but also going to pursue diet and ABA. its overwhelming! I JUST went back to work 2 wks ago from 3rd maternity leave (until sunday, I had 3 under 3.. ds just turned 3). I am trying to just focus on getting him the services he needs.. how are you doing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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i am on a bit of a roller coaster. One moment is fine and then next i am in tears. I can't imagine doing this with 3 under 3. i have a 1 yo and the 3 yo. DH and i are basically reeling. Found out either language processing issue with potential mild PDD NOS. Learning this "new" langage and it just sucks. This is the worst thing that has ever happened to me...how are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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i have recieved a bunch of hints, but someone recommended the autism speaks website. they have a first 100 days thing that someone on this board said was helpful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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I started to look at that - I wanted to see all the 'these are the signs' video clips but I can't do that at work and I am finding it hard to find the time at home (kids go to bed, I eat, I go to bed, I get up at 2 to feed baby and 5 to pump, leave 6:30). I am reeling to... dh is worse. we go from hopeful to practical to helpless/hopeless in minutes. we take turns being strong. I read The Out of Sync Child which was great..today after work meeting with a case manager type child psychologist and Friday meeting with an ABA therpaist who can work with him at home. I'm a wreck. I probably seem extremely together and practical on the outside. I have not even told my family or eny freinds. I have told boss (unmarried, chilldess guy) the absolute minimum . the other kids are getting NONE of me, basically nanny doing it all which makes me feel even worse [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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sounds really similar to me. I don't know if i have the energy to "talk" to you (I am sure you are in the same boat), but here is a test email account i just set up if you want to chat. going to bed now so will follow up (if you want) sometime tomorrow. Good luck wiht the rest of your day aham350@gmail.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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thanks very much.. I'll email you later today - maybe we can help eachother navigate this . sleep well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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my ds is 5.6yo and has been receiving ST and OT for 3 years. He only recently was dx'ed w/ ADD and mild PDD. I noticed his "issues" shortly after he turned 2 and enrolled him in a regular daycare/preschool immediately to socialize. While I will say the experience was not bad for him (very structured environment), I think the class size was perhaps not the best for him. I switched him this past year, (preK 4) to an inclusion class. That has its drawbacks as well. I would say that if you are happy with the school, don't make any rash decisions yet about switching him - unless you think his therapy needs would be better served in the special ed preschool (my ds could receive no ST or OT in his old school, we spent all our time running from billy to jack after school) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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op: same with us.. no services or special ed teacher at the normal school. he gets PT and ST late afternoon but at least DH can be there (his hours are better than mine, 7-3.. I'm 7-5). the inclusion school would have a special ed teacher but he'd still do st/ot outside (nearby and associated) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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do you like the special ed school? While I loved my ds' first preschool (cried when I told the principal that I was pulling him out), the most he gained from the place was structure. It was run by nuns, and believe me, they LOVE structure. lol. In his current school, he does have the spec. ed teacher who is able to redirect him better BUT, she's not the sharpest knife in the drawer and often the classroom is a chaotic (this is an inclusion class w/ 12 mainstream kids and 3 spec. ed). I must admit though, I don't live in the best school district, perhaps inclusion is better in other places. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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i havent even been to see it. DH is crushed at the thought that he might not go to 'normal' school and is resisting moving to fast on this (I agree nothing too rash, just canvassing ideas) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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it is a grieving process. I had really convinced myself that my ds could attend a mainstream K this year. Even put down a deposit in our local parochial school. After watching him in recent evals and w/ dxes, I must admit that he is not ready. I really don't know what to do. As I said, I live in a crap district. I may homeschool him next year. As far as your dh is concerned, you have to drill into him that these are the critical years. Yes, it's just preschool, but he needs to be in an environment that will support him and won't allow him to stim by himself and separate from others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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are you still there? can you tell me more about your son? Mine likes to spin things and look at things that spin (fans are a real high) .. some echolalic speech. we were going to go private anyway as we are overseas [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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I'm sorry - I know how difficult and awful a time it is. What kind of school options do you have? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.26.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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In retrospect and since it doesn't need to be forever depending on remediation, I would at the very least move him to a smaller setting - fewer kids, more 1x1 with teachers and ideally, I guess, a SN setting so that he can get really targeted help. My 6 yr old went through mainstream pre-K and although not on the spectrum, had a rough time trying to keep up socially with the other kids. Just for his own sense of self, it might be worth it to see what options are available like this to him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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Don't feel bad for working. If it's your first dc it can be hard to recog every single sign. And all kids are different. It's great that his preschool teacher didn't notice anything beyond the speech delay. Remember. It's a big, big spectrum. Sounds like your son might be on the milder end. I'd get him the services he needs, integrated preschool or where ever is best. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.01.08, 07:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Have not been on UB in several months. What the hell happened? I'm lost! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.26.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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It's not rocket science, trust me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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it's not a big deal, just takes some getting used to. Play around for an hour and then ask. We can help [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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I myself HATE the new format. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:18 PM Flag
[ - ] My mom is having a lumpectomy tomorrow. Anyone know how long before they start radiation? TIA! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.26.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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I think that varies widely. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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i don't know. b ut i really wish you best of luck. are you worried? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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it depends- if lymph nodes involved then chemo first. generally have at least a few weeks between surgery and starting radiation. it is not a big deal, few side effects. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Black Tie Optional wedding in a few weeks on a Sat. night..what kind of dress? Can it be a dressy little black dress (at knees) or does it have to be gown??? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.26.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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I've seen lots of cocktail length at black tie weddings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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not a gown. if its in the evening, i guess you could wear black [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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i like cocktail length for black tie optional. i feel ridiculous being overdressed in a really formal gown next to people in less dramatic clothes so i never really do it if there's the option [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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np: Good point. Most men don't even wear tuxes at black tie optional. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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If its black tie optional would definitely not opt for the gown. There will be too many people dressing less formally. I usually expect only close family members or wedding party people to wear gown length. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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OP here..husband checked w/groom who said it's definitely a tux type affair. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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Then they should have written black tie. That's not what optional means. Plus even these days a lot/most of women wear cocktail length dresses to black tie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:23 PM Flag
[ - ] what was the name of that show with tuti and those other girls at the school? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.26.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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facts of life- you take the good you take the bad.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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The Facts of Life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:56 PM Flag
[ - ] i'm really upset. i am sure that 3yo has asthma, it's pretty clear to me now. i am really angry and feel like we should have moved out of the city a long time ago bcs this would never have happened i'm sure. i really feel horrible and so so sad. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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Well, you knew the city was dirty and polluted, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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living in the city does not cause asthma. It might make it worse in certain people depending on what triggers it for them, but it does not cause it. Stop beating yourself up! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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i'm sorry, but kids have asthma all over the country [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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i sort of understand how you are feeling. my dd has food allergies and i was really upset when we found out. but i don't really believe that it's anything i did. your 3yo might have asthma and it's possible it is exacerbated by the area you are living in. but really. it's not the cause. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:00 PM Flag
[ - ] So capris are unflattering?? but they are so much cooler than pants. Not sure I will survive the summer! 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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Capris are fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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So a few inches shorter makes them cooler than pants? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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np--for me it does...I guess air can flow thru pants. I live in Miami and long pants KILL me, but capris are so much better. I just do ankle length [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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what's wrong with capri's? I thought they were the SAHM summer uniform. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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well, they certainly aren't flattering, imo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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More flattering than shorts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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if you have celulite [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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Most women look bad in shorts. Sorry, it's true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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I live in shorts. Hell, I run 25 miles a week, my legs are fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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Keep telling yourself that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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lol. they got me thru 8 marathons and 3 ironmans. My legs are all muscle, no veins, no cellulite. I work hard at it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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me too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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so true- although everyone claims shorts are back in this summer again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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God forbid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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never for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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somehow I find this sad. I will always equate summer with shorts. 90% of the time I am at the beach or going to it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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there are some cute ones this season...but it depends how you look in them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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i wore jeans today and i was so hot! im definitely getting capris for summer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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I cringe when I see peopl wearing jeans in hot weather. OUCH [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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or: funny, im from africa and i wear jeans all the time when im home but for some reason, it was just too hot today and it'll only get worse in the summer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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ditto. wearing less clothes in the summer actually makes you feel hotter since more of your skin is exposed to the sun. In africa people cover up. they don't walk around in shorts and mini skirts. I think capris and shorts are for youngsters I don't care how great your legs are. If you want to be cool (temperature wise) wear skirts or maxidresses which are in this year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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I wear maxi dresses here in Miami when it gets super hot in August/sept [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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what is a maxi dress? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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lol a long dress [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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jeans + hot weather =torture [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:54 PM Flag
[ - ] i posted earlier and then had to leave before i got any replies. where should i get a birthday cake on the uws? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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at a bakery [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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op: lo....not really [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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Is this really that much of a conundrum? Good Lord. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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np obviously OP is looking for recomendations honey. If you know of a good bakery why don't you just tell her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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I don't even live in NYC, "honey." Why didn't she post on the damn NYC board? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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LOL! You sure have the attitude for living in NYC! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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Thanks! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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op: thank you! i couldnt be bothered to get into it with her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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At first I thought she was just being funny. Then she got all weird onyou. Sorry - I live in another state. Can't help. GL though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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Magnolia, Buttercup [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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op: thanks. i'll check these out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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Little hen or little red hen (something like that) on UES is awesome [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 07:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know a good walking program that I could do with db in the stroller? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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what is a walking program? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Any good shrink recs in Brooklyn Heights area? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 05.26.08, 05:47 PM Flag
[ - ] How did you get back in shape after your baby was born? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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running, weights and eating mostly veggies and fruit and whole grains for a couple of months. This was about 2 years after the baby was born though! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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starved due to high levels or nervousness and frustration! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 05:46 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone here live in boston? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.26.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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