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[ - ] We are moving to the suburbs. Where can I post to find my nanny a new family? She wants to work in Brooklyn, we're in Manh. any ideas? thanks. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:42 AM Flag
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well how did you find her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:43 AM Flag
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Looking for alternatives I may not have thought of before. I found her through Craig's List. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:45 AM Flag
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well that's where you post then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:45 AM Flag
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no kidding? Wow, hadn't thought of that...thanks for being sooooo helpful. Stupid of me to come to this board looking for insight and advice. Have a great day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:49 AM Flag
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um, well post in the obvious places, what do you expect ppl to say?? skywrite her phone #? drop ticker tape over times square?? moron [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:48 AM Flag
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you could post to the park slope/ft greene/etc yahoo boards [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:55 AM Flag
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^^ i mean park slope parents, ... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:56 AM Flag
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I live in brooklyn and am looking for a nanny! Where did you post? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 12:44 PM Flag
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I live in Carroll Gardens and looking for a nanny to start in September... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 11:18 AM Flag
[ - ] going to fly from NY to virginia at 31 wks. dr said this is OK. should i be worried about flying? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:42 AM Flag
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other than the possibility of the plane crashing, I wouldn't worry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:46 AM Flag
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np: Oooh, you're bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:47 AM Flag
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nope. your dr said it is ok. it is. i flew from southeast asia to europe at 32 weeks. it was a bit uncomfy but otherwise totally OK. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:54 AM Flag
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I'm sure it's fine, but I'd look into the hospitals in VA, just in case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:20 AM Flag
[ - ] Recently moved to new town and have new doc. I have three small lumps on my neck - tiny and hard. One behind my ear, one in front of my ear, one halfway down my neck on the side. New doctor said they were swollen glands but not typical of a throat infection or cold. Then he said to come back in 2 months if they were still there. It's been another week and two are getting bigger. Noticed them originally about a month ago. Am I just being paranoid or do I need to find a different doctor? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:41 AM Flag
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go back and tell him you are worried and want to check them out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:42 AM Flag
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What do they do to check them out - bloodwork, a biopsy? When I was a teenager, I had a benign tumor removed from the other side of my neck. The doctor just felt it, thought it was a problem, and removed the whole thing (I guess assumed it was Hodgkins). But that one was much bigger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:44 AM Flag
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I have no idea. I would think blood test and maybe x rays or MRI? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:47 AM Flag
[ - ] what is the deal with bf'ing and drinking? If I have a few drinks and my baby sleeps several hours do I need to pump and dump or does my body still burn it off without going into my breast milk? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.03.08, 04:23 AM Flag
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There is no need to pump and dump if you wait 3 hours between drinking and feeding. If your baby needs to eat before the 3 hours is up you will need to bottle feed, so it is wise to pump and store before drinking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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not necessarily. depends on how much you drink, of course, but most LC's say if you're OK ro drive your OK to bf, which is a rough guide. i've certainyl bf'd shortly after, or during, having one glass of wine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:03 AM Flag
[ - ] i found someone online willing to sell their carseat-- what should i offer for it-- half of what it cost or like 70% of the cost. i have never bought anything like this before. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 02:23 AM Flag
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First find out if the carseat has ever been in a car that's been in an accident [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 03:19 AM Flag
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she said that it hasnt been in an accident [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 03:23 AM Flag
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she could be a liar. you will never know and not worth taking a chance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:24 AM Flag
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Half. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 03:33 AM Flag
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i would not buy a used car seat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 03:35 AM Flag
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you are never supposed to buy a second hand car seat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 03:44 AM Flag
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i wouldnt buy a carseat used. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:01 AM Flag
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A carseat is the one piece of baby equipment I would not buy second hand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:13 AM Flag
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i would never buy a used carseat unless it was from a friend i knew and trusted. Don't screw with safety [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:21 AM Flag
[ - ] name poll: Cyril 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:25 PM Flag
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weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:30 PM Flag
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so so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Someone left a summons on my DHs desk at work (he is being sued). Does this count as being served? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:22 PM Flag
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What state are you in? Usually you have to leave it w/ a person or send it through the mail, return receipt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:10 AM Flag
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Maybe. taping it to your door counts too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Looking for really great sheets. Frette, Sferra, or Matouk? Is there much of a difference? Can't afford Pratesi. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:17 PM Flag
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We were given a sferra comforter for our ds and love it. Matouk always looks nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:18 PM Flag
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is frette that much cheaper than pratesi? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:02 PM Flag
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I would rank them as follows: Matouk, Frette, and Sferra. I have all of these brands, but the prices are now hysterical due to the weak dollar. I would hunt on ebay for deals. I've gotten great deals at the Frette outlets too, if you're in NY area- there's one in Woodbury Commons. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:20 PM Flag
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Thanks, I am not in NY. I like the design of Matouk best, and seems like a better deal right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 11:51 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:01 AM Flag
[ - ] can you be pregnant and still have ur monthly and i mean on schedule 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:52 PM Flag
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yes but it won't be as long or heavy. I had mine and then mc a few weeks later [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:05 PM Flag
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op: I've had my period for the past four months on time, but very light spotting first few days heavy for two days then stops. I used to have normal medium to heavy flow for seven days previously. I'm lactating now and stomach seems to be big (about four months size) gained tremendous amount of weight in past few months retaining water could i be pregnant? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:10 PM Flag
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have you taken a pg test? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:14 PM Flag
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no just starting noticing lactation after intimacy today and things started to seem a little suspect I didn't think of pregnancy b/c i thought i was having normal perios [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:15 PM Flag
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I think the first period after pregnancy can happen, but be lighter, but if you have kept cycling, and have these other symptoms, I would definitely have it checked out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:23 PM Flag
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I would do a home pregnancy test, and if it is negative, call you doctor. It is not normal to lactate during pregnancy and could be worrisome. And a tremendous weight gain in the first few months of pregnancy is possible, but very atypical. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:14 PM Flag
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yes - I'd be worried about something else, esp with the weight gain. Get screened for ovarian cancer and any other bowel-type of cancer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:16 PM Flag
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why would you say that. Does this sound typical for ovarian cancer or other cancers. Have hpv and had to have cells removed previously [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:17 PM Flag
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^^ also, are you on any anti-depressants or anti-psychotics? Obviously, you don't have to answer, but some of these can cause lactation by interfering with dopamine secretion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:20 PM Flag
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nope not on any medicationbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbb [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:21 PM Flag
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go see a doctor tomorrow whether you're pregnant or not. symptoms merit immediate attention. good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:27 PM Flag
[ - ] We're going to Disneyworld soon and I just saw on a website that many parents put potty trained children, even 4-5 year olds in diapers for the trip because lines are long etc. Is this a real issue and how to explain this to a child who recently trained (2.5 year old) and feels so great about his accomplishment? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:49 PM Flag
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no, it's not a real issue. It's strange. Just go to the bathroom often, before you get in lines. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:51 PM Flag
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That was my plan, but I saw a ton of posts about this on a message board for tips for people going with young children. Is it fair to assume that there are bathrooms everywhere and no lines for those? Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:56 PM Flag
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I don't know about Disneyworld, but if it is at all like Disneyland there are plenty of bathrooms. Just like anywhere you would go with a toddler, you would take them to the bathroom before it becomes an emergency and have them give it a try before you stand in line. If you are going with two adults, one could always run to the bathroom while the other stays in line. You can rejoin them at the end of the line by going through the handicapped part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:03 PM Flag
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We've been going all the time since kids were tiny and NEVER done that. Bathrooms are all over, make kids go before you get on a long line and worst case you have to excuse yourself from line but if you plan shouldn't be an issue. When newly trained- i did put pullups on for airplane though because sometimes you know you can't get up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:23 AM Flag
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It's ridiculous about 4-5yos, but a recently trained 2.5yo might have an accident at Disneyworld. There are bathrooms everywhere, but it can take a few minutes to find one. I don't think it's a big deal about an accident, just bring a change of clothes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:26 AM Flag
[ - ] What do all the news media mean when they ask if Hillary would be different than a "Dick Cheney" Vice Presidency? I didn't think Dick Cheney has done ANYTHING. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.02.08, 09:30 PM Flag
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Um, he runs the showboat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:31 PM Flag
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I'm guessing, but maybe bc Cheney is viewed as having been a relatively powerful VP and Hillary probably would want to be too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:32 PM Flag
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Honestly, I think the media has maligned Hillary and played up the drama with her and Obama in an attempt to destroy the chance of the Democrats, and it's worked really well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:33 PM Flag
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Why would the (liberal) media attempt to destroy the Democratic nominee's chances? I'm cynical too, but I think they just play up the drama to sell a news story, with no further motivation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:36 PM Flag
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because the "liberal" media is owned by corporations, and isn't liberal at all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:37 PM Flag
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np: I love that "liberal media" tag. The days of a liberal media are long gone. (Not that there are no bastions -- the old grey lady being one -- but c'mon. "The media" is a business. And making money is it's goal.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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you're joking, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:42 PM Flag
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OP: I must be dumb. I didn't know Cheney had/has been powerful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:05 PM Flag
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you are joking. V. funny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:09 PM Flag
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Are you nuts? Dick Cheney should be jailed for what he has done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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Dick Cheney was hired by the Bushies to find the best Vice President candidate. He found himself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:03 AM Flag
[ - ] piggyback on post about baby/ relationship/ rediness: dh and i are really really excited to start a family, ttc #1 now, but sometimes i am gripped by financial fear and wonder how we can make it work. really want to be parents, and feel totally ready in our relationship, but maybe we should keep waiting until we have more $$$. how much did $$$ have to do with your decision to have a baby? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:27 PM Flag
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Piggybank. lol. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:29 PM Flag
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Not much. We knew we had just enough, and then unexpectedly but thankfully our families helped too. It's been fine. I think it was more important to do it when we both felt emotionally ready and excited. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:31 PM Flag
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yea it makes me feel dirty and sad to think that the decision to bring a child into the world should have anything to do with money. period. but that it is realistic. we are prepared for emotional/spacial/time/relationship compromises, and will compromise financially too. i like what someone said earlier about it being a "leap of faith" i felt that way about marriage too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:35 PM Flag
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Of course it is realistic, I wasn't judging you. For me, that is a much easier compromise than the emotional/time/relationship, etc. But both have been less difficult than I imagined. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:38 PM Flag
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how do you and dh/dp keep the relationship a priority? that's gotta be tough. i still want to be sexy and, well, ME to him. any strategies you recommend? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:43 PM Flag
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It is harder, but there is something amazing about seeing your dh/dw interacting with your child, when they are being a fantastic parent. This will actually bring you even closer and make your relationship more intense. Also, take as many times as you can to really connect, instead of taking each other for granted and just going through the motions of your busy lives. Even quiet, simple moments, but dates are important too. Someone once posted here that even when she is really tired and not too interested in sex, she would remind herself that nothing will cheer you up like an orgasm and a grateful dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:54 PM Flag
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This is really insightful. Good comment! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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If you keep telling yourself you want t wait until you are financially ready you never will be especially if you live in NYC. If you and dh want a family than you just make it work financially. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:35 PM Flag
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Great point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:36 PM Flag
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we waited a long time, and were lucky we didn't have any problem getting pregnant. It was a big deal to me to not be under financial stress. We saved and have as low an overhead as we possibly could. It worked out fine for us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:41 PM Flag
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I agree with the poster who said you'll never be ready financially. We got pg and then panicked afterwards. :) Seriously, starting a family meant we had to make choices - putting off buying a place, less frivolous spending - but it all works out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:49 AM Flag
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you just can't base it on money. my MIL was right when she said there is never a good time to buy a house or have a baby. but don't wait around- just do it! #1 gets the short end of the stick usually but by the time you have #2 or #3 financially you will be in a better place (hopefully) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you think Obama should put Hillary in her place? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:26 PM Flag
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What is her place exactly, and what would he gain from doing this besides short-term personal satisfaction? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:27 PM Flag
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I don't know, some one on here posted this earlier. I just hate all the slurs against her. I don't care if people prefer him, but the nastiness is too much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:31 PM Flag
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I didn't see that post, but anyone who posts that is short-sighted. Obviously, the Democratic party is nearly split (at least with respect to the controversial popular vote), so I think if Obama 'put Hillary in her place' he would be offending almost half the party. Also, it would read as petty and foolish, which wouldn't gain him any votes anyway. She is quite clearly ready to bow out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:35 PM Flag
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no. he's already shown that you can win by staying on the high road. why would he stoop to her level now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:43 PM Flag
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well, because he's been behind most of the smears against her, through surrogates. Or his campaign accuses her of something nasty, like wishing for his assassination, then he pretends to be reasonable and denies that he caused the whole fake controversy in the first place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:45 PM Flag
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that wasn't fake -- it was a totally offensive comment on her part. Obama people were right to jump all over her for that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:51 PM Flag
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Did you actually listen to her whole comments, in context? It was not a reference to him being assassinated. RFK meant a lot to her. She is in as much danger as he is. It really sucks the way he has twisted everything into being about him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:53 PM Flag
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np: I'm with you on the context really changing the tone. But it is not true that she has the same risks and danger as he does. Apparently there have been many threats regarding assassinating a black candidate or president, well before Obama. I think this is a major reason Powell never ran. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:58 PM Flag
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I find it hard to believe that you don't get that just as many people hate her as hate him. If anything, I think there is more irrational hatred and more psychos out there that would want to kill her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:00 PM Flag
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More people hate her, sure, but not murderously. And even if there are a few weirdos like that, there are scarily a lot more than have already threatened to kill a black candidate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:12 PM Flag
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how do you know there are more threats against him? I see a lot more hate against her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:15 PM Flag
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^and it is unbalance, irrational hatred against her. There is constant violence against women, far more than racially motivated crime. How do you know they don't hate her "murderously". It sounds like they do to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:16 PM Flag
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Ok, let's just agree that neither of us have the secret service statistics on threatened assassination attempts, that people hate both of them, and that it was not a very sensitive comment. Seem fair? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:19 PM Flag
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I wish I could agree with all the people who hate her and think she is evil, because it would make things simpler. But I just don't. I think people want to doubt her motives and twist things she has said, so they can have a good guy and a bad guy (woman), so that the choice will be simpler. But it's not that way, in my opinion. I don't think she is just hoping for him to be killed, not at all. I don't think she meant it that way, and I think it's purely a political ploy for his campaign to say that she did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:21 PM Flag
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Whoa. That is not what I said at all. I don't hate her, in fact, I voted for her. But that doesn't mean I condone everything she does, and that everything he does is awful and political. In fact, I think it was unwise and insensitive to make the comment, but not the world's biggest deal. I was also offended by her proudly claiming white voters. And no political ploy is needed to make that one seem inappropriate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:26 PM Flag
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this is about assassination, not rape or domestic abuse. Show me a female politician in the US who has been assassinated. Now let's go down the list of blacks: MLK, Malcolm X, Medgar Evers, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:20 PM Flag
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Show me a female politician who was in a position of power the way those men were, who was taken as seriously as they were. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:22 PM Flag
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np: touche! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:26 PM Flag
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I think that Nancy Pelosi is a little more powerful now than Medgar Evers was. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:30 PM Flag
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It's not just against him. I remember when people were calling for Powell to run, it came out that the secret service had received many threats, simply because he was black. I don't think that the way most people hate Hillary would translate into murder (though I agree the degree of hatred against her is crazy and irrational). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:17 PM Flag
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yeah, I heard it in context. I still thought it was a low blow for the reasons noted by other poster: a black politician faces an incredible risk of assassination. To even mention assassination was disgusting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:06 PM Flag
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how is just mentioning somehow twisted into thinking it has anything at all to do with Obama? Such a bunch of bullshit. Losing RFK meant something to her, she is in danger too. I just don't get how people can fall for thinking she is evil. It is a sign of their own nasty way of viewing the world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:12 PM Flag
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I don't think she's evil. I support many of her plans and policies. But all of this "shame on you Barack Obama" stuff got really over the top as did the pandering. She mostly seemed desparate as she tried to change the primary rules because she and her staff so catastrophically managed her campaign. Not everyone who criticizes her thinks that she's a demon. Right now I'm just tired of the whole primary season and want to get on with the general. I would have happily voted for her for president b/c a McCain presidency is too awful to fathom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 10:17 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone ever experienced lactation after weaning it's been about six months. DH was sucking on them during intimacy and i started to lactate is this normal its been six months since i've weaned 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:24 PM Flag
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I weaned more than a year ago and they still leak, when played with or when I lean up against something [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:35 PM Flag
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have you ever spoken to ur ob about it. Is it a hormone imbalance [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:37 PM Flag
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no I just figured it was normal.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:46 PM Flag
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dh sucks on them all the time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:46 PM Flag
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Mine did for maybe 3 months. But I felt weird about having them touched in a sexual way for at least that long, so it wasn't a big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:42 PM Flag
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