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[ - ] Anyone attend pre-school auctions or other fundraisers prior to applying the foolowing year? If so, how would one find out when these would be? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.02.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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We got an invite from the school once we had secured our dcs place at the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:56 PM Flag
[ - ] if you could afford a beautiful house in a close suburb with a large yard, fantastic public school system, and great community or a 3 bedroom apt. on the upper west side, which would you choose and why? 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.02.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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UWS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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I have the former and sometimes wish I had the later...I think it is better for the kids living in the burbs thougha nd I like not worrying about getting into and paying a fortune for schooling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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are you unhappy in the burbs? did you previously live in the city? i grew up in the suburbs but have been in the city for over 10 years and love it here. but we're seriously thinking of leaving. i am so torn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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np: It is so much more enjoyable when you don't have kids (living in the city that is) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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UWS - everything is so convenient [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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UWS, no question. The burbs are too isolating, and the UWS is amazing for the park and access to museums, Lincoln Center, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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lol! I love these responses. You know the burbs have parks. Also, people from the tri-state area take advantage of the museums, Lincoln Center etc. Nothing beats having your very own backyard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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oh please...parks with no one in them, yards are isolating, and you have to plan an entire day with endless train rides to do the museums. all I have to do is walk a few blocks. not to mention the time wasted in a commute. no thanks....you can have it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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Here is another tidbit for you - people actually socialize in the burbs. We go to story time at the library, we invite people over to our house or meet at the park, there are a ton of festivals to attend. We even have museums. We also have cars so we don't need to take the train. We can explore even more with a car at our disposable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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Nice try, but forget it. I grew up in CT, and my family is still there so I know all about the burbs. Have fun at story time and sitting in traffic on the way into the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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Have fun living life within a two block radius of your home. Must be fun going to the same museums again and again and again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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LOL. Who said anything about living in a two-block radius? All I said was that I can walk to the museums--and by the way, that's just the handful of world-class museums within walking distance, not to mention the ones just a short bus-ride away. And we get around just fine by public transport...you must be really miserable out there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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I forgot about public transportation. It must be really fun to take a toddlers and infants on the bus and subway. I am moving to the city right now! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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It wasn't a problem at all actually. We found it very easy to get around, and a hell of a lot easier than getting them into and out of car seats all day long. Whatever... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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np: what a sad and uninformed statement... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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3 bedroom in Manhattan but I can’t stand the burbs. Have several friends that have moved, they all adjust but all they do is hang out in their back yards. I like the diversity of NYC, you never know who your going to meet on any given day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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Diverse?! Do you actually live in the city? It is extremely segregated. People stick to their own kind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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Not at my dc's school, both of them have people from all over the world from every nationality. gendar orientaion, etc I think it is wonderful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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NP, I live in nyc and our life is diverse. Attend ps 3, our building is wonderful mix, our churh is wonderful mix (its huge). You can isolate yourself in nyc, but you dont' have to - and you cannot argue that diversity is not at your fingertips if you seek it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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I have no desire to live in the UWS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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suburb. without a second of hesitation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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why? please give me some great positives. i currently live in the city and love seeing people every morning. my biggest fear is being all alone in my big house with no one to talk to.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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bingo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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np: Read my post above. People socialize in the city. It is interesting, I lived in the city for many years and found it quite isolating. You were always surrounded by people but there was very little interaction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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huh...we're always interacting with neighbors, running into friends, meeting people in the park. I don't get this at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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I did not have kids at that time so maybe that is what made it different. I imagine parents are seeking each other out. When I lived there I found it could be quite lonely, at least in terms of meeting new people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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np: There are suburbs with business centers with things going on. There are some really nice ones on the south shore of Long Island. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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i suppose it depends on which suburb you choose. i find that you get more privacy but you still see people. here's what i like about the suburb. you have the yard and the park. it's nice to have the options. i have a car that i don't have to pay a fortune to park so that we can go places when we need. i can take a walk and dcs can run ahead and it's not a big deal. i have much more space than i could have in the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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me too - we just did it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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UWS, hands down. Burbs suck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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Forest Hills Gardens [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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We could afford either and much, much prefer the city. One of the biggest reasons (quality of life issues aside and depatable) which is *not* up for debate is the commute time. My dh sees his kids every day and makes it to most school events. Hi suburban colleagues can not say this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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Commute is key. If talking lower Westchester and a Met Life building job, maybe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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UWS. Though I see the appeal of the suburbs, I think DH's commute would kill us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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UWS... suburbia isn't all it's cracked up to be and then you have to maintain a freakin' lawn... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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3 bedroom UWS hands down. I don't want grass to cut, or roofs to replace. I want to call the super when something goes wrong. I also don't need a dining room I never use or a living room no one goes in. Space is overated. And, I'm in love with my nyc public school and have a great community both at school and at local playground. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 03:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Totally lame, but does anyone know how to make good iced tea? I just can't seem to get it right. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.02.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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7 tea bags for a tea pot (where you might normally use 2 or 3. Brew for an hour. Add 1/4 to 1/2 cup of sugar while warm and the juice of one lemon and the lemon itself. Stir well and pour over a pitcher of just ice. Add water or more ice if it is too strong. Adjust the next time as needed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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do you like it sweetened or not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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unsweetened [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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the absolute best tea IMO is sun tea, but only works for unsweetened. do you have a place you can set it in the sun for several hours? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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liptons powdered mix [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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barf. you don't know good iced tead [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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you have to add vodka [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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oh that stuff is awful. Truly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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I make sun tea. biggest vessel I can find. I measure it out and generally do about 1 teabag per 6 oz of water...then I throw 1 more in for good measure. Fill the pitcher with warmish water (I just do it from the tap) throw the bags in, and put it in the sunniest place you have thats sunniest the longest. If you want a flavored tea do go and make a whole thing of raspberry tea....blech. I get the herbal rasp tea and put 1 or 2 bags in with the black tea (In addition to, so if you have 64 oz of water 11 bags, 1 for good measure, 1 to 2 rasp) I let it sit alllllll day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:45 PM Flag
[ - ] where can you get those sneakers with the little wheels? do they make them in adult sizes. I've always wanted a pair 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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they're called wheelys or something like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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heelys. modells I thinl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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Heelies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 02:10 PM Flag
[ - ] My husband has been working on a journal for the past 7 years about our DD. Its over 50 pages typed and covers events from school, holidays, birthdays, vacations, trips and several pages covering the day she was born. He wants to give it to her when she gets older after he has added a few more years to it. Wondering if she will really enjoy it and recognize the effort that went into it. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.02.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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That's a great thing. If she is old enough she may appreciate it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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overachiever [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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I think she'll fully appreciate if/when she's a parent herself or maybe when she gets married. I wouldn't give it to her as a teenager. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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I am sure she will -- esp if he saves it for something like highschool or college graduation or something. if he gives it to her when she is 13 she may disappoint him in her response. but it is a wonderful loving thing to do and she will definitely be touched by it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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Trust me, she will. I cherish a "baby book" my mom made for me thru ages 0-12. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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my dad gave me my "baby book." It was completely blank except for my name and footprints. Not sure why he bothered to give it to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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I'm sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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she will when she has her first child [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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At age 8 she might not truly get it, but when she is older, it sounds like something she will cherish. What a sweet daddy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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I would give it to her at her high school graduation. I think it is a beautiful gesture and I wish I had my act together to have done it for my dcs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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wow. I think that is awesome. but she probably won't "get" it until she is much older [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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interesting. I've been keeping a hand-written journal for our dd (who's 5), but haven't formalized it quite that much. she knows I'm doing it, and she's asked me to read parts of it already. I don't think about formally "giving" the books to her (there's two), they're just there for her to read through whenever she wants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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ah, i'm jealous that you have a dh like this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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np: frankly he sounds like a freak, and overly involved in the dd, perhaps at the expense of the relationship with his DW. why else would she be posting here and asking if this is a good thing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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are you using blurb.com to publish it? i'm going to do one for each year (so i say...). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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I created a gmail account for my son when he was born five years ago. I send him email every once in a while. (Now his brother too.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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this is a little weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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That is a cute idea. Wonder if he'll ever read it. I know dd would read. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:15 PM Flag
[ - ] I just spoke with someone at the DOE Enrollment Office. G&T kindergarten placement letters will be sent out the week of June 9. I don't know if that's the beginning of the week or end of the week, though. I'd suspect at the end of the week. 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.02.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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That is awful by the time people accept and register the schools will be closed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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op: I just hope we hear by June 12. DD and I are scheduled to attend the K orientation at our zoned school on June 12, but I'd like to skip it if we know she's not actually going there. Of course, there is one G&T class there and it's on our ranked list, so she may end up there in any case. Ugh, I just want to know already! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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We are attending orientation this week - I just told DS, this is one of the schools we are looking at. I know I will end up meeting people I really like and then say - now what! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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I bet there will be people at each school that you will like (and some you won't). I already took DD to our zoned school when I voted and when we enrolled her and I made a big deal about how she'd be attending kindergarten there. Then she received a better than expected score on the OLSAT and now she might go to a different school. We've just told her that we're still trying to decide which school she will attend in a few months and she seems okay with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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We are going to skip orientation. I figure that a lot of people will be in our shoes (our zoned school will be accepting a lot of people from the district lottery and they won't be going to orientation either) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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Feel the same! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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Who cares? It's an hour out of your life that you don't in any way need to spend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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why does that matter? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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Schools have welcome events so that the new parents can meet each other and possibly get together over the summer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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Public schools do? Who organizes this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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Usually the PTA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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So? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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Oh I sure hope it's the beginning since we are away that weekend! I think public schools last day of school is end of June. Hope they give instructions for how to register! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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of course they will. just take your acceptance letter with thee required documentation to the school and register. what is wrong with you people? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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why is that awful??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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she thinks she is going to miss out on some welcome parties/orientation/etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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ROFLMFAO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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thanks for the post--op you didn't by any chance find out how many applications they received? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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Sorry, I didn't. I left a message for someone there and when he returned my phone call, I was so happily surprised that I pretty much blanked on my questions other than when we can expect the placement letters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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LOL-I had a similar experience when I got a live person on the line one time--I had a million questions, but only blurted out one and then hung up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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why don't you call the DOE and ask that question? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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Did they tell you how much time we would have to accept? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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Ok - so the bonus award goes to the person who can get the answers to these questions and fill us in! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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what phone number actually got a pick up? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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I just dialed the first number listed for the G&T office on the DOE's website. I was on hold forever and then transferred to someone's voicemail. Then he actually returned the phone call, which I didn't expect based on what I've been reading here on UB. He was very nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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Was it Marty Barr in the Office of Pupil Enrollment? (he seems to be one of the only ones who knows definitively what is going on) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 02:27 PM Flag
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No, it was Matthew Greenberg. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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He's also from the enrollment office. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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so did matt or marty know when we should be getting the letters and how long we will have to decide? has anyone confirmed that there will, in fact, be NO waitlist for anderson and nest? what about the district g&ts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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NP: Helen from Insideschools is contacting the DOE about some of these issues and she'll be posting her results on their blog in the Kindergarten thread. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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is this someone who works at insideschools, or just a random woman? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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she works there and is taking Philissa's place who just left. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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Hi, Philissa! Thanks for all of the great info! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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for those of us with dcs entering g&t in 1, 2 and/or 3 grade, can we assume that what applies to K applies to us? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:50 PM Flag
[ - ] I was at one of the playgrounds in Central Park this weekend and there was this mom who was watching her DD (about 5 yrs old) wait for one of the swings. The mom yelled to DD "Ask her for a turn". Is it me or is it one of those things that when you are done with the swing, it is the other kid's turn? This woman was so overbearing. 96 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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you're right!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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OP: That's what I thought but I wanted to see how others viewed it. I would not take kindly so someone forcing my kid off a swing. It's not like the girl was on the swing for an hour either. She just wanted "that" swing and the mother was going to make sure she got it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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it's fine to say what she said. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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no, you wait your turn here in the real world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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np: perhaps you are unfamiliar with NYC playgrounds - where it is common and accepted behavior to ask for a turn when someone has been on for a long time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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Yes in NYC the mommies feel entitled therefore so do their children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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OP: You did not read my previous posting. The child on the swing was not on for an excessive amount of time. It's just that this child wanted to get on THAT swing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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? NYC mom here..there are SO many playgrounds..go to another, but the swing isnt free until the swng is free.. there are no turns! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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Yes! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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OP. Yes. I agree 100%. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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wow. glad you are not my neighbor or friend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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I am also glad not to be your neighbor as I don't care to associate with entitled people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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what? how is that entitled? not sharing is entitled. from where i am from, and i i used to live in ny, people allow their kids a certain amount of time on the swing, and then ask their kid to get off so someone else can try. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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BS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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so i am lying? oh, my! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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EXACTLY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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it's nice to see someone else agrees. wow. i initially was confused with this post and the responses because i think the totaly opposite of many of these posters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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sigh. i'm the exactly poster and i too am getting flamed for knowing that community involves sharing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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i know. where are you from originally? can't believe i am spending so much time on this one post. what selfish people. and they see us as selfish. strange! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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can you believe that woman below saying she won't share resources? where was she brought up? what a witch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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It's not an issue of sharing or not sharing. It's a matter of allowing a child to complete the activity without being forced off. And yes, the fact that you feel that you have the right to take something away from someone indicates entitlement. If you (or your kid) could relax and wait they *will* get a turn. It might not be when you snap your fingers, but, oh well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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honestly, i haven't been imagining myself in the position of asking for the swing, i have been imagining that my kid is in the swing and someone wants to use it. when that is the case, then i am going to politely ask my child to take a few more swings so that the next person can get on. that is what a community is about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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again, EXACTLY. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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OP: So we agree. I would also encourage my child to finish up and let the little girl have a chance. But, I definitely would not make my kid get off the swing if some mom asked my kid. It's just out of line. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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np: the mom told her own dd to ask the child on the swing for a turn? why is that the same as the mom asking your kid to get off the swing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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nnp: i have the same question. the op's thinking on this is just off. it's fine to teach your child to assert herself in certain situations. sounds like the op just didn't care for the girl's mother - which is really not the issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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I am the OP. I did not care for the mom's behavior, that is true. And it is the issue. I don't think it would have ok if the child would have asked. WAIT YOUR DAMN TURN. The kid was only on the swing for a few minutes, not a half an hour! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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another selfish mom. nah, nah, na, na, naaah [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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first of all, i don't think we agree. and second of all, your posts do not indicate it was about the mother. if so, then you would have said how politely you asked your kid to get off the swing before the other mom asked her kid to ask your kid to get off. sounds like the mother was too lazy to get up and tell her kid to ask your kid to get off politely. and if a 5 year poold girl is fixated on one swing, so be it. that is probably because she is nervous about asking anyone to use a swing (and sh was since she never saked and her mother told her what to do), who wouldn't be afraid to ask with people like you? it's a kid! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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np: you clearly do NOT understand the fact that some children or their caretakers will utilize a swing for more than a half an hour at a time. sorry, but that is NOT okay in a situation where there is a group of people using limited resources. i asked a caretaker once to rotate her child out because she was FEEDING HER DC LUNCH in the swing during a crowded period - using it as a high chair in the prime, pre-lunch recreation time. totally not cool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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np: i'm wondering if it's just a misunderstanding. i have dcs close in age and they often want to play with what the other one is playing with. i strongly encourage them to ask for the next turn. it's a way of notifying the user that their item is being waited for and that they someone is waiting and they can't keep it indefinitely. i think it's a healthy thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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You need to visit the City.. do you have any idae how many swings there are? Must be thousands! But even in the burbs, take your child to the sandbox if the swings are busy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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so you have to go to a whole other playgroung as someone suggested, in order to get on a frigging swing? that's what a hate about selfish nyers. and i lived there for half my life. what a differenct when i came out west. people care about other people. in fact, they talk to each other in a pleasant manner and are respectful of others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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I hear you. So why are you on this board? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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with juicy stuff like this to remind me that i made the right decision? (plus, i miss new york before the baby came) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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are you frigging serious? are you kidding? or is this a joke? because you need to teach your kid to share/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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Okay when you can learn patience [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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Again, there is a playground with 10 swings on every block in the City. You need to leave UB if you dont understand the U part of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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how long have you lived in nyc? i've been 40 yrs. face the harsh urban laws of the swingset [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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I have lived here for 27 years and don't think that there is a law of the swingset. Must be in your head. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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okay overbearing mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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np: there is definitely swing-set etiquette - as there are standard behaviors for the other equipment. all of it helps the shared space run more smoothly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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you mjust stated a law just now. what a turkey. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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Dude, if you have been on the swings for 40 years.. im just not sure what to say. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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dude, i'm a mom. go light another doobie [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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and there are 8 million people and God knows how many children. get a grip. you have to share community resources in an urban setting. the urban doesn't mean license to be selfish. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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shut the f**k already about sharing resources. first come first served loser [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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OH WOW. let's call you selfish mom. incredible! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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I don't "ask" anyone if they're done with the swing. my kids can wait. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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selfish mom, selfish mom, selfish mom. nah, nah, na, na, naaaaaah [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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mommie it's my turn!!!! i want it now!!!! go away veruka [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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not sure how this is your business. sometimes people hog the swings, when the culture of the playground generally encourages rotating out after a period on any given piece of equipment if others are waiting for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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^^ this especially happens when parents who are not familiar with the playground etiquette bring their children, as opposed to either the SAH parents or the nannies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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Don' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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This is not a SAHM issue vs WOHM issue. Parents should stop being bullies. It's a bad example. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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not framing it as a sah or woh issue - used those terms to point out that some people are unfamiliar with the etiquette [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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I didn't say it was my business. I posted here to see what people thought. Yes, the playground is a group activity but as I mentioned, there were other swings and the kid could have waited patiently (there is a lesson to learn in life about waiting for things...). Someone should not be pressured off by some forceful mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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you did NOT say that tthere were other swings [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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It's a playground so of course there were other swings, but all swings were being used. But, she stood in front of one swing in particular and waited. It was her mom that got all bossy, the little girl was not complaining. The entitlement is just too much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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you suck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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hog the swings! lol. in the playground its first come first served [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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somewhere like NYC where there are limited resources to be shared among many, it's helpful to be thoughtful of others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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what color is the sky in your world? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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just stay in your own neighborhood and out of ours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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okay what zip code should i avoid? or is the entire city your oyster? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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if you don't know how to share resources, you shouldn't live in nyc. sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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lol do you ever venture outside your little comfort zone into reality? If you ride the subway do you ask someone to give up their seat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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we create our reality. i am clear what yours looks like. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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I guess you would be scared to ask for a seat on the train then? You just like to be overbearing and entitled in the playground [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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i'm really not sure where you're getting overbearing and entitled. it's a reciprocal thing - i share when others are waiting, and i anticipate that others will acknowledge the culture within our community and share as well. and, yes, i did ask for seats on the subway at times when i was pg. as i also give my seat up to pg women, the elderly and others when necessary. your hostility is evidence enough of your experience of things. again, you are creating your own reality - and your the one who has to live in such an unpleasant and self-focused one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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sure you do. I can just picture an uptight ass seeting because he rkid has to wait for a swing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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go uptown with your new age jargon and see what happens [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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I think the mother is wrong to say that. Children need to learn patience, as hard as it may come. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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ita! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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i ask for a turn or tell dcs to ask when the kids have been on the swing a long time. bottom line, there's nothing wrong with asking [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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there's nothing wrong with refusing either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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Well, I would definitely NOT let a bossy mom kick my kid off the swing. I would turn the table and ask my child if they were all done and let them get off the swing on their own accord. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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of course. who said anything about kicking off a swing. the whole point is that she wasn't demanding. she was asking for a turn. i can't believe you people that think that it's not ok to ask for a turn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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in the hood that kind of request will invite a whole lot of abuse! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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It was fine. NYC playgrounds are crowded. Kids need to learn to share. Asking for a turn is reasonable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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what if the kid has only been swinging for 2 minutes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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On the other hand, I think asking for a turn might reinforce some positive behavior in both the child who is on the swing and the child asking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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maybe so, but how will mom be able to cope with rejection? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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Mom will have to stuff it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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yes!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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OP: Best way to handle this is if you absolutely can not wait any longer then ask the child if they are almost done. But, no parent has the right to tell another child to get off a swing. A swing is an independent activity. A slide is a group activity. If your kid refuses to get off the slide, it prevents all the children from going down. If you child stays on the swing, a child can wait for one of the other ones. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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ita..... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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that's right [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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asking someone if they are almost done is so passive aggressive. if you want a turn, ask for it. it doesn't mean the other person has to jump off and give it to you this second. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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exactly (or are you exactly mom? i bet you are since there seem to be only two of us that think alike.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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no, i'm not exactly mom. i guess there are three of us. i can't even believe that people are supporting the OP. it doesn't make any sense to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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I'm here sister! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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Let the kids work it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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General rule of thumb for me atleast - I am a dh. When I take my son to park and he goes on swing if there are more than two or three people waiting I will give him 50 - 100 pushes and then we go to back of line to wait for next available swing - that way everybody gets to have fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 02:46 PM Flag
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I find this whole thread somewhat ridiculous. It all depends on how long the DC on the swing has been using it. It's perfectly okay to ask if s/he's been hogging it for a while... it's not okay if s/he has been on for a short time. But I for one always cue my DC when it's time to let someone else have a turn...common courtesy. Most playgrounds don't have 10 swings and it's ridiculous to suggest kids should have to travel to another one to swing! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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I would only say that if the other kid had been on the swing for a really long time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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#1 not until 18mo (he didn't have any to cut before then. db #2 7mo [ Reply | More
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I believe it is 199 which is a very good school [ Reply | More
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thanks. [ Reply | More
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Toddler 06.02.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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stopping it will just perpetuate it longer, signed adult thumb-sucker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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Hi ATS :). try that stinky nail polish! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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you never should have let it start. shame on you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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since when? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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from infancy of course [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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Oooh. Her thumb saved our lives versus our firends.. our little one was always able to self-soothe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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now she runs the risk of a malformed palate. good going! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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you're right. i'm such a loser and bad mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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you are! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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You need to replace it with a different behavior. That is a better angle to take. It provides comfort so try to help your child find a new way to comfort self. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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OP: I thought I would buy that foul-tasting nail polish..remember that from when I was a kid. That would stop it in a heartbeat..just not sure what age is appropriate. I remember stopping as a child bc my thumb turned bright red..must have been 4 or 5? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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I sucked my thumb until I was 10 years old. The way they got me to stop? Orthodontist installed a "rake" in my mouth. It was this thing that literally prevented my thumb from going in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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I was shamed out of it in getting ready for summer camp when I was like 11. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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Geesh. This could be tough then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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I also sucked my thumb until I was 10. I eventually stopped on my own, but you might want to think of ways to discourage it. My teeth turned out fine though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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I'm the other stopper at 10 too. Teeth turned out fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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the founder was featured in Cookie mag so if you Search their website, think youll find her. [ Reply | More
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Thank you! [ Reply | More
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what is clubmom? sound [ Reply | More
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^^sorry, sounds scary [ Reply | More
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It's another site (www.clubmom.com) that lets people ask questions and get advice, read blogs, etc. [ Reply | More
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i think i was wrong.. i think it was kykidsclub that was feautuered. sorry [ Reply | More
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Have DH contact the HR Dept. of his former company and find out who the unemployment carrier is. You can then call the number or go to the website and download the forms. [ Reply | More
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Toddler 06.02.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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lol! I consider them a protein source [ Reply | More
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they aren't bad as a protein source, but mostly empty calories and sugar. but if you are going to do it, pick those. [ Reply | More
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don't know model but it was about $100. There's also spotbot ones (another company?) that might get better ratings. ours has a turbo tool that spins with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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Toddler 06.02.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:38 PM Flag
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because I'm being induced and I want to hear everyone's experiences [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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okay. i was induced (to my horror, wanted an unmedicated birth). labored for 36 hours from the start of the cervadil until db's birth. first 12 were cervadil only and i slept. next 12 hours were pitocin (with no epi because i wanted to be able to walk around), the next 12 were pitocin with an epi while i rested so i would have the energy to push. wasn't my fantasy birth plan ;-) but it was what it was - i was happy to have a vaginal delivery and a healthy db. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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I wanted a natural birth, but was induced because I was very dilated, but had not started contractions. My doc admitted me just based on the dilation, if I had known different I would have said no. Instead after a few hours at the hospital and no action, they gave me pitocin. I get aggravated just thinking about it. They cramps killed so I got an epidural and everything was fine after that. Had a healthy baby boy, vaginally. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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bizarre that they induced you just for dilation! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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hA!i THOUGHT YOU MEANT ALIEN INDUCTIONS!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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that's Abduction [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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Was induced with #1 at 39 w 6 d due to high BP. I did not want to be induced. Ended up getting cytotec the night before and went into labor naturally the next morning, never got pitocin. 8 hour labor, overall as close to non-induced as induced could get (got epi at about hour 4). Pushed 20 min and DB was out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 01:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Is SJP's son at prek or in kindergarten? He's 5.5yo, she said. I guess downtown school? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.02.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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why does it matter? are you a stalker [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:36 PM Flag
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No, but curious. SJP said she really hated school for herself so I figured she chose a school where she expects her son to love the school. Was wondering what that school might be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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Same school her husband went to [ Reply | More
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don't know, but dh sees her walking him to school all the time, so must be in the nabe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:37 PM Flag
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still in pre-k [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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What is this board worth if no one knows! My daughter is 4.5 & will be in K next yr -- can't wait until she applies to college & the kids are up to 2 yrs older than her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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oooookaaayyyy [ Reply | More
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huh? so your kid is going to be 5.9 in Sep next year. How is she going to be 2 years younger than her peers in college? [ Reply | More
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If she is public bound she will start K this year at 4 and change. There are private school kids who will not start until 6. 6-4=2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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np. Yes, and? What does this have to do with the OP's question or anything else? [ Reply | More
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I know he was at C&C so I would assume he is still there. [ Reply | More
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what's that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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Not OR, but I think C&C must be City and Country. An alternative school in the West Village. [ Reply | More
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