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[ - ] if a house is appraised higher than sale price can you borrow more? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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sure, but most lenders will not borrow more than 80% of value. i imagine at this time it's even more strict [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:08 AM Flag
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so i would still have to put 20% down? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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at least or pay private mortgage insurance but with the current housing climate i think it's getting harder and harder to secure a loan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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I depends on the lender. You used to be able to put only 5% down but I think they have increased that. You most likely need at least 10-15% these days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:11 AM Flag
[ - ] any working moms out there? all of a sudden I feel overwhelmed because I have been juggling day to day who will take care of DCs since my nanny left, long work hours, and worrying about getting laid off. My DH seems to be handling it better but I am stressed. Men seem to be so calm about these things. what is their secret? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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Have you been interviewing for a new nanny? Having reliable cild care is the key. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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their secret is - they know that you will handle everything at the end of the day so they are putting their trust and faith in you. Flattering on the one hand but beyond frustrating on the other hand [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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in my house i do all the child related worrying and organization and DH pretty much assuems i will get it all done and occasionally criticizes. it is the #1 most stressful thing about our marriage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:13 AM Flag
[ - ] i love how ted kennedy gets brain surgery at a top place so soon, the rest of us would get zip 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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not true... private hospital, serious illness... you would be seen and helped... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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Are you kidding me? If you don't do this type of surgery right away you may as well not bother. I know someone else who had it recently and they are typically MC family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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huh? you would love to know why? isn't it obvious? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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Duke treats non celebrity not wealthy people too ya know. My Dad had surgery there, and quickly too I might add. He wasn't famous and solidly middle class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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OP has issues, obviously [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:12 AM Flag
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seriously! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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no true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:24 AM Flag
[ - ] Where can I find a large selection of Merrell shoes uptown? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.02.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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not quite uptown but there is a shoe store called shoe mania on madison, between 42nd and 43rd street. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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orva [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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Harry's on UWS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:38 AM Flag
[ - ] db got a bad cold last week and basically stopped going down for naps and nighttime as usual. at one point can we go back to the drop-in-crib-and-walk-out-the-door routine? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:50 AM Flag
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when most symptoms are gone and db just has a runny nose or such [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:52 AM Flag
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she still has a stuffed nose, but doesn't seem miserable about it, but she will NOT nap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:53 AM Flag
[ - ] i have a friend who basically was in school for years (got masters, doctorate, then post doc) and now that she's done, she quit her job because it was very stressful and going back to school for writing. part of me thinks, good for you, do what you want, and another part of me is like "wow, what a waste of money and when are you going to grow up you are 36 yrs old". anyway, just wanted to say that because i obviously would never say anything to her or any of my friends. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:49 AM Flag
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I know a guy like that. They like school, they don't like work. Every job is stressful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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i want her to be happy and she probably is very happy right now (is living with a man after years of not having a boyfriend), but i still feel like, geez when are you going to grow up??? why did you waste all of that money??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:53 AM Flag
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np I don't think education is ever a waste of money whether you "use" it or not. She will probably stay in acedemia and maybe teach eventually [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:53 AM Flag
[ - ] At this moment there is a woman on the radio in Atlanta who still "suckles" at her mother's breast at the age of 26 when she is upset or stressed. The mother is not lactating still, but the "suckling" is calming for the both of them... I'm floored... 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:49 AM Flag
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gross! I'm in Atlanta - what station? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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Q100... bert Show [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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LOL! I was betting it was them. I am pretty sure that a lot of what they talk about is faked. I have heard some doozies. This has got to be a fake (please please please) LOL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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I don't know... they are trying to find the mother... can you imagine ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:59 AM Flag
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no! And I don't want to imagine that thank you very much! Gotta be fake - right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:00 AM Flag
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I have no idea... the woman said that it was called a "ninny" and she sin't weirded out about it at all (although she was on the voice disguiser... OTP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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of course she was OTP! Snort! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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one of those counties you always she scrolling at the bottom of the TV screen for tornado warnings... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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well we did have one downtown not that long ago..... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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seriously ? i missed it... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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Where do you live? Drive down the connector - there are still many many windows out in the peachtree plaza. I amd surprised at how many are still gone! And Oakland cemetary was messed up pretty badly. Happened about 2 months ago or so. We spent some time in the basement that night [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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oh... I didn't miss the tornado !!! i thought you meant there was a woman downtown b'feeding an adult child ! wow... you must have thought i was really checked out ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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LMAO! Oh. Yeah. I thought maybe you were lying about living ITP there for a minute! BTW - have you gone to site feedback to ask for an Atlanta board? I keep bugging them. They say it's in the works but so far no dice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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will do... how old are yours ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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3 yo dd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:32 AM Flag
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Apparently she also does this for her grandchildren... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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ugh that is the grossest thing ive heard in a long, long time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:54 AM Flag
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That is not suckling it is incest [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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paging Doctor Freud [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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That is disgusting!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:42 AM Flag
[ - ] pump and dump-please explain how this works, i.e you took a med not recommmended for breastfeeding and want it out of milk 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:45 AM Flag
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well, first you pump. And then you dump until said substance is out of your system. Throw it away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:46 AM Flag
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pump your breast and throw away the milk ? it's not tricky... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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pumping is not going to get it out of your system. not sure about meds but alcohol leaves your milk the same way it leaves your blood. the only reason to "pump and dump" is to avoid engorgement while you are waiting for it to clear your system. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:48 AM Flag
[ - ] Does muscle REALLY weigh more than fat? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:41 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:42 AM Flag
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OP so if I'm more toned, my scale might say that I'm a pound heavier? Or am I just deluding myself?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:43 AM Flag
[ - ] just read that Tatum O'Neil was just arrested for buying crack on the LES... now I'm sad. wasn't she proudly sober and talking about it and everything ? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:41 AM Flag
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imagine - a celeb lying about their substance abuse?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:41 AM Flag
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np LOL! True but she also could have fallen off the wagon. Sad either way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:45 AM Flag
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That is normal addict behavior, but I just think it's sad that she went all public with the fact that she was sober and she did it for the kids and now she's on the corner buying crack... you don't think it's sad ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:46 AM Flag
[ - ] ideas for party favor gifts for 4 yr. b'day? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.02.08, 05:40 AM Flag
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theme? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:45 AM Flag
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op; I think at this point just general. Nothing specific, it's going to be at a gym. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:56 AM Flag
[ - ] Trying to help BIL and SIL: their dd is 6 and doing very poorly in school. She has had developmental issues all along [didn't speak until age 2 1/2, perseverated on toys, didn't turn to her name, etc.] but received no intervention. To complicate matters, they now live in Luxembourg so their dd has to learn several different languages. So I guess I'm asking if anyone knows what services are like in Europe, specifically Luxembourg if you know. Also, should they get her evaluated there or here when they come back to the States next summer? Finally, what kind of eval? I was thinking neuropsych, but maybe a developmental ped? TIA. 44 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 06.02.08, 05:34 AM Flag
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Luxembourg is more advanced at this stuff than the US. There is also a European school there, where the kid (well, the parents) gets to choose which language they are taught in. It's a very rich and advanced country, so there really is no reason to not get her to see a doc asap. I'd say developmental ped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:59 AM Flag
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I'm surprised to hear this. My knowledge of people raising SN kids in Europe is that services are woefully poor and recognition of disorders is way lower than in the US. I think they should have their dd evaluated here for SURE. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:31 AM Flag
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There are several countries in "Europe". You moron. You have no idea about the standard of living in Luxembourg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:37 AM Flag
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Do you now feel superior you smug bitch? If you can't help move on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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Yes, I do actually feel superior to someone who thinks Europe is a country and believes everything they see on the daytime teevee is the word of god. People were actually trying to help, but you didn't actually want to ask anything, you just wanted to judge. She replied perfectly nicely and you insulted an entire continent in response [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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Where does she indicate Europe is a country? Your the bitch calling her a moron. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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oh, so she is saying that in every sin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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>>>that she knows thi about every single european country? Yeah, and every state i sthe same too. Idiot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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if you can't type please leave [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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cat walked on to keyboard. So are you suggesting that her comment is informed and she has this knowledge concerning each and every european country? There are about 50 countries in Europe, and some of them are places like Sweden and Luxembourg, and some of them are places like Bulgaria or Ukraine. Come on. You cannot possibly compare the services or knowhow of Luxembourg to many of the other countries. Look it up on Wiki if you don't know what Lux is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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Yeah right uh-huh. You're windbag. s [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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I just think it's completely preposterous that someone wouldn't seek treatment for their child in one of the richest countries of the world just because they have been brought up to believe that everything is better in the US. That is just not always true, and all I am saying is that if you're just going to go ahead and insult the rest of the world then why are you asking the question to begin with. Don't ask if you don't want the answer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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I think you may pop a vessel soon. go lay down [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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OP - you weren't speaking to me. BIL and SIL did not seek treatment for dd b/c they were in deep denial, not b/c they think the US is better. They have been very happy w/ general health care over there, but seem to be at sea when it comes to developmental/educational supports. I was just asking if anyone has specific information about the Luxembourg system, and whether she should see a neuropsych or a developmental ped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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Ooooh dear, oh dear.... I think someone needs a little education ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:38 AM Flag
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NP - the dc described above obviously has something wrong. Just becuase we in the US diagnose every different personality as being somehow SN, doesn't mean that an actual developmental disorder could somehow go unnoticed in any western country. You are not making much sense. THink about it. Europeans are much much healthier than Americans - how do you explain that if their medical knowledge were what you are saying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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Umm... Ever heard of private? At least those guys HAVE services, which you are entirely free not to use, and go private. With an issue like that I would never go to public services anyway, not in any country [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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What if they can't afford private? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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well then the point is moot, because in that case they can't afford the US either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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WTF? Please go away you elitist swine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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what? I was just stating a fact. In the US health services are incredibly expensive. At least in some European countries your public health services cover part of the cost of private. You're not understanding what I'm saying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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You obviously do not have any experience in this area. Insurance covers this sort of thing. Check out the Kennedy Center in the Bx. Insurance covers tutoring for kids that are delayed or have learning disabilities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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Yeah and they accept Medicaid too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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Yes but in Scandinavia for instance, this 'insurance' is paid for by the government - you have it just for being born there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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Can you stop switching back and forth between continents? How is your input offering any help? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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Europe is one continent. There are several countries in it. What is so difficult to understand about this??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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Europe, US. You can't even retain what you have posted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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i'm not the only person replying, you nitwit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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Well then read the other posts before you post dingbat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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OP: I stepped away from the computer to bring ds to school. I was not involved in any of the above exchange. I was thinking that BIL and SIL should have their dd evaluated here or in the UK just b/c English is the dd's first language so the evaluator could get a clear picture of her language development. Also, BIL and SIL are not fluent in any language other than English, so it would be easier for them to communicate with the evaluator too. However, I don't know if the Luxembourg system would accept an international evaluation, so it might be a waste of money. Our niece has trouble attending and seems to have trouble with auditory processing. She picked up Luxembourgish in daycare and speaks it well enough to function w/ her peers [she's very social]. The problem is that now she has to learn German in a more traditional classroom setting and doesn't seem to be getting it at all. She is falling further and further behind. Thanks for any help you can provide. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:25 AM Flag
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Oh, ok. So it was just some xenophobe sabotaging your thread. Anyway, there are actually a lot of medical experts in the Benelux area who are native English speakers. There's a massive population of expats [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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OP: Luxembourg does seem like a very comfortable place to be an ex-pat. Do you know what kind of interventions are available there? SIL has a friend w/ a son w/ Asperger's and he is not getting anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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A lot of it depends on what country you come from. In the European school I know they have set up a SN program, but I'm not sure about the international school. The ES is meant for EU officials' offspring, non-EU can attend as well but they have to pay for it. Outside of the school systems, I suppose it's just a question of finding a dr you like. There are websites for expats where you can get fairly good tips. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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OP: our niece is attending the regular Luxembourg school, not the International School or the European school. Maybe BIL can get her into the ES. You don't happen to know the names of any of those websites off hand, do you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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WTF is Luxembourgish? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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can you american idiots just look these countries up if you know nothing about them. This is why Europeans think al Americans are morons. Because you do not even seek the info when you are confronted with your own ignorance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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Are you trying say that Luxembourgish is a language? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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It is one of the official languages of Luxembourg, actually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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Are you trying to say you know more about this than OP? Just stop fighting your own ignorance and maybe try reading a book. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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OP: it's a language, or maybe dialect of German, that is only spoken in Luxembourg. The kids all start speaking that, and then learn German and French in school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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Thank you. Finally someone offering info w/o being obnxious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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"WTF is Luxembourgish" is not obnoxious? Luxembourgish is one of the official languages in Lux [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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No, its not. You're really oversensitive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:45 AM Flag
[ - ] has anyone received the results of the NYC public school or g&t lottery? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:30 AM Flag
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no k g&t results [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 03:28 PM Flag
[ - ] I know it's kind of early to ask but does anyone know when the 1st day of school will be for most private and public schools in Manhattan? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.02.08, 05:27 AM Flag
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^elementary school [ Reply | More
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for privates, generally, it is the first Wednesday or Thursday after Labor Day. [ Reply | More
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Tues 9/2 [ Reply | More
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public is 9/2. http://tinyurl.com/yvkr3c [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:40 AM Flag
[ - ] any corporate law moms on? I have a legal question. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:26 AM Flag
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go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:27 AM Flag
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is there a legal limit that utility companies can charge for late fees? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:28 AM Flag
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^^^I think late fees for other companies is 1.5% but RCN is charging me 5% which I think is a bit steep. Just wondering if there is a limit to what they can charge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:29 AM Flag
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sorry, not really a corp law question. A collections one, so I can't help [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:46 AM Flag
[ - ] wwyd? my sister is married to an absolute pothead, lose, unsupportive man. They have been together for 10 yrs, married for 2. They have an 18 mo old db. Well my sister just told me she started smoking cigarettes and pot again and she just had sex with sone random guy. She doesn't want me to tell anyone and i do not know how to help or what to say to her. Any advice? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:21 AM Flag
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hmmmm. sounds like your sister is in a bad place. only she can ask you for help -- you can't do anything for her. she's a grown woman and making her own bad choices... you can't protect her from that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:23 AM Flag
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yuck. Awful to watch I'm sure. Try to get her to focus on what is best for her DC. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:29 AM Flag
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