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[ - ] Im a PT SAHM, and have gotten the opport. to take on a full time federal job. My ds is just shy of 2 yo. Now this puts me in a pickle with child care. Do I take it even though I'll be giving up my time with him? Confused What would you do. The pay is goos and steady and I'll have a pension. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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I'm in the same situation as you. I'm very torn and don't want to miss the opportunity but would miss the time with my son terribly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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take it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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part of me really really wants to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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me too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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sounds like you should, I'm still on the fence, good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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depends on so many things... do you want to go back? is this a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity or could you get something like this in a year, when you might be more ready to return to the workforce? do you think your ds will do well in daycare (I think he'll be fine :) but are you comfortable with putting him in full-time care?) What are your daycare options? We have our dc in a great daycare, and that makes it much easier to work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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op: this is a one time opportunity. I'd be foolish not to take it, but it completely changes things. One door opens and your life is differnt now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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It's tough! But either choice would be good--your ds might love his child care arrangement and you might love the job. Or you turn down the job and enjoy your time with him. Either way could be good for the family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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thanks for your support... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Need new carpet for DSs room. His furniture is natural maple. What color would you do? One color or a berber w/ a mix? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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berber for a baby? no. for a child, maybe. how about pink? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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2 boys, one is 3 the other not yet born. I don't think pink will work [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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I'd do a berber with mix. Hides stains that wll ultimately happen. Mocha colors are nice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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I love the FLOR carpet squares. You can mix and match colors and replace individual squares if they are dirty. You can even get squares with fun patterns! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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i like them too, but I'm replacing old, ugly wall to wall, so I need to go that route again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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if you dc are like mine, they will try and try and pull them up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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I've read that they don't hold up (search apartment therapy for opinions) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:00 PM Flag
[ - ] what happened to the local classifieds??? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Site Feedback 06.02.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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killed by craigslist [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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yeah but they were so much better than craigslist [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:05 PM Flag
[ - ] what's the best carrier for a 3 mo? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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I liked the Bjorn until about 5 mos (14 lbs), then switch to the Ergo, which I still love at 13 mos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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Same. Plus for colicky baby, mei tei carrier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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My 2 month old is 14 lbs! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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Wow! big kid! What do you do for carrier? Does he/she fit in the Ergo yet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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I 3rd that...Bjorn, then ergo (but don't get the black, it attracks so much lint!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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does ergo not work for infants? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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still going strong in Bjorn for 7 mos ds who is 20 lbs. havent tried the ergo yet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Had dd nursery painted Benjamin Moore Limesickle. It's the perfect shade of green, pale sage. I love it! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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How wonderful your life must be now! Congrats!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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i used mosaic glass- also a shade of green- also love it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you paint your ceiling the same color as your crown moldings? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.02.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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i think they are different finishes. not home right now but i think my moldings are shiniers than my ceiling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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no... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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same color, but moldings are glossier [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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You can, but moldings will be semi-gloss like all trim and ceilings will be flat. I choose a slightly greyer shade of white than my trim to have some contrast and not have any glare from the ceilings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:48 PM Flag
[ - ] someone recommend a hair salon in the west village for an old gray lady. I've completely grown it out, but I'm so over being gray; I think I'd look better not gray. but I haven't been to get a haircut in so long, my salon is now closed. where to go? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.02.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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why don't you dye it gray? it will brighten it up and then you won't have to dye it every 3 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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never thought of that...in fact, I didn't even know it was an option! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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it's what i want to do when i eventually grwo out the brown i have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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Avalon. They just relocated to Christopher Street. Nice stylists, good gossip, great color. Ask for a recommendation based on your hair type. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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that's where I went before they moved! who do you like there? everyone I know moved somewhere else [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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Yeap. Me too! I ended up going to a wonderful Japanese Salon on 23rd and Lex. They are great with straight hair and you get a wonderful massage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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Sparkle on Charles Street! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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I've seen that place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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L'Atalier by Morgan and Paul 212-647-8585 9 Christopher Street off of 6th [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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You should try Xac Anthony Salon in Chelsea!! Amazing Cuts and colorists and they are very friendly and affordable! Ask for Lennie!! I go and I've sent my friends and they ALL love it and are very happy!!! www.xacanthony.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.12.08, 08:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Did anybody watch Recount on HBO? I though it was kind of cute how the Democratic war room was all bright but chaotic and the Republican was dark, stiff, and boring. Talk about bias. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.02.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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where did they say it was objective? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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Right, at the beginning they put up a disclaimer saying that this depiction of a recent historical event, using the actual characters by name and trying to match their appearance, is actually biased campaign oriented political piece designed to inflame anger on the left. That was right there in the intro. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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are you kidding? that's pretty funny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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I thought playing the Darth Vader theme when Jim Baker came on was sort of overkill [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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wait, they used Cheney's theme song for Baker? Oh major feux pas(sp?). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:56 AM Flag
[ - ] Father's Day - Have never bought husband of 7 years cologne, but he would like some. Reading Cookie mag, are Prada Man Metallic, Marc Jacobs Men or CK Men any good? For reference, I wear Issey Miyake and dont like strong strong fragrances.. THANKS!. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.02.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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Does he have a preference? I stopped wearing cologne years ago. I prefer oil. Specifically bergamot oil. Mens colognes were getting so flowery for a while. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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no. hes a guy. he has no idea. i get to "assign" him one ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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I read that Cookie issue too...their suggestion for a Father's Day gift for the businessman type is a $2,000 prada bag... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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hahahahahaha [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I think I'm on the verge of quitting my job to be a SAHM. Have always felt torn, but am terrified that I'll hate it, miss working, miss my friends at work, etc and be more miserable. Also, having the "cushion" of a second salary is nice even though i end up taking home only about $15-20K after taxes, nanny, etc. But, I think it would be better for dd if I were home. Any advice? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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Treat sah like you would your career--and before I get flamed--I mean that you have to make plans and goals for what you want to do and get done. Otherwise, sah can get very boring and lonely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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i agree. i'm a sahm. i do have a weekly plan of things dd and i do and get out regularly by myself. is there a way to take a sabbatical for a month or two from work and try it out? i like being a sahm but then again maybe i'm nuts :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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this is amazing advice! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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op: this is how i was when i was on maternity leave and i loved it. Also, I'm worried that dh will either resent me or expect everythign to always be in order if I'm home, which I don't think it will. I guess I'm also nervous about change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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Unless your husband is incredibly mature, at least one of these will occur if you were stay at home...I'm a SAHM for the summer and already mine is getting on me about how I have very little that I need to do, so it had better be done all the time..ie. perfect home, pay bills, etc. which I can't say I totally disagree with...he is the one working the 100+ hours/week while I'm taking ds to the zoo :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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This is my fear exactly, and I'm so good at the household stuff. Since I'm also working, the burden is on both of us, or if I don't get to do something I feel like he is more understanding. Big sigh... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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meant "not so good at the household stuff". If i were good and organized about that I think I would have an easier decision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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Was he like that during maternity leave? DH never questions how I spend my time. The house is in decent shape, dinner is generally made, bills are paid, so there really isn't anything for him to be concerned about though. He knows that watching children is its own kind of hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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He was great! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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Yes, we're a young couple and he just didn't understand the demands of a newborn, as he was never in a position where he was the sole caretaker 24hrs/day. He has definitely improved since then, now we discuss each other's expectations and have come to agree on what each person needs to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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oops sorry I thought you were asking me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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Could you consult? Start your own consulting business from home. That way you could call the shots (time, pay) and still be "working" and socialize. Maybe get a nanny one-two days per week or work something out with your dh?!?! I did this and LOVE it. You can always tell a client that you "have another commitment". They don't need to know it is a playdate:) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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I don't think I'm ambitious enough to start my own thing, though I would love to consult for someone else...happy to do the work, just not such a "salesy" person to win clients. What kind of consulting do you do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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Educational Consulting. I fell into during my last job. I have a PhD, though, and had a good list of clients before I left my job. Could you build anything from your current job? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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What sort of consulting do you do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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You should not stay home unless you want to stay home, for you. You're a mother, not a martyr. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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Part of me does want to stay home for me. I feel pulled in a million directions and don't feel like I'm doing a great job at anything. So this would make things a lot calmer for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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Even if you are at home, I think you will always feel like your not doing anything well. I believe that is part of motherhood. The good news is that you probably are doing an amazing job! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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thank you. this made me cry. I'm very emotional about all this... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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I can totally relate. It is an impossible choice. My husband supports either choice, and says, dc will love me if I work cause he'll see his mommy living to her fullest potential BUT dc will also love spending time with me. My goal is regardless of work, to live in the moment when I'm with my baby--he has my full attention. Remember, you have the best thing down, you love your baby! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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How does that work in practical terms? For many of us, we stay home bc we think it is best for our family as a unit, not for us as individuals necessarily. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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i was like you. really afraid to take that step. i ended up getting downsized and it was so fantastic. i'd recommend it. especially b/c it's not like you are giving up hundreds of thousands of dollars to do it. you can always get a part time job to net a few hundred dollars a month to make up for the lost income. go for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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curious, how is old your dd? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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almost 3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:04 PM Flag
[ - ] db got 2 mo shots today... he's sleepy and doesn't want to be put down. Normal? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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with my son yes, he was irritable but cuddly, low grade fever lasted for a few days call dr if nervous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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yes. absolutely normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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completely normal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:52 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone been having terrible headaches/migraines with this allergy season. I don't respond well to migraine meds. Any natural cures? Advice? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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me too. its been terrible. im nursing so only taking motrin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:51 AM Flag
[ - ] THAT'S YOUR SHIT, NOT MINE!! THAT'S YOUR SHIT, NOT MINE!! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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whoa did you skip some meds or what [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:46 AM Flag
[ - ] Why did Oprah never have children? Even if she is a les and Steadman is a cover-up, she still could have found a way... 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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she did not want them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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She had a child that died at birth, so technically you are wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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who says [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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i think oprah says. and so she doesn't want kids, what's the big deal? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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She would have made a decent mom, I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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Not if she didn't want to be one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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i agree. but it is not for us to judge why people do or don't have kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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It's well known. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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Yes, this is true. I watched a documentary on her and this was stated by her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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she considers the girls at her school her children [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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Yea and we all know how she took care of them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Regarding post below about summer bdays: What the youngest boy Dalton is likely to accept, given high ERBs, not a sibling, no connections, no diversity? Anyone know summer boys accepted there in the past few years? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.02.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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99 erb and really really mature socially, confident, well rounded, can hold his own with 6 yo's (1.5yo older boys and girls)? Those kids are rare but they'd have a shot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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When is his birthday? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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july [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 12:01 PM Flag
[ - ] PLEASE recommend a baby nurse or babny burse agency in Manhattan. 3wk old ds (3@) and I am desperate for some relief...TIA! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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try peaches, 718-915-0150--we had her when our daughter was born and she was amazing. she may very well be booked but she might know someone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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718.727.1123--precious infants--its an agency [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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PRECIOUS INFANTS nurses are good but shifty at times deptending on who you get. If you keep them for a short time they are good and work out well. If you extend their stay in your home or with your baby then LOOK OUT. No one checks up on them and we've fpund strings of untruths. A number of us who've used them do this ... we check in w the agency owner so she knows what's going on and can keep them in line. This is the way to go other wise their lies snowball and its a mess. Precious the owner is top notch and professional and knows her business but her nurses are back dooring her all over the place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.23.12, 06:41 PM Flag
[ - ] are there no more local classifieds on UB or is it me - i can't find them? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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i think they are gone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Sadly, watching HGTV and refreshing apartmenttherapy.com constantly does not result in my home getting redecorated. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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Ha! It doesn't work for my home, either. I am so disappointed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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