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[ - ] I might get flamed for this, but here we go: I am the child of teenagers. My parents were in their Senior year of high school. My grandmothers both advised them to terminate, but they wouldn't do it. My parents got married and stayed together until my mom died 2 yrs ago. We were really poor when I was really little, but we were very comfortable by the time I was in high school and my dad is now a relatively wealthy man. My grandmothers to this day fight with one another, but they were both a crucial part of my childhood and adult life. This may seem pointless, but sometimes it does work out. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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^^^ oh, by the way, I'm staunchly right to choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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but your good story is so statistically rare - that's why no one recommends this situation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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I get that, but every once in a while I feel the need to remind people that it might not be the end of the world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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i think for the most part, it works out because it has to. unless the parents are real screw ups [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:39 AM Flag
[ - ] How much do you pay your babysitter per hour? How many dcs? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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15 an hour 2 dc, 6 and 2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:52 AM Flag
[ - ] I am ebfing my 2 month old, but now my boobs are seriously uneven... I think it is pretty obvious, and think i need to put some sort of pad or chicken-cutlet thing on the smaller one inside my bra. Anyone btdt? Any advice? thanks 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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is one breast not getting drained? I think it's more impt to prevent mastitis at this point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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this is me, although I am at 20 months and don't even care anymore. offer the supply-challenged one first every time. you can also pump to try to build up the supply in that one. the risk at 2 months is that you may lose milk altogether in that one if you don't keep it up. this is pretty common btw. if you have a lactation consultant she may have other ideas as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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most women have much more milk from one breast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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you are favoring one breast. You have to nurse more on the smaller one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:40 AM Flag
[ - ] I am critiquing a children's story for a class. It is a long poem geared toward 5 to 10 year olds. It is about a puppy and, in the very beginning, the puppy's mother gets eaten by a shark. Would this be too dramatic for young children to stomach? A mother getting eaten by a shark, leaving the puppy alone? I was so afraid of sharks when I was little. I used to visualize them coming up at me whenever I swam in the sea. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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This is a published poem? or critiquing for a writing class? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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writing class [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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Several things seem off about this--5 to 10 yrs old is a really wide age range. This is to be read aloud? published with illustrations? How does a shark eat a dog? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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np: I was thinking the same thing. I do think that it's a bit heavy handed with the dead mother tradition of children's stories, but their would need to be plenty of setting or plot devel. for a dog to be plausibly eaten by a shark. Sounds like shock for shock value. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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sorry "there" not "their". Would you believe me if I said I confused the two after reading about 50 final papers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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wouldn't phase my 5 yo. he loves preadators. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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^^oops, predators. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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5 yr olds? yes. Okay for 10, big diff betw the two [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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Are you familiar with every Disney story? All of them have dead mothers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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I think this is so that there can be plot development-- if the mother is alive, she saves everyone and solves all problems and then it becomes a boring story [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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my mom is so not a Disney mother. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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i agree that may be the reason - to empower the child to be the hero, but its still a weird thing once you are aware of it. such a strange message. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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isn't this what happened in Finding Nemo? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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the poem version? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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Read this - Uses of Enchantment: The Meaning and Importance of Fairy Tales by Bruno Bettelheim - a child psychologist who analyzes how children interpret stories. Very often the death of the mother is symbolic of growing up and gaining independence, a scary but important transition for kids. I don't think kids should be sheilded from everything - working through these feelings while listening to and interpreting stories helps get them ready for the reality later in their lives...the reality of going off on their own, not the death of their mother. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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Don't like Bettelheim [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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horrible image to put in kids' heads. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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like in Pinocchio when Geppeto gets eaten by the whale (or shark, depending on the interpretation)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know the name of the playground near the West Side Highway that has all the water features? TIA! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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Hippo Park 89&Riverside [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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I don't think that's the one she means. How far north, OP? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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Lower than that...around 14th Street maybe? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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OP^^^ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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There's the one off west 12th street - it's fantastic! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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There are two - there's Jane Street which is actually out on a pier and there's the water park at 23rd between 11th ave and the west side highway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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Thanks...I've been to this one and I can't remember which one it is! I'm thinking Jane Street. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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Any idea the names of the parks? I can't find on the Parks Dep't site. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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Hudson River Park [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:02 PM Flag
[ - ] I was driving home and I guess a rock from the other side of the turnpike few into my windshield. My windshield made a shattering noise and there was glass all over the dashboard and some on me. I am so freaked out right now! Trying to call DH but he is not answering his phone right now. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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while driving 65 mph? that must have been scary! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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yeah i was driving pretty fast...like 65 or 70 (with traffic i'll add). my hands are shaking right now. i know it wasn't a real accident, but it was still scary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:37 AM Flag
[ - ] DH and I were high school sweethearts in LA and we hated the fact that we were going to different colleges....me to Harvard, DH to Georgetown. One weekend before college, the two of us and some friends did a weekend trip to Vegas and DH and I married in secret. We knew this would keep us together. We never told our parents until a few months before our "real wedding" 5 years later. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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wow crazy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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i knew a girl who did this before her boyfriend went to law school and her parents found out and threw her out of the house when she refused to get it annulled. they are still together all these years later. i don't understand why a piece of paper keeps you together though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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DH and I thought that it would make us from dating others and being tempted, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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How old was she? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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cute story, since you stayed together, but i thought the purpose of marriage was to have a public display of commitment, not a secret to a lawyer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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the purpose of a wedding is to have pubic commitment. marriage is something else entirely (np) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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pubic - as in loss of virginity? lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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why yes. show us the bloody sheets. oops, funny typo though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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that's a matter of opinion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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np: I always thought purpose of a marriage was to show commitment to each other [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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That's the kookiest thing I've heard in a long time. Good for you that it worked. Thank God my hight school boyfriend and I didn't come up with that idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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I think this is great, though I also married my HS guy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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Is your dh the one who was on here wondering if there was anything better "out there." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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My best friend did the same thing, but it ended in divorce and she regrets it big time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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bad idea on so many levels. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:14 PM Flag
[ - ] This morning, I got to the car and realized I had forgotton my wallet. I came back into the apt and found my husband with his porn, kleenex at the ready. Intellectually, I know that this is totally normal and I wish I could be more carefree and open about it all, but I still always take it personally and feel weird about it. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.04.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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always? does this happen regularly? i've never seen this from my dh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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NP: maybe the kicker is that you have never seen it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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yeah, it bugs me too. we kind of solved the prob when I gave him pics of me to get off to :) I feel less weird and he gets his needs met [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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no offense but i doubt he gave up porn for pictures of you. isn't it supposed to be a fantasy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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well, technically yes, but for him it's mainly the release. We do plenty of fantasy ourselves in bed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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What kind of fantasy do you do? DH and I are looking for new ideas! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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I feel a little silly saying - student/teacher stuff, policeman, having sex in public places, etc. Typical stuff [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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I always feel so inadequate when he expresses his fantasies; I know he would feel defensive if I told him mine. I just close my eyes and let my mind go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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He was just waiting for you to leave huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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He always leaves after me. Now I know why. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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Me too. I can't believe how puritanical i seem to be about that stuff. I wish I was more like those european you always hear about: sweadish volleyball tem. Ibiza sunbathers, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Where does the term "knocked up come from"? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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"knocking" is a term for having sex. Brits call whorehouses "knocking shops" for example. There's also the phrase "knocking boots" which may be the origin of the usage of knocking this way. So instead of being "laid up" which is how one would describe an animal that was injured and couldn't work, we get "knocked up" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:38 AM Flag
[ - ] I got pregnant when I was 16 and the father was my 17 year old boyfriend. When I told him he proposed to me and I accepted. We told our parents and they freaked and started telling us how hard it would be for us. I had an abortion and the two of us never married. We broke up about 2 years later. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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and your point is....? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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I am mentioning it because of the other post [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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In hindsight what would you have done? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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Same thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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If this happens to your dd or ds, what will your reaction be or your advice to them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:32 AM Flag
[ - ] please tell me i'm gonna get pg soon! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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no one? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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Sorry, but how do I know? Can you come over so I can give you a thorough exam? I'll also need all of your medical records. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:29 AM Flag
[ - ] am i posting? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:23 AM Flag
[ - ] I could never imagine throwing my dd out of the house b/c she was pregnant. I would be upset but I would never turn my back on her. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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would you help her raise the child? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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np. The best form of contraception for me as a teenager was my Mom telling me if I ever got pregnant there would be no getting rid of it and that she would raise the child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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well, the parent doesn't always get that option in reality. They can help, but they can't take the child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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I realize that but it made me think twice about risking getting pregnant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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Yes, I would be really angry, but once baby came I would step up and make it all ok. (although, I would probably advocate terminating pregnancy so my dd could have her own life before becoming a mother) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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ITTTTA! (and yes OR, I would help raise the child.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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would you help her raise the child if she kept sleeping around and didn't go to school and did drugs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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if she was doing all of that, I would send her away to soem school that could help her and raise the baby myself. When she got her act together, she could come home and get to know her child [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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ditto, but I do NOT believe in her keeping and me raising the child. I would counsel for termination [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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what if she didn't listen to you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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I'll get flamed, but I would have laid the groundwork for keeping this from happening in the first place [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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ita that it is possible to have a great relationship and a centered kid, and avoid these problems. But that doesn't always happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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I know, but I remain pretty confident - my own mom taught me a lot about sex ed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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No kidding. Is this a follow up to an earlier post? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:33 AM Flag
[ - ] 15mo has been walking since 10 or 11mos, but thing is, he won't walk alone. holds on to exactly 1 finger of ours, or furniture or pushes his babydoll stroller or walkers. has walked alone a bunch of times, but won't do it consistently or of his own volition. also, only says "mama" " 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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^^^OP- "dada" and "baby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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How old now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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^oops I can't read. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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15 mos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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^^^^OP- and "dada". should I be worried? should he be evaluated? he walks incredibly well- very solid on his feet, so it's clearly psychological at this point, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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omg, leave it alone - it's not "psychological," he just isn't ready - same w/ the talking, lighten up! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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Your ds started walking very early and some kids aren't even walking at 15mo so I'd give it a bit longer before getting too worried. Maybe just keep encouraging him to walk alone. Also I don't think my son said more than dada at 15mo and he is now a total motormouth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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thanks. I'd almost be less worried if he wasn't walking at all- the failure to let go for all these months has me worried. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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again: "failure" ??? you are a FREAK and if your kid ends up effed up, it's on your neurosis [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:33 AM Flag
[ - ] I am completely new to this site -- what do the abbreviations "dh", "ds" and "db" stand for? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.04.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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dickhead or dear husband, despicable son or dear son, dirty baby or dear baby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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underneath the settings there is a chart listing all of the abbreviations. i can see how it would be confusing at first- i still refer to it sometimes! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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thx! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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run! Find a new site - this one has lost it's charm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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"its charm" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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dh = dumb hooker; ds = detestible slob; db = don't bother [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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i think there's a help page with all of the abbreviations. dh is dear husband, ds is dear son. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:25 AM Flag
[ - ] My work crush just shaved his head! And he looks S-C-A-R-Y! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 06.04.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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end of crush! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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i hate when they do that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 05:25 AM Flag
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totally! what is it about guys and bad hair decisions?? What is it with the shaving? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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maybe he's an Olympic swimmer who wants to eliminate "drag" in the water... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:00 AM Flag
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