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[ - ] Pedicures! What's the deal? I'm about 12 weeks - should I be nervous? I only go to super clean places. Comments?! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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They are fine. My OB practically rolled her eyes at me when I asked if it was okay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Pedicures - what's the deal? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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They make your feet look pretty? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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I've heard mixed reviews about having them while pregnant - some say it's fine...others say, "NO WAY!" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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That describes EVERYTHING when you are pregnant. You have to decide how freaked you are going to be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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Thanks :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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You know you posted this in General Topics, right? I have been getting regular pedicures (18 weeks now). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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I'm new to this - where should I be posting? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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np: Ignore the troll, it's fine to post to General Topics. There is also an Expecting board. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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I'm not a troll, I just meant that without adding that she's pregnant, it's not clear what's she's asking. If she posted to the Expecting board, it would be obvious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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There are basically two concerns: acupressure points on the feet (a first trimester concern because you don't want to stimulate the uterus then) and fumes. You're clear on the first trimester thing, and the fumes are an individual decision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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I think the accupuncture pressure points is a load of crap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:11 AM Flag
[ - ] a day in a life with a teen: dd was stressing this morning about a vocal performance that she has to present before 3 teachers in order to pass to the next level next year. I said, "You shouldn't worry. You have one of the most beautiful voices in your class." Her response: "How could you possibly know that?" This continue back and forth with me trying to shore up her confidence and her tearing apart what I said. Finally, I gave up and was silent. After a moment, she looked at me and said, "You can continue telling me how good I am." I had to smile...and continued 45 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 06.03.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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not flaming - your daughter is right to call you on that first compliment. kids can smell insincerity a mile away, and if you don't know the voices of every other kid in her class, you shouldn't say something like "you have one of the MOST beautiful voices in your class." Sorry to be so judgy sounding, but i find that sincere meaningful compliments are the only ones worth giving or receivng. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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OMG. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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ugh, you are annoying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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no, you and your needy, princessy daughter are [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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np, I agree that that was an incredibly annoying response. In OP's mind, her DD DOES have one of the most beautiful voices. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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How does OP know if she hasn't heard the other kids? OP sounds like one of those moms who always tells her kids they are the BEST, SMARTEST, PRETTIEST people in the whole wide world, yes they are! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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Um, that's a Mom's job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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it is not a parent's job to give their kid an over inflated ego. you praise them realistically and encourage them constantly; you don't tell them that they are better than everyone else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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LOL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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wow. you are really old school, aren't you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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i take that as a compliment. my children are aware of their strengths and develop them. they work on their weaknesses, as well. they do not say, "i am so great." to themselves in the mirror 1000 times a day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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You do understand that it is possible to bolster your child's confidence without giving them the huge ego you're so afraid of? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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yes, by giving them honest, sincere meaningul compliments. not you are the BEST every second of the day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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you really are reaching to assume this scenario based on one example that might very well be true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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Who, in this thread, has said anything about telling their kids that they are the BEST every second of the day? Where are you getting this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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I disagree with you. I am very sure your kids one day will look back and tell you that they wished you would have told them at least once or twice how great they were. You don't have to say they are the best all the time but there is definitely a balance you can strike. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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that was not me, signed OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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sorry, then. just so you know, i think you sound like a nice mom and what you said was probably something i would say even though i stand by my opinion that it is probably better to encourage than to offer overly effusive praise [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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yeah. unfortunately, we don't always stop and analyze everything we say before we say it. at least I don't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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I know this anecdotally from what she has told me herself other classmates have told her, that's what I was referring to and I explained that to her. Also her voice teacher told me in parent/teacher conference that she could always count on dd to hit the high note when others couldn't. So I think ONE of the most is not hyperbole and certainly not insincere on my part. She was just being argumentative [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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AS is OR. perhaps she is a teenager herself? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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Do people find it difficult to be around you? It would be so hard for me not to wince when I had to spend time with you. I am glad we are not friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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why? because i refuse to raise children who think the sun shines out of their ass? i cannot stand this mentality where you constantly have to artificially bolster your children. maybe you enjoy being sucked up to by two faced sycophants who really think you are mediocre, but i do not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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You are just itching for a fight, aren't you? OP provided backup for her statement. You have no idea whether OP artificially praises everything her DD does. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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no i do not know what she tells her kid on a daily basis; i was responding to the scenario she described [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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How very judgmental and shortsighted of you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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go away and tell your kid she's "special" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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"you posted this non-sequitor because you know i am right and you have no cogent response". Ahem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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I am quite certain your children think very little of themselves. It must be very difficult to think anything positive in your presence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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i am quite certain your children are unjustiably conceited. it must be very difficult for others to think anything positive in their presence. congratulations for raising the next generation of paris hiltons [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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how on earth do you get all this from one statement? forget your meds? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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Nicely put. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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ITA. This isn't really a meaningful compliment unless you've heard all the other kids sing. Tell her something she knows to be true: either that she's worked so hard, or rehearsed so much, or that she sounds so much like X (some singer that she admires). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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LOL - classic scenario. ignore the troll. (i hate it when i post something precious and it gets attacked... don't know why people feel compelled to do this.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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yeah. I was just amused by the back and forth. didn't pick a very good example, I guess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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perhaps because we are the people who have to interact with you and your "perfect" children on a daily basis and it is aggravating to have to pretend that mediocrity is greatness. btw, the post was not "precious" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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Get.Over.Yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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you get over yourself. you posted this non-sequitor because you know i am right and you have no cogent response [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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I have plenty of cogent responses, but you've proven yourself to be inflexible and judgmental so I see no reason to waste them on you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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feh. go tell your dsaughther how "specisl she is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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Thanks, I will. I tell her how wonderful she is all the time. I also encourage her to work hard at what she's not good at, without telling her she's the best at everything, believe it or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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sweet story! I am amazed by the nasty tone of some replies. While it is valid to think about why your daughter might have rejected your compliments at first, it doesn't justify the sharp replies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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It's really just one responder. She sounds a bit batty, honestly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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I know. I don't always say exactly the right thing, but somehow we carry on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:45 AM Flag
[ - ] I think the G&T test scores on here are equivalent to the weight polls. Apparently, everyone in NYC is rail thin with brilliant children. Or there are some fibbers out there. Signed by someone who is not thin with children whose intelligence is in the normal range. 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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but did you have your kids tested? I would assume that only people who think their kids are gifted would have them tested [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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OP: Nope. But, I have never seen one post where someone scored under 97. Nor have a seen a weight poll where someone weighed more than 130. So everyone who is tested is brilliant..and everyone with a scale is skinny? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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I weigh 145--but I have kids who have scored 99 and 98--so either I am half fibbing or I am off balance [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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but if you are 5'10" then you are just fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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Nope, only 5'5". However, my BMI is in the normal range and I am pretty muscular, so only in NYC would I truly be considered "overweight" (but my kids are bright by all standards ;-) ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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then you fall into the fine category in my book. :) and meet OPs original post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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my kid is gifted (IQ of about 145) and i am about 15 pounds overweight. just saying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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a lot of people think they are 15 pounds overweight on here, when they are in reality fine. Until you post your real height and weight for judgement, that is the reality. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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as someone who has been 15 pounds thinner and has a wardrobe sitting in my closet that doesn't fit me to prove it, you'll just have to trust me on this. i am definitely 15 pounds overweight -- and at my ideal weight, i am not skinny at all. just completely average. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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btw - how old are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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42. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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^^^^why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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np: a lot of people think their kids are gifted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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maybe the people who answer the weight polls are the thin ones and the overweight ones prefer not to answer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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OP: My point exactly. But it works on both polls. People who are thin and kids score well answer. Those who do not, do not answer...but it makes it appear that everyone is skinny and genius. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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I'm obese and my kid is in one of the citywide G&Ts. (They did not give us the percentiles.) I think it is partly selection bias and partly who answers polls. I don't answer weight polls. I know what my issues are and the last thing I need or want is stale advice from strangers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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Ditto! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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Obese by whose standards? UB or the rest of the world? For example, I am short and a size 10. Obese by NYC standards. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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if you are short, a size 10 is likely obese. the clothes are bigger than they used to be. a 10 of today is a 12-14 of my childhood [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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OR: FWIW, I am mid training to run a marathon. Have always been a 10. Maybe I will be the first obese marathoner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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many who run the marathon are on the chunky side. its like the last heave ho effort. not sure why people cannot just be reasonable and not so extreme about everything [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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OR: I agree I am chunky. No question about that one. That was not your statement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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Overweight, yes. Obese..hard to call. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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I am obese by any standard of people who know what obese is. -or [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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The citywide G&T tours were all done by parents with very normal/somewhat overweight body types. I felt right at home, as compared to the private school tours for nursery and ongoing, where clearly a criteria for tour guides was a waist no larger than size 2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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Except for Anderson. For some reason the folks at the OH I attended was a different kind of people than the ones I've seen at NEST, LL, or others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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How so? When I toured Anderson a few weeks ago I thought people were normal.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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you could tell they were much more affluent [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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Funny - I didn't get that sense at all. But - I guess it's all relative since I am coming from an affluent preschool! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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Maybe I picked the wrong night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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I didn't go to the open house, I just did the tour once we got the scores [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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seem less affluent to me. maybe its just the gritty, old NY factor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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I found the anderson moms to be on the older, frumpier side. slightly overweight+. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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i don't think i'm frumpy...)-: [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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not aimed at anyone in particular. btw, I don't see that as a negative. I am sure you are lovely. :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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awwww -- a sweet UBer! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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Are you people this shallow or maybe just insecure? Checking out parents' weight at open house and tours! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 09:08 AM Flag
[ - ] how long did your nanny work for you before you gave her a raise? and what was the amount of that raise? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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a year; 50/week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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1 year, $1/hr [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Hmmm...not sure what I make of this OLSAT tester's recommendation: http://edgeforlife.wordpress.com/ 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.03.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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This is a sales promotion for a tutoring company... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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Exactly what I thought! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:38 AM Flag
[ - ] What do you use to get stains out of your toddler's clothing? Tide, Oxyclean...nothing really works for me. Everything is stained. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.03.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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ZOUT is the best for organic stains [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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are we doing organic stains now, too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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lol - you know, stains from food versus stains from ball point pens or something [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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i know, i couldn't resist joking! ;- ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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see, on the old ub, i would have known you were joking. now, i am not always certain ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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I know, I'm not a fan of the new format. I'm not here a fraction of what I was. It's the New Coke. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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np, Ummmmmmmmm... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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I used regular Tide, Bounty (?) fabric softener in wash and shout for stains. I also put bleach in with all whites and lights. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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Sorry - Downy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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DOn't your clothes fall apart after about 6 mo with all that bleach? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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No - I put a small amount in the bleach area above, not directly on the clothes. Is there an alternative that would work? I'd do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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What do you need it for? I would throw in a scoop of oxyclean before bleach. To me, bleach is last resort. Bleach works because it literally eats the fibers, so eventually it will wreck most everything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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Will that work as well as bleach? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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not as well as bleach. i don't really see a huge difference with oxyclean. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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I keep Zout, Fels Naptha and an ink remover from the hardware store on hand. And once I've sprayed a stain I scrub it with a little firm bristled brush (probably for cleaning grout) I found in the cleaning aisle at the store. I can get 99% of stains out with this arsenal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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Tide and spray on shout [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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I have never heard of Zout. Is it available at most grocery stores? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:00 AM Flag
[ - ] No flames, please. Japanese straightening starting to grow out. need a touch up. Can you recommend a place. My current place is booked. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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any place in chinatown. cheaper too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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go brazilian! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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Can I? Even if I still have Japanese straigtening in my hair? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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this is very, very toxic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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the brazilian treatment has formaldehyde in it -- at toxic levels, which are beyond what FDA approves. looks good, but not worth the cost. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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np - really? good to know - thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:04 AM Flag
[ - ] 3yo dd says she wants to stay home and not go to preschool w/ her friends. we've been on vacay for the past 10 days. do i let her stay home and take her to school anyway? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.03.08, 06:38 AM Flag
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Stay home - My kids are like this too. They are already on summer break but we just got back from a 10 day vacation and they haven't left the house in almost 3 days. Kids love home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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send her to school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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If she's not sick, I'd take her to school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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