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[ - ] db is 4 weeks old. i read i'm not supposed to cover her with blankets for sleep, but what should she be sleeping in that is warm enough, but not too hot for nursing? tia 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.03.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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sleepsack [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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^btw, if you are walking back and forth looking at her all the time, a blanket is fine. sleepsack for when she's down for several hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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the bigger problem with a newborn is over-heating. i agree with a cotton sleep sack. gl. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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do you swaddle her - that is warm enough [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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We tucked a blanket in at that age. Just a light cotton receiving blanket over a nightgown. It's going to be a while before db moves around much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you avoid parabens in products for yourself and/or DB? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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I don't know what one is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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sort of. dc uses burt's bees shampoo. but we still wash his hands with hand soap, etc when he comes in from outside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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yup, for myself and db....dh doesn't care [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Who thinks Hillary should keep fighting? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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I am proud of her and am hoping for an Obama/Clinton ticket. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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*cricket, cricket* [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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lol - but that's just because there's no one on here, as usual. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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I'd love to see it go to the convention. Obama's supporters suck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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Whereas Hillary's supporters are gracious and positive [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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still want it to go to convention [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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ditto on that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] dh wants to take ds(10) sightseeing in wash dc this weekend, where should they stay? any tips, its a last minute trip 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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check with the tabard inn. otherwise, the wardman marriott is good - right by the zoo and the metro. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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i dont think he wants to go to the zoo, he is interested in more govt type things, any suggestions? and which hotel of the 2 do you think is better located? tia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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tabard inn is right in dupont circle and has more of a bed and breakfast feel. the zoo is really awesome though - especially the ape house. and the woodley park metro is a convenient stop for traveling to the other sites. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Has any every felt pressured to have your child? I never wanted children, but now I'm pregnant with one. My husband and his family were all like "it's the greatest thing ever." Honestly, I feel like having this child will never be fun or exciting, just another task on top of all the other shit that I do for "us." I know I that sound like a terrible person, but my mom said that if i didn't give him a kid...he'd find someone else. Well just wanted vent...let me know if you've ever felt anything similar. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.03.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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wow. that sounds awful. I will say that people (mom, ILs esp.) have TRIED to pressure us to have a 2nd, but I won't give in. I know what works for us. Perhaps you should talk with a therapist or something b/c clearly you need to work through this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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your mom is a wack job. honestly, having a kid is amazing, but it is hard at times, and there are days when I want to just get away. it may be worth it to talk to someone about this and having a space to vent and sort through emotions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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ita. WTF did your mother tell you that for? Talk about archaic. If that's who your DH is, you'd be bette roff solo anyways. OMG> [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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i think a lot of people have secret fears like you do. i can't explain why it's worth it but i bet you'll be back here saying it is. but no doubt it is a lot of work. it's just that the rewards are unimaginable and dont' sound as great on paper. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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i have more than one dc and i very much wanted each one. but even so, there are still going to be times when you think "is this what i really want" or "is it worth it". especially before the baby is born. after the baby is born you think things like "can someone take this baby for one friggin' minute!" It's hard for you now b/c your baby is still abstract. and you are pregnant so a lot of things tend to get blown out of proportion, emotionally. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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You're absolutely right. It's that not that I dislike my kid or don't think I could be a good mom. I just feel that my husband really didn't think through the kind of sacrifices and time that children take up. Whenever we discussed the "the child issue," he always had this "oh it work itself out" attitude, meaning you'll figure it out...there is definitely an imbalance in the "work" we put it. The major problem I have is that we were living overseas (where his family lives). He really wanted to move to NY ("for the experience"). I told him that if we delayed the move, it would be better because then I'll at least have his family around...nope "we'll manage..." I feel that children need to be planned for and both parents need to honest about what raising a child requires...does that sound bad? I just feel that it's not an emotional decision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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Feeling guilty about bringing a child into a situation where s/he isn't wanted won't help the child, so that isn't where I'm going... but please do realize s/he didn't ask to be born, and *you* got pregnant (you were not a victim of anyone who was trying to pressure you). You have the opportunity to use your pregnancy and the birth of your child to take responsibilty for your own life and happiness. You can do it! Allow for the possibility that you will fall absolutely in love with this baby (or grow to love him/her in a way and with a depth you can't even imagine). It is an opportunity to learn to differentiate your own hopes and dreams, your own decisions and parenting beliefs, from those of your family members. What a great gift to have been given by this child, even though at this moment you are feeling like a victim of circumstance. I predict your life will get better and better in the coming months and years, not because of having a child, but because in having this child and seeing him/her as a unique individual deserving of parents who are fully present for her/him, you will become more fully present to yourself (and heal what needs healing). You have to fall sometimes to reach the heights. I predict a lot of "real"ness coming into your life... you can look for commiseration here (or elsewhere), and the honesty you display in doing so will serve you well, but you are better than the part of you that wants support in feeling like you're somehow in the wrong movie. This *is* your movie. I wish you and your child the best of luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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I think your attitude will change when you have the child. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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I agree that your attitude is likely to change. I felt EXACTLY like you when I was pregnant with my first child. Kind of allowed the pregnancy to happen b/c dh wanted children and I've always been a very "mainstream" kind of person (as in: can't be wrong if everybody is doing it). Now I'm pregnant with #3. Somebody once said: "when you expect a child you think it will be like a closet. Then you open the door and what you see is an amazing, beautiful, enormously big ballroom." Wait and see what happens until the baby is there. Good chance you'll feel very differently then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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Try going to therapy and talking about your fears about the pregnancy. This is a very scary time and the changes are so fast that they are very hard to grasp specially feeling the way that you do. You are going need to all the support and understanding from your husband. Stop talking to your mother about it, she is not good with this specific topic. good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:30 AM Flag
[ - ] The AP, which still has egg on its face from this morning's false report that Hillary would concede to Obama, does it again. The AP is sending out a breaking news report, complete with post-mortem analysis, that Obama has reached the magic number and is officially the nominee. Votes are cast at the convention in August. Superdelegates can change their mind any time before then. If this went to an open convention, even pledged delegates would be released from their pledge after the first vote. This does not mean it's going to the convention. It means that until one candidate drops out, there can be no winner because the number of delegates that candidate has can change any time until the convention. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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Until and unless Hillary Clinton publicly suspends or ends her campaign and concedes that Obama is the nominee, there is no nominee. There is only a statement that if current delegate positions at this moment were frozen in time until August he would be the nominee. If and when Hillary makes that determination, then Obama will be the nominee. At that point TalkLeft will congratulate him and offer him our support. We're not there yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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we're all waiting with bated breath [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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it will be fun watching you turn blue [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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try to be graceful about this. I know Hill will try. Bill.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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You're pathetic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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I hope your head explodes with frustration. That would be really amusing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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We've won. The champagne is chilled sweetie. Your violent wishes towards someone you don't know reflect on you and your political leanings. Good luck with that loser. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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don't pop that cork until she concedes. sweetie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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It's a deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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"Head explodes"? I'm sure HRC considers your support invaluable. Are you in the Bill Division? lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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Windowpane anyone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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roflmfao [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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The Clinton campaign has sent out a press release denying the AP report. She will not suspend her campaign tonight nor will she concede Obama is the defacto winner. I just got off the phone with her internet communications director who told me he just received a copy. So now the AP is falling for a story the only effect of which would be voter suppression in two states? How do these things happen? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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It's called losing sore one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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hmm. something for you to think about in the future. How it feels to lose. When the republican are gloating over your crushed hopes, that will be so funny too, won't it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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You fool. I'm a republican. Why do you think I'm so happy about this? You people are so easy to beat! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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Not too bright are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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How do you do it all? On the phone with Hill [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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it was a quote from a blog, brainiac. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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Well then, if it's written down it must be true! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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IT'S ALL OVER NOW!!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] need a 4 yr old b-day idea for a girl. TIA 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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Saw great toy - exactly like paper dolls but all magnetic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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np: this does sound great... TY! I need one too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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DD just got one for her 4th B'day - it's one of her favorites. Also high on her list - Bingory and her new dress up clothes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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Bingory? i am assuming she is a doll. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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It's a game - combination of memory and bingo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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thx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Psychic Mom, am I pg? Can't test til Friday, can't take the wait!! 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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not her, but i got no on this one. hope i'm wrong - gl! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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op: Sigh, me too. Are you sorta psychic mom? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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i get feelings on these and answer them. and sometimes i have correct psychic dreams about my friends' pregnancy related issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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^^ it's more fun to answer the positive ones. i really hope we're both wrong! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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op; THanks. How often are you wrong? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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have no idea on here - but my dreams have always been right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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Ok. Another PM told me I was pg two mos ago and she was wrong, so maybe this will work the other way this time! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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well, gl - here's hoping we've got it wrong! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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ty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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^^ btw, i don't get a "no forever" feeling on this. which i have gotten before (i usually stay quiet on those, for obvious reasons). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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^^ got more of a "not this time" - gl! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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That makes me feel better! Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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:-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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are you psychic about other things? when will someone buy my house? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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