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[ - ] can i do anything so that I don't see every inside of every post? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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I think you can check collapse posts up there in teh your settings box, then hit save as default. But it will collapse everything [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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where is settings b ox? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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top right of your screen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:08 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone done one of those ISR - Infant Swimming Resource courses? Worth it? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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no but i've wanted to try -- i think there's a teacher in tuxedo park but she'll come to your hosue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:10 PM Flag
[ - ] How much does it cost to get a full-time nanny in manhattan for one child, six-months old? I would need the nanny from 9 a.m. to 7 p.m. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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about $600 a wk or more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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is that before or after taxes? [ Reply | More
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after [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:15 PM Flag
[ - ] a good friend has a newborn with some serious medical issues. They (the parents)are very young and seem to be struggling a bit financially. They say they don't need anything, but I want to help in some way. Family is not nearby, he's working and she's home with baby for now. Anyone have any suggestions? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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is the baby home or at the hospital? if home, i'd send diapers or gift cards to babies r us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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good idea [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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np: ditto on the gc to Babies R Us [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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yes or target in case they need other basic stuff [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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Send them meals, someone to clean the house, or if you know them well enough, call and ask to come over and then just do whatever needs doing: laundry, cooking, babysitting while the mom sleeps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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gift cards are great...everyone could use diapers. do you live near them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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ita, but send the diapers to the house - it can be a struggle to get out if she's alone all day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:05 PM Flag
[ - ] how early can you have an abortion? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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i think you can have a chemical abortion up to 2 months and a "manual" abortion after that?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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so eager [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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you can have a medical abortion any time up to 9 weeks (7 in some places). some providers will only perform abortions after 6 weeks, 7 weeks or 9 weeks, some will do it before that point. some specialize in very early abortions (prior to 6 weeks) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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morning after pill [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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that's not an abortion. the morning after pill suppresses ovulation. it won't do anything if you're already pregnant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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no I think the ma pill prevents implantation. The egg can still be fertilized. We can argue about whether that is life or not but I prefer not to argue about that ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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No studies have found any evidence that it affects implantation. However, the fact that it MAY potentially do so (without any evidence that it actually does) means Plan B includes this possibility in its literature. But it's never been shown to actually happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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^^^ see this, for example: http://www.popcouncil.org/mediacenter/newsreleases/ecdisruptsovulation.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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interesting. Thanks. I learn the most random things here ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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My interest in reproductive mechanisms pays off! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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LOL! knowledge is always valuable in some circumstance! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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hey - any idea why my hot flashes are worse at night? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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Sorry, I just know about sex, contraception and abortion [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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ok . I figured it was worth a shot! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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not sure, most ppl don't know they are pregnant until 6 weeks or so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:04 PM Flag
[ - ] If I did an IUI this morning (natural cycle) is it ok to exercise on the treadmill? I normally do it 3x a week but haven't in three days so I would love to do it today. Doc did not say not to, but df and dh are saying i shouldn't. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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just take today off. Maybe it matters, maybe it doesn't but if it doesn't work, you don't want to wonder forever do you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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ITA--just take the day off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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what's more important -- working out or having a baby? i'd wait a day or two -- it's not going to make or break you're waistline. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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op: yeah i guess...just feeling very bloated from all the crap i ate at yesterday's bbq. and feeling bad because i wanted to lose my extra 15 lbs before I got pg and i just didn't make it. you're right tho...want to give myself every possibly chance.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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don't beat yourself up. just drink a lot of water and take it easy.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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One work out is not going to take those extra 15 off. I would just take the day off and relax. If you really want, go on a walk with DH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:12 PM Flag
[ - ] WW moms, how many points do you get a day and do you use them all?. I am getting my period and have been using my weekly allowance also. I feel bad about that .... 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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that's why i couldn't do WW -- it's too confusing. but it's fine if you use all your points. it's also good to eat a diff. level of points each week -- shakes things up. now, i do jenny craig during the week and pig out on the weekends... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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I would get 20 pts. I was always hungry. The weight fell off, though. I think it was just too low calorie for me. I ate all my points plus all the weekly points plus a few extra. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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20 and I have freaking starving [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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20, I usethem all, sometimes I use more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:25 PM Flag
[ - ] have an end of the year class picninc for my 4 year old. what should I bring. other parents are already bringing bagels and cookies. and there is one kid in the class with an egg allergy. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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make a fruit salad -- or fruit kebabs -- always a crowd pleaser... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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fruit can get pretty expensive. btdt.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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true -- guess it depends on how big the class is. she can also make jello jigglers -- now, those are always a crowd pleaser and super cheap to make and can be made ahead of time... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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It can, but it doesn't have to--especially this time of year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:58 PM Flag
[ - ] experienced ny drivers - best route from park slope to new haven? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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at night - I-95 is horrible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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Broad strokes: Brooklyn Bridge to FDR to Triboro to Bruckner to 95 or Hutch (depending on traffic). But it's always awful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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so this would be better than going over the whitestone? doing it at night, fwiw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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In my experience, yes. The BQE is always a crapshoot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone tried the victoria's secret biofit bra? Any good? I need something to help my sad used-to-be-C cup but not sure what I am now after nursing 2 kids! Looking for recommendations in nyc. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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try the Town Shoppe on the UWS - they're super knowledgeable and will help you find the right bra [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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ITA. I just went there. Victoria Secret is crap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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apparently ther is a place called bra tenders that des expert measuring and fit. google it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Any DOE middle school notifications yet (besides citywides)? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.27.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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I've heard that this Friday is the day...I sure hope so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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Has anyone had any rejections from citywides, or only acceptances? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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we had a rejection from Anderson Middle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:30 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you think that when a woman chooses to SAH she is, in essence, prostituting herself, given that most sah moms do the bulk of the chores, rearing, calander-setting, the whole thing? 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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yes, but, everyone is exploited in some way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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what about a WOHM whose DH makes much more money than she does and clearly lives on far more than her own salary? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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how is that being exploited? DH stays home because he chooses to and I'm pretty sure he doesn't feel he's prostituting himself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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not everyone is exploited. You don't believe in free choice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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you can choose to do something and still be exploited [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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how? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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"taken advantage of" or "devalued" are better descriptions (np) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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of course not. It's a decision both parents should make about what is best for their particular family [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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Most WOHMs do that stuff as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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no. it's a choice. a person isn't being forced into it in most cases. sure, it's a lot of work, but the load varies from SAHM to SAHM, as some DHs are more helpful than others and some have hired help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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omg, how dumb are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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Not very, but alittle... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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exactly - does OP even know what the term means?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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yes she does...it just seemed to be a good analogy - having a not good day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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see below - got it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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OK, are you being sarcastic, OP? B/c I read this as one of those typical flames of SAHMs. I think if you have that kind of mindset (for real), than you're making yourself out to be a victim. Do I sometimes feel crappy about my day or my choices - sure - but I would never go down the road of comparing my work to prostitution. My DH recognizes the value of my work and so do I. I made trade-offs, of course. We all do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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well said [ Reply | More
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ty! [ Reply | More
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my dh does not recognize or realize the value and it is getting to me. I apologized below about using that term. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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well that indeed sucks and he's daft - it is valuable work and your family wouldn't function w/o your contribution! :) [ Reply | More
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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Deciding to be a SAHM or A working mom is such a personal decion and one that can't be judged by anyone else. That being said I am a working mom and could never stay home with my child, I need to work for financial reasons but also for some me time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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No. We don't even have sex. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More
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: ) [ Reply | More
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prostitutuing is an interesting choice of words. besides most working mothers also do the bulk of the work too so what's the difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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i was having pity party when I thought of it today....just feel like I sold me soul, or something [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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if you're not happy, do something different [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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so you are having a bad day. YOu used to have those at work too didn't you? If you really feel this isn't working for you, then do something different but don't start talking about SAH being prostitution for pete's sake [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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sorry- I guess there could have been a softer, gentler way to phrase it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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s'ok. Just try to figure out if this is just a rough patch (which we all haev no matter what our life choices are) or a real signal that you need to change something. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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thank you [ Reply | More
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bingo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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Isn't everyone prostituting themselves when they take a job? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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Yeah, seriously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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I think a WOHM does the same thing- only has less time to do it. Moms in general do more child rearing. So, SAHMs have it better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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Prostitution is typically the exchange of money for sex, not vacuuming. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Are you a germaphobe? Went to the local zoo with SIL and her DDs and she wiped them down with LYSOL wipes (not baby wipes) if they touched anything -- a fence, my DD, a garbage can, a table, etc. And then she bathed them in antibacterial lotion. I'm surprised they're not covered in open sores. Yikes. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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not me. I'm probably the opposite [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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she does realize she's preparing her kids for immune issues and supergerms, right? [ Reply | More
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she things that because her kids rarely get sick, she's doing the right thing. but they're only 2 and 4, so they have yet to really get into the mix at school. plus, she keeps them in a bubble. i love her but she's nuts. [ Reply | More
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I'm not, I think it's pretty neurotic [ Reply | More
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[ - ] 0ver 40 what form of birth control do you use? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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early menopause [ Reply | More
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condoms [ Reply | More
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Same [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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mirena. pita the first few months but now it is fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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I have this too - no probs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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male infertility [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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Don't know what your diagnosis is, but we had female factor, and it took multiple IVFs to have DB#1...then wound up with miracle #2 pregnancy. Just saying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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that would be wonderful - quite a blessing. we never got pg with IVF/ICSI. wound up adopting. a miracle baby would be quite welcome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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Glad adoption worked out for you! Would you adopt again? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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We have twice and feel that's enough. Still, the magic pregnancy would be sweet... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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I feel lucky, but at the same time, our miracle pregnancy was unplanned so that created its own set of problems. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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Yes, I understand. I'm sure it would be a complicated mess here too, and yet something so great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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gayness [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:08 PM Flag
[ - ] when you were a teenager, did you have sex in other people's beds? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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no, usually a van or in the woods [ Reply | More
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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sometimes, but they didn't know about it -- and i cleaned up after myself. also, always put a towel down first. i was a slutty, smart teenager. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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Nope, but didn't become sexually active until college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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I was still a teenager when I went to college [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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me, too. [ Reply | More
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OR- Guess I didn't have a need in college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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OK we get it your neighbors kid had sex in your bed while you were away. they won't punish him. move on. never talk to them again and give him the evil eye whenever you see him. end of story. and for the record horny teens will have sex wherever they can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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i'm not that poster [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:01 PM Flag
[ - ] How do I get into the publishing business, as an editor? What kind of starting salary if I'm good? How do I sell myself? Teacher, btw, HS, very experienced. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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check out mediabistro.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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i was going to say the same thing. but starting out, you'll make way less than a teacher and you'll be competing with people who are just doing it for the status and not the money.... signed, a former editor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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