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[ - ] Sleepy's or 1800MATRESS? Pro's, con's opinions. TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.03.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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don't buy any mattress you can't lie down on/test out first. It's a major PITA to return them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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I went to Sleepy's on 86th and was happy with the bed, service, delivery. I bet it is much of a muchness? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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dito (different store but same thing.) What I hate is when people try out the mattress at the store then save five bucks ordering it on-line/by phone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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Sleepy's is ridiculously expensive, IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Thank you, Elizabeth, for your honesty. ("I dried up.") I could not understand how she could keep breastfeeding while losing so much weight. I felt bad I could not do the same. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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strenuous dieting and nursing don't go together. people know this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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right. people that want to bf don't do a huge diet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Any advice on how to deal with 2.4 yo regressing/wanting to be baby, b/c he knows his new baby sister is coming soon? He's such a sweet boy, but is getting really whiny, wants to swing in the infant swing we just put together, wants to go back to baby stuff. I want to help him work through this, while not totally giving in.... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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My 2.5yo does this with his brother (8mo). I treat my toddler like a baby if he acts like a baby and he soon gets fed up with it. If what he wants to do is safe then I let him (like playing on the baby's play mat) but if it's not like climbing into the baby's crib then I don't. We also talk about how he is a big boy and how the baby is only little. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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thanks. yes-- I actually wouldn't mind him sitting in the swing, except that he's over the weight limit and I'm worried it will break... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Whats a good place to get bedding for my 8yodd? want something she wont grow out of, well made enough to last for years. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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land of nod, koo koo bear kids online [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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serena and lily - gorgeous but not cheap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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ITA, love Serena & Lily. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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garnet hill [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Planning to buy a table and chairs for toddler. Is the one from Pottery Barn Kids much sturdier than others? I am wondering if the chairs from the cheaper sets would be strong enough for "mommy" and "daddy" to sit on too. TIA 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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worked for me--I was really impressed that they were quite good quality and compared to other kids furniture, really reasonable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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Ikea is just as study and a lot cheaper [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Breaking news: Hillary is going to concede today!!!!! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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source? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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msnbc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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A SAD day for the Democratic party - not that I always supported her - but anything is better than the alternative where your kitchen cabinet could include Rev. Wright, Sharpton, Fahrakain & Bill Ayers to name just a few. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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Oh sure, he would really appoint those guys to his Cabinet. I'm rolling my eyes here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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are you high? sharpton was a hillary supporter. the rest of them have no chance of being included in the "kitchen cabinet." you can not like obama but do it for a real reason. Obama's actual advisers are a very different group. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:18 AM Flag
[ - ] I did IVF last week and on the day of the transfer I found out my acupuncturist was out of town for 3 days. I am 4 days past 5 day transfer...do I bother going today or since the blasts either attached or didn't at this point I shouldn't bother? TIA 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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I cant get past 'my acupuncturist' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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np, I know many, many people who have used accupuncture for infertility, with or without REs/RXs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:13 AM Flag
[ - ] nyc and & ny 'burb moms, do you think the economy & real estate here is tanking? I only know 1 person whose been laid off and madison ave still seems packed. also, i was at saks the other day just looking and the new shoe place was crazy busy at 11am! what are you seeing? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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those are called foreigners. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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and owers, and people who aren't ready to change their ways... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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I know quite a few who have been laid off or can see it coming. My cleaner tells me she is loosing jobs as her employers are being laid off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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are they in finance? the people getting laid off? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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look at the real estate ads. rpices are coming down, stuff isn't moving much, and i can see a lto of new apts being sold very fast at lower prices than they were bought for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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I know of one apt on UES that has dropped from 899 to 759 since jan. not sure if it sold yet. Im in the process of buying and I think I overpaid a little [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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My friend looked at one that dropped about 100K also - it was in the $1 Million area as well. I think real estate is slowing finally. When we rented we got concessions, could leisurely consider apartments... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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there is a great web site called natefind.com that gives daily lists of the apartments that have been reduced in price. Lots of apartments being reduced 10% or even more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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that's a great site. anyone know of any sites like that for the burbs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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Rents don't seem to be changing at all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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i think the wealthy are still living it up. so you'll see the designer stores stay crowded. i think the middle class (like me) are the ones that are/will be cutting back. the ones that had to juggle some finances to afford a cleaning lady may decide it's not worth it any more. the ones who keep to a grocery budget and suddenly realize they aren't getting as much for hteir money as they used to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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my dh got laid off and we are definately trying to cut back on spending. we are moving to cheaper accomodations. but i wonder how long this crunch will be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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This is too general. There are 6 million people in NYC + tourists and visitors [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:30 AM Flag
[ - ] Never thought I would say this but am seriously considering firing our nanny. And the bad news is I am very much to blame. In the past, when we had more $$, I would secretly give her extra cash to help her out. Over time she has become more entitled about it, arranging loans up to $5k with DH, and dropping hints to me that she needs more money. We are paying her what we can afford, and I work on wall St. and could lose my job any day. I've gotten comments from other moms that she is not as interactive with DS as he needs ( I am FT WOHM but other moms have told me), and recently she has demanded time immediate off without giving us adequate advance notice - for events I think she could have worked out better. I feel like we have bent over backwards for her to help her get her green card, but it's never enough. I think it's time to move on. Am I overreacting?? 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.03.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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Also (sorry to vent so much) - she is not doing the housework we agreed she would do. It's very passive-aggressive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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You have lost faith in her and the other mom's comments would make it a no brainer for me. Time to let her go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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I think $11 or $12 an hour [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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She was good with DS as a baby but now ...I feel like she is just taking a back seat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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yes but you really need to consider ds and how that would effect him. Also if you are thinking you might lose your job [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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He loved the temporary nanny we brought in - younger, more energetic - but she is not available F/T [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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oh please. db will be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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How much do you pay her? Hours? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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why are you blaming yourself? she's taking advantage of you, get someone else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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God I did the same thing (just not to the same extent). Bowing and scraping because of "liberal guilt". She started taking advantage. I was so uncomfortable with it all and felt worse about feeling uncomfortable. Glad she is gone now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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How did you handle it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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She was only part-time. I told her I didn't need her anymore because my mother was going to work for us. I found someone else, a student. You really have to set your foot down (nicely). Lay it all out. "Economy is tough now. Gas is expensive. Issues at work. Can't throw money around like before. So we can't loan money out anymore, etc, and I won't be giving you extra. I hope you understand." If she doesn't like it, she will leave. If you are afraid that she will mistreat your ds as a result, then you really need to get rid of her. She will respect you for standing tall. It is also a bit condescending to act guilty for being much better off than her and that is, perhaps, why she is taking advantage gladly. If you set firm boundaries and don't treat her like a cherished relative, then it just feels like a job (which everyone has). I learned this the hard way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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i don't know how fair that is of you. if you allow certain behavior, you can't then punish someone for doing it. (it's like letting dc take a toy to the park and then yelling at her when it gets lost.). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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True, but I could tell her I cannot give her more money now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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yes, and you should. make your new rules clear. if she doesn't step up, then i'd consider firing her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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np: i think if you want to be fair you sit her down adn have a talk. that you letthigns slip but they have to change back and also that you areconcerned about her job performance. odds are nothing wil cahnge and you'll fire her anyway, but at least this way you are fair. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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I disagree. Once things start to go south with a nanny, they rarely imrpove. and the whole loaning of mone thing is weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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that may be true. but i think to be a fair employer, especially when the problesm are in part of your own making, you need to give her a chance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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When it comes to the care of your children, I don't think being fair to the nanny is the #1 priority. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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op probably can't find a new nanny immedaitly, adn this nanny isn't dangerous. so give her a week to get it together and start looking for a new one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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It's actually very easy to find a nanny. BTDT, and there are lots of great nannies looking for work right now. OP, check out www.enannysource.com or www.nannies4hire.com. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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Honestly - the chores thing has been reviewed time and again - I do feel taken advantage of. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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And I disagree. It is my money, to spend as I choose. She does not get because she wants. She gets if I choose to give. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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yes, but if your expecations are not clear it's not really fair to fire someone over it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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it sounds like nanny is not doing a good job with db. case closed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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if your employee is not performing well, you review your expectations with him/her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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Her nanny is, presumably, an adult, not a child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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don't feel bad. it's simple -- she's not doing her job properly, so it's fine to let her go... next time, make sure you don't slip the next nanny money or have DH loan her money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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has she paid back the loan yet?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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Some of it, not all, and will be a long time coming till she does, and she's told me she has other people ahead of us she must pay off first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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that's pretty lame. no severance for her then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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I agree. Loan forgiveness in lieu of severance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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Right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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Forgetting the money issues, if people are telling you she is not giving your child what he needs, it's time for a new nanny. Period. It is not easy to tell a mother that there is a problem with her nanny. If someone (and it sounds like more than one person) actually tells you there is a problem with your nanny, you owe it to your child to fix the problem ASAP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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trust your gut. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:31 AM Flag
[ - ] I will be 35 in October. DS is 13 mo. When should I start trying again, given my age, if we want 2 dcs? What about if we might end up wanting to try for 3? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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how far apart do you want your kids? no one can answer that for you. everyone's fertility has issues at different ages. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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If you would be happy having another in 9mo then start now you might fall pg straight away. I was keen to have 3 but now I have two close together I need to leave it a while (at least a yr) before I consider a 3rd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:00 AM Flag
[ - ] so I am leaving my job (going to be a SAHM which I am totally happy about) and this is my last week. However, I just saw my boss interview my replacement (or potential replacement). Totally freaked me out. In 2 weeks she will be sitting in my office doing my job. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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except that it's no longer your desk or your job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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And in 2 weeks 1 days time you won't care one bit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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what do you do? will you miss it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:20 AM Flag
[ - ] why isn't it lunch time yet? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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it's always lunch time somewhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:07 AM Flag
[ - ] ANyone watch Addiction on A&E on reg. basis? I always get so depressed and stressed thinking someday that could be my DC. Sigh. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.03.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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Me too. But it's as compelling as hell. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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op: Exactly. But I get a knot in my stomach everytime. Last night was horrible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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is Addiction different from Intervention? I love that show but it scares me at the same time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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op: Oooops. I ment Intervention. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:32 AM Flag
[ - ] what books about a baby's 1st year did you find helpful? tia 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.03.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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What to expect the first year by Murkoff, Eisenberg and Hathaway [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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Your baby's first twelve months of life (I think). Loved it. Liked the second one too. Realistic stuff, not crazed nyc mom stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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I also like spock [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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Babywhisperer by Tracy Hogg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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DO NOT get the week by week book - sucked [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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i love the Sears Baby Book. goes up to year two, helpful about developmental stages without makeing you nuts,also great on illnesses. it has a lot fo AP stuff but you can ignore that if you want. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:58 AM Flag
[ - ] I am planning to purchase a potty. can anyone suggest a good one? there seem to be a variety out there and am not sure which to buy. babybjorn, summer infant, graco etc. tia. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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just put insert over regular toilet. so much easier, nothing to clean. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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the differences are insignificant, IMO. either pick one you like the look of or take kid to store to choose it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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I just bought the little ring that goes on the seat. DD likes the characters on it. I also heard (but know nothing about it really) that using a potty is rough since you then have to train on the regular toilet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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I got the insert for the bathroom and a potty chair for the living room. We used both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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If you use the insert for the toilet, you have to get a stool for dc's feet. You don't realize it, but its hard to push out poop if your feet don't give you some resistance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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let your child pick it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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