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05.26.08, 18:14 PM General Topics
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WWYD? 3 yo ds in bath tonight, shot water in my face on purpose with bath book squirter thing. I scold him, told him it was unacceptable in a stern voice. He starts crying and refuses to let me was the soap out of his hair. At an impasse -what do you do then? Thank you. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.26.08, 06:14 PM Flag
 

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kids dont make the rules, you do. you have a 3 yo and havent figured this out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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np: can't stand responses like this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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so what would you have done? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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wash the soap out of hair. take away toy. you think leaving soap in hair is an option? bizarre. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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change direction--once you scolded, let it go--deflect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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why do you have to answer so snarky? I am asking because my DH and I feel differently about my response and I wanted some other opinions. Don't assume. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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so what did you do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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op: see below. yes I did. DH acted like I was abusive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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I'm not assuming anything. why would you not wash soap out of hair? this really makes no sense? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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op: yes, you assumed that I hadn't "figured this out" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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You wash the soap out if his hair, then you finish bedtime routine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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dump water on his head to get the soap out, pretty much. I'd wrap it up, that sort of thing is hard to work your way out of. after bath ends and pjs are on I'd probably try to talk about it again a little and make sure he understood what he did wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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op: OK this is what I did. My DH acted like I was totally overreacting and oout of control. I was not. I calmly told him I was going to wash out the soap and he freaked and I did it anyway. Then I promptly took him out of the bath and got him dressed. My Dh wanted to take over and I told him that ds needs to respect when I ask him to do something and that daddy is not going to take over every time he doesn't like it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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You are correct. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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sounds like you did the right thing. I think parents tend to try to "protect" the kid and/or spouse if a situation happens with the other parent and the kid is out of control. I say whoever starts the discipline finishes it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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I think that's fine. I hate when my dh tries to play good cop. it's really unfair. these situations need to be worked out for everyone's good. he needs to support you. hecan always offer - if you are really overwrought - to step in and relieve you, but this is your call. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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op: yes this was my point t dh. I was upset about the water and the fact that he would not let me wash out the soap, but I was not out of control or yelling in anger. My sh comes running in and starts freaking out, trying to take over, and I am like, look, we are fine,, please let me finish handling the situation, and dh would not leave and kept escalating it. It was ugly and I am really upset with him for making a mountain out of a molehill. Ds and I have these battles all the time during the week when dh is at work, and we work them out just fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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well, when dh calms down, try to talk to him a little and get on the same page. I can totally picture the situation and somehow he has to know that he made things worse for everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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op: thanks. I am totally pissed at him right now. He pulls crap like this all the time and I really hate that he does it in front of the kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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my ds started doing this also. if i get mad at him, he thinks it's quid pro quo that he can get upset back. so if i yell at him for stepping on the baby, it's ok for him to then throw a book. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.26.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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