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[ - ] Give me a good reason to stay 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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If you stay there will be trouble, if you go it will be double? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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exactly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:26 PM Flag
[ - ] did you have your own bedroom growing up? If you shared a room, how many people did you share it with? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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had my own [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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Mostly shared a room. With my brother from the time I was 13 mos until I was 4 and we moved to a house; then with my sister from the time I was 5 until I left for college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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my own- never shared until college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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Ditto. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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college was the first time in my life I had my own room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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Not most of the time. Shared with my brother until I was six. I had my own room for two years then shared with my sister once she was old enough not to have to sleep in the bassinet by my parents' bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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I shared until I was 6, then had my own. When I was sharing it was with my little sister. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:09 PM Flag
[ - ] any college counselors on? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone here have a child that models/acts professionally? I want to talk to my working DS about some of the issues but need some tips. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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Just send him a message through his agent [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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huh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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that's funny! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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you are gross. a ds does not need to be working but playing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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NP: you have no idea how old this person is. Could be a 19yo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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a 19 yo "child"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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Sure. a child is a child [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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Please, many children work and some are even helping to support their families in developing countries. I don't think there is anything in itself wrong with working. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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this is true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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Really because in AMERICA there are laws protecting children from your kind of attitude. A child should not have to support his/her family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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Are they working issues or kid issues? Maybe we can help with the latter. What does he do, mostly? TV ads? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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not t.v. - largely print now. As he gets more opportunities for work I am not sure how to approach the idea of auditioning and being chosen. He is starting to notice if he does not get a call back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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My DH works some with child models (he illustrates books). Tell DS that it's all about what the client is looking for -- a particular wounded look, or mean look, or all-American look. He should always do his best and be polite, but he will never win every audition. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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thx. great advice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:35 PM Flag
[ - ] i just bought a breast pump and nursing bras. due in one week. done with work now and trying not to obsess into insanity. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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Take a prenatal yoga class. At least it will give you something else to think about for a little while. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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If this is your first I recommend going to tons of movies, getting mani/pedi, and going out to dinner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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Take back the breast pump and rent a hospital-grade pump. The consumer-grade pumps are worthless, IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have a GE Profile refrigerator? Mine is making a loud humming noise and I can't figure out why. Any ideas? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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could be the ice maker- sometimes the 'arm' on mine is tilted up and I have to push it down [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Who is the best wrist specialist in NYC? Think I have carpal tunnel or something like that. Prefer if they take Oxford. Any nabe in NYC ok. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.27.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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op: can't believe I haven't gotten a single response on this -- my wrist is killing me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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a wrist specialist? that's pretty obscure [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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totally not -- orthopedic mds all have their specialties. I have a knee specialist who gave me the name of a wrist guy who can't see me till next week. You must not play sports. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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Hand surgeons take care of the wrist. Not obscure at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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Steve Lee is really great: http://www.med.nyu.edu/people/lees26.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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op: thank you -- any other names welcome -- not everyone takes Oxford [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Any recommendations for easy easy books for a new reader, with words based on pictures? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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how old is the new reader? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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any Phonics set. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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BOB books, any easy readers in the library/book store. Level 1s all have corresponding pictures. There are Dick and Jane books and pretty much any kind of character (Dora/Cars) easy readers too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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Rain I don;t know who it's by, but illustrated Donald Crews [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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Jump frog jump [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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richard scarey books are the best!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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The Fat Cat Sat on the Mat by Nurit Karlin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:39 PM Flag
[ - ] best sling for a newborn? tia. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 05.27.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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i just got a kangarookorner. haven't had baby yet so can't tell you how it works, but it was highly recommended. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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None of them really worked for me. Hotsling was okay--then switched to Bjorn and Ergo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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have the bjorn but it hurts my back. want something slingier if you know what i mean. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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i really LOVED the maya wrap, b/c she was hidden in there and there's an extra flap of subway to cover them on the subway. great for going out to dinner, too. she would sleep the entire time. also it's adjustable so dh and i could both wear it. LOVE LOVE LOVED IT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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will check that out thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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which maya wrap did you have? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:24 PM Flag
[ - ] My dd is almost 4 (less than a month away). She seems to have no control over her actions. For example, she goes to turn off the light and I ask her not to, and she does it anyway and then flicks it on and off 10 times while I am asking her to stop. She does this kind of thing all the time. Is this normal 4 yo behavior? It seems a little ocd to me. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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normal to me...but then what is normal? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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^^the issue is impulse control, not OCD it seems to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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NP: So are you saying the lack of impulse control is normal? Thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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At 4 - absolutely. 44, not so much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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Honestly, I wouldn't accept that kind of behavior from a four year old. But I'm old school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Our HHI is a little over 100k, in Western NY state (where that's a decent living). Our house is 200k, however, and we have about $20k in debt plus $15k to pay down on one of our cars. We're feeling stretched, mostly due to our town taxes and an inability to budget. Should we stick through this, learn to budget better, and live frugally? Or downgrade our large house to something more modest, in a town with cheaper taxes? I stay at home and my husband would prefer that I return to work so we can maintain our lifestyle, but I'd rather spend less and keep staying at home. We're in a bit of a pickle; luckily it isn't causing any issues between us, but we'd like to get it resolved one way or the other. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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What is your monthly mortgage + escrow amount? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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you seriously need to learn how to budget, because you should be able to own 2 200K houses on your salary. What is your "lifestyle"? Expensive clothes, vacations, etc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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I love that you can't manage your finances, but the problem is "town taxes." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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lol, ITA. These are the true keeping up with the Joneses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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Not at all. I drive a five year old Sienna, DH drives a fifteen year old Saturn, I get our clothes from Marshalls, shoes from Payless. We have no fancy toys. The reason we even bought a 200k house to begin with is because the previous owners made a lot of aesthetic mistakes (old wallpaper in every room) and we were able to talk them down to 70k below the original list. Too good of a deal to pass up. We are not keeping up with the Joneses. Our friends are poor, cheap, and unimpressed by our large home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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you need to learn to budget. moving will be a short term solution. it might help with your expenses but if you can't learn to budget and spend wisely you'll end up running into trouble again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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We can't afford vacations and we definitely don't buy expensive clothes/shoes/electronics/etc. Our mortgage and town taxes come to around $2000 month, plus another $600 or so for cars/insurance/fuel, another $600 for utils/phones/lawn, another $500 into the 401k, and $800 to credit card bills. We probably spend too much on food, but aside from that I'm not sure where our money is going. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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The credit card bills sound like the problem -- the source of the $20K debt? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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Yeah. When we bought this house it had no appliances except an old dishwasher, so we had to buy washer/dryer, range, fridge. DH wanted prosumer quality products, so that's probably at least half the debt. Then we bought some furniture to fill the house, nothing extravagant, but that was all on credit. We spent all our cash on the down payment for this place last year. We've stopped charging for the most part. I get this feeling that we're missing some part of the equation and should have more loose cash, but we don't.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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np: how much do you net per month? any fixed expenses/debt other than mortgage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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I think around $5k. See above for fixed expenses... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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i think you need budgeting help. you can probably cut back in a lot of areas. $2k a month for housing is very workable on your income. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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Who can we talk to about this? An accountant? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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Oh, those evil town taxes. The problem isn't your buying a large house (and heating a large house, etc). The problem isn't your spending. It's all about the taxes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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np: it can be a few hundred dollars a month. if you weren't planning on it, it can throw your budget into disarray. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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Our town taxes are $600 a month because the school system is good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:22 PM Flag
[ - ] it drives me nuts when dh raises his hand to threaten to hit dc. He never does and I know that this is ingrained from his childhood, a knee-jerk reaction and he tries to catch himself but sometimes he forgets and it makes me flinch...let it go or talk to him about it? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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why wouldnt you talk to him about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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because he gets embarrassed and mad at himself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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talk to him lovinlgy...he needs to work on it very hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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he needs to stop this asap. no excuses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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OP: or what? I spoke to him already and he still does it.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:19 PM Flag
[ - ] 294 replies in the most popular post....WOW! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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one strange side effect to the slower site...also the popular topics search feature. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:16 PM Flag
[ - ] long shot but does anyone work for NYU? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:11 PM Flag
[ - ] is there a chamber music venue that's appropriate for toddlers? my kid just got obsessed with violins and want to show him a real one--don't think lincoln center is the place and too young to actually try one. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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op: in nyc area [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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There was a children's music school on 96th off columbus. Can't remember the name but they had every real instrument. Something Ear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:13 PM Flag
[ - ] There are lots of fat kids out there. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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ITA...it's really unsettling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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It's all their mothers' fault [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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I think it is their caregiver's fault. What are they feeding these kids? Must be junk and soda. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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My DD is huge--26 lbs at 12 mo--she EBFed until 6 mo. Has never had "junk" or soda. Some kids are bigger than others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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Then she's not talking about you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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She doesn't know who she's talking about--that's my point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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I think she's talking about the kids who are eating junk and soda - not ebf chunky babies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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Go and reread her post "Must be junk and soda." My point is that no, that's not always the case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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OP here. I'm talking about the fat toddlers and pre-schoolers I see, not your fat 12 mo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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I'm talking about the op - I don't think she (or anyone) is referring to ebf 12 mo babies. I think the post and the or are referring to "kids" that have the ability to eat junk food and soda. I think you are overly sensitive because you have a 26 lb baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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Could be. My dd gains weight so easily. She takes after my side of the family - it's not always just bad habits - it's simply harder for some. Sigh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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some people have the "thrift" gene. The trick is to not let kids get to the point where they will constantly be in the state of needing to shed a few. I have a friend whose daughter seems to be like that at she's only 5. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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...and lots of parents absolutely clueless about how much sugar their kids are eating - they think yogurt is healthy (not if it has a bunch of sugar in it and the kid eats 10 per day) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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test [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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ugh - so true. So many fat parents feed their kids fast food all day long - chocolate milk, dessert after every meal - and a vegetable is considered a french fry. So sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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Katsup is a fruit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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true. Ketchup, not so much, but katsup - definately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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DefinitEly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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What about fat teenage girls? When I was a teen there was nothing I could do to get fat, but all these teens are fatsos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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Yes! My sis and I were discussing the fact that most of us adults can name the fat girl from high school - I bet if you asked a highschooler to name the fat girl today, they'd have about 100 to choose from. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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There's a lot of fat everyone. Even dogs are fat these days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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some theorize that it's all the growth hormone and antibiotics in meat and dairy that have made people's bodies go haywire. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:29 PM Flag
[ - ] I made the chocolate chip cookies (with whole chick peas) from Jessica Seinfeld's book. I think the chick peas are disgusting in there, but db gobbles them up, so I guess it was worth it! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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have you tried feeding db chickpeas closer to their normal state? falafel is chickpeas too... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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He won't touch a chick pea. No way do I have the energy to make falafel, but they are yummy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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so easy to make hummus! And all you need is a blender, lemon juice, garlic and olive oil. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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Why would I make hummus when I can buy a tub at the store? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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Because it's incredibly easy and you can make it any way you like. (NP) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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sure - anything is great with sugar. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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True dat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:05 PM Flag
[ - ] potential divorcee here. need some advice from someone who has been through this. my DH is very controlling about money and he doesn't see it. but, part of me is so scared to go through this. ??? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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is that why you are considering divorce? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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it's a big reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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Do you have a job? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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i have a job. everything is separate. he makes significantly more than me. now that this has happened, he will agree to a joint account. however, property will still be separate. i can own a new home if I put in equity. 20%, i can own 20%. we live in city. i want a car. he says i'm spoiled to want a car. things like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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gross. so sorry it sounds like he's a money grubber. do ya love him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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Wow, he has major issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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i do love him. still, i'm finding this hard. he is willing to give me a joint account now, where he contributes more. still, it bothers me that i had to go through this to get this, and that he would still own house separately. the mentality that he is doing it because i said so is killing me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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so what exactly is his reasoning behind this nonsense? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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i really don't know. i guess lack of trust. now, he says because of what i have done (basically, hired a lawyer), he will never renegotiate the prenup because who knows the next time i will do this again. the worst part is, he is in pain, and he has the power to fix this. it's very very painful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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e-gads! good luck with that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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